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How frustrating and upsetting for you!

I'm not sure how to stay positive in a situation like that. I usually lean on my faith when I am upset about something like that. I pray, meditate, stick with positive people, and do things that I enjoy to give myself a boost.

I know some people who are finding it is taking a while to conceive find something else that they can "create" together like gardening, decorating their home, taking art classes together, etc. Or else they do something that they can do now because they don't have children that they will be too "tied down" to do when they do have little ones - like travelling, or spending their time at various volunteer endeavours, for example.

I bet others have some good ideas that I hope they'll share.

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Today I am extra annoyed with people who complain about their children or pregnancy. They don't understand that other people (such as my husband and I) have wanted kids for several years but have yet to be blessed with any. How do you stay positive when you are just trying to hold yourself together?

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All gone, thank you God!

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CJ, glad to hear this.

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It's fading, I think.
Thank you!

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Hope that headache is gone CJ.

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I hope you remember to remember!
That's not good for you to miss meals.

I'm struggling with my head right now - stupid headache.

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Making sure that I eat all three meals. I get so busy and do not eat until dinner time.

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A friend of mine often used to say that she would broach difficult situations with her husband right after he had enjoyed a good dinner and he and the kids were happy.

Sometimes, making an "appointment" to talk works.

But, from your post, it sounds like things are very challenging right now and your husband may rebuff comments like that.

Is it possible for you to begin going to counselling alone and see if the counsellor/therapist has some insight or suggestions for you first?

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I am trying to figure out how to approach my hubby about going to counseling. I already know he'll say no, as he has in the past, but as I posted in another thread here, after his Dad's passing, he is getting more and more aggressive and downright nasty toward me in his words and actions. I'm at a loss--my health issues are bottoming out and I know I have to stay strong somehow--but this constant behavior is only getting worse and I need to figure out how to make it stop or at least lessen it and soon. Communication? I try and he walks off--doesn't that just make the matter worse sometimes. Oh well, gotta keep trying!

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I hope you find some peace in your counselling today.

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I am feeling overwhelmed today...glad I can go to counseling. My daughter refuses and my husband backs her up.

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Sorry to hear about your boxer. Our pets are such a part of the family, aren't they? It's sad when that happens.

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So sorry to hear that. Hugs

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Today I am feeling bad because it looks like we will have to let go of our sweet boxer. She is very ill and this is her 10th year of life. They do not last after 10 years. So it is time.

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I usually don't use the oven in the summer either. We do a lot of grilling. Lots of times we will grill up a bunch of stuff so we have food for lunches during the week.

We also do a lot of crock pot meals. BBQ beef sandwiches, pulled pork, or chicken taco tacos.

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I used to struggle with that as well!

Now, I plan my meals the day ahead, sometimes 2 or 3 days ahead, depending on if I have enough prepared things already.

Hmmm...things to plan when it's hot.

The other day we had some wonderful fresh lettuce from my neighbour. I did some chicken breasts in the oven with just some onion powder, garlic powder (not garlic salt), salt and pepper. I then cut up the breasts, tossed them with the lettuce, and added some grated mozzarella cheese and parmesan cheese. I then added croutons. People could pick their salad dressing. I then baked some bread sticks for them and they slathered butter on them (I had a baked potato).

I got all sorts of compliments on that meal, and it was soooo easy!

I suggest experimenting with different salads with added cooked ahead protein - eggs, ham, cheese, seasoned ground beef.

I also like grilling things outside when it's hot, so my house doesn't get hot - we don't have air conditioning.

I also like my "Yonanas" - a machine that makes soft ice cream consistency out of frozen fruit. Lovely!

Smoothies are tasty for my breakfast with Greek yogurt, frozen fruit, milk, and an overripe banana.

Good luck!
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I am struggling with meal planning. When it's hot like this it's hard to think of different meals. Do you have any suggestions?

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Wow, read your posts and feel so very honored that you shared with your hearts. Monika, I am just writing what I feel may be happening. Sounds like your husband is very uncertain about things at his job and now about his marriage. Most man have no clue how to express their feelings. Before throwing the towel in, I'd go to a therapist for marriage counseling.

I have a husband who did not stick up for me when his mother said I was being immature. That hurt me. And to be totally honest, I thought of scripture: "the two shall become one". Perhaps, you may not think this way, but I think if someone criticizes my husband, it is criticizing me too. So I would say something in a respectful way if it was my sister or mother. To me, that is showing conjugal love. Did you ask your husband about his thoughts? (Please do not think I am being critical. I just think we do not know how the other person looks at things and when we do, it makes the matter appear much different)

DELIA38961, I think what you are feeling is very normal. And I am almost certain your hubby isn't planning any Friday or Saturday Date Nights. So here's your chance to do somethings you'd like to do. Come on and write some ideas down. Today I went to visit a close friend. She is feeling just like you are. So she told some Popsicle sticks and wrote down date ideas. Her husband takes one each Friday night out of the paper cup and they do the activity for their date night.





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Monika- you have every right to stick up for yourself, and for your sister if you are feeling attacked. I would do the same thing, but also knowing that it needs to be done in a respectful way. It sounded really sad happening at your daughter's party.
Was there a chance to pull the sis and hubby aside and talk?
Make sure your husband knows it's inappropriate, but that you're not just ganging up on him because what chance does he have then?
I have been there, at my son's 3rd and then his 4th bday parties...where my husband feels so nervous and anxious about all the attention, he hides from the people/friends/family...I have to go get him to sing the bday song! it is ridiculous, but it's our life.

Remember that everyone deserves respect...even in the worst of times.
We are going on 6years of marriage, and after only 2 we were talking about divorce bc we had sooooo much stress.
And it still really sucks at times.
Like his self-absorbed ways...I seek help in group therapy, I don't have parents who care to listen or sisters who have time.
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that is kind of a tough situation .I would be like you and stay neutral but at the same time I can see how your hubby may feel disrespected bc youre not taking his side . I don't know the whole situation but maybe if you explain to both of them how hard and difficult this is on you maybe they will wave the white flag and call a truce for your sake emoticon

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I also do not like to share my personal issues, but I don't have a neutral third party to ask for advice. I believe my husband and I are very close to facing a divorce. We moved to a new city two years ago and the only family we have here is my sister. My sister and husband have not been getting along very well, and he insists that if I'm not defending him then I must be on her side. I've tried to stay semi-neutral but my husband and I keep getting in fights about her. It escalated the other day at my daughter's birthday party, when my sister insinuated that my husband was acting immature. Now my husband is furious and says that he can't continue to be with me if I'm going to allow her to disrespect him like that. I think they're both silly for letting the same issues continue, but it is what it is and I don't know how to respond. I know divorce isn't what God wants for my marriage, but I am at the end of my ropes trying to make him happy. Any advice?

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I wish I had some advice for you. Sometimes routine gets to be just that routine. The same old same old can get boring. Maybe you need to plan a special and exciting date night. Get out of your rut and remember why you guys fell in love in the first place.

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i could really use some advice . I don't usually like to discuss my personal issues I tend to keep them to myself but recently I have felt like the spark is gone in my marriage . In October we will be married for 20 years and even though I love my husband I sometimes feel like the routine of life has lost its luster for me .. emoticon to have that joy and happiness and love again

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Much better to spend time with your honey than with us!

And you're welcome.

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CJ, that was a brilliant idea! Thanks! I'll give it a try. Keep you posted! Sorry it took so long to reply. James is on summer break so I am off the computer to spend time with my honey.

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Thank you!

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Today I am struggling with resentment about an issue in my life. I need to think and pray about it tonight while at Adoration.

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Need to eat better...too much junk food in the house.

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I am struggling with getting healthy. Seems like my immune system isn't working these days.

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I know what you mean. Sometimes, it seems insurmountable just doing even the little things that we know we *should*, but just don't.

One trick that works for me, and may help you, is the baby step trick.

For instance, if you can't ever bring yourself to floss your teeth daily as your dental hygienist has instructed you - then take out some floss and just hold it once a day. Don't floss! Just hold it. You will feel a right idiot just standing there holding floss, so you'll eventually start flossing your teeth. If you do it enough, it becomes a habit.

Likewise, if you are struggling with exercising, don't exercise! Just put on your exercise outfit. That's it. Just stand there in your exercise togs. Again, you'll feel goofy, so you start doing *something* akin to exercising.

I wonder if there is a way you can do a baby step for tracking stuff. Maybe get all your stuff together (your meals for that day on a piece of paper for instance), then sit down at the computer, but don't do anything else.

Or, maybe you have a better one ...?

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I am eating great, exercising as normal. What I am struggling with is logging this stuff. It's not that I can't, I am perfectly capable. I just don't. LOL I have been really bad about it lately. Or I will do it late. I've gotten to where I know what I need to eat or not eat. So I don't worry about logging my day like I should be. I am hoping by being honest and transparent here that maybe I will get my booty in gear and start being more consistent with it.

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CJ.....you can have some of mine. ....all you want. lol

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Yeah ... sucks doesn't it? Not much of a choice, eh?

I'm struggling with putting on weight. After all these years (almost 30!) of trying to lose weight, now I've lost too much and can't put it back on. Talk about irony.

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It would probably help if I took mine daily but like you I don't like to. I'm getting to that stage where I probably will again until I get over this hump.

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The one I have doesn't work unless I take it daily. I hate putting drugs in my body, but sometimes, the misery of the allergies decides for me.

I console myself with the fact that when it snows, or there is snow on the ground to stay, I get a reprieve from taking it. So far, I haven't begun to take it this year yet! I will probably have to this week, as the snow is gone now.

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It's just seasonal allergies. The snow is FINALLY gone so the ground is wet and moldy. They will drive me nuts until everything gets green and blooms again. Then in the fall when everything is dying I'll have the same problem.
I've spoken to my regular doc about them and have a script for nasal spray but I hate taking it everyday.


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Sorry to hear that!
Do you see an allergist?

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I'm struggling with my allergies. They are really kicking my butt. It's making it hard to workout. I want to work out but I'm so tired and always hacking. You'd think I was still smoking.
I really have a love/hate relationship with spring.

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emoticon Teri! There is a lot of wisdom in your words.

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Funnygirljess, I so struggled with that for years. Not so much the same things, but just being nice was difficult. Honestly, I didn't like him much. He didn't like me much either. Something I learned now is that my actions and reactions are not dependent on him, but rather on how I choose to be. That way it's less about him and more about being the woman I need to be. Something else I really had to learn was when to say things in love and when to let him just be. My example is often more powerful than my words.

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I find it hard to be nice to my husband, after he's teasing the kids, complaining about the house being a mess, and griping about dinner and what not.
I KNOW I need to keep the peace, but it's so hard to keep my mouth shut. And when I politely remind HIM to be positive, it's like in one ear, out the other.
I just get so tired of the attitude day after day.


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Overall I am great. I try and live on the sunny side of things. Our life is pretty chaotic usually. Hubby has finals coming up as well as a project so I am running the show all by myself which is fine. He gets up early each morning to do some chores to help me out. I so appreciate that! The kids don't take charge and just do things to help, but if asked they are great helps. If they know what the standard is they will meet it. When James has to go away for a few days he will leave them "in charge" of making sure I am taken care of. They meet that goal because Dad has called them out to do it.

FANCYKAYAH- I struggle sometimes with letting James get things down for me and such. I am 5ft so just about everything is out of my reach even if I organize the cabinets in a way that works for me; not everything fits on the lowest shelf. I've had to learn that one of the ways he likes to show he cares is getting stuff down or just helping out. I have a step stool that my mother in law got me a few years ago, but I only try to use that when James isn't home. Try and make room for him to serve you in that way.

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Good suggestions, Laura!

LUCYVT - and do you believe in God or another Higher Power? Are you able to pray when you feel that way? That helps me, although I know we are all different.

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You need to find something else to do when you get upset. Try going for a walk or calling a friend. I know it's hard to give up that comforting food but you'll start to feel better about yourself if you do. Good luck!
How is your support system at home?

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Lately when I get upset & depressed I tend 2 over eat extremely until I start 2 feel sick

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I hear you! I have given up sugar, and I never thought I could do that.
I try and take it a day (or hour or minute sometimes!) at a time.

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giving up coffee. my dr. advised me not to drink it and I quit a couple of years ago and I lost ten lbs and felt so great...now I like it again.. and have to stop drinking it again...

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Oh I do know this feeling. Also, I know that happiness is an inside job. Yep, it comes from us. We cannot find it from someone else. Basically, we feel how we perceive things. Happiness is neither a simple goal nor a place we try to find. It is a way of living your life.

It may be time to just get busy helping someone.

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I'm struggling 2 be happy w/everyday life. It seems that everyday is the same old thing w/no pleasure.

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Remember to take care of yourself as well, Sharon.
Still praying for you and your sister.

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Still keeping you and your sister in my prayers. Hugs!!

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Stopping in to say "Hello" and "Thank You" for the prayers. My sister had a very difficult 5 hour surgery today. It is a real miracle that she survived it. Her oncologist removed some of her organ before removing the cancer, because he did not what any cancer cells to attach. He then sewed the organs back in. She went through a lot. Now we are praying that she survives the night.

My sister has stage three ovarian cancer and I want to be with her, especially now. She needs a lot of prayers. Please continued to pray for her.

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I usually struggle with time changes until about Wed. And today - yep, feeling better. I hope you do soon as well.

I have had a headache for 3 days. It finally left today. emoticon I don't know if it was the tail end of my virus from last week, lack of sleep, or the time change, but whatever it was, I'm glad it's gone!

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Yep me too. I'm tired with no energy at all. I would think that I'd be fine by now but I'm still tired. My allergies/sinuses are giving me problems as well.

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I wish I knew how to get others to help more, Sharon. I struggle with that as well. And if I ask, my dh usually jumps in, when I didn't mean him at all! He works such long long hours at work, I would like him to just take a break at home. It's the kids who are sitting around that I wish would work a bit more in the house!

I am learning to spell it out for them - you need to empty the dishwasher now, you need to empty the garbages now, you need to help with this laundry plese, etc.

Today I am struggling with getting things done when I am feeling sleepy. Darn time change.

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I'm so glad I'm not alone in that noone seems to notice how things need to get done

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Another day of cleaning up after everyone...I feel like they don't care. Got any ideas how to wake them up?

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Mean old fairy! How dare she!

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I think she left a long time ago but never handed in her resignation!

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What do you mean? The cleaning up and putting away fairy doesn't do her job in your house? Time to fire her! emoticon

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Today I am struggling with everyone forgetting that things do not automatically put themselves away.

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Hi team~

I'm struggling with verbal communication today which is kind of okay because my SO is asleep. Poor fella works long hours some days. We have a system where I text him, email or write in a long hand journal though so its alright.

Sometimes I wish I was better at verbal communication but the SO understands me and as long as I text him and write in the written journal he is fine. Most days I can get round to explaining what I need or want.

Anyone struggle with letting your SO do things for you like getting heavy things off a shelf or things of that nature? The SO gets a bit testy with me when I forget to ask him to do those things for me, he considers it a trust issue. I just forget sometimes to ask is all, used to doing things for myself. Working on it though~

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Today is a good day. I had a great workout this morning without my workout buddy and a healthy lunch and breakfast. I'm having no real struggles today unless you count I'm tired of the cold weather. These cold days are really trying to get me down. I'm really itching for warm weather so I can get outdoors.

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Share with us whatever you are struggling with today. Sometimes, others can come up with ways of encouragement, support, motivation or simple tips to help.

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