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My heart goes out to you at this time.

I lost my mother last year in June, she was 87 and suffered long and hard through Parkinsons.

All you can do is love your Mom that is the best medicine.

God bless you.

Heila

My God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Phil. 4:19

The Lord sustains the fatherless and the widow. Psalm 146:9

Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... It's about learning to dance in the rain.


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5/11/09 2:26 A

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I am so sorry to hear you are going through this ~ bless your mother's heart. I lost my mother to cancer in 1987 when she was only 63 so I know and understand your pain.

God bless you and your sweet husband for trying to help with the garden. I had to laugh when I read about your husband not knowing a flower from a weed ~ my husband is the same way and what is sad is his dad was a farmer and his mother had a vegetable garden but he didn't help with it. Said all she had was a rose bush but then, they lived in Texas and getting anything to grow here is difficult at times. He has tried to help me with flowers but is pretty lost unless I'm there to guide him ~ lol

It sounds to me like your mother is confused and probably scared as she tries to face what is happening to her and I'm sure she is very angry at times, too, thus the comment about waking up old. I'm sure your dad is running through a gamut of emotions, too, so keep an eye on him and when you can, try to discuss some of this with him if he will talk. I'm glad she is still getting out and doing things with her friends when she is able, as that will help with her state of mind as she stays involved in her "normal" activities.

My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer last year and he was on the internet constantly, looking for answers and calling some of the cancer hospitals as he looked for new techniques, etc. At first he was going to have a radical prostatectomy (where they cut the abdomen open like a hysterectomy) but after talking with Anderson Hospital in Houston and one in Loma Linda Hospital in CA, he decided to talk with a doctor at Baylor Dallas about the robotic laproscopic surgery and decided to go that route. He had never had surgery before (I've had 13 so far) so it was a new experience for him and now he is, I'm sure, even more sympathetic towards those he works with ~ he is an x-ray tech so deals with alot of patients. He is so glad he researched and didn't take the first doctor's opinion (we didn't like him anyway ~ lol) so check some of the cancer centers throughout the country and see what they have to say. Also read up on diet and share that with your parents. That can be very important, even more so, at this time in their lives ~ and yours :)

My husband and I will keep you folks in prayer. If you get a chance, update us from time-to-time. Sorry this is a bit long ~ I'm not known for my short posts, I am but a rambling rose ~ lol

God bless you folks
~Carol

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My mother was diagnosed with lymphoma in August, 2008.

She finished her first round of chemo in December, and since the kind of lymphoma she has is not curable, she will have chemo every six months (June is the next one)

She's struggling. She's always loved to garden, but she isn't able to this year. She needs a knee replacement, but they say that's not possible any more, so she's in pain from that, and her legs swell badly if she's on them for any length of time.

My husband & I have been spending every non-rainy weekend at my folks house, trying to give her the garden she always has, and maybe even make it what she's always wanted "a garden with a path...". I'm NOT a gardener, but she sits outside in a chair and directs (and keeps a VERY close eye on my husband--he doesn't know a weed from a flower) Today she couldn't stand it, and sat her chair in a patch of weeds and hoed them up seated.

Her state of mind is usually positive, she breakfasts/lunches with her friends, and thanks to her new handicap tag, can normally do so alone (although if her leg hurts too badly, Dad will take her and pick her up).

I try to be there whenever either one needs me...she's 70, Dad is 73, so there's a lot they can't do.

Mom told me she just woke up one morning and she was 'old'. It's so sad to watch the ones you love go through things like this.

So incredibly sad.

You can do it, and you DESERVE it!
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