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4/7/14 10:16 A

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I do both of those. I think it feels good to give that positive energy and its good for him to receive it.

I despise when women put their husbands down. I am the first to jump in and say positive things or call them out "why are you with him if he is so bad?". I don't associate with people like that either.

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4/3/14 2:17 A

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Very true!


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4/1/14 7:19 A

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Positivity is always much nicer than being negative about our relationships. Sometimes I think women and sometimes men just want to commiserate or be a part of a group but that's not a group I want to belong to. I'd rather have a positive, uplifting and beautiful relationship with my husband than him knowing I talk about him negatively to others.

I think we should think about our words before we say them a lot more and put the shoe on the other foot. Would we want our spouse exposing all of our faults to others? I always think there is a reason we have 2 ears and one mouth. We should listen more than speak in my view. Also being negative about others chips away at our own souls and we aren't uplifting our spouse or our selves with this behaviour~

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3/10/14 11:19 P

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3/10/14 3:14 P

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Both of those are so very important!! Great topic!

I hate to see women tearing down their husbands to other people. To me the Bible is very clear on the topic of respecting our husbands and the talk I hear from women is so often the opposite of respect. Saying things like "He's such a baby when he gets sick" or complaining about the areas he is lacking (even saying it as a ''joke'') does not do anything to lift him up at all. In addition, the women who hear those things being said will start thinking that way about their own husband. It's one thing to be frustrated with something in your relationship and seek advice on how to handle the situation from someone who has been there, but saying ugly things just to say them is uncalled for.

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3/7/14 8:32 P

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FANCYKAYAH - that is so true. I was very grateful today, my neighbour and I went to the grocery store together, and she mentioned some men who do not help in the house, or pull their weight at all. I kept saying how wonderful my husband is - as a provider, husband, father, etc. She agreed with me - as she can plainly see his great points as he spends time with the kids, works in the yard, etc. It felt so much better to praise him unwaveringly than the times when I was first married (24 years ago), when I would criticize him to others. Soooooo not helpful for our marriage!

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Thank you for sharing :) I will definitely be putting those in practice

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3/4/14 1:27 A

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Those are good ways to assure and reassure our SO's that we love him!

Sometimes I wonder if many husbands know that their wives love them by the gossip chatter I overhear in public. Wives speak kinda rudely about their husbands. It must transfer over into their personal lives? I made it my promise to myself and to the SO when we were married if I had issues with him I would tell him and not broadcast it all over. I'm not perfect either so would I want the SO to broadcast our business to our friends and family, NO!

I always tell my SO he looks good, fine, handsome and I think I may embarrass him a little bit but he loves it! He feels like he doesn't spend enough time with me since he works hard, spends time with his 2 young ones and then comes me. We're both busy people but we knew that when we were married so it wasn't a surprise. We just make sure to take time for one another when we can and we text, send emails, write in a journal, talk when we can and make sure we are in tune with one another.

I think with affection, he expresses it better without physical relations and I am better with the man side if you get my meaning. He's helping me and I am learning how to be more loving which I didn't realise I lacked in so much but its fun learning to communicate in all areas!



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2/17/14 1:49 P

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Yes! Two very good ways!

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2/17/14 12:47 P

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emoticon Ohh La La I'm all for that! emoticon emoticon

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2/16/14 9:00 P

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2 Ways Every Wife Should Pursue Her Husband - Ruth Scwenk

I want to be a wife who keeps pursuing my husband, not because I fear losing him, but because I still deeply desire him and love him.

I donít want him to doubt that.

As I have thought about the art of pursuit in marriage, I think there are two primary ways that any wife needs to pursue her husband:

1. Affirmation - You should be your husbandís biggest fan! Tell him you love him, tell him he looks nice, tell him heís a good dad, tell him you appreciate his hard work! Make affirming him a primary way you pursue him. It is a lie and a myth that men donít care about feelings or emotions. They want to know you still have feelings and emotions for them! Affirming your husband is a great way to show him your love and desire to pursue him.

2. Affection - Your husband wants to know he is desired. Itís not true that all he cares about is s*x. He certainly cares about it, but he also wants to be wanted. Be a wife who initiates physical contact.


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