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11/28/17 7:52 P

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Hi! I have been away from SparkPeople for a couple of years but continued to struggle with my weight and eating habits. For over a year I was making healthier choices, but slipped up often. Seemed like I lost 5 lbs then gained 5 lbs over and over. Now I have been on a slide for a couple of months. I always joked around with my family and said Hi, my name is Lisa and I am a Pizza addict. The sad thing is, it isn't a joke. And the worst part is I have been dealing with serious health issues that are directly related to me eating dairy. And I can't stop! Little did I know that my there was actually a twelve step program for compulsive overeating. I just found that out today. My community only has one meeting per week on Mondays, but I didn't want to wait to start. While googling, I found this group. I don't know the steps or procedures yet, but putting my life in the hands of my Higher Power to help me.

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11/20/17 11:20 P

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I really can't believe I've gotten to this place - but it's not surprising since I'm a part of AA, NA and CODA (co-dependents anonymous). I weigh at least 176 lbs. that's what I was when I last checked, who knows now. I've been fighting to get from 195 (highest weight) to 125 lbs and back again all over the place, I've been on SparkPeople for 10+ years now. I do not have a healthy relationship with food. I stress eat and eat just because it looks good - then I feel guilty and get mad and hit the "F it button" and give up, until I come back with a new resolve to start over, which is always short-lived. You'd think by now I'd have learned something that would stick. I lost weight the last time with diet pills and walking 5+ miles per day. I don't want to do that again. The good things I did were I talked a lot about my goals and my successes and failures and I drank a lot of water. It took a year to lose 50 lbs. I am now wanting to lose about 40 and I'm really struggling. I want to be able to eat treats IN MODERATION but don't know if complete abstinence is what I'm going to need since "one is too many and a thousand is never enough". What I do know is that when I eat something I really like I eat way too much of it and I always regret it. I work out at least 4-5 days per week for 45 mins at a time but then I blow it with the eating. I pack healthy lunches and the food goes to waste because I snack on office junk that people bring in or I get invited to dinner and binge, etc. etc. whatever the case may be I don't end up eating the healthy food I'd originally planned. I really don't know anything about OA because even though I know I have a problem with food I've been too embarrassed to look into it. I don't know why I am okay (finally) with admitting I'm an alcoholic but I feel ashamed of how I eat. I feel like my excuses are cop-outs and I should be able to JUST STOP IT. It's gluttonous most of the time how I eat. It's never 100% to do with hunger, it's almost always because of emotions or just the food looks tempting to me. At any rate I have definitely lost all control over this. I don't feel like I can even talk to my AA sponsor or therapist about this, I've tried and they don't get it. I am tired of popping antacids like they're candy and huffing and puffing when I climb stairs and now my clothes don't fit again and it's all the same story, over, and over, and over again. I'm sorry this is so long, I'm really frustrated, and I don't know what else to do.

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11/12/17 1:03 A

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Welcome to the Team, Heather and RDT210!!

I'm glad you're both here!

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11/9/17 3:49 P

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Hi everyone,

I'm new to OA, but was in Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous about 10 years ago. I have mixed feelings about my time with the group (about a year). I did like the tools, meetings and hearing other's stories and really appreciated the guidance of my sponsors.

I had gastric sleeve surgery nearly 4 years ago, and maintained my goal weight for about a year and a half. Old habits starting creeping back, exercise lacked, etc and have found myself with a 30 pound gain. I know I am a compulsive overeater and have a big problem with sugar.

If there is a sponsor who might be interested in working with me, please let me know.

I'm looking forward to getting to know the members of this group through your posts.
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9/6/17 9:08 P

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Good evening! My name is Heather. I have been on SP for 6 years but have just gotten back on SP in the past few weeks.

I have gone to a couple of face to face OA meetings as well as an online one. I am checking out OA to get help b/c I have problems with compulsive/emotional eating. I'm going to go to some more meetings like OA recommends.

I am glad this SparkTeam is here. I hope everybody has a great rest of the week.

"He who did not spare His Own Son, but delivered Him up for us all, how will he not along with Him also freely give us all things?"
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"For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though He was rich, yet for your sake He became poor, so that you through His poverty might become rich." -2 Corinthians 8:9


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9/2/17 9:09 A

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Welcome to OA, Karen, and welcome to this Team!

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8/25/17 2:28 P

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I'm brand new! Attended my first face to face OA meeting on Monday. I know without a doubt that this is exactly what I need for the rest of my life!

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7/20/17 10:35 A

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I was stuck at Steps 8 and 9 for almost 3 years!

If you would like some Step 4/5 suggestions, send me an email -I love working through those Steps with sponsees.

I would suggest that you might want to begin at Step 1 and work through the first 3 first, though, after such a long absence. But I have found that working through Steps 1-3 right away, then getting through Steps 4-9 at a good pace keeps people abstinent and they get the promises of the Program that way.

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7/13/17 9:46 A

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Hi, my name is Phyllis and I am a compulsive overeater. I'm not new to the 12-step program, and attended f2f OA meetings about 10 years ago. Not sure why I stopped going, probably not willing to work the steps, I have been stuck on steps 4 & 5 for over 30 years. It is time to become unstuck. I am ready. Thanks for being here.

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7/1/17 4:18 P

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Welcome back, Heather!

SLFAMWAGIRL - Welcome to OA and the team! I'm glad you were able to check out a phone meeting. I think there are also on-line meetings, but I don't really know how those work. You can also purchase literature.

The Alcoholics Anonymous book - "the Big Book" - was written for people with addictions who could not attend meetings and had no sponsors. It can guide a person through the 12 Steps.

The OA book "the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of OA" can also be purchased online and gives a great overview of the Steps and how they pertain to compulsive overeaters.

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6/27/17 4:34 P

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I am brand new to OA and hoping it will help - nothing else has yet. No local meetings to attend in person so I phoned in to y first meeting today. I have a LOT to learn but am hoping to start making some progress.

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6/22/17 9:27 A

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Hi. I'm Heather. I have been in OA for 4 years. I moved from Georgia to California 2 years ago and relapsed shortly after. I have gone to some meetings here and there, but I haven't gotten a sponsor or done any of the work since moving out here. OA changed my life, and I had freedom from the food obsession for 2 years. I know it works, so here I am. I'm going to meetings and looking for a sponsor. I'm glad to be part of this group.

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5/22/17 11:51 A

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Welcome, Marquita!

I would suggest, if you have not done so already, to look up OA in your own community. Face to face meetings are wonderful and can help you find recovery!

https://oa.org/

If you go to the website, you can scroll down and find the button for "Find a meeting".

All the best to you!
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5/22/17 11:48 A

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MEAGANDYAN - I have not experienced relapse or repeated relapse as you are experiencing, so I am afraid I cannot help you there. I do know many, however, who are struggling with the same thing. I pray that you have the willingness to continue looking for an answer, and to continue to ask your Higher Power for guidance.

Two things I have learnt about relapse, despite having not experienced it myself, are:

* I have heard it said that once we have fully taken Step 3, we cannot fail to recover. This can be found in the OA book the 12 & 12 on page 27, direct quote below:

Once we compulsive overeaters truly take the third step, we cannot fail to recover. OA 12&12 p.27

* the other thing I have heard is that if we have fully taken the third Step, but are still relapsing, then we may be still eating our binge/trigger foods. This may be something to consider in your case.

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5/9/17 10:03 A

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So glad to have you here MRSROBINSON30!!!!

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5/7/17 2:44 P

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Hello my name is Marquita, I am new to the group but not new to SP. I have a serious problem with binge eating. I do good for awhile but go right back to my bad habits. I need support and tips to accomplish and reach my goals.

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4/25/17 8:59 P

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Hello,
I've been in program 2 years but have been in relapse since January -can't even seem to string 2gether 2 weeks of abstinence. I'm back to the white knuckling phase which makes me want to give up.
My current sponsor feels every struggle is a spiritual one, but I can't naively buy that today. I have completely changed my lifestyle, and surrendered to living life for the Lord. I need a fresh perspective from someone whose experienced something similar.
Please let me know if this post speaks to you and you'd be willing to sponsor me through it.

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4/6/17 7:28 P

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Welcome to the Team, Candy!

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3/28/17 8:47 P

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Hi there-

My name is Candy and I join O.A. last week on 3/20- the first day of spring / new beginnings
I am a sugar addict I found that out so far. And since that I am now 9 days without sweets.

I have 2 children both grown and out of the house. One wonderful granddaughter 8 years old. We are close, she comes and spends e/o weekend with us.

Excited to be here and meeting you. Hope we can help each other on our journeys.

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I am an intellingent person. I will control my emotions and not let my emotions control me. Everytime I am tempted to use food to satisfy my frustrated desires, build up my enjured ego or dull my senses, I will remember...even though I overeat in private, my excess poundage is there for all the world to see.
I will take off pounds sensibly!


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2/20/17 4:19 P

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emoticon to the Team, everyone!

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1/16/17 10:23 A

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Denise, I sent you a private message! We are so happy to have you here with us and take it one day at a time. Has your doctor suggested anything with your diabetes?

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1/15/17 12:39 P

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Hello everyone, my name is Denise J. and I am a binge eater. I am here for support and to make a difference. This is my 3rd time around with Sparks I am hoping to truly make a change in my life this time around. I have been gone for 3 years and have hit my all time heaviest with my weight 228 lbs. I have been diagnosed diabetic and need to make some serious changes in my life. The target weight I would like to weigh by my b.day is 185 lbs. My goal weight is 140 lbs. Good lord willing, I will make through the muddy waters this time. Good luck to all.

WHATEVER THE MIND CAN CONCEIVE AND BELIEVE IT WILL ACHIEVE!


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1/11/17 1:04 P

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I am so glad that MADRELIZ, OAHARRIS and KLAROCHE1515 have introduced themselves to the team!

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1/9/17 1:05 A

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Hi everyone. My name is Kathy. I am new to this team but not new to SP. Have had previous success but did not last. I am not consistent enough. Food controls me from the moment I open my eyes in the morning to the time I close my eyes at night. I hate this and I want to do something about it but don't. So I am back again hoping to be more in control and more consistent in my goals, hopefully with help.



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1/6/17 9:56 P

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I have been in and out of OA but I am here once again. I am a over eater looking for support as I continue on this journey.

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1/3/17 1:29 A

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I am looking for recovery in all areas: spiritual, emotional, and physical. Despite enjoying 32 years of sobriety in AA, I hit bottom with food several years ago, and know I'm powerless. I just don't trust that a Higher Power can protect me from emotional pain and abandonment like food does (or did before I became a brittle diabetic). I need a sponsor who can gently hold me accountable, but I live in an area that doesn't have many folks with abstinence, and they are overextended. Am ready to surrender to the Solution.

“The world is too dangerous for anything but truth and too small for anything but love.” ― William Sloane Coffin Jr.
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1/2/17 8:52 A

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Welcoming KEAKMAN, KPHEALTHY4LIFE, FREYASTARFISH, RUNKATIERUN529 AND SOLARCAINE2 to the OA Sparkteam! I am so glad you are here with us!

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12/26/16 12:28 P

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Hello, I am not new to OA but I have been in relapse for the past several months and I am recommitting. I am also looking for an online sponsor. Thanks!

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12/22/16 3:31 P

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Hi, my name is Katie. I have struggled with bulimia since I was 13 (now am 26). I have been going to OA meetings on and off for several years but tend to stop going to meetings when I am doing more poorly. In the past six months, I've been binging and purging less and even had a 47 day stretch (my longest in 11 years) of abstinence from binging and purging, but I am a nurse working rotating day/midnight shifts that make it hard to get to meetings and I find if I am tired or stressed, I make excuses not to go. I want to kick binging and purging for good, and I am above what I think is a healthy weight for my body, so I'd like to get that number on the scale down without being obsessive like I've been in the past. I need to get back to my spirituality and working on all aspects of my health, and I need to follow a disciplined food plan. I just joined SP today and am hoping it helps me keep myself honest and accountable.

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12/13/16 10:47 P

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Hi! I have been in OA for four years and just found this group! Grateful to be here. I've been unable to be honest about baking lately--I keep trying to do it for the holidays and wind up eating too much of the dough. I tell myself it's ok cause it's not quite a binge, but it's certainly not sane eating. I want to give up the behavior and am powerless to do it myself, so I'm trying to get more honest!

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12/5/16 10:45 P

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Hello Kelly! I hope that you find the support you need here. One step at a time, one day at a time. You are here now, and that is important. Trust your HP to lead you to the next step.


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Hello, My mane is Kelly and my life and food are out of control. I need to come back to OA. But have not done it, it is easier to hide in the disease I seem to love. Thank you

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12/4/16 2:22 P

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Hello all! My name is Kate and I am an overeater. A perfectionist. A pick-myself-up-by-the-bootstraps kind of gal. Needless to say, I am a wreck. I am back here on SP looking for some structure and support. Not many meetings available where I live, so I am going to give online and phone meetings a try. Best to you all.

Kate

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10/23/16 9:38 A

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Somaflex,
If you go to OA.org you will find a tab for meetings. You can choose face to face, online or phone. I do sponsorship by email. If there is anything I can help you with, please let me know. I did post to your page and will be sending you a private message. SO GLAD YOU ARE HERE WITH US!

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10/21/16 8:18 A

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HI Graycatbird,

I'm curious if anyone has responded to you since your intro post here.

I joined last week and haven't received a response to any of my posts.

Thx.

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Hello,
I've suffered from bulimia on and off for 30 years. In my 30's I had 10 years where binge/purge hardly entered my radar. In my 40's it resurfaced and has become progressively worse. I just came out of a 2-day cycle and was happy to find this group. In the past there have been cycles that lasted 2 weeks or more, and terrified me.

I haven't had any luck finding online meetings, and am not well versed in the OEA online meeting protocol. I'd be very grateful for guidance and a sponsor.

Thank you.

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Hi, everyone! I just joined this team. I went back to OA about six weeks ago, and am doing it differently this time. I never wanted to call a sponsor daily and commit my food, but this time I decided to go that route, because nothing has worked in the past. It's probably not the right path for everyone -- and it may not be the right one for me at some point -- but right now I need the structure and I need to get the food out of my head. This method is helping me with that.

I live in Maine, have been retired a couple of years, and am an avid gardener and knitter. I walk a lot, and have a project of doing all the nature trails in the city before it gets too cold. I have two left to do.

Looking forward to being part of the team!

Sue

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10/10/16 1:28 P

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Hello! I am Gail and I am a Compulsive Overeater. I was brought here by Hurricane Matthew.

Let me explain.

I discovered OA when I was in college in the late 1970s. Back then, abstinence for me was Grey Sheet (because it was tougher than the alternative, Orange Sheet, haha, always the obsessive overachiever). I definitely knew I used food like a drug. I worked the steps and experienced some relief, but my mind was still a battlefield, following that restrictive diet in a brittle, angry, way, still filled with the obsession and wondering why it wasn't lifted.

In the mid 80s, I began going to a spouse's group related to my husband's addiction (instead of OA) and learned a lot about the 12 steps that I hadn't been open to before. Not making time for my own OA meetings, I decided to go on a doctor-supervised liquid diet program and lost over 80 pounds, to get to a slim size. As soon as I began eating food again, the weight and more piled back on.

In the mid 90s when our son and daughter were born. I had dropped the idea of Grey Sheet being workable for me, joined WW and promptly gained more than 40 pounds in addition to the overweight I already had. In the ensuing years, I ran my own company, we raised our children, were active in their school and our church, I survived cancer, and we survived the impact of the economic downturn of 2008-2009 by downsizing to a small home just in time before we lost our large one. I closed down my company, resumed working for others, our kids graduated and went to college, my husband lost his job, and I found myself at 285 lbs, at 5'2"!

I joined SparkPeople, got a Fitbit, and slowly lost 50 pounds. Then, last winter, a financial reversal hit (on top of my husband being unemployed) and that triggered me resuming binging. Between Feb. and now I had gained back 40 of the 50 pounds!

Last week, I recognized a familiar pattern of mine. A nurse friend (who I know casually but keep in FB contact with) was spending her vacation week with a church group in Haiti. On FB, her relatives warned her that Hurricane Matthew was approaching, get out of there, but at first she waved them off with all the good she was doing (she was out of contact with news, having limited internet or phone connections). Finally, one posted a screen shot of a news bulletin that the airport was going to close-- she was not going to be able to get out if she wanted to. That seemed to trigger her trying to get out, but it was too late. She had to weather the hurricane at the mission. Thankfully, she survived and eventually got out, back into the States, shaken by what she left behind.

Here's the point: I was in an obsessive spiral reading about her situation, about Matthew, checking obsessively for updates. It was a situation that was out of my control, she is a casual friend, not someone I have responsibility for. There is no way I have control over a force of nature! I have a faith in a Higher Power and am considered by those who know me to be a religious person. And yet, although I of course prayed for her, I did not let it go. I was binging over this, my work at the job I love was suffering, I go to school at night and was falling behind in homework, etc. I was mad at her for not getting out, overwrought by the impending disaster, imagining the storm, looking at online photos of the storm hitting the edge of Jamaica first, etc., etc. Here's the deal: SHE IS A CASUAL ACQUAINTANCE AND IT'S A HURRICANE. Not to be cold, but not a person who I am responsible for and a force of nature I cannot control. I looked at myself as I would another person and thought, "This is insanity." Somehow, spiraling over stresses in my own life hasn't caught me up short the way it did observing myself spiraling over the life of a casual acquaintance and a force of nature.

And saying "This is insanity" to myself caught me up short. Where had I heard that? Who can help me not obsess and binge? I realized: OA.

SparkPeople helps me so much to regain a healthy lifestyle. But I want to be healed of the food obsession-- what was I missing before that I might be mature enough to understand now?

I downloaded the OA app for my phone last week and its content was like an old, well-loved friend. I also downloaded an app of OA speakers by Audiojoy. And there I found a 12-step study by Lawrie C. of Winnipeg. And he described defining abstinence for oneself with the guidance of one's higher power, being honest, open-minded, and willing.

When the student is ready, the teacher appears! Lawrie C's talk hit me so powerfully, a big piece I didn't understand before clunked into place. Defining abstinence for myself has always been a stumbling block for me and his talk made so much sense--

And I quickly rushed to join you all.

Now I gotta find meetings and a sponsor and work the steps again for the first time since the mid 1980s! I have been abstinent since last Thursday, 10/6/16. :D

Thank you for being here. :D

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Good morning,
Just a quick start. I have struggled with eating my whole life. I learned emotional and other bad patterns from my overweight mother. I have gone up and down, so the good news I that I know what it's like to lose weight, to feel better, stronger. In the last 5 years my husband has developed a degenerative nerve disease. It takes all my energy and emotions to deal with everything. I have gained nearly 30 lbs.

While eating is my only vice, it's not a vice I can live with and be happy. I am going to be better. I will do an online meeting this afternoon. I am looking for the support I haven't had. I know I'll fall off this wagon, I just need the support to hop right back on.

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Hey CJ, The doctor recommended medicine, but I was too afraid of the side effects and my doctor said I could wait.

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Hi Bonnie! Welcome to the Team, and emoticon to OA!
I'm glad you're back!

Many in my family have thyroid problems. I always thought I did too, when I was obese. But, no, I was a sugar addict! emoticon

Do you have a healthcare professional who takes care of your thyroid issues?

All the best with your healthy goals and your OA program.
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Hi I'm Bonnie. Just returned to OA yesterday. Had a lot of success in the past. I would eat all day if I could. Went to a HOW meeting. They give you food guidelines. I think I need the structure. I am very hard of hearing, and am trying to figure out how to go on an online meeting too. Hello to all. Wish me well!. I lost 8 pounds on Spark since Jan1st and put it all back. :( I have a slow thyroid, but know I can loose. Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! xoxox

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Welcome to the Team, VERVEANDVERB and Irna!

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Hello my name is Irna I am a WW and an FA in Recovery member. I lost 80+ in 28 months with WW this last time. I joined Food Addicts in Recovery in April this year and with their austere food plan made goal weigh Memorial Day. I have maintained below goal weight for over three months with the help of my FA sponsor, FA meeting and WW meetings. I am going on vacation in a couple weeks and will need you while I am on the Mainland for three weeks. Thank you for being here for me.

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Welcome VERVEANDVERB! So happy to have you with us!

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Hi all -- I'm new here and hope it is the right place for me to be. I have a long history of yo-yo dieting that I am constantly trying to unlearn, but when I end up on Spark I become completely obsessed and have a hard time allowing myself to eat at all -- nothing seems worth the calories when I'm putting it in the tracker. Then I fall apart, binge, feel like a failure, and stop everything. I'm really trying not to quit this time, but I'm only three days in and haven't met my minimum calories yet. I've wondered for years if I should join an OA group and I guess I'm doing that now.

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To all the new member welcome to the team.


There is power in well-chosen words, and often there is equal power in silence. Learning when to talk and when to listen are among the most powerful skills you can develop.
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Hi, I am not new to Sparkpeople but I am new to this team. If I as successful here as my husband was in AA, I will be celebrating in the near future. I don't know if the majority of you know each other outside of sparkpeople, but I hope you will let me join you here. Since my husband passed away I have put on almost all the weight that I had lost. I want my story to be a success story. Hopefully I will hit the target this time. emoticon

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Welcome to the OA Sparkteam MSR1985 & ELLIEMAEPARDON! Great to have you here!

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Welcome to sparkpeople!
Thanks for sharing about your 2 days today!

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