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Wow, What a wonderful post. Thanks for sharing it with us. emoticon

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This was great. Thanks for posting!

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How to Love Your Authentic Self
By Lori Deschene

People can only love us if we believe weíre lovable. Itís important that we all realize we are beautiful and wonderful just as we are, in our complete authentic selves.

1. Know that you are not your worst mistakes.

Our past actions shaped today, but we are not what weíve been. We donít need to carry around labels or mistakes from yesterday as if they define us. Whatever youíve done, itís over. It doesnít have to brand you, particularly not if youíre making the conscious choice to do things differently now.

We can judge ourselves by the weakest moments or the strongestóthatís our choice. Choose to focus on the strongest, and then leverage that pride for more of those moments. Every time you feel good about what you do, itís one more reminder to love who you are.

2. Know that you have nothing to prove.

I donít care how esteemed or successful someone is; there are things theyíre proud of and things theyíre ashamed of, and inside they wish people would see more of the former and less of the latter.

We all want validation. Itís an intrinsic human need to feel connected to other people; and oftentimes, when we feel alone, itís because we believe we havenít proven how good we are or can be.

You donít have to show the world youíre good. You donít have to try to hide the things youíve done that might not seem flattering. You just need to forgive and accept yourself and trust that other people will, as well.

Being authentic means being vulnerableóletting people see all your different facets, trusting they wonít judge you, and knowing that if they do, thatís completely on them.

I donít know about you, but Iíd rather be real with people, and know the ones who accept me accept me fully, than pretend and then have to maintain the illusion that I am something Iím not.

3. Know the dark is valuable.

So youíve made mistakesówho hasnít? The beauty of having faltered is that you can help the world with your experiences.

Because we err and hurt, we can empathize when other people are hurting. We can reach out of ourselves, forget our own pains, and hold other people up when they need it.

Having strengths and weaknesses is intrinsically human. If I didnít have less flattering traits and stories, this site would likely not exist.

When you realize your flaws can help the world and bring us closer together, suddenly they seem less like liabilities and more like assets.

4. Know that you matter.

When I was a child, an authority figure in my life told me, ďIf I was your age, I wouldnít be your friend.Ē

I held onto this for yearsóthat given the choice, most people wouldnít like me. As I got older, a lot of people appeared to feel uncomfortable around me, and for good reason. I was like a leech on them, desperately hoping theyíd un-say that one horribly undermining comment someone else spoke years ago.

I couldnít believe I mattered until someone said it to me. Well, now I know differentlyóI know I do matter, and that how my life matters is dependent on what I do from day to day.

Know that you touch countless peopleís lives every day, even if someone isnít blogging or tweeting about it. Just like George Bailey in Itís a Wonderful Life, you do kind things that have a ripple effect you canít possibly measure.

Even if not everyone has recognized it, you make a positive difference in the world. Your positive self regard may feel stronger at some times than others, but even the smallest seed of love is valuable because it can grow.

5. Know that positive feelings and actions breed more.

All these warm fuzzy feelings mean very little if you sit alone, wishing you could experience the world differently. Once we accept that weíre worthy of love and our dreams, the natural next step is to actually create those thingsónot what we think we should do; what we really want to do.

Get out into the world. Do that thing that scares and excites you. Recognize youíre awesome for doing it, even if in just one small step. Give yourself permission to not be perfect, and instead focus on progress.

Love in action every day. Do something kind for you. Do something kind for others. Do something kind for the world.

Acknowledge your weaknesses, work to improve them, but say loud and proud that they will not define you. If you start worrying about the future or dwelling on the past, remember you deserve to enjoy the present, but only you can make it happen.

I havenít always done this. Iíve let a lot of moments slip away while I curled up in my head, wishing I was someone better. But those moments have passed, and in this moment, I am happy with me. I may not know you, but I know I want that love for you too. I know you deserve it.

This has been a little uncomfortable for me, to be honest. Iíve yet again split myself open. But this time Iím not trying to change whatís inside. Iím just here telling you that I am flawed, like we all are, and thatís not only okay, but beautiful.

Much love and light to you from someone ever learning what love really means.

Edited by: LIKINMENOW at: 11/16/2014 (09:14)
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