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6/22/12 6:10 P

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I am horrible about keeping to any of my schedule when my dh is home. I focus our time around him or am trying to keep things quiet so he can relax. He doesn't like being on a schedule when he's off work - so we sort of fly by the seat of our pants. LOL I do have a menu written for dinner every day - so those ingredients are what I have available. We'll often change the order of the menu, or use the ingredients in a different way. If we go out, it's usually mutual decision due to circumstances (i.e. last Sunday I didn't get my act together early enough to get the pork tenderloin into the oven! Ha!). He goes through spells where eating out seems an easy "gift" to give all of us - but often we regret it because we feel so icky after. We are all trying to learn how to spend time together without food being the central activity. It's hard!

One thought I've always had though - eating healthy is a wonderful thing. But no habit should be such that it causes us to take something away from him as the provider and leader - he's worked hard too, and if he wants to do what he can because he loves the family - there is something to be said for letting him and thanking him. We can all find ways to eat better when we go out, share a sundae between everyone for dessert, drink water instead of soda, etc. We can make those times healthful and emotionally beneficial for everyone. This family stuff is a joint venture, he participates in what we plan most of the week, we can participate in his adventures in the smaller percentages of time.

Me - I tend to be an enabler - because he wants to go out because he feels stressed and he THINKS food he likes will make him happier - but it only does so long as he's eating it - the aftermath is brutal! I have to be more encouraging about eating out with smarter choices. I ate fajitas for the first time a few weeks ago so we could share and he wouldn't feel so icky after having eaten so much alone. Funny - I liked it! LOL Balance!


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6/22/12 12:04 P

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Yes. Sometimes it's his fault and sometimes it's just laziness on my part because I want to sit with him and not cook.



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6/22/12 11:37 A

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Oh yes the meal out and sweet surprises was what my dh did as well, but not with my son
I had to tell him to stop and why. Food should never be a reward; it's fuel for our bodies
And this is when he jumped on board with me. He eats better than he ever did. Evn eats tomatoes lol. He used to hate them and now loves them
I hope this helps. If the talk doesn't work then I'd go for more drastic actions

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6/22/12 9:35 A

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Want to addsome helpful hints? My hubby is the one who loves to treat the kids to milkshakes and icees for good behavior. Sometimes it's the surprise meal out because he feels I have worked too hard all week. Well none of it is meant to be sabotaging, only loving doting behavior... I know that it is easy to steer off course when this happens ;-)

Mary,
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6/21/12 9:51 P

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this used to be a problem. I almost felt as though dh was inadvertently sabotaging me. I steeled my resolve and stuck to my plans and eventually dh came to my way of eating. LOL

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6/21/12 9:40 P

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Anyone else feel like when hubby is off from work their food goes out the window?

Mary,
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