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11/23/14 8:55 P

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Oh no.
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Sorry for the confusion!
My brain must have been faster than my fingers!

Yes, I meant God's Will with a capital "W".

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Edited by: CJBAGGINS at: 11/23/2014 (20:55)
What if we woke up tomorrow with only those things that we thanked God for today?


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11/23/14 6:20 P

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Wow CJ, when I first read your comment, I read it completely wrong. Because will was not capitalized, I read will in a different context and not as God's Will. Guess I am tired. Thank you for your prayers.

Edited by: LIKINMENOW at: 11/23/2014 (18:47)
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11/23/14 6:15 P

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I will pray that God's will be done in this situation.

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11/22/14 10:37 P

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Thank you RETIREDST60

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11/22/14 11:08 A

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Hope you find a Christian counselor who suits you better.

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11/21/14 9:58 P

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Counseling at first seemed to be every helpful. However, now I am being encouraged to abandon my marriage because I am “NOT becoming the best me". If qualities like humility and kindness make for stronger relationships, why do we gravitate toward the advice that tells us to “look out for number one”?

A focus on loving yourself never prepares you to love someone else. In fact, it actually sabotages your capacity to love. I am now realizing just how sabotaging my focus and actions have been in my marriage. I believed focusing on me and loving me more would make my marriage better. Well, I was blind. This is not true; it did the opposite!
You may need encouragement to find your voice, to set healthy boundaries, or to ask others to treat you with respect. However, true confidence never comes from believing self-affirmations. And those self-affirmations are not the answer. At first they may appear to work, however, not for the long-term.

The apostle Paul wrote a prayer for the Christians in Ephesus that expresses where true confidence and the ability to love comes from. I believe his prayer applies as much to us today as it did to these Christians who lived two thousand years ago:

For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name. I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell richly in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. (Ephesians 3:14–19, NIV)

Only when we build on a foundation of God’s deep love and the power of the Holy Spirit in our lives can we grow in love and authentic intimacy. Self-love will never equip you to love another person. Instead, God asks you to trust in his great love for you. Our problem is not that we love ourselves too little, but that we don’t trust God’s love to be sufficient. (this taken from Dr. Juli Slattery's talk)

Only trusting in God and growing in our love for him will be our answer. I am not saying counseling does not work. I am saying, look for a Christian counselor, one who trusts in God. Or, find a good pastor to counsel with.


Edited by: LIKINMENOW at: 11/21/2014 (22:01)
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