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DEEANN8's Photo DEEANN8 Posts: 5,144
10/4/09 5:24 P

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Thanks for the advice. I think I'll do that. I've been trying to think of an 'indirect' way of showing them that what they're doing is wrong. But maybe just telling them not to pass those on to ME would be a better approach.

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10/1/09 10:43 P

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My uncle tends to do things like this. It's his version of being patriotic. My dad (his brother) and I have both said we don't like getting these types of emails - he fussed and this and that, but he stopped. I also once told my cousin that a joke she sent was incredibly racist & hateful & she told me to get over it. I did by telling her to no longer email me.

Anarie is correct - telling someone they're offending you is not offensive. And if they take it as such, then there's something questionable there.

Bottom line, there's a difference between an opinionated conversation and hate mail, and saying "I don't like receiving this type of email" is perfectly acceptable.

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10/1/09 6:46 P

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Dee,

I've been thinking about this since you posted it, and the one question that keeps coming back is, "WHY don't you want to offend these people?" If they're sending around stuff that's racist and hateful, then obviously they don't share your values. Would it really be a bad thing to end your relationship with them?

I think a lot of people just forward those things without even really reading and thinking about them. If you write back saying that you don't want to hear any more racist s**t from them, it will at least make them pay attention to what they're doing and might even make them question themselves.

There's also a selfish reason you should say something. You're on the recipient lists for these e-mails. Other people who are get the emails from the same person will think you approve and accept them.

If you write back and say, "This stuff is racist and offensive. Don't send it anymore," what's the worst that can happen? If they get mad at you, then that's a person you don't want to be friends with anyway. If that happens, forward your comment and their reply to the entire recipient list, so everybody knows that this person has been called out as a racist and still defends that racism. But maybe, just maybe, the sender will say, "I never thought about it like that. I respect you a lot, and when you said you think it's racist, I took a second look and felt kind of sick to realize what I was spreading around." The first outcome is a whole lot more likely than the second, but you've got nothing to lose if the sender really is that kind of person who thinks it's all right.

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9/30/09 2:15 P

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i don't tend to get it (most people know i'm very anti-political, so wouldn't "get it" anyway) and i certainly don't send it. i don't even pass on the funnies i occasionally get.

i would find it's rude enough for people to send me unsolicited hate, i wouldn't mind telling them to refrain. i certainly don't consider it rude to do so.

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9/30/09 1:52 P

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i believe everyone is entitled to his/her opinions and i enjoy listening to most of them. however, when it starts becoming hate mail and it isn't discussed in a manner that is supportive to all, then i put it in the spam.
if it is a person i know, i will ask them ONCE to stop sending those emails. if they don't, i trash the email.

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DEEANN8's Photo DEEANN8 Posts: 5,144
9/29/09 2:56 P

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"On the other hand I am a bit sarcastic and can poke fun with the best of them. "

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9/29/09 2:16 P

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dont like it dont tolerate it.

Emails get put into spam, even if it means I lose someone I know.
Usually I will let that person know that I do not want them to sent me anything like it and they respect it.

On the other hand I am a bit sarcastic and can poke fun with the best of them.

I respect the office of the president even if I may not respect the person holding that office. this goes for any major office for our government.

What one does not like, seek to change in a positive way. If all one does is denegrate and incite hatred, then we are as bad as the rest.





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DEEANN8's Photo DEEANN8 Posts: 5,144
9/29/09 12:31 P

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I wish I could 'tactfully' ask them to stop. I don't want to offend anyone, and don't mind seeing an issue that someone is passionate for/against (right to life, health care reform, balanced budgets, etc.), but the personal attacks are getting to be a bit much.

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Thankfully, I have not received any. They would really upset me also. I hate color being the judge of a persons worth and am saddened that racism is still a part of our Society.

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DEEANN8's Photo DEEANN8 Posts: 5,144
9/29/09 7:58 A

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At the risk of starting a very heated discussion.... do you receive or distribute political hate mail?
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About 3 of the people who email me consistently send out political hate mail. This is not emails re: government policies, etc. and the need for change, etc. These are personal attacks on Obama and his family.

Regardless of who we wanted (or didn't want) in office, the election is over... and it is what it it. Seems our time would be better spent on policies, legislation, etc. that needs 'fixed'.

I like a good 'funny' that pokes fun at the government, politician, (or most anything for that matter), but these emails are down right hateful.

Anyway.....
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