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SHASTAW Posts: 11
4/4/09 4:12 P

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We have a tentative set date. as of yesterday, Michael will be going to some fort in kansas, and that'll be it. He's leaving the 10th.

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3/28/09 10:53 P

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At the Army Readiness Center they have a AFTB(army family team building) class that helps with all the army language. It is also a great place to meet other wives that are going thru the same thing you are.





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3/27/09 10:30 P

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I know. My first year as a military wife, it felt like everyone was speaking some sort of alien language. I got most of the acronyms that really affect me down now. It just takes time.

We're working on our third year of marriage and he still can stump me with the armyspeak. But I love him, what can I say. In fact, we're having a really nice night of just hanging out and talking. Let me know if you need any tips on dealing or advice. It helps to have friends who've been there.

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3/27/09 9:47 A

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I get lost with all the army terms, too. I just bought a book at barnes and noble called Married to the Military. Its got a pink camo cover. Supposed to explain alot about military life and terminology. Maybe that would help.

Never look back, unless you plan on going that way.

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3/26/09 10:10 P

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I know that the anticipation of the deployment is harder sometimes than the actually being alone. My husband just got back and I am already starting to worry about the next one. It is so hard to enjoy him being here when he is always leaving for something.

Just try to be yourself over the coming weeks and don't let little things get to you. It is easy to get emotional over stupid stuff right before he leaves. My husband and I work really hard at not arguing over pesky irritations right before he leaves because we know it is all about the pain of losing each other, not whatever.

Also start talking about what we expect and hope for in terms of contact, etc. from each other during the deployment. It helps us know how to make this easier on each other.

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SHASTAW Posts: 11
3/26/09 5:28 P

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LOL well, Michael's all right-he strained a few muscles but he's having trouble walking, so they sent him home, and now all the orders are wonky. He's still deploying, but we're not sure when, which just seems to make it even harder-all that stupid anticipation... Anyway, I'm still a little sketchy on the details of how he did it, but it doesn't surprise me.

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3/24/09 8:53 P

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I hope he is ok. My husband is the same! He has been to Iraq three times and has hurt his back diving off the diving board on Speicher, fell down three flights of stairs after tripping on his shower shoes And this deployment, burned his throat when a pill exploded before he has swallowed it. We laugh "at" him, but I am really happy that he just comes home safely!

I hope your hubby is going to be ok and the injury isn't serious. Let me know, I worry even after stuff has happened to Chad.

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SHASTAW Posts: 11
3/24/09 12:25 P

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everything's going okay so far. my husband, more accident prone than I am, managed to mess up his hip somehow during training, and i have no details, just that he's in the hospital. but, it doesn't surprise me. he's got a horrible habit of getting hurt doing some of the stupidest things. he can fall and do more damage than someone who punches a brick wall. lol

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3/21/09 12:57 P

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Shastaw,
How's everything going? Did your husband get off ok? We are working on our 3rd deployment. We are stationed at Ft. Campbell and they have allot to offer spouses of deployed soldiers, including free gym passes and discounted aerobics passes. I'm for sure taking advantage of those. I know you said that you have small children check out what cys has available. The most important thing is to keep busy and don't watch the news all day long.

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3/16/09 1:12 P

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It is perfectly normal to be worried. As to the changing of the orders all I can say is Welcome to the Army Hurry up and wait. Do you have anyone there that you are close to? I know how crazyit can be with no adult conversation. Keep you chin up and give a shout if you need support.






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SHASTAW Posts: 11
3/16/09 1:09 P

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I'm still worried, but that's just because orders keep changing. He was supposed to leave last friday and now it's next friday, and I'm glad for the time we still ahve together, but it just makes the anticipation worse. It's scary because we're due to have a little boy in August, and I'm worried about being alone with two small children.

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stay busy...maby start a new project

life is too short to live it unhappy


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3/13/09 7:33 P

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Shastaw - how is it going? Are you surviving? I am struggling today. My husband was supposed to be home two days ago and was still stuck in Baghdad 36 hours ago.

This waiting and waiting and no news, is hard to swallow. I guess I just need to follow my own advice and expect the worst while hoping for the best.

Let me know if you need an ear.

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3/11/09 10:06 P

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I'm almost 1/2 way through my first deployment. it definitely has it's ups and downs. I had a baby a month after he left so my schedule is completely different. I agree if you can keep the same schedule it's a plus. That way your whole world doesn't turn upside down. It sounds like you are close to family. That will be helpful to you. It's nice to have family near by to help you when you are having a down day. Also try making friends with the other Army wives. they are going through the same things you are and it's nice to have their support. just try to stay strong. He needs you to stay strong.

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3/10/09 8:31 P

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I am just finishing up my second deployment. It is always hard. You have to find a balance between missing him and loving the time to focus on you. Start thinking about all the tv shows, movies, etc. you want to watch that he wouldn't like, foods you LOVE and he doesn't. Try to use this year to really work on you. It will go faster than you think. But it will be hard. When it is hard, let yourself cry, let it be tough. Wallow in it for an hour or five minutes, whatever it takes then go back. It will help to have somethings you want to accomplish while he is gone. Hit me up for help anytime. Been there and done that. Less than a week to go ! ! !

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SHASTAW Posts: 11
3/10/09 3:02 P

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I'd probably still mix something up. then he'd laugh, but it'd be worth it to make him laugh.

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Yeah I know the feeling.
A notebook sounds like a good idea.






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SHASTAW Posts: 11
3/10/09 12:41 P

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I'm thinking of getting a notebook and studying his code and translations so MAYBE I can follow a simple conversation. His mom took him to fill out some paperwork yesterday and when I saw her, she said she didn't know how they could keep it all straight. She was as lost as me!

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3/10/09 12:38 P

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Me too.
Just ask if you don't understand that is what I do.





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3/10/09 12:35 P

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When we first thought he was going (the first time we were told, it's changed about 6 times in two months) I wasn't as worried as I am now. Then, he was supposed to be going as an all-wheel vehicle mechanic. This time, they transfered him to infantry. he's going to some kind of school/training thing saturday, and will be home for about 1 wk before he goes to his mob. site. He was in the military when we met, so I knew this was coming eventually, but it doesn't make it any easier. He said something about doing a lateral transfer or something like that while he was gone. I'm still new to this, so I'm still a little lost whenever he starts talking in code.

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For me the nights were always the hardest on my first deployment. We just finished up our 3rd one. If you can go to school. I won't tell you not to worry because we ALL do. Just remember that as long as he knows that you are able to handle things the more he can focus on his job and not be totally worried about you.






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3/10/09 12:23 P

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Thanks. Right now I'm getting into a new routine of babysitting my neice and nephew (Giana-1 yr, Keegan-3.5 months). Luckily, they keep me pretty busy with my daughter, so I don't really have time to think about it. but, like with all things, I manage to find time.

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First don't panic. Second don't be glued to the news because it is always wrong. Third keep to your daily routine as much as possible. If you have kids have your husband tape himself reading some favorite stories for your kids. Either dvd or vhs or just a plain audio casette. Expect ups and downs but don't panic when you have the downs. I always get some blank cards and write on each one and have my husband do the same before he goes. Then we each have a card once a week while he is gone to read while you have to wait for the regular mail.
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3/10/09 12:10 P

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My husband is deploying in a little less than a month as of right now. Does anyone have any advice for coping with all of this? I'm a little at a loss. Thanks

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