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DH envisions rivers of chocolate, a la Willie Wonka!

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Phebess Iíve been to Hershey and it is a nice town. I enjoyed Hersheyís museum

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It's been an odd day - but to answer questions -

No, NancyAnne, no dancing at this event, and no kid or family lifted in the chairs. Things were revised in Feb/March to be Covid-regulation-compliant then - so things were going to be smaller and masked and people not mixing much outside their households. But since all the adults there were vaccinated and things have loosened up, it didn't work out that way. (Plus other relatives weren't invited due to the need to keep the group small.) However, we did the hora (circle dancing) at our wedding, and yes, I was lifted up in the chair and danced around a bit.

Cindy, I'm glad your DH was able to talk to your nephew, even if the nephew isn't ready to hear what he was saying. Maybe some of it will sink in slowly.

Donna, that's great that your DH is willing to use a walker - they really are useful for stability. And even something to hold when getting up from a chair.

So, worked on finding a place in Bellingham, put in a request to book. We decided that if we rent an apartment, we need the car with us. Back to the plan of driving the car. (I know, we've bounced back and forth ten times on this!)

My Liberian "daughter" is a home health nurse, and the person on the next shift never showed up - so she wasn't able to meet me. I suggested maybe tomorrow morning for breakfast, but haven't heard back yet. We'll see what happens - tomorrow we head to Hershey, it's supposed to be a cute town. But I know both of us are disappointed we didn't manage to connect, so I hope she's able to meet up with us here.





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At long last - Mother's Day plants!

Sorry this one is sideways. Its the mixed pot hubby brought home from the grocery store


Hibiscus in the urns at the front.


Mixed planters on the deck.



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Maree - That sounds like a lovely time with family and yes, letting the store do the baking works just fine. We do it all the time! I can't remember the last time I made a birthday cake for someone.

Bess so glad you had a lovely time with your family too! We have a birthday next month too - our son's - but alas it will be the fourth (if we don't count my birthday last fall when hubby and I both had colds) that we will not be able to celebrate together. Maybe by September and hopefully we can all gather for mom's 100th in August. The knitting bag definitely goes with me to mom's although sometimes it gets virtually no attention - depends on how tired and motivated I am while I'm there. Aside from the re-discovered silk/merino shawlette, I have another small shawl that was a potential travel project for me on our trip two years ago to GB which I've worked at and a short sleeved cropped cardigan that I've been working on with a couple of balls of acrylic/wool blend yarn that I purchased at a Farmer's Market in Ludlow England on our way to Liverpool. I'll take all of them with me and we'll see how far I get with any of them.

Nancy Anne - Thanks. I know my sister appreciates any help from my brother but he is unwilling to stay more than one night at a time for some reason although as recently as December he would stay for 2 or 3 nights. I hope that the surgery does help your mom with the memory loss. Just about a year ago my BIL was having episodes of confusion and some memory loss but a sleep test and use of a CPAP machine have cured that problem. My sister had some major concerns about him for a while. Actually I don't think we realized that our daughter's first marriage was so ill-advised but she's now with the right guy and they are happy so that is all that we really can ask for. Glad that third time was the charm for you and your DD.

Cindy - emoticon for getting other people's junk out of your yard. We still have stuff from our kids hanging around in the basement but not as much as we once had. Glad that you had a restful Saturday - we need days like that and I'm sure you were overdue for one! Too bad that N has his mind made up and isn't willing to try counselling or listen to advice. Not a happy situation for the kiddos.

Kellie - I hope that you get to enjoy some of your lovely day. I imagine that the aftermath of the break up in any long term is very difficult but we are resilient and we can get through!

Nell - You deserve to have things turn around for you soon and most hopefully before the 25th.

Happy dress shopping Toni! Always a special time but of course one wants to find just the 'right' dress.

Kate - That's good information for anyone looking to get a large mixer. Much as it would be lovely to have one, I don't really have storage and can't justify having one for the only time I do much baking which is Christmas. I have a nice hand mixer that suits my needs but for anyone who does a lot of baking - or bread making, a large stand up machine is a real help. And you're right - marriage is rarely easy - we've been hanging in for over 43 years now but have had our ups and downs too.

Donna - So glad that you were able to enjoy time with your neighbour and dinner out with friends. And I'm glad that your hubby is willing to use a walker. He probably feels more secure with it. It's too bad that he was so worn out from the dinner with your friends. Does the walker that you borrowed have a seat? Rather handy to have if you are out somewhere and he needs to rest as there's a built in seat to sit on. Most walkers probably do have this but I've seen some that do not.

We too are enjoying beautiful weather today so I decided it was time to take advantage this afternoon and spent well over an hour and a half out on the deck reading and soaking in a bit of sun. We will be mid-20s C (about 77 F) by the time I leave for mom's on Wednesday - or maybe I should say by the time hubby takes me up! It will cool back down to about where we are today or a bit cooler most of the time I'm away so that makes packing a bit easier.
Apparently the cook has the night off so pizza is on the menu! Gotta go but I want to post some pics so I'll come back to it in few minutes.







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Morning all, itís lovely again and I intent to make good use of the day. Spring is such a lovely time of year as we once again enjoy the beautiful foliage and even better being outside in the warmth. I never take it for granted
I had a lovely visit with a neighbour yesterday. Her hubby passed away recently so when she asked if I would like to stay and have a cup of tea with her I did. She is doing so well and I have to admire how strong she is. I think my Dh was worried about me. He just doesnít understand how you can sit and chat for a few hours and really about nothing important, I donít think Covid even came up! Haha
We then went over to our friends which made for a perfect day for me. I donít know how often we will be able to do that as it really tired Dh out. We were home shortly after 8 and he went straight to bed, oh my, his times have changed.
We borrowed a sturdy Walker from our neighbour just to see how hubby would manage with it. He sure is more stable walking so I am going to either buy this one from her or get one for dh. He never even hesitated using it. I feel more comfortable with him getting up in the night

As for mixers I bought myself a KitchenAide about 20 years ago and I sure have no complaints. Kate is right there is so much more out there and it is good to do your research. They are very heavy so for me it had to stay on the counter or I just wouldnít use it enough.

Nell how you are managing all of this is amazing. I know you donít have any choice. I wish someone was able to help you.

I was called away for a FaceTime with my Winnipeg family and now I will need to go back and read all your posts again. I will try and get back later....

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Very old kitchen aids are excellent machines. When they stopped making them in the U.S. the quality decreased. Bosch are designed for making bread. When I make cookies a cup of flour totally mixes in with a minute. Thereís is also no residual on the bottom. Itís because there are two paddles not one.

Iíve stayed out of the marriage/divorce discussion because I didnít know what to say. I agree with Nell. I have been married for almost 32 years to an amazing man. That doesnít mean itís easy. There has been a lot of compromising and accepting each other. Before I met hubby I dated guys who always put my needs second and werenít there for me. Iím glad I waited.


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Good morning!

I am in Denver for a bit more. My DIL and her mom are having breakfast and then we will trot out for a couple more dress tries. I think DIL is lovely and will look lovely in whatever she decides. I just want her to find the one that feels comfortable and right. Weíve seen some lovely ones, but not Ďtheí one.

I wonít be setting up or setting a time for Zoom until after May 20th because I will be involved here until we get back. Iíll try to wrap my mind about a good time for all of us then.

Doesnít quite seem like Sunday hereówho knew bridal dress shops would be open on a Sunday, but of course it makes sense. Denver is masked inside at the hotel and when people go into restaurants but I could almost feel the excitement in the air in the restaurant last night which was busy.

Off to pack and I did pack a lighter bag than my DH! I feel sorry for men whose shoes always weigh a ton!

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Good morning. I am sicker this morning than I have been in awhile. I don't want to call the doc, I don't want to end up back in the hospital, hopefully things will turn around before my doc appointment on May 25th.

As far as divorce, I remember something Hilary Clinton said back during the Monica Lewinsky thing. She said that the only people who know what is going on in a marriage are the two people in it, and those are the only two opinions that matter. No one owes me an explanation, I remember that I sure didn't want to talk about my own divorce 40 years ago. At least divorce is an option. I remember when you had to prove adultery in order to get a divorce, a lot of states didn't even allow physical abuse as grounds for divorce.

I still have an old Kitchenaid mixer that I got to replace my old underpowered Sunbeam. It still works, but it's heavy to lift out of the pantry, and gets heavier with every passing year.

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Happy Sunday! I'm plugging along Maree thanks! Still some dark days getting used to my new normal. Divorce is never a fun subject. I'm wishing for brighter days for all involved in the N&N situation!

Bess, I received two emails from people who said they enjoyed the title of my meeting on Friday. Just about everyone that got pulled into that meeting has been involved in server changes that have gone off the rails and appreciated the David Bowie reference.

I got my yoga flow and dancing done this morning then headed to the grocery store. Now I'm digging into homework while listening to Breakfast with the Beatles on a local radio station. It's going to be sunny and 75 today. Hoping to finish up at a decent time to get in a run.

Working on adding I to my vocabulary to make myself more accountable and not letting excuses get in my way, in more ways than health and fitness. I saw an older Spark article that spoke to me.

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Sunday Self Care wishes all around!

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Good Sunday morning. This weekend is flying by much too fast!

Love the descriptions of all the wonderful family get-togethers! That all sounds so wonderful! We will never take them for granted again, I'll bet, after what we've been through the last year and more.

Bess, I'm sure you'll enjoy getting an upgraded mixer! I actually had a nice KitchenAid, but it took up too much room on the counter, and when I was making bread all the time, it was too small to handle the dough for 4 loaves and the giant bowl I used. My hand mixer is what I prefer for that, and the other thing I use a mixer for: 7 minute frosting (which you have to make in a double boiler on the stove.) Now I hardly ever get it out of the drawer, though. Rarely make bread, and haven't frosted anything in a long time...Different way of eating now.

My nephew came over yesterday and he and DH loaded up all the junk N had been storing in his junker pickup for several years and took it to the dump. So the front of our barn looks a little better now. Except for the junker RV our DD is storing there...That's what happens when you have a place in the country! Everyone thinks we have space to store their stuff, LOL. Anyway, DH had a little opportunity to talk with the N, but he is so unwilling to accept advice or wise counsel. He has made up his mind to get a divorce. I wish N&N could sit down with all of you that have gone through this experience and hear your stories and take them to heart, and at least not rush into anything. Such stubbornness makes me frustrated!

Well, after a week of eating carefully, I am almost back down to where I was before the Mother's Day meal (just .2 more). Bess, I'll be so jealous if one or two days of salads is all it takes for you to recover, LOL.

Yesterday I really took it easy, and did not get any house cleaning done or anything (though I really needed to.) I spent some time exercising, and working on the jigsaw puzzle, and a crossword puzzle, and deleting texts off my phone to make space, and tracking some meal plans, etc. It was a lovely Saturday, but much too short. I think I need a 4-day weekend every week!

Hoping you each enjoy your Sunday!

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Given the fact that I am going to be in California at my momís, who has no internet and I have to work off of my phoneís hot spot, I donít think Iíll be a good candidate for participating in any Zoom calls scheduled in the next 3 Ĺ weeks or so. But Iíll love hearing about it from those who participate, if it does happen!

Donna- I hope you have fun gardening! We are in need of some landscaping here, but that will have to wait.

Sue- I really feel for your sister! She is blessed to have two siblings who can give her a break, though. Bless your momís heart- It must be even harder to be her. My mom is finally realizing that her memory is bad and I think it scares her. I admitted to her that Iíve noticed it for a few years, but think it might be because of lack of oxygen with the declining valve. I think sheís suspected memory loss, too, but hasnít wanted to admit it for fear itís irreversible dementia like her mother had. She seems more willing to admit it now that it is something that could be reversible. And, itís impossible to ignore anymore.
It is painful to watch your childrenís marriages disintegrate, isnít it? Especially when you saw it coming and warned them. Our oldest girl married on the rebound after knowing the guy just 10 weeks. They produced my sweet grandson Gideon, but between her temper and his due-less-ness, she it was over in a couple of years. Sheís remarried now and theyíve had their fair share of problems, but I recognize, that while not highly motivated to aspire to be more, heís a good man and thereís nothing there worth divorcing over. So Iíve encouraged her to this fact and they seem to be working it out.
Please do post pics when you are done with the first-completed UFO! That yard sounds divine!

Phebe- $5! Iíd think youíd of been worth at least $7.50 emoticon .
The Bar Mitzvah sounds like a wonderful time of family. Did anyone get lifted up on chairs? The movie we saw last night had a Bat Mitzvah and chair dancing happened. That looked like fun to me!
I hope you get to see your adopted Liberian daughter!

Donna- Ruger was a good boy when we were gone. The meds helped, as it was 4 hours that he didnít act up at all.
I hope you enjoyed the visit with your friends last night! I think weíre all ready to start feeling a regular semblance of our formal normal. I fear, however, that ďnormalĒ will not look the same from now on out.

Kate- You sound with cookies like I feel with bread- The entire process is a soothing stress relief for me. Although my bread is ready a lot quicker than your cookies!

Maree and Bess- I am thrilled for you that you were able to spend quality time with the people you love. There canít be enough of that!

As for being friendly with my exís- My first husband and I were friendly, but then our kids grew up and thereís really no need for contact anymore. Heís remarried, and Iím happy for him. With my second husband, it was safest for all of us to stay away from him. The kindest thing he did for our daughter was to stop contact with her at a young age. It hurt her, but the emotional abuse she would have surely suffered had he stayed in her life would have done more damage. (He also stopped paying child support- still owes over $30K. Iíll never see it. Itís okay- more than worth the price for peace.) Sam has been her daddy since she was 6 and sealed the deal when she was 16 by adopting her. She was finally ready- I think up until that point she felt disloyal to her biological father, despite what she had gleaned about his character. (I only answered the questions she asked, and as neutrally as possible. I don't believe in ragging about a kids father to them, even if they WERE awful.) She had finally matured enough to realize what kind of man her biological father was and that her real dad was right there in front of her. After the adoption, we saw her almost immediately settle down emotionally. Sam has been a big blessing for all of us.

Wow! This is long! I am going to scoot and make Beej some breakfast. Just two days and I leave for California. I am nervous about it- Flying, to start. And pre-op appointments are piling up, some in San Francisco. Itís not my favorite city, due in part to the traffic. Add that Iíll have a nervous passenger (mom), and Iím driving her carÖÖ.. I am praying for as few hiccups as possible.

Have a blessed Sunday, everyone!

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5/16/21 8:12 A

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Bess if you buy a new stand up mixer donít just buy a KitchenAid. Do a little research. I prefer Bosch because itís a workhorse and mixes very quickly.

Iím awake right now because Iím too hot to sleep. Iím starting to yawn and will go back to sleep soon.

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Maree - Thanks! We certainly did have a lovely time with them all here filling my house with love. I know just how you must have felt being surrounded by so many of the people you love at last. And I love the idea of bite-sized tacos!

Sue - Oh that UFO basket. I have one sweater that the M***S got into and I'm going to rip it out, scour the yarn and start again. Fortunately there is a lot of extra yarn in an air tight bag that did not get infested. Can you knit when you are at you are taking care of your mother next week? Still sending out good juju that sister will be able to have her operation. And yippee for your daughter's expedited vaccination!

Phebess - LOL - I can just picture you in your "beach" attire. How wonderful that bar mitzvah celebration sounds. And yes - it is still a shock to me that I'm one of the old guyz. (especially the wrinkles around my mouth. boo hoo)

Donna - how was the dinner out? Isn't it wonderful to be able to do that - even just a little? Here's hoping you can soon dine out on your lovely deck all flowery and spring-like.

Kate - I just love how you can sink into your art and float away. A decorated 10 x 10 cookie would be a marvel and if you do make it - please please share it with us. As for a zoom phone call - that can not only be scheduled for the maximum participation, but also scheduled more than once.

NancyAnne emoticon That is the cutest story. And I love the idea of you 3 celebrating by going out to a movie. I thought your reflections on marriage, especially your own, were very wise and definitely worth hearing. I wish Cindy's niece could stumble on them before she makes any permanent move. But we all do make decisions that we would un-make if we'd had the hindsight we get in time. Now I think of it - Weight Management is such a metaphor for life itself!

Cindy - I would borrow your DH to fix my mixer but the truth is - I've been wanting an upgrade for a long time but couldn't justify it with a working mixer. Prayers continue for your N&N and as for a zoom call - you might consider taking your telephone to the public library - where they will have fast internet access. I know lots of folk sit in our library parking lot just using the wifi.

Kellie - How good that you could go to that celebration of life. I bet your colleagues enjoyed the Ch Ch Changes meeting. At least, I hope they heard the tune in their heads. Thanks for the chuckle. And the kind words about that photograph.

Yoo Hoos to everyone else on the team.

We had a splendifferous day yesterday with our beloveds. Da Pwincess was ready to help in the kitchen, Da Pwince wanted to take apart everything that had parts to it and Da Baby alternately cooed, cried and laughed. It was total joy crammed into a glorious spring day. And lucky us - there's another birthday next month.

But oh I ate. The butter and sugar content of the meal was way beyond the legal limit. Today it will be salads. Maybe tomorrow too.

Sending you all the joy of spring.



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Good morning!

emoticon to Bess' son!! That cake sounds so yummy! Nana, I bet you were in heaven!

emoticon to you and your DH, Nancy Anne!

What a full day yesterday, after neither DH or I slept well Friday night! When DD and family arrived, we spent several hours garage saling. The big score was 5 hardback Harry Potter books for DGD. She's already read 1 and 2, so picked up the rest of the series and was so delighted! My big score was running into a very dear fitness friend at that same garage sale.

DD and SIL then took over the kitchen making bite size spicy chicken tacos for the party. So no carrot cookies or cupcakes were made. Store-bought worked fine. We had a great gathering. No real rain, just chilly, cloudy, gray, occasional sprinkle. But having so many of the people I love the most all in one place was like being surrounded by a big bouquet of flowers, all very different varieties, but each beautiful in their own way.

I agree, Bess, about flippantly ending a marriage when there are children involved and it's driven by flirtation, not by abuse, etc. Nancy Anne, thanks for sharing your experience. Are you still friendly with the fathers? And Kellie, I think how you must feel about this discussion -- still so many unanswered questions. Hugs and glad that you have made so much progress with moving on. Some things in life just can't be understood.

I have to scoot. We're running over to the marina. My MIL needs DH's assistance on a landscaping project. We'll check on the houseboat and hope for a better weather weekend next weekend.

Hope all have a great day and stay healthy!


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