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1/20/08 9:36 P

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TIREDOFSZ12 - that is so great that you have someone to motivate you! I'm sure you motivate her too!

Here is an article I read in the Making Life Happen on Purpose team. I found it very ispirational and thought I would pass it on.

Self-fulfilling Prophecy

Proverbs 23: 7 - "As a man thinketh in his heart, so he is."

The batter hits the ball high in the air towards right field. It arcs majestically against the sky. It is going right towards Sammy. Everybody in the park knows that he's going to drop it. Sammy knows that he's going to drop it. He drops it.

This scene has been replayed time and time again on fields around the world. It doesn't have to be a fielder; it sometime is a batter you know is going to strike out. It doesn't even have to be baseball. It can be anything.

It's called a self-fulfilling prophecy. I wasn't familiar with this term until I took a psychology class in university. Basically it means that what you believe will usually happen.

If you believe you are going to flunk a test, you probably will. If you think the meal you are making for your new in-laws will be a disaster, it probably will. If you think you will be in a car accident, better call your insurance agent. In all these cases, your visualizing the worst-case scenario will greatly increase the possibility of them actually happening.

There are people in the world who sew the seeds of the self-fulfilling prophecy. They are the people who put their fears on you. For example, their fears that something might happen to you make you uneasy and possibly help the unfortunate event happen. They are usually the first ones to say, "I told you so."

So what do you do? First, look at history. There were plenty of people who said humans would never fly, let alone walk on the moon. You have the choice to believe those thoughts. Also, you can replace those thoughts with positive ones. You don't have to believe the nay-sayers. If self-fulfilling prophecy works with negative thoughts, it can also work with positive ones.

George Bernard Shaw said, "You see things; and you say, 'Why?' But I dream things that never were; and I say, 'Why not?' " What message are you playing in your mind?

When I started playing softball, I was like Sammy. I was hoping the batter wouldn't hit the ball to me. Eventually those thoughts were replaced with positive ones and I was begging for the batter to hit it to me. Can you guess which thoughts allowed me to enjoy the game the most and perform the best?

When the game was on the line, Michael Jordan wanted the ball. He already saw the ball going in before he shot.

Pete Rose, who holds the record for the most hits in baseball, was asked how many times in a game he thought he was going to get a hit. He answer was, "Every time." Did he get a hit every time? No, but his belief that he would greatly increased his success.

It's the same with life. Put positive, happy thoughts in your mind and you will tend to be happy. If you are constantly worrying that something MIGHT happen, you will not lead a full life and probably not reach your potential. What does worrying do most of the time anyway? It usually prevents you from doing your best in a situation.

It comes down to the simple saying. If you think you can, you may be right. If you think you can't, you are almost certainly right. Put another way, success comes in cans!

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1/16/08 10:25 A

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My family motivates me. I am actually loosing weight with my sister and she keeps me going too.

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1/15/08 3:03 P

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Jennifer, great article! Thanks! Moderation usually works pretty well for me.

CJ

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Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.
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1/15/08 8:07 A

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I forgot about that one, I also want to keep my kids from having the weight problems that I have had. Also keep my husbands blood pressure down.

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1/14/08 7:49 P

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Here is an article I found interesting.

Moderation in All Things
How to Avoid the Diet Blues

www.sparkpeople.com/resource/motivat
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One of my other motivators is to help keep my husband healthy too since he basically follows my lead. I gained 14 pounds and so did he! So if I lose it, so will he. This time I just need to keep it off!

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1/14/08 4:15 P

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My motivations:
+ To wear cute clothes again
+ Increase my fitness, so I can increase my level of activity even more
+ Feel better about myself when we (hopefully) go on vacation in April
+ To get my eating and exercise habits under control before I turn 40 (which is 14 months from today)




Clear your mind of what was and will be. See only the task that is.

Be water. Go over it, under it, around it or through it. Be water.



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1/14/08 8:06 A

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My motivation has been to combat medical problem that I have. I have high cholestral, which has greatly improved since starting spark!! I have joint problems in my hips and the doctor thinks that Weight loss might help easy the pain. Heart murmur, insomnia, asthma, and border line diabetic All of these except the heart murmur can be helped by weightloss, so that is my motivation!!

Also, as a secondary motivation, I have 2 young kids, 10 and 6, who I want to be able to keep up with!!

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1/13/08 6:45 P

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I've lost 21.5 pounds since I started SP, and I just plain don't want to gain it back. I took December "off" and I didn't gain, but I also was conscious of what I was putting in my mouth over the holidays and I've never done that before.

I'm ready to get back on the horse now. Going to start tracking food again tomorrow! It gives me focus.

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I want to live a long, healthy life and be around to see my grandchildren grow up & be able to be active, go skiing with them, go skating & hiking & biking with them, etc.... I do not want to miss out on any of that, so that really motivates me! Also, I want to maintain this healthy lifestyle because I just feel so much better!

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Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.
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1/13/08 2:48 P

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When I set myself up on SparkAmerica last month, I spent some time reflecting on my goals/motivators and chose these:

To maintain my weight after losing
Look better by summer
Be healthier by my birthday
To combat a current medical condition
To be more toned and strong
Have more energy
Live longer and have better health
Feel better about myself
To lose weight


I still have some weight to lose, but have lost the majority (a big chunk) and kept it off. My birthday is in mid-April, so it's definitely possible to reach my goal weight by then and be nice an toned by summer!

Kara

Energy and persistence conquer all things.
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1/13/08 7:56 A

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Before we can eat right and exercise we have to be motivated to do so! This is a place where we can share what motivates us and ask for help with motivational issues.

Here is a link to a great spark article to get us started.
Talk Yourself into Reaching Your Goals
How Self-Talk Can Help (or Hinder) Your Progress

www.sparkpeople.com/resource/motivat
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My motivation comes in waves and I am working on being more consistent. Right now my main motivation is a cruise I have planned for Spring Break. I have to lose the 14 pounds I've gained since I wore summer clothes! This is keeping me very motivated since I got rid of all my "bigger" summer clothes!

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