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Hello everyone,

I just joined this group and thought I would introduce myself. I was a part of the Single Mom's group on SP, but it has been inactive for quite sometime, and I would love to meet (talk) to people who are in the same situation as myself.

My situation is a little different. I found out I was pregnant about 2 weeks after my boyfriend and I split nearly 12 years ago. I went through my pregnancy single, and when my daughter was 6 months old, I met a man. We dated for two years and got married. My daughter knew him as dad, he was all that she knew as a father, however, we were a blended family, and he had twin daughters from a previous relationship that he had full custody of. We were able to make our marriage work and were together a total of 7 years, however, the entire situation was rocky. His family never accepted us as part of the family, and my daughter had to deal with not being treated as an equal. There were presents that were bought for the twins, and she wouldnt get any, she would be punished while the others got away with doing things, etc. Even if I tried to show my daughter any affection, I was accused of showing favortism over the other girls. It got so bad, that I was even scared to hug my daughter and started to neglect giving any affection so I wouldnt look like I was showing her more attention than the other girls. Alot of resentment built up, and I eventually left. The biological mother of the twins came back into the picture, and that family was able to reunite as one.

Not to long after the separation and divorce, I did meet another man. He was good with my daugther and we were together off and on for the last four years. The problem we had was that he wanted a mom, someone to take care of him, and I wanted a partner, an equal. I tried to make it work... I wanted it to work, but I just couldnt see a future. We broke up about two weeks ago, for good... no going back.

I am sad about the situation but I am finally embracing true single-ness, even though I have been a single mom in the sense of my daughters biological father or 'stepdad' is not in the picture anymore. Her stepdad (my ex husband) did stick around for about 8 months after the separation, but then bailed to focus on his new family. That was the hardest on my daughter. She grew up really fast.

I would love to meet other people to vent frustrations and successes. I am trying to get myself back in shape and focus on goals that make my daughter and myself happy. We have been planning our vacations and having a blast dreaming about it. Vermont at the end of October (Halloween)... and Orlando - Universal Studios in April 2012. She starts middle school this year and will be in the STEM (Science Technology Enginerring Mathematics) program this year. She also takes violin lessons and loves it.

So yeah, really looking for friends and support... look forward to meeting and chatting with you all.


It's hard to beat a person who never gives up!


Keely in North Carolina, EST.



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