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3/22/13 8:00 A

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Thanks, Anna. I appreciate hearing from you and learning from your experiences. I wish you and your family the very best as you go through this and will pray for you, too.

Jen

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3/20/13 10:20 A

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Hi Jen, I can certainly relate, my husband was diagnosed with stage 3 pancreatic cancer in September 2012. Since then he has had the Whipple, chemo and started radiation this week. It has been a difficult time trying to manage home, our child and I work full time.

In the last few weeks I had to get serious about taking care of myself and what I'm finding is very helpful that in all this craziness the thing that I can control is what I eat. I'm finding that mind set is very helpful. I'm not sure if it will help you? I do know you have to take one day at a time, plan best you can to eat good, whole, healthy food and exercise when ever you can find the time.

I'm here if I can help in any way. If you need to talk, vent or cry...I know that I need the support as well especially from someone that can relate to what I' going through.

I'm praying for you and your husband!
-Anna

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Thank you, Diane, for sharing your story and for your words of support. It means a lot to me.

Jen

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Hi Jen, I also went through what you did with your dh. Unfortunately mine did not survive. He was diagnosed with lung cancer (2nd bout with cancer, first one was prostate). He was also in stage 4. He could not have treatment due to other medical problems. The first year and a half all went well and he had no symptoms. However in Nov 2011 the symptoms began. Funnily enough he never had any syptoms of lung cancer, the cancer became apparent when it moved into his bones and brain. He suffered until his death in June of last year.

I was also my dh caregiver during all this time. It is extremely tiring and stressful. You are doing the right thing with your diet and exercise. I still have to lose the weight I gained while he was sick.

Try and get family members or friends to relieve you periodically and during that time find something enjoyable to do (i.e. go to the movies, out for lunch, etc.).

Hopefully the MRI shows good news. My prayers are with you and your family.

Dianne

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3/12/13 7:44 A

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Hi.

I am joining this team in hope of finding a place where people have some understanding of what I am going through. My husband of 26 years was diagnosed last summer with Stage 4 head and neck cancer following an 11.5 hour surgery. Once he was strong enough he was given one dose of chemotherapy (which we now understand probably shouldn't have been given -- at least not without concurrent radiation). He ended up with kidney failure and was on dialysis for a month. He is off dialysis at the present time, but with ongoing kidney issues. He had about 30 radiation treatments and has been in and out of the hospital 4 times. We are going for an MRI today to see where things currently stand. We see the oncologist tomorrow.

Life is a huge struggle for me at this point. I am having a very hard time not falling into depression. I am at home taking care of him nearly all the time. I'm sure many of you can relate to all of this.

Nearly 5 years ago I found SP and between the weight I had lost prior to joining and the weight I lost after joining, I was down 115 pounds from my highest weight. Since last summer I have put 20 back on. That certainly adds to the misery, and I struggle with food now daily again. Fortunately, I eat pretty healthfully (despite the excess) and I continue to exercise (It allows me to escape, even if it is only to the basement rec room.)

It is difficult in my present state to feel like part of the teams that have been my places to be on SP. My life has changed so much that I don't feel I belong there at this point in time.

I look forward to getting to know you all.

Jen



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