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4/17/09 10:58 A

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some points to balance this a bit, but not necessarily a defense.

The site in question is basically no different the encounters section of craigslist or even match.com but with less of the dating part up front. It's not a porn site though.


Some guys keep their hands to themselves by looking. It used to be called playboy, now it's the internet.

I don't know what this guy's deal is, but by the fact that he's looking online doesn't mean he's cheating on his wife. For some, after 15 years of marriage, they want validation that someone other than their wife would be interested.

All told, I'd say, don't assume you know what's going on and mind your p's and q's... relationships are never what they seem!

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4/17/09 9:29 A

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Sandy, I didn't even consider that some companies do track (and lock out) certain websites. Our company isn't one of them. That's too high end user for my mom and pop company.

So, while it is a good point that he shouldn't be looking at adult website during work, he won't get called for it.

I'm not going to say anything. I am a little shocked because last week he told me he was having a date night with the missus.

Gonna try and mind my own business, but it really is somewhat disconcerting that someone you considered to be a decent guy is, well, a creep.

If he were single, I could care less. but jeepers... he's been married for over 15 years.


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4/16/09 6:42 P

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While I completely agree that you should just forget it if you can, there is one thing that needs to be addressed. Going to "adult" websites is usually a no-no to companies and in many circumstances is a fast firing of the employee.
Every site if you are on a company server is logged and if it is reviewed by human resources or whoever monitors the server, you are vulnerable, even if you did not mean to go to the site.

I know this because a friend is right now fighting for his job because his computer had websites he never went to but showed up anyway (as hyperlinks). None were "adult" sites but the company is saying that "limited personal use" regulation was ignored.

When it comes to the world wide web and employers, caution is strongly recommended.





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4/16/09 5:05 P

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I'd have to agree with Joey on this one. Unless you were very close friends with the wife, it's probably better not to get involved. Especially in a work environment where you have to see the creep, ahem, co-worker, in the office.


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I think I would try to forget that I saw it, and go on with my own stuff!

Someone said this; I don't remember who: "A good upbringing does not mean that you never drip jam on the tablecloth. It means that when someone else does, you do not notice."

All the freaky people make the beauty in the world.


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4/16/09 3:56 P

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If you discovered a married co-worker (a good friend) was surfing on an "adult friend finder" website ?

That's what happened this morning. Things have been really quiet here and we've all been surfing the web. Well, I went into my friend's cube and told him to check out a particular website. Well, I'd noticed one of the tabs on his desktop. It said, adult friend finder.

I didn't say anything. I acted like I never even noticed the tab. So, out of curiosity, I went to the website and phew, it IS an "adult" website.

What gets really interesting is that when I pulled up the website, his home town popped up. Now, it's not like he lives in Boston and Boston popped up. No, a small town outside of Boston happened to show up. His hometown popped up.

Coincidence ? I sure don't think so.

Am I shocked ? Not really... I'd suspected that he'd been surfing the web and meeting people. I know he and his wife had been having issues, but I thought they'd worked them out.

So, what would you do knowing a friend of yours was stepping out on his wife ?

I know it's none of my business... but, it does make a person think.

Why stay married if you're unhappy ?



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