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10/30/10 2:19 A

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Identifying the trigger(s) really helps. I still need to do that.

Smile .... it makes people wonder what you're up to ;-)

It is far easier to MAKE time to exercise than it is to FIND time to exercise. You want results???? MAKE it happen.

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10/29/10 5:56 P

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Hi, Smitty and everyone,

I was following a food plan for nearly a year and only binged a couple of times during that period. I lost 20 pounds and was nearly where I wanted to be. Then I fell off the wagon and nine months later I'm still struggling on a day-to-day basis with compulsive eating and binging. I'm in therapy and have a plan, and I'm working at it.

I, too, get really upset with myself when I'm doing well and then I binge. But I'm reading a book that says that learning about what triggers the binges is extremely valuable information, in order to try to do something different the next time. So I'm logging all my food and the feelings and/or circumstances when I eat. I'm only in the first week of this, but I think it can help!

It seems to me that when we've used this particular coping mechanism (binging) for so long, it's going to take a while to develop new coping skills, and it seems important to me to treat ourselves kindly. I can't say I'm very great at that yet, but hopefully that will improve!

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10/29/10 11:51 A

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JAQILANTERN, thanks a lot for your post, and i commend you for being BF for so long! congratulations! Tuesday must have just been a bad day all around.

you really put things into perspective for me and i feel better knowing that being aware of the reasons we binge is progress to ending the behavior. when i first began the binging i couldn't identify why i would do it. now i know the reasons.

thanks you so much for sharing your story, i can totally relate to everything you said, about being present in the moment and still doing it.

it takes time to break habits but just recognizing the triggers is very important to altering our behavior and even changing the outcome of a potential binge in it's tracks.

again, thank you so much for your post. it really helped emoticon




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10/28/10 4:53 P

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Smitty! I had not had a binge since August 19th UNTIL Tuesday. I know how it feels to be confident and happy with yourself and have it all fall apart after a binge. I was going to keep it a secret because I felt ashamed, but I decided to call my boyfriend and talk to him about it even though the damage was done. I am glad I did.

I talked him through my actions and feelings and he pointed out this time was different because LIKE YOU I too was "present in the moment" and "KNEW BETTER". I too was really upset because I was aware that I was in control and still ate when I knew it would hurt me. He said this was progress. I realize that he is right. I was not out-of-control and next time I can stop before it happens or maybe mid-binge.

Baby steps, FORGIVENESS and HONESTY are key. I commend you for talking to your mom. It's great that you know what lead you to the binge. I'm sure that when you first admitted you had a binging problem it was hard to identify what caused the episodes. Give yourself credit for what you've learned and stay strong. Personally, I am going back to counting the days I am binge free. I had stopped counting after the second 21 day cycle. It is important to congratulate ourselves everyday. Too often we think about what we "woula, coulda, shoulda" done and not on the things we accomplish EVERYDAY. emoticon

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10/27/10 3:58 P

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thanks for your support everyone.

i think the thing that bothers me most is being present in the moment but resorting to binge anyway- even when i knew there were different ways to get through it.

i'm planning on talking to my mom tonight to get things settled between us so hopefully that will provide some relief as well.

thanks again for your support and understanding.




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10/27/10 3:28 P

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I also agree with everyone else. Binging is a behavior we will have to fight forever. I have been at this almost 2 years now and I will tell you it never goes away. We will have our set backs but if there were no curves in the path it would be a pretty boring journey wouldn't it??!?!?!

Keep your head up today is a new day!

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10/27/10 3:12 P

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I agree with everything said here.

I also want to add that your weight varies due to different circumstances like TOM etc. I would recommend not weighing yourself every day, as I don't believe it is accurate. Once a week is fine. I'm sure if you look up how often you should weigh yourself at Sparkpeople.com you will find this to be true.

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10/27/10 3:05 P

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I agree with Cindy - it's a setback but certainly not a failure by any means!! Be kind to yourself - today is a new day so start fresh emoticon emoticon

Smile .... it makes people wonder what you're up to ;-)

It is far easier to MAKE time to exercise than it is to FIND time to exercise. You want results???? MAKE it happen.

Keep trying - you CAN do it - believe in yourself!


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10/27/10 2:17 P

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Oh sweetie! Just let it go...
It really doesn't matter. You are gorgeous and beautiful and you were completely stressed out so you reverted to what you know how to do to blow off steam or comfort yourself. Just let it go and move on.
Overcoming a behavior we have been using takes awhile, it isn't , all of the sudden you are perfect and you never do it again. It is up and down, and up and up and down. You know? Resolve to forgive yourself when you do, forgive yourself no matter what! You will get there, and binging is just part of the process. Take care-Cindy

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10/27/10 2:00 P

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last night was the first time in over 2 months that i binged. i feel completely hopeless and ashamed that i resorted back to old behaviors when i was doing so well for so long.

stress from school, TOM, and a fight with my mom fueled the episode and today i'm up 3 lbs because of it.

the whole scenario is posted in my blog but i feel so ashamed of myself. i lost 15 lbs and was doing so well but all the emotions built up and eventually led me to the outlet that i thought i was through using- food.

i just need some positive words of encouragement. i've been crying the whole day because of this incident.

thanks.




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