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1/19/14 7:51 P

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No. I am just getting to my email notifications now, and reading older posts from earlier in the week.


What if we woke up tomorrow with only those things that we thanked God for today?

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1/18/14 7:29 P

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Well, this is a have not read article. It is most likely because it mention Christ. I am I right?

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1/17/14 8:40 A

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The truth is itís not so hard to turn our relationship with our husband into a game of cutthroat marriage. At least itís not for me.

It happens every time I put me ó and not Jesus ó at the center of my marriage.

When my hunger to win trumps my passion for peace with my husband.

When I decide being right is more important than being united.

When having the last word becomes the ultimate prize.

Itís a problem thatís plagued marriage since the beginning. Since that first wife allowed curious disregard to sabotage perfect unity.

And itís a battle Iíd venture to guess you face just like me and our very, very great grandmother.

How can we make sure we arenít engaging in a game of cutthroat marriage?

In one of my favorite New Testament books, James addresses the issue of disunity within the body of Christ. He writes in James 4:1-2:

What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel.

In this chapter, James doesnít merely pinpoint that itís me-centeredness thatís sabotaging these first-century relationships. He goes on to offer strong instructions on how to remedy it in verses 7-10:

Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Be wretched and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.

Letís pause and chew on that. Letís savor that for a moment.

When me-centeredness threatens to undermine our marriages, these ďspecialty itemsĒ that James presents to his readers are things you and I can and should employ.

We can resist the hunger to win arguments.

We can purify our hearts of the need to be right.

We can humble ourselves by swallowing that last word.

To what end? Unity, peace, joy, growth.

And do you know what the best part is? When we draw near to God and seek to put Him at the center of our marriage ó and not ourselves ó He freely equips us with these advantages. He gives us His Word and His Spirit to help us.

This doesnít mean weíll always choose or act perfectly. What it does mean is that God gives us the tools we need not to win each round for ourselves, but to win the competition for the team.

Itís a strategy that goes a long way in protecting the unity of our marriages.

Be encouraged!


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