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7/3/09 9:53 A

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Sooooo many things wrong with all of this... I can't even think straight...

I myself feel kind of embarrassed to go to the gym. I used to be thin, and I remember what went through my head when I would see bigger people there. My mom is now a gym head, and I hear what she says about bigger people who attend her husband's yoga class...

Yeah. It's a crappy culture out there. Never mind that more and more people are obese... it's still ok to make fun or judge them. BS!

My advice? Screw 'em. Just keep on keepin' on. Are you doing this for yourself, or for your boss?



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6/25/09 1:35 P

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Seriously! I wonder what goes on in their brains that makes them think thats okay to say to people.

Honestly, I kind of use it as motivation in a weird way. Because I want to prove her wrong, and that I CAN loose weight. You know? So BlessedbyGod1, maybe try to look at it that way. You know your making progress and thats what counts!

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ALLEYCAT174 Posts: 9
6/25/09 10:27 A

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Holy Cow! I can't believe your boss asked your hubby if you fit in the car seat! Or confronting you about a cookie. People can be so rude.


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6/24/09 1:45 A

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Wow...who are these people?! I hope you don't believe that..going to the gym will make a dent - or more!! lol

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6/22/09 5:21 P

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Do we have the same boss?

Don't feel ashamed. You know your making progress, and that's awesome.

Last week my boss was talking to my husband (we work together) and she was asking him if I even fit in the passengers seat of our car. I weigh 283 right now. I was so shocked. She even mentioned at one point that I just need to have surgery, going to the gym at this point for me wouldn't even make a dent. emoticon SO I definitely feel your pain. Eight pounds is an awesome achievement! Don't listen to anything different! Keep your head up.

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6/21/09 11:04 A

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I don't think you should feel ashamed. I have the sugar free pudding (60 cal) every day with my lunch. Your boss is really rude and should not mention your weight. I would akso make a note of the time&place just in case you need to report him.

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6/17/09 12:23 P

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Wow, that really upsets me, I don't understand how people can be so rude. I probably would have thrown the soup at him! I suggest you keep track of these things that your boss is saying to, the date and time and what is said, if the skinny girl some how takes over your position I would call it Discrimination and if it continues you should take it to the better business bureau? I think that's what it is called, or your companies Human Resources.

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6/16/09 4:56 P

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I am more surprised that he was like "step away from the soup"....it's effing soup!!! lol What, he wants you to not eat at all?

Anyway, all you can really do is know your truth. You know that you are eating healthy, in moderation, and that you don't have a million cookies a day. You had one, and that is perfectly acceptable. One cookie (even one a day) does not make people fat. If your boss thinks that, then he's dumb. You know you're being healthy, and you are losing weight and your boss doesn't. That's really what it comes down to.

That is a really harrassing comment, I agree with the others. You are the best judge about what you think you should do about it but I would talk to an HR if I were in that position. However, I understand it can be difficult if you are in a small company. It's up to you. :)

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6/12/09 10:41 P

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what an awful boss! Don't feel bad about having a cookie with lunch...if I were you, I would make a deliberate attempt to make sure he sees you eating a cookie with lunch. Then when they begin to notice that you are losing weight, they will wonder how you are doing it, since they never see you depriving yourself! Good luck! You can do it!

Michelle

"Pain is your friend, your ally, it will tell you when you are seriously injured, it will keep you awake and angry, and remind you to finish the job and get the hell home. But you know the best thing about pain?
It lets you know you're not dead yet! "
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6/11/09 2:31 P

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Wow, whether or not your boss is an occassional jerk or not isn't the issue... The issue is he is completely out of line. Everything he's doing, telling you to "step away from the cookie" or talking behind your back is not only hurtful but practically illegal in the office. There is no reason why you should take that from him. If I were you I would have already filed a grievance against him. It's not appropriate and things like that can really hinder someone who is trying to do good with themselves...
You are taking the effort to better yourself and he should applaud you for it... anything less means he is scum... there's no need for you to let him put you down. I spent my whole life being trampled on by people because of my weight and my being embarrassed by myself. Not anymore.. If something bothers me I do something about it (obviously except myself otherwise I'd be skinny by now). You should feel proud of yourself for every little thing you accomplish... never let people bring you down.

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with stuff like that... It's not fair.

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6/7/09 9:04 P

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There is no reason for you to be ashamed. Your boss was completely out of line. You are doing so good. You can't let that bring you down. Besides, I'm sure you eat much healthier than your boss. I admire your discipline when it comes to sweets...wish I had that...I'm constantly wanting to get into anything sweet. Best wishes and keep up the good work. emoticon

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6/3/09 2:36 P

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Thanks for all of the support everyone. I feel a lot better about things now. I'm not sure why I let him bother me so much but now that I've had some time to step back from him it isn't like the fact that my boss is a jerk is new news to me. I'm just going to try to keep things very professional with him. With luck he will see me as just a tad less approachable. At least then I wont be his sounding board. As far as cookies are concerned I just decided to switch them out for a sugar free pudding cup. Chocolate sounds yummy to me anyway!

It is not what you eat between Christmas and new years eve that is the problem, but what you eat between new years eve and Christmas.


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6/2/09 1:23 P

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Unless you work as a personal trainer, you're boss has NO reason AT ALL to be concerned with your weight. Take yourself down to Human Resources and report your boss for creating a hostile workplace, i.e., making derogatory remark to you and undermining your performance when talking to your coworkers.

This issue IS NOT, I repeat NOT, about whether you are "doing good" on your diet. This is an issue of DISCRIMINATION and NEPOTISM (he wants to promote someone he has a romantic interest in). In his mind it wouldn't matter if you were as thin as her, you are not her and he would still find reasons to tear you down. But discrimination against fat people in the workplace is very real and has been proven. You need to take steps to nip this in the bud as quickly as possible.

And never, NEVER feel ashamed about your body. You are a human being who deserves respect irregardless of your weight. emoticon

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6/1/09 6:21 P

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Wow! I would be really angry that he said anything at all!! That's an awful thing to say!

You should be proud of yourself! There is no reason at all to be ashamed. I'm jealous you've lost 8 lbs!! I also don't see anything wrong with having a cookie every once in a while.

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6/1/09 4:54 P

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I don't think you should feel ashamed. It's not as if you aren't setting a goal to meet and sticking to a plan, which is more than most people can do. Also, I think that you're boss has NO right to make comments about your lunch or anything else about you but your job performance! You should be proud of yourself for making progress. If he should continue, I'd look into the harassment policy of your work place. He has no right to make you feel ashamed of your efforts to improve your life.

Keep up the good work!


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6/1/09 4:10 P

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So far I have been a member of SP for just shy of three weeks. At night I have a sugar free jello cup, and on mondays I have a cookie with my lunch. Other than that I have zero sweets in my diet. Just enough to keep me from feeling like I am in diet prison. I am a large girl (I weigh 275) so I have no qualms about talking about that. When I started my diet I was at 283 so although not a hugh weight loss I am satisfied with the way things are going.

Today my boss walks into my office while I am eating my lunch and tells me "You need to put down that spoon and step away from that soup and what is that, a cookie?" he said all this while walking out the door to his office. He purposefully came into my office just to say that, he didn't actually need anything. All I could do was to mutter "I've lost 8 lbs...." Where as before I felt like my success was great and I was learning a lot about moderation...now I feel ashamed...

My boss has also been talking behind my back to other employees about how he thinks that another girl would be great for my position (He has a bit of a crush on her) and I think that the fact that she is skinny as a rail might be adding to his apparent distaste for my weight.

Is 1 cookie with my monday lunch really that big of a deal? Clearly eating it at work is now a huge no-no but Is there some fat girls creed I haven't read yet that says I am not allowed anything? I guess all in all I'm just embarrassed. I think that was very rude of him but at the same time it reasserts the fact that losing this weight is a top priority in my life.

I feel like I've been fooling myself or something. Like I'm not really trying as hard as I could be if all my boss can say is "put that soon down".

Edited by: BLESSEDBYGOD1 at: 6/1/2009 (16:11)
It is not what you eat between Christmas and new years eve that is the problem, but what you eat between new years eve and Christmas.


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