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9/3/10 12:06 P

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I'm getting over an eating disorder right now, and when I look back on it there are always the 3 same things that cause me to go binge:

1. having the desire to be thinner, but at the same time feeling like my stomach is fat

2. feeling no fulfillment in my life, i don't see any bigger picture or any connection in the things that i'm doing every day

3. my body is deprived of its health, either with bad digestion, being hungry, or not moving around/getting enough exercise



Here are the things that I found so far that are getting me to the level of recovery that I'm at now:

1. stop wearing tight clothes, makes me look worse, makes me focus on fat that sometimes really isn't the most important thing

2. I realized that the most imporant thing in my life is to learn how to understand how to communicate with others, even people i wouldnt normally talk to. also to learn how to let the people i know that i love them

3. be consistent, especially with food. I read that the metabolism speeds up when a person eats more consistently. I also make sure I eat enough protein, do interval exercises, physical cravings to binge are gone when I eat more protein and stay away from sugar, and doing long hours of cardio is bad for the body






I'm still trying to figure this thing out and I occasionally slip up, but I realized that its not the binge itself that feels so bad, but its the feelings of loss of self control and guilt that make me feel the worst

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9/2/10 5:28 A

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This is part of what Sparkpeople is for and what it is about. Isn't it wonderful how we are there to help, support and champion each other along emoticon I am really proud to be a SP member.

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Smile .... it makes people wonder what you're up to ;-)

It is far easier to MAKE time to exercise than it is to FIND time to exercise. You want results???? MAKE it happen.

Keep trying - you CAN do it - believe in yourself!


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9/2/10 12:17 A

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Thank YOU - by writing you make me understand that it is not easy to do this and it is important to try to share what we are experiencing, it helps!


"Trust God and buy broccoli."

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8/31/10 11:39 P

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Thanks to everyone who replied. You have given me some excellent suggestions and have offered me hope. Thank you.

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8/31/10 7:29 A

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Another thought - stop focusing on losing more weight - learn to maintain your weight until you feel comfortable moving on!


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"Failure is only postponed success...The habit of persistence is the habit of victory." -Herbert Kaufman

Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do."
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8/31/10 12:20 A

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You have done such a great job!

To me it is not only emotions, it is also my body that seems to go really nuts if I deprive it too much. To me
the cure would be eating healthy and filling - maybe 2400-2500 cal until my physical cravings had gone, then I could cut back on calories a little again. I sincerely wish that you donīt have to eat all that back, you have done so good, I wish for you to enjoy your accomplishments!


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8/30/10 10:16 P

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Oh my goodness! You look fabulous! Be kind to yourself and forgive yourself for what has been done in the past. You are so worth it! You are special! You deserve happiness! You can achieve your goals!!!!!! emoticon

Now tell yourself this everyday.

Write down all the reasons why YOU want to reach your goal weight. Write them down using only positive words. Put them on index cards and carry around with you, leave by your night stand, leave in your desk at work, in your car.... Read them every chance you get. You really can reach your goals!

I have some questions about your food:
Do you deprive yourself?
Have you omitted whole food groups?
Do you wait too long to eat?
Do you eat a lot of processed foods?
Do you use a lot of salt?
Do you eat vegeatbles and fruit?
Do you use whole grains instead of processed white ones?
Do you drink plenty of fluids?
Do you include healthy fats in your plan?

Pleas eknow you can get this under control. Don't ever ever give up on yourself!

"There's a difference between knowing the path and walking the path." Morpheus in The Matrix

"Failure is only postponed success...The habit of persistence is the habit of victory." -Herbert Kaufman

Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do."
- Pope John XXIII


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8/30/10 3:13 P

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yes lose gain relose and regain . bad patterns can be hard to break . no real way to deal with this that i can tell you about . I am sure that we have people who can tell you exectly what to do . not me . good luck honey . do not give up . keep trying .

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8/30/10 12:40 P

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I can tell I believe you are on the right idea. Your execution may not be what you want yet, but everything I have read says that binging comes from restricting food through dieting along with low self image.

The change doesn't occur overnight and our mind needs to come to the realization that we can eat what we want but in more appropriate portion sizes. I have been trying this myself and have found the same things, that it just doesn't go away right away. It is so frustrating but never quit. Keep your eyes on what you hope to accomplish. You can get there.

It is not the mistake that causes the serious damage. It is the mistake that you make of defending the first mistake that causes it, Einstein


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8/30/10 12:02 P

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You don't have to gain the weight back. I have felt similar feelings. Don't give up. Take some time to look at where you came from and the success you've had, the good health, the joy at getting fit and know you wouldn't change that for anything, certainly not food! emoticon

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8/30/10 10:41 A

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I just went to your spark page and saw a beautiful happy person. I don't have the magic words to fix your binges... but I do know that you really have come a long way and that tells me that the determination is in there somewhere... and will resurface if you let it. I agree that if you can identify the reason for your binging it really should help and I am glad that you are seeking professional help with that matter. GOOD for you!
I know you've heard this a million times.. but every bite truly is a choice and we have to stop before we put it in our mouths and decide if it's a good choice for our happiness and health... or not. Sometimes just saying "NO" out loud to ourselves is enough to stop yourself from making a bad decision.
Sometimes when I'm in a binge I'll print out "before" and "after" pictures of myself and post them inside all of the kitchen cabinets and the fridge. That way I can't open the door without that reminder of what I really want.... the cookie... or my happiness. Usually after a couple of days I'm back in control.
Well... I hope this helps. I'll be sending good thoughts your way. emoticon

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8/30/10 9:01 A

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Hey there, take a deep breath and pull your self together. I totally understand what you are going through. I myself went through this the whole months of July and August! You have to figure out why your binging. There are feelings behind them. What are they and what is causing them? Anxiety, and lonliness are my number one binge starters. Evening is also a similarity. I try not to be in the house any more than I have too before my husband is home. So can you go for a walk, run errands, mow the yard, something to keep you busy. Also can you have a snack on your way home so that you aren't starving when you cook supper. That will help to not binge while your standing in the kitchen. I try to make a crock pot meal if I know that I will be home later than normal, not to save time but to keep me from binging while I cook. That is when the calories begin to rack up. I hope that something I have said can help you! Message me if you need to talk more. Keep your head up, your doing so well!

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8/30/10 4:38 A

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I too cannot offer any experience but guess the root causes and triggers of this need to be identified.

I think you look AMAZING!! Is it realistic for you to go for a walk, a swim, a drive to try and distract yourself.

Another thing I wonder is - is 1500 calories enough during the day - could there be some hunger triggering this too?

I really feel for you and wish I could offer you more - I'd love to have the perfect words to fix this all for you.

Please, try to stay strong emoticon emoticon

Smile .... it makes people wonder what you're up to ;-)

It is far easier to MAKE time to exercise than it is to FIND time to exercise. You want results???? MAKE it happen.

Keep trying - you CAN do it - believe in yourself!


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8/30/10 2:24 A

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I can't offer any experience strength and hope. I can just empathize and hope to move forward with you.


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8/30/10 2:08 A

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I wrote a post a few weeks ago that I was going to give up dieting to cure my binging. I had really hoped that would be the end of it.

Now I am eating 1,500 calories during the day and 3,000 or more at night! The daytime eating did not cure my binges as I had hoped.

I feel desperation, despair, hopelessness, depression. I am so scared of gaining all 125 pounds back!

I just got a new shrink last Friday. He does not specialize in eating problems but maybe he can help me to see that there is a life outside of the binges and the weight gain and the shame of it all, 'cause right now I'm at the end of my rope.

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