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8/16/11 6:27 A

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emoticon Diane the great thing about SP is the resources we have to use to make this healthy life style changes we need to by preparing healthier meals you daughter will be learning at a young age to eat better then we did at her age. YOu will be a great role model for your family emoticon

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8/16/11 12:30 A

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Hi Diane,

I hope you find motivation and community on this site. I also hope you know that being a role model for your daughter has nothing to do with what the scale says. There is a scary amount of fat phobia out there, and a lot of people who challenge that as well. It might be worth it to connect with people/pages/groups who fight the fat phobia instead of fat people. By learning how not to internalize that kind of discrimination and judgment, it will make it easier and healthier for both of you.

I just watched a movie this last year that you might like. It's from 1994, so lots of dated hairstyles, but the general story (it's a documentary) can be pretty liberating. Basically, if people stop living and loving life until they lose weight and feel good about themselves (but only because others accept them), then they never really move forward. If, instead, people stop living their lives worrying about what everyone else thinks of them, suddenly they start liking themselves and finding motivation to do the things they were too afraid to do because they were "too fat."

So, basically, have some compassion for yourself. There's nothing wrong with you. Work toward healthier habits if you don't feel great, but keep in mind that your weight is not some quantifiable way of determining your value, even if it feels that way sometimes. Make changes in your life because the food tastes better and the exercise feels amazing, not because it's a punishment or a guarantee that people will accept you.

One of my favorite video responses to the It Gets Better campaign over this last year was, "It doesn't get better. You get stronger." Here's to you getting stronger. emoticon

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Hey everyone. My name is Diane, I am 28 and just had my first baby. I have been overweight all my life. Since I was 10 years old I have always weighed between 150 and 175, going up and back down throughout the years. I got pregnant at my heaviest weight and gained a total of 40 pounds. So now I am at my heaviest ever of 193. It sucked growing up overweight. I have to lose weight so I can be a role model for my daughter. I don't want her to follow in my foot steps. I am also so worried that she will be embarresed of me if I don't lose the weight. Lastly, I would love to have a second child but I feel like I got lucky not having any weight related complications the first time, I don't want to chance it during the second pregnancy.

I hope to post often to try to keep motivated and I hope everyone does the same. Good luck everyone. Hope we all succeed on this journey.





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