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8/25/09 10:53 A

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I am sorry for your loss. My husband is a cancer survivor and one of the lucky ones. We have a family member presently dealing with Stage 4 breast cancer and she is 26. We also have 2 friends dealing with Stage 4 colorectal cancer and I lost a coworker 1 1/2 years ago to cancer. My aunt (the mother of my best friend of my whole life) and grandfather died from cancer, so I know it can be hard. Take one day at a time. It's never easy. The mom of the 26 year old cousin w/cancer has a phrase on her wall that reads, "Faith makes everything possible, not easy". It's true, its a hard, just take one day at a time. After my aunt died, my mom took a good year to even get back to being close to normal. It's a process, dont rush it. Cherish the memories you have. That is what I do to try to help get through it. My husband is always worried, even as a survivor, that it will re-occur. Our family member that is 26 - survived lukemia, and then 5 years later was diagnosed w/breast cancer and then it was treated, and came back, and now is advanced severely. My husband sees this and I know it scares him that it could happen to him, even though he is three years cancer free so far! God Bless you all. Greiving is important and let yourself do so, but remember to take care of yourself and the ones who are left. Dont cry because its over - laugh because it happened... their lives happened and we are all lucky to have known these people we lost and have memories to cherish for a lifetime. For that I am grateful.

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1/23/09 8:13 P

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Thanks for the kind words. I am still out of work and have a hard time fully functioning. I am in a fog most of the time, but I am gaining back weight and taking care of myself better. It is so hard

Cristin
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Kindred.
Sailing effortlesslessly over the ocean.
The ocean thrashed, the wind bellowed, still the birds remained steady.
Black, like a comorant, some kind of a gull, but more regal.
Stayed steady by the clouds in case you wanted to grab their tales and fly away with them.


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DEWEY101's Photo DEWEY101 Posts: 72
9/1/08 12:11 P

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Laura, I'm glad your father is beating his cancer and thanks for posting :) It's okay to be emotional about cancer and loved ones struggling with it, and yes you will keep crying like that for the next few years...don't worry though, people understand. Hope things continue to go well for him...and for you!
~ Dewey emoticon

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DEWEY101's Photo DEWEY101 Posts: 72
9/1/08 12:07 P

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Cristin,
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Things will get better but it takes a while. My best friend passed away from cancer at the age of 31 in April and for me, things are only beginning to show signs of improvement now. Please reach out to me or any of us on this team for support, many of us have experienced great loss as well, so you are not alone. Hang in there ~ Dewey emoticon

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CTPUGGY's Photo CTPUGGY Posts: 589
8/30/08 2:16 P

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i just lostthe love of my ife and sou mate. Imiss him so much. the pain is unbearablemostof the time i feel soalone now.

Cristin
There was a bird, no, three of a kind.
Kindred.
Sailing effortlesslessly over the ocean.
The ocean thrashed, the wind bellowed, still the birds remained steady.
Black, like a comorant, some kind of a gull, but more regal.
Stayed steady by the clouds in case you wanted to grab their tales and fly away with them.


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8/12/08 3:44 P

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I am so sorry for your loss. My dad has multiple myeloma and sometimes I just cry at anything - these spontaneous bursts of tears are really difficult to manage sometimes. I am so emotional but my dad is actually doing well - his cancer is retreating - not totally in remission, but doing pretty good. Anyway, I keep thinking thoughts like, "this could be our last .... together" (put whatever in the blank - like Father's Day, Christmas, birthday, etc) so I get all teared up. Two weeks ago I started crying at church while I was passing out communion because of the song that the organist was playing. Am I going to cry like this for the next few years?


Laura
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8/4/08 9:14 P

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Dewey--

"They" tell me that some day I'll be able to think about Lisa and talk about her without tearing up. Maybe twice or three times in the past couple of years... I guess that's good. There are so many good memories that it should get easier with time, but I keep remembering that there won't be any *more* of them until we see one another again when we'll be "together with the Lord."

So hard...but we'll get through it, and be able to comfort others in the process.

Have a great day tomorrow!

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DEWEY101's Photo DEWEY101 Posts: 72
8/4/08 3:39 P

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Good to know that the sometimes surprising crying outbursts will taper off :) I'm sure you friend is equally proud of you for becoming part of spark people and taking care of yourself too. Thanks again. - Dewey emoticon

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LAURIEME's Photo LAURIEME Posts: 112
8/3/08 9:24 P

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Dewey--

My dear friend Lisa died early in 2006, so it's been 2 1/2 years. And I still miss her every day...but I don't cry every day any more. (Many days, but not every day!)

But I know your friend would be proud of you for taking care of yourself via SparkPeople!

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DEWEY101's Photo DEWEY101 Posts: 72
8/3/08 7:04 P

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Thank you Laurie...I have been told it gets easier over time...but I can't imagine that right now, and I too don't know if I have the patience required for how long it will be before things feel better for us all :) Thanks for your reply, and I'm so sorry you also lost your friend. How long has it been since she passed away if you don't mind my asking?

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LAURIEME's Photo LAURIEME Posts: 112
8/2/08 9:35 P

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Hi, Dewey101,

Sometimes folks sort of "wander away" in this team, but I'll try to be here this month. I've been away myself for a month or so...

I know something of what it is to lose a young friend. My best friend died at 43 of an undiagnosed breast cancer (a clean mammogram in February, died following January). I'm so sorry for your loss--and for what her husband and son are going through.

Hang in there; it does get easier, but it takes way more time than I'm willing to give it.

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DEWEY101's Photo DEWEY101 Posts: 72
8/2/08 8:04 P

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Hi! I'm a new member to both spark people and the cancer Spouses/Families team. My 31 year old best friend Christina passed away this past April from cancer (squamous cell carcinoma of the head & neck). She left behind a husband and baby boy...not to mention a heartbroken family & group of friends (including me). I'm getting by...but I certainly miss her like crazy every second of every day and will never make sense of why she's gone. It's nice to find a group of people on here who also have loved ones battling cancer. emoticon

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