Group photo
REVSERENA's Photo REVSERENA SparkPoints: (0)
Fitness Minutes: (32,252)
Posts: 3,252
9/22/11 11:43 P

My SparkPage
Send Private Message
I decided it was a boundary issue. I let people know that weight related illnesses run in my family, and so I need to be very careful about what I eat. I typically eat a very small taste if someone made something special, and I let people know that it is delicious, and kind of them to have gone out of their way, but I can't indulge in more.

Occasionally I run into someone who doesn't take no for an answer. When someone is very persistent I just make sure that I am fasting when I visit them. They don't need to know the details of my fast (like, it is a one afternoon fast, scheduled specifically around my visit.) This generally stops the pressure in its tracks. Besides, I find it a good spiritual practice to fast and pray when I need to deal with difficult people, and people who try to pressure me to eat when I don't want to are, by definition, difficult.

The fact is, it is my body. I am going to have to live with the consequences of what I put into it, and being a poor steward of this mortal flesh through gluttony is sinful even when it done in order to be polite.

This issue really wrankles me, because when people pressure others about food, it is all about control. Offering something nice is often done in kindness. Insisting that someone do what is unhealthy for them is not kind. So much of my thought and time and energy is given to ministry, I'm not willing to hand over my heath too.

Good luck!

Get up offa that thing! - James Brown

"The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands. "
- Robert M. Pirsig

"Christ has no body now but mine. He prays in me, works in me, looks through my eyes, speaks through my words, works through my hands, walks with my feet and loves with my heart."
- St. Theresa

 Pounds lost: 32.4 
RABSFK SparkPoints: (0)
Fitness Minutes: (18,669)
Posts: 314
8/24/11 7:17 P

Send Private Message
Hello everyone!

I'm wondering how you handle meals either out or at congregants' homes. I'm in the pre school year meeting craze, and have had so many meals out. I'm ordering things that are pretty healthy, but still going over my calorie range by 100-300 calories.

Sometimes the food is homemade and looks SO good--homemade peach cobbler (!) and sometimes I don't want to call attention to my "diet," and other times I just don't want to offend my host.

Has anyone else been in these situations? What do you do?

 current weight: 12.3  over
Page: 1 of (1)  

Report Innappropriate Post

Other Interfaith Clergy & Seminarian Support General Team Discussion Forum Posts

Last Post:

Thread URL:

Review our Community Guidelines