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9/9/15 3:33 P

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Oh yeah, it's about giving as well as receiving. I just have a very hard time even going up to a person at a conference and saying "wow, I really loved your paper." Which is unfortunate, because it's not like the other person is going to say "Wow, how dare you come up to me and say you love my paper!" Usually, if we get to the point where we really start discussing said paper, or topics related to said paper, I do alright, but that initial contact is so hard.

Sadly, in my field, networking is crucial, so it's something I really struggle with.

I will have to look for the book. Thanks for the recommendation.

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8/18/15 12:48 P

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I always looked at networking as a chance to give as well as to receive so it wasn't a struggle, only problem was I was very self conscious of my speech. Only way it worked for me was to maintain a positive attitude and to not speak certain words that I had the most trouble with. I did not do much networking though, didn't have to.

While working on my "You Can Heal Your Life" team my wife gave me a book she had used. It's Ruth Ross's book called Prospering Woman and it was spot on for my team. I talked my wife into joining Spark so she could Co-lead the team. She decided to get a friend to join also in order to type for her as she doesn't type. You might enjoy reading the book.

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8/18/15 11:42 A

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Networking is very important, true, and it's something I consistently struggle with.

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8/18/15 8:31 A

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In that case I think you should start a blog, say in World Press or Facebook about Anthropology, and try giving some free time on field trips say on weekends (or weekdays if you want to keep your weekends free for hubby) just to keep in touch with those in the field. It may turn out that someone you get in touch with this way knows of a job opening in your area.

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8/17/15 10:28 P

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No, it doesn't have to be a permanent job, thankfully, which is probably good because entry jobs in my field are anything BUT permanent for the most part. But at my age and with this degree (approaching 40 with a PhD in anthropology), it had better contribute to where I want to go. Part of my problem is pure burn out, combined with the fact that anthropology is an exceptionally hard field to get into, made harder because we decided that we needed to commit to my husband's job--it didn't make any economic sense to do otherwise, but that choice severely limits my options.

We'll figure it out. I just hope I figure it out soon, LOL.

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8/17/15 4:17 P

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I think your next job doesn't have to be a permanent job, that can come later when you had enough success to feel confident about your life. Now just look for something that interests you enough that you can become good at it and it pays the rent/mortgage and necessities. Try to spend less than you earn so that you have the ability to save enough to change jobs later.

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8/14/15 5:21 P

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Thanks. I'm currently in occupational limbo--still looking for a job, partly because the field I'm entering (medical anthropology) isn't an easy one to get into and partly because after spending 2 decades in college/grad school, I'm now not entirely sure what I want to do with myself. But I'm getting back into the swing of things, which is good.

I can sympathize with the "nutter" in your head. I took a class a couple of years ago that, among other things, talked about that voice in the back of your head that tells you that you can't do something or that you are bad, unworthy, etc. She called it the "lizard brain" (she used a bean bag lizard to represent that insidiously harmful voice) and the phrase stuck with me. It doesn't matter how good I am, how intelligent, skilled, articulate, empathetic, etc., the lizard brain tells me that I'm not good enough. But I'm aware of it, and being aware of it is the first step to beating the lizard into silence, LOL.

Good luck with the speech therapy. I've known people--intelligent, talented, otherwise articulate people--who have had speech therapy and it helped a lot. I'm sure you can do this. Just remember to be patient and kind to yourself in the process.

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8/13/15 7:57 A

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Thanks ZANNACHAN, I hope you enjoy your occupation after grad school. Congradulations on the new house. Moving and going through grad school does take up a lot of time, glad that you are now helping others relieve their stress. Seems like you did well at that.
I am retired after working 37 years in the Patent and Trademark Office. I liked it there, but I did not take advantage of my opportunities to advance higher than a GS14 primary patent examiner because my Nutter (it resides in your subconscious mind) kept telling me that I wasn't qualified because I couldn't speak properly. Silly me, I am only now believing that speech therapy will work for me. But my nutter keeps trying to tell me that it is too hard. I am reading Creating a Bug Free Mind to get control of my nutter. Wish me luck. My team You Can Heal Your Life will follow my efforts.

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Greetings, JohnR. I haven't been active in this group for awhile--first because of grad school and then because we moved 3 times and bought a house--but it's a really good group. I hope you enjoy your participation here. I'm not familiar with the people you mentioned but I will try to look them up.

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I am JohnR, that's my middle name and last initial since my wife doesn't like me "Advertising Myself" by my first name and I have elsewhere on spark given "too much of my background details". I started a group a related group based on the works of Louise Hay "You Can Heal Your Life" which also addresses the issue of stress reduction, besides other health issues. I also rely on other authors such as Leo Babauta of zen habits zenhabits.net/start and Jonathan Lockwood Huie jlhuie.com as well as Andy Shaw. Another Spark member who had knee surgery and has problems losing weight is very interested and she says she will co-lead the group which is good because that gives my group a second perspective which I feel is a good because she refuses to stop her exercise routine even though her knee gives her pain during exercise (her doctor told her that although she has pain during exercise, she was not further injuring the knee or delaying the healing process by the exercise, but she could take a break until after January when the screws would be removed and exercise then if she chose too). Anyway, the group is just getting started and I don't exactly agree with Louise Hay as of now, but feel her philosophy can't hurt. My philosophy is that good health depends on a holistic mind-body-spiritual approach in that order. To start one should first simplify their lives where possible and remove much of the clutter in their minds and Louise Hay speaks to that as well.

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