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7/17/11 10:47 A

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Thank you Barb, I have checked out the site etc.

My daughter will have surgery on Friday at our local cancer hospital. They are planning on taking her lower right lobe. My daughter said while she is on the table they will check out her lymph nodes. We are on hold till then.

She is talking to her dad so that is good and he will be at the hospital with her. I am not sure if I am going to be there. Our other daughter has an autistic 3 & 1/2 year old who is having surgery the day before!!

What is that saying "it never just rains it pours"!! LOL

Watching salt intake also trying not to buy foods that have high fructose corn syrup, sugar, rice syrup, corn syrup, fructose, sucrose etc. in the first three ingredients.

No foods that have more than 3 ingredients that I can not pronounce.

If an item has more than 10 ingredients I put it on the Do Not Buy List as it is too processed.




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6/26/11 2:50 P

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It sucks when anyone gets any cancer, but for someone as young as your daughter? That is just awful!! Unfortunately people are getting diagnosed at younger and younger ages.

I know that I found a lot of support on inspire.com. Use this link:

http://www.inspire.com/groups/lung-cance
r-survivors/discussions/?ref=as

It isn't just for people with lung cancer, it is for our caregivers.

As for advice on what you can do to help your daughter, I am not the best person to ask. I didn't want anyone around when I am sick. I was no different after my surgery. I had my husband and my daughter. My older sister came over to do house work for me a couple of time while I was recouping (hubby and daughter suck at housework) and that helped a lot. I wasn't hungry so my husband just had to cook for himself and my daughter (she was 13 at the time). So the best I can offer is to ask her what you can do. Maybe you can get her to mend fences. Explain that you want to help.

There is one thing that I made my husband do and that was to get my daughter out of the house and had him take her to Worlds of Fun so she had some happy memories during my treatment. I didn't want her to see me all sick (we did have fun when I went bald and I made sure she knew that I was ok with it. Heck, I didn't even wear a heat when we went out in public because she said she didn't mind). So if just taking care of the kids so they don't have to see the "worst" of it would help, do that.

Oh, and if she isn't taking someone with her to her doctor appointments, have her take (or get her) a small recorder so she can record what the doctors has to say. I took my husband with me and he took wonderful notes so that we where able to read it again and remember what the doctor had to say. In the beginning things are moving so fast and your life has just been turned upside down, you have problems remembering everything that is said during your appointments.

The fact that your daughter is going to be able to have surgery is awesome!! Most people don't find out in time to be able to have it removed. I am 2 years out from having my upper left lobe removed, granted I get winded a little more easy, I am doing wonderful. And even though it sucks that she is so young, that is going to work in her favor. I was 42 and in good health and I am beating the odds and loving life.

I hope that she will let you in because I know how important it was to my husband to have something to do so he didn't feel useless. I think it is harder on those that love us then it is on those of us that have the cancer. I don't know if I could have watched my husband go through it and I know I would have fell apart if it had happened to one of my kids.

You will be in my prayers.

Blessing,
Barb


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6/25/11 2:06 P

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I hope that it is OK that I joined the group. My daughter has just got the results. Let me back track for a moment and give some history.

Monday, June 13, 2011
I have a very strange/estranged relationship with my oldest daughter who is 34 years old. I can't explain the details of the history (it would take too long) but lets just say that we have limited contact. Her choice. But we see the grandchildren and have great contact with them. Contact with our daughter is really only when we go to get the boys. My husband and I knew that she had been unwell and blood counts and stuff was off. But she is in a very small town and when the doctors sent her to a bigger city/hospital is when these took a more serious turn.
Any way she sent me a Face Book message saying "that she has a mass on her lung and has to have a lung biopsy done."

Please note all the correspondence was through Face Book messages. I offered to be at the hospital with her but she said no. Her Ex husband will be there with her. She did accept a meal. So I prepared a meal that was picked up by her ex husband so at least there was an evening meal for him and their 3 sons and of course her, if she was able to come home that day. (My daughter was able to come home, and even ate a little bit.)

She sent me a message through FB again saying thanks so much because she was very tired and they got two meals out of everything I sent. Believe me with the ages of her boys I sent a whole back seat load of food, Baked Zitti, garlic breads, cake and more junk!!! LOL


Thursday 23rd June. 2nd Part.
My daughter called me ( no FaceBook, so that is progress) with the results of the biospy. It was positive, she has lung cancer. It is in the right lung, lower lobe. She is 34 years old single parent with three boys. 17,13 and a will be 8 year old in December.
An appointment to meet the surgeon is set for Tuesday, she has asked me to go with her.

I'm here I guess to see what to expect as far as the illness goes and how you received help and support that was helpful. I don't want to be more trouble by being the hovering mother etc. Which I am not sure that she would let me be anyway!!! LOL

Any suggestions in any department will be gracefully received. The good the bad and the ugly please!!

Edited by: FAIRYANNE3 at: 6/25/2011 (14:45)
Watching salt intake also trying not to buy foods that have high fructose corn syrup, sugar, rice syrup, corn syrup, fructose, sucrose etc. in the first three ingredients.

No foods that have more than 3 ingredients that I can not pronounce.

If an item has more than 10 ingredients I put it on the Do Not Buy List as it is too processed.




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