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11/14/14 10:29 A

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11/9/14 9:27 P

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It's funny the little things others do that can annoy if we let them.
I remember reading a little "blurb" in a Reader's Digest or something about a woman who had been married to her husband for about 40 years. A very young woman, who was recently married was visiting her for coffee one afternoon. The two chatted while the older woman swept and mopped her floor. No sooner had she finished, and the floor was dry, did her husband walk in, with muddy boots on to get something from a drawer, and walk out again. The older woman didn't bat an eyelid, but quietly wiped up the mess. The younger woman was livid on her friend's behalf.

"Doesn't that annoy you?" she demanded.

The older woman was puzzled. "Doesn't what annoy me?"

"Him, bringing all that dirt in on his boots."

The older woman smiled. "Not really," she replied. "You see, the boots also bring him in."

I try to remember when my husband does things that annoy me that if he were no longer with me, I would miss all those little annoyances.

Our good friend lost her husband this past summer. She was only a few years older than me. It really makes me think.

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It is weird but I do the same thing when my throat is scratchy and my family is dumbfounded.

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11/4/14 9:18 A

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Michael and I have been married over 25 years now. Some of his habits I love and some not so much. Like the way that he kisses me every time he comes home–that one I love. Sleeping in a cold bedroom? That took some time to get used to. I remember waking up one cold winter night because the snow was blowing in my face. He liked to sleep with the windows open back then and I wanted them closed.

Early on in our marriage we attended a Valentine’s dinner for couples. During the course of the evening we played a little game to see how well we knew our spouse.

Michael was asked the question, “Which one of Darlene’s habits get on your nerves the most?”

We laughed out loud because both of us knew what his answer would be. Without a doubt. I do this weird thing with my throat when it’s itchy. I make a loud scratchy gurgling sound. And, well, the first time he heard me do it he just about jumped out of his skin.

They say it takes 21 days to form a habit. But the best habits–the ones that we want to solidify and ingrain in our marriage–need to be practiced day after day and year after year. I call them habits because I see them as behaviour that needs to be followed until it becomes a natural and necessary part of our marriage.

Prayer is the powerful force behind the best marriages. It’s the invitation that opens a door wide for God to step through. If You want to see Him at work in your marriage, invite Him to be a part of it, and keep inviting Him in.

Contentment. There’s so much wrapped up in this one. We all have expectations, but the problem with expectations is that they often fall through. A couple that walks in contentment faces each disappointment with joy. They trust in God’s faithfulness whatever may come.

Humility is powerful because it says, I’m willing to put your needs before mine. It’s love in action. When we step down in humility, we bring glory to God and a gift to our marriage.

Communication is rich when we can speak truth in love and when we allow ourselves to be wisely corrected.

Persistence is the glue that keeps a couple together when the going gets tough. It’s the hand that holds on through better or worse. It’s the anchor that holds when we’re rich or we’re poor. It’s a vow to stand strong through sickness and health.

Team work is what marriage is all about. God created Eve from Adam’s rib to illustrate the unity between a husband and his wife. We’re more than two separate beings living under one roof. We’re two pieces of one puzzle. The burdens of this life are lightened when another helps to carry the load. And isn’t laughter so much better when you have someone to share it with?

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