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8/16/09 11:55 P

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so sorry for all that you and your family are going through. everyone here is giving great advice, but i'd like to add going to a support group! i've found it very helpful. my aunt went to one for awhile, but i'm continuing going to my caretakers support group. it's nice to talk to people who know what you thinking and feeling and who can offer advice and help. good luck to you and take care of yourself as well!

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8/10/09 8:28 A

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Stephanie, I hope your husband does fine. emoticon

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Samscout, I am going through the same situation as you. My husband had a biopsy yesterday. They are saying lymphoma. We will not find out which type it is until tuesday. I can totally relate to how you are feeling. I have cried so much. It is scary. I have so many mixed emotions. I find that late at night I just lose it and can't stop the crying, worrying, wishing it were a dream. I feel optimistic and then the next thing you know I feel hopeless. One aspect which is difficult for us is that we are both self employed. Which means no insurance and no medical leave. We had to pay $10,000 up front before the hospital would accept him for the biopsy. I have my work cut out figuring how we will get him treatment. In the meantime I went to Whole Foods Market to load up on organic veggies, fruit, flax seed etc... Nutrition is very important for your treatment. The treatment is worse than the cancer and I read that 1/3 of cancer patients die from malnutriton not the cancer itself. I will pray for you and your husband. Take care of yourself and be as strong as you can.


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5/9/09 11:48 A

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Dear samscount-8 months ago my husband was diagnosed with fullicular lymphoma. It is not curable, but can be treated for a period of time. (77% of people diagnosed have it go aggressive within 5 years). I too was in shock and cried so much. But, I have also learned to pray again, and have hope. We spend more time together, laugh more at silly stuff, spend more time with our family, especially our beautiful grandson. We also talk more, sharing things we have never shared, like silly high school experiences. He is only 56, and we have been married for 25 years. He had his last chemo treatment a month ago, and had new CT scans done yesterday. I reallize this 'remission' is only temporary, but I plan to take advantage of each and every moment we are allowed to have together. When I cry, I do it in private now, because sometimes it hits me out of the blue, and he doesn't need to know how much I am hurting. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Please keep in touch with us!

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4/17/09 3:47 A

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4/16/09 10:52 A

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Good morning everyone. Today is a new day and I'm feeling better. The biggest shock is over and now I can get down to taking care of my husband. Thank you all for your kind words and for caring enough to write something. It helps to know that someone is reading your thoughts and praying for you.
My husband goes in for a ct scan of his head today. I'm praying it's not traveled there so everyone keep your fingers crossed.
I know that everyone on this site has the same problem I have, I do pray for all of you and your families, Have a great day!

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Samscout,

My heart goes out to you. Enjoy every living moment do everything you ever wanted and didnt. Love, laugh, cry just do it together.

God Bless You.

Heila (Cape Town)

My God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Phil. 4:19

The Lord sustains the fatherless and the widow. Psalm 146:9

Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... It's about learning to dance in the rain.


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4/15/09 2:12 P

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SamScout,

Never think you are a goof because you have feelings :) We all go through a range of emotions and all are normal. You might want to talk with your minister or a counselor who can help you with the various stages you will go through as you deal with all this, just to help you get a handle on things even more.

I'd also like to suggest you put your feelings on your SP Blog when you want to rant, vent or cry or just share good news so everyone can come and help you. There are alot of wonderful and encouraging people here to help you through this.

God bless,
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4/15/09 12:23 P

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I'm so sorry for your pain and suffering; but please know that we're here for you and truly understand. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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4/15/09 10:00 A

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Thank you all for replying to me, I feel like I'm alone and yet I know that there are so many people with the same problems. I now feel like I have some friends and I also see that they understand how I feel, this is huge for me, now I can sit and write instead of sit and cry and cry. I know I sound like a goof but I do thank you all from the bottom of my heart.

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4/15/09 9:52 A

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I am so very,very sorry to hear this news and so wish there was something we could do to eliminate your pain, frustration, confusion and anger. You are going through all the normal feelings that we all have had over things like this but for now, as hard as it is, make the most of each day with him.

Make every day as fun and warm as you can, not only for his sake but for your own sake so you will have lots of good memories before he passes away.

Take lots of pictures and make up memory albums.

Take trips you always wanted to take but never did.

Visit people you haven't seen in a long time.

Spend every weekend with family and take lots more pictures.

Make him laugh at every opportunity, especially when you are around others, then when you are alone, cry together but also pray each night and give thanks for having each other and for being able to share as many days together as you can.

And know we are here for you anytime you need to vent. My husband was 51 when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer last year and it brought us to our knees ~ we had only been married 5 years at that, never thinking we'd ever find that special someone, finally did and then had this happen.

He and I cried together here at the house but when we were with others, we enjoyed our time with them and made the most of each day. There were times at home that I held him when he cried and there were times he held me when I cried. We always prayed together but then, we always did, maybe just a little more during this time, asking God for the strength and wisdom to get through each day and to accept His will through it all.

Keeping you folks in prayer .... emoticon
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4/15/09 9:45 A

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Thank you for your wise words. I will try to do my crying alone. I can't tell you how good it feels to read some advice from someone who understands.

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emoticon I know how you are feeling. My mom was recently diagnosed with lung cancer as well. We're still waiting to get the results from her biopsy and get all the information.

The only advice I have for you is to try (and I know it's very hard) and do your crying away from him. Try to be strong in front of him. He's already in shock, probably worse than you are (if that's possible), and if he sees you crying all the time it will just make him feel worse. Like I said, that is so much easier said than done.

My only other advice is to come here and vent when you want to. We're all going through this in one way or another, so we'll definitely understand the emotions you are having. Hang in there! This whole thing just stinks, and it's terrible that any of us have to experience it at all. We're here for you though.



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4/15/09 9:18 A

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We just found out that my husband has lung cancer and has a limited amount of time here on earth. I can't get passed the crying and emotional state,how can I be of any use to him if I'm such a mess? Ilove him so and I/we feel shocked,mad,heartbroken, you name it,we feel it. If someone can just, just what? Thanks for listening.

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