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I surely suffer from retail therapy cluttering my home and life, but I am determined to start again today on March 1st with no buying unless I really don't have it. I lose more than I use and buy repeats. I don't need to be doing this. By not buying I am saving money too which I have started to do since January of this year. I am making progress in that area.

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I feel like I have really come a long way in the retail therapy area! I certainly still need to get rid of a while lot of stuff but am not bringing in much new stuff! Can look at the thrift stores and clearance aisle and leave empty-handed! "Would you pay full price?" has really helped get me away from the idea that I have to buy it because it's such a good deal!

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7/1/19 11:37 P

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Have lots to add to this thread from the last couple months but no time today.

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6/8/18 11:21 P

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That's great! I am following that rule as best I can. Food remains the worst offender for me as I've given up shopping for stuff. Will see how it goes now that rummage sales are in full swing...but the reality is that I have rarely stopped for rummage sales anyway. I'm more of a thrift store kind of shopper. I am filling the garage with things to donate to the senior center rummage sale...and there is such a lack of stuff there that they may not have it, it which case I may decide to have my own.

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The one rule that works in our house- If something comes in the house, something of the same size, or larger must be removed and before we pay we agree on what that one item will be. If we can't think of anything to remove we make no purchase. And my daughter understands this so she gifts us with outings with her instead of stuff.

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5/20/18 8:51 A

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Wasting food still an issue! But really doing well in passing up those great deals and not buying "stuff". Still have tons of things to get rid of but feel like there is progress happening & that encourages me!

The best cure for stressing is to count your blessings...and a long walk won't hurt either!

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5/1/18 8:02 A

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I'm determined to not buy any new stuff this month! More importantly to not waste food I buy! Taking the time to do the prep work is the solution for me! I have quite a pile of clothes to donate! Going through the winter clothes before I start unpacking the summer stuff! Our only department store is going out of business! I'm not even going up there until June! Why tempt myself!??

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4/14/18 8:39 P

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Oil of Olay sensitive skin works for me. You'd have to reapply it a lot as you work so much! :)

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Gluten free is working for me!

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4/14/18 2:26 A

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I agree! I'm terrible about using it! I sweat A LOT! Can't stand the smell of most of them not that feeling on my face! I'm a fair skinned redhead w/blue eyes so the sun has never been my friend! I think I keep vampire hours just to stay out of the sun!!

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4/12/18 10:44 P

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The best anti aging is a good spf!

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4/12/18 7:30 P

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How funny! I've used the same brand of waterproof mascara for years! Don't really use other makeup! Lately I've been reading all the articles about skin care as we age & thinking I should get some of those anti-aging lotions & potions! But I don't think I'd use them!

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I went through a period of bringing in makeup and skin care. I have finally stopping and using my oldest products first. I throw away if it is too old. Feel relief that I've stopped.

If the mind mends, the body will follow.

Gluten free is working for me!

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4/12/18 11:27 A

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I'm really proud of myself in regards to not buying stuff! What works best for me is "would you pay full price for it?" Most of the stuff I have bought is not because I needed it, but it was such a good deal! ! How stupid is that??

And thinking about will I really use it? I have loaded up on seasonal clearance and stored it away FOR YEARS!!! Wrapping paper comes to mind! Cute napkins that I forget about when the holiday rolls around the next year! That kind of retail therapy really adds to my clutter!

The best cure for stressing is to count your blessings...and a long walk won't hurt either!

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4/12/18 10:29 A

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Wow, that was great. It is so hard to not spend when out and about.

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Did just great while I was away! My friend likes to shop! At this amazing used bookstore in Butte he bought a history of the Methodist church in ND for his mom. I marveled at how many of the books I had read and I bought NOTHING! Didn't even buy a postcard in the gift shop! Paul bought a T-shirt, a couple of coffee mugs and refrig magnets. Stopped at Costco in Helena. He filled the trunk of the car. I got NOTHING! (not even a hot dog) Stopped at TJMaxx to return 3 pair of slippers I got my mom at the after-Christmas clearance sale when I was down there for a doctor appointment January 2nd. Since it had been longer than 30 days they refunded me on a gift card. I took the card&left the store instead of shopping. Might not have resisted some cute napkins or dish towels or knick knacks they had for Easter! Now have a $26 gift card for the future! Plus dropped of black garbage bags of clothing&a box of household items at the Goodwill (rescue mission thrift was closed&donation area blocked off)while Paul got his hair cut. So I came home with less than I went with plus $26!!

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3/15/18 12:26 P

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So far, still not bringing in stuff!

If the mind mends, the body will follow.

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Great idea, too!

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3/9/18 4:11 P

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I've been doing really well with not buying anything new. I take crappy pictures so what I started doing years ago was buying post cards where I am and mailing them...mostly to myself but a few to others. It's great fun to get post cards with notes about something that I might have forgotten when I was at that site. I sent myself dozens when I did the Route 66 Road Trip from LA to Chicago...still one of the best 'memory' kind of things ever!!

I don't buy stuff for others while I'm traveling either. I don't want refrig magnets or cups or anything from someone else's travels so why would they want it from mine? Just more junk. Once again, especially with children...they love to get post cards!

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3/9/18 12:21 P

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Great idea to take pictures instead of buying it!

I haven't bought anything for close to 4 days.

I only bought necessities for groceries. yay!

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3/9/18 5:34 A

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Used to do retail therapy. Today, not so much. I don’t like to “waste” time wandering stores. On vacation I take pictures vs. buy stuff for memories. Am looking at some of the exceptions around the house and think..why did I have to buy that. DH was correct. Didn’t need. Now I struggle the urge to want to keep some of this stuff due to the memories attached to it.

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3/2/18 2:34 P

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I am finally stopping.....the urge is still there..I stop by the page to look...then click it off.. .

Will enjoy a walk soon.

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3/2/18 12:48 P

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emoticon I don't buy lotions and potions. I guess I think they are so expensive and I'm not worth the time and money. I pretend it's because I will just age gracefully but deep in my heart I know that's not the real deal!

I wasn't going to do it ever again but I went to WallyWorld last night and restocked my mom's 'sick cupboard'. got the bananas and pears and rice pudding and soup and gatorade. I was only going to get gingerale and then got all the rest of the stuff plus more. It makes me crazy.

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2/24/18 10:42 P

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I've been buying some makeup and face creams I don't really need.

I've also bought beads, clasps.

I need to stop which I think I have, at least for today.

I also need to make jewelry to enjoy what I bought!

If the mind mends, the body will follow.

Gluten free is working for me!

"If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves." Thomas Edison


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2/19/18 10:05 P

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I'm still doing really well with not buying things except groceries. Now if I can get down to a point where I don't waste so much of the food that I buy, I'll be way ahead of the game!

The best cure for stressing is to count your blessings...and a long walk won't hurt either!

Never give up what you want the MOST for what you want at the MOMENT!


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1/8/18 2:47 P

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Did a little after-Christmas buying now that it's 90% off. Should not have done it...should have used the "would you buy it at full price?" question. But I honestly think it is stuff I will use. I offered to do the Christmas party next year for the mother of the guy I harvest cook for. I went this year and thought, I could do this 10 times better. So I told her I would love to do it next year and she said she would love to have me do it...so I got a few red and gold things to go with some other red and gold things I already have in my catering arsenal!!

Did not buy any books! Did not buy anything at the Salvation Army on Saturday...not a single thing! I straightened racks and put sizes back where they belong.

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12/30/17 1:22 P

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I'm very proud of myself and my not buying at the after Christmas sales. I bought walnuts-which I use a lot and a few of the candies that were on clearance that I will use for a party tray I'm taking to a New Year's Eve game night. NO decorations or lights or wrapping paper type items. I did get 3 boxes of cards but those are for my mom. I had some stuff in my cart at Wally's (WalMart) that I put back. So far, so good.

I cleaned off the side of the bed I don't use and threw out almost a full bag of paper garbage. Lots of magazines and pages of magazines I tore out to save the recipes or ideas. Also some cards and junk mail that I must have just read and added to the stack. Put 16 of the 23 books into the book giveaway box!

The best cure for stressing is to count your blessings...and a long walk won't hurt either!

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12/18/17 12:32 A

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Spent way too much time looking at sales flyers from GTF Sunday paper. It's 120 miles away & I'm working from 8-noon then 4:30-6 with an elderly couple through early Jan. Nothing I really need. Just stuff I want! Why am I trying to figure out how to make the trip down there?

I did end up buying the recliner that I mentioned in this forum but it still sits on the back porch & I want to get a cover for it on sale at ShopKo??? Insanity!

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12/17/17 3:28 P

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I tell myself I will find another good sale someday. That helps sometimes.

I spent too much this month after being so good for months! Now, I have to return to being good.

If the mind mends, the body will follow.

Gluten free is working for me!

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11/23/17 7:39 P

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Having a real struggle. There is a massage recliner on sale at the WalMart Black Friday and I really want it. I am trying to talk myself out of it. Had a "fail" yesterday at my plumbing job with my bathtub faucet. I just can't get the valve stem out of the hot water side. It's a pretty good leak. Fills the tub in about 10 hours. I am using the water but still, will have to do some serious cleaning to get a plumber in on Monday! I'm sure it will cost more than the recliner. Plus, I have 2 chairs in storage in a friend's garage and 2 that I bought to recover that are in my garage. I was thinking of giving up the 4 chairs to justify the recliner. Plus I like to sleep sitting up a lot of times. I'm wavering and just can't decide!

None of the other stuff in the sale flyers appeals to me. I'd have to borrow a pick up truck to haul it. No place to put it. Just don't know what to do.

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Went to WalMart this afternoon. Needed to get some salt for the ice in the alley and a few other items. I lingered in the clearance aisle and also the Christmas sections but didn't put a single thing in my cart. BUT when I was headed over to the grocery section I passed by a bin that had Christmas CD's. So I dug through them. I love Kenny G and love to have Christmas music playing in the background from basically Thanksgiving until New Year's. So I picked out 3 and then headed over to the grocery dept.

I don't have a reliable CD player except in my car. I have several Christmas CD's. So before I left the grocery section and headed up to the check out lines, I went over and put the CD's back into the bins! Sure felt like a 'win' to me!!

The best cure for stressing is to count your blessings...and a long walk won't hurt either!

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10/28/17 9:15 P

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Got out of the habit of going to the Salvation Army on Saturdays. Went today and only got a shower curtain for 50 cents that I plan on using to load leaves and twigs on to haul back to the alley! No books, no clothes, no dishes!! Just something I needed to use today!

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Doing so much better about NOT buying. Been reading and sleeping instead of retail therapy.

The best cure for stressing is to count your blessings...and a long walk won't hurt either!

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I'm still trying to decide which are my favorite 10 cookbooks and will get back to you!!

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The American Woman's Cookbook from the 1930s is my fav. That's my mom's cookbook. She bought each of her daughters a copy. It's a lot more than just a cookbook. It tells you everything!

I've been trying to talk my sis out of buying things. It's been hard. I don't want to handle stuff for the rest of my life. That is all I do these days. She was trying to buy large serving bowls to serve chili. I told her the bowls we have are plenty large enough, and she already bought serving bowls that we used.

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It is fun joining the crowd to look for bargains! Do you have a favorite cookbook?

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I have a ton of cookbooks. But I did quit buying them a few years ago. A friend told me that every recipe imaginable is online anyway. I know I look online most of the time. I'm not ready to unload my cookbooks. I made my living for many years as a restaurant cook/kitchen mgr. I have some wonderful really old ones that just make me laugh.

I would not have been able to pass up a couple boxes either! I've always wanted to go on the World's Largest 127!!

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That is a good question. You are really doing good!

Sister & I went to some garage sale yesterday. The Worlds Largest 127 goes right through our town. Neither of us bought much until we came to a sale where a guy was getting rid of his mom's HUGE cookbook collection. There were hundreds of books selling for $7.50 for a box. Most were Taste of Home. We got 22 books. I am going to insist that she take most of the books. I will keep the Best of the Best & Recipe Hall of fame & a couple of the T. O. H. She is younger than I am & has a man to cook for. I have purchased those kind of books at full price. Not anymore since I know you can get them second hand.

Making bean soup today from a Healthy Exchange cookbook. Adding dumplings like mom use to & making cornbread. Comfort food for me, for sure!

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10 days later and still haven't bought a single thing!

The best cure for stressing is to count your blessings...and a long walk won't hurt either!

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More pats on the back for not buying while I was in Oregon and then again today I didn't buy a single thing at the salvation army! I keep asking "would you pay full price for this?" and lots of times I realize I only want it because it's a bargain. I've also had great luck with thinking of what use I would actually get out of the item as opposed to just wanting it because it's cute.

The best cure for stressing is to count your blessings...and a long walk won't hurt either!

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I'm getting SO much better about NOT buying stuff. The thing that I say to myself that seems to put a lot of the buying into perspective is "Would you buy it at full price?" Somehow knowing that it's a 'good deal' can't be enough. I have to really want it or need it. Most often I buy because it's just too good to pass up. That one question has really been helping me deal with my retail therapy addiction!!

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I was really proud of myself during this frantic Easter basket shopping. I bought one bouquet of flowers instead of the 3 I originally had in my cart. The tulips only last one or two days. I didn't like all the flowers in the arrangements, they had been sprayed to give them funky Easter colors. I DID NOT buy my mom any Easter candy. Figured it would be on half price sale on Monday and if she is really disappointed I'd get her some then.

I also didn't go overboard on the groceries. I was so ashamed when I cleaned out my frig. What a waste of money and food.

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Had an interesting thing happen to me when I was dropping off the clothes and linens last week. I asked where the other thrift stores were and the woman told me of a couple I had never been to and one of the customers in line said that the one was having their half off sale. So I headed over. They had this pant-suit that was a nice color for me, in my size, a good brand(expensive anyway) and it would be $4 at half off. I do not need clothes. It wasn't the best color. I had/have no place to wear those kind of clothes anymore and yet I WANTED IT. Well, I talked myself down and left...feeling quite proud of myself.

Then when I got back to Havre I was telling a friend about it. She was heading down there on Saturday to see her new boyfriend. I swear I almost asked her to stop in and get it for me. I would call them and see if it was still there and have them hold it. Talk about obsessed. I didn't do that either. Then I thought of something I had just read in the last couple weeks. So I asked myself this question...."Would you have bought it for $20?" and of course the answer was a resounding 'NO" I just wanted it because I perceived it as such a great deal. Didn't need it, just hated passing up a great deal. So now I'm just glad someone got a great deal on a nice outfit they can get plenty of office wear out of!

I did, however, buy 4 books!

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Packed up 2 more black garbage bags of clothes for the giveaway house tomorrow

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I bought my mom a peach colored rayon gauze pant suit at Sally Ann's on Friday. I told the clerk it was for my mom and she would probably hate it and I'd be bringing it back on Saturday. Well, she loved it and will use it as her Easter outfit.

So Saturday when I went back I couldn't resist getting her 3 more blouses, 1 for me and 1 for my friend, Sunny. My mom is only keeping 1 of the 3. Hated the other 2. I know Becca talks about her sister buying stuff for her. I have been guilty of this for years and had been really good about not buying for anyone else. I just got excited about the thing on Friday because my mom went up to the big dept. store looking and I saw this peach outfit and figured it was what she was looking for and knew since it is an older style she wasn't going to find it at Herberger's. And since her reaction was SO positive I fell right back into buying for her when I stopped in on Saturday!

I know it's not over, like the lesson is not completely learned. But I do have the 2 blouses in a bag that will go to the giveaway house on Tuesday. I have been weeding out lots and lots of clothes and books so don't feel one bit of guilt over getting a new shirt! I did, however, also buy my mom 3 beautiful china cups...which she loves but didn't really need.

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I still struggle with buying stuff. Books more than anything but clothes are a close second...although I only buy clothing and books from the thrift store. Still wasting groceries but it's getting easier-or I'm getting better!

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My sis brings in too much food. I am always cleaning out the fridge. We no longer have a second fridge although I would like a nice little stand up freezer for Winter.

I am learning to buy less and in smaller sizes for food. The deal isn't as great but it fits better and is easier to haul.

Sis has really gone on a buying jag. I feel bad for her. I did that same thing a few months back and dont want to do it again.

I am doing better not bringing stuff in. I hope I continue to do so. I owe in taxes. I've been hit hard money wise. My meds continue to increase in price. My house taxes go up some each year. That is part of the reason I am not buying stuff.

I have started reading more books from the library. That keeps me pretty happy, and away from the retail buying.

I have been reading less magazines as they are all just ads for beauty products. If I see it, I want it. Pinterest helps some. I pin it instead of buying it but it leaves me the option to find it again should I want it. Usually just pinning it helps.

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Now if I could quit wasting food I would feel much better about life in general.

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Good for you! I am doing a bit better in not buying things too. I've come close, but then I don't buy it. Sis is still buying. It frustrates me sometimes. lol! I have enough problems taking care of what we have already. Then more comes in. We just don't need it.



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I have been so proud of myself for not buying 'stuff'. I have not been getting it just because it's on sale or I like it. If it doesn't have a place to go as soon as I get it home, it can't go to the cash register. I did get a new turtle neck thermal night shirt but chucked 2 pair of PJ's when I got home. Also threw out some t's and sweaters that were either too stained to wear outdoors or pilled and threadbare. Wanted a couple of new ones but have a whole box of beautiful ones in a smaller size so no more sweaters...just lose 10 more pounds so I can wear my old faves...or get rid of them...and I don't want to do that!!

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Had a good day at WalMart last night! I got 3 rolls of wrapping paper and some ribbon. Got 3 bags of candy. Got a silicone mold for candy. All this stuff was on clearance. I looked at it...said, "Nah!" and put it all back. Didn't wrap a single present this year so have plenty of paper. Will never get the craft project done that I had picked up the wire ribbon for so put it bag and certainly didn't need the candy...I don't eat much of it at all but was buying for my mom...and she doesn't need it either. Has finally suggested that part of her gut issues may stem from all the sugar she consumes. So I got the eggs and milk and a box of pretty Christmas cards and left!

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DO YOU HAVE HOARDING TENDENCIES?
The following are tendencies that are very common in those who struggle with hoarding, and to a lesser extent in non-hoarders. Read the questions below and note how many of these feelings resonate with you?
1. Do you have a hard time parting with items, even if you have never used them or they are broken?

2. Do you have many items around your house that don't have a permanent home?

3. Do you tend to make piles of things, to be dealt with at a future time, and these piles often linger for more than a few days?

4. Are there areas in your home (the dining room table, for instance) that must be cleared off before they can be used for their intended purpose?

5. Do you save things often because you are concerned about how you will feel if you need them in the future and no longer have them?

6. Do you often save things without a clear idea of how you'll use it in the future?

7. Do you still have items that you once bought with the intention of giving them away as gifts?

8. Do you have boxes of possessions that have moved with you from home to home but you've never gone through?

9. Do you often buy multiples of the same item because you've forgotten you have it?

10. Are you helpless when faced with "a good deal", even if it's a good deal on something you don't need?

11. Do you take free things, like shampoos from hotels or packets of crackers, that you never wind up using?

The more of these questions you answered yes to, the stronger your hoarding tendencies, and your environment is likely cluttered accordingly. If you answered yes to all of them, it does not mean you are a hoarder; many of us have hoarding tendencies, but because they are kept in check, things don't escalate to the point where your life may be greatly affected. Still, the more you have, the more mindful you need to be of your habits so your environment does not cause you undue stress.

Think about this as you decide about buying more holiday decorations and when you are unpacking the ones you already have!!

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It was really fun. There was an idea for Christmas gifts for families with children. Give them 25 books to read a book each night...like an advent calendar. Saw it on facebook and so we were trying to get together the packets of books. Was getting pretty pricey and then all of a sudden I hit two thrift stores that had a whole collection. So I was busy buying (and reading) lots of Christmas stories...and not a chance I'd bring them home. Also sorted and shelved lots of books in both bookstores so it was my perfect kind of vacation!!
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That sounds like great fun. Lots of happy book readers!

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I went a little berserk at thrift stores in OR buy mostly books for the bookstore for friends of the library that my friend runs. We had a book sale and sold them for 25 cents and 3/$1 and took in $116 so that was a lot of books. Plus the 82 we gave away to kids with a coupon they 'won' at another booth there. Had a great time. Ready to get back at it with renewed vigor.

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About 4 times a year the senior center has a huge garage sale. I don't really need anything but I still go. The magazines are 3/.25 & the books are .25. I spent $3.00. That includes a Christmas CD that was a dollar. I also found a few tops for one of the residents. They were .50

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I went to the Salvation Army yesterday and bought two CD's-one is a book on tape to listen to on my drive to Oregon. The other was a fitness DVD to use with my stability ball so those were OK. Also bought a little leaflet kind of cookbook. Didn't really need it but it has some good old recipes for frosting! Then made the mistake of stopping at the library for the book sale. I got 6 new ones! No excuses. Just saw some that I wanted and it cost a buck a bag so at least I only got 6 and didn't even take a bag.

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Snow, I know the feeling.

Last month I was hurting for funds so I often reminded myself that I didn't need this, I didn't really NEED that. So my wants got put on the back burner. They (proverbially) caught on fire this month and I have been buying, buying, buying. It's mostly books. Yes, they're books that I will read and enjoy, but I don't "NEED" any more books. I have a rule to always check to see if a book is available at the library. If it's there, I won't buy it. I tell myself that I can always go there and visit it, but I don't have to own it. emoticon But these books aren't available at the library and I really wanted to read them. Some of them were more of like reference books, and I wanted to keep them, not just visit them at the library.

I'm not really back at square one, but I undid everything that I did last month.

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I just came back from a shopping trip with my mom and it was a great sale and extra 10% off and I was thinking exactly the same thing..."Oh, _____ would love this for Christmas!" when I don't normally buy gifts for anyone during Christmas?? I was very proud of myself though as I didn't buy one single thing. Went to the farm store and got the insect spray I needed and came home!

That does not, of course, negate the last couple of months of shopping trips!

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Retail therapy is what kind of brought me to my knees again recently. I was doing a really great job with purging. I managed to have (the very stressful) yard sale and make a little money. I was lucky enough to have my husband run it so I did not have to watch anything go. I donated quite a bit. And then I went online shopping and refilled every nook and cranny I had cleared out. The house is horrific right now. I'm especially struggling now because of all the "end of the season" clearance items. I need none of them, but I sure do want them all (although want also seems like a silly word because I only want them to take up space apparently). I also have Christmas shopping in my head and my inner voice is constantly going, "Oh! You could buy that for (insert name here)!" even though they are not someone I would typically buy a gift for. I'm struggling with the retail therapy, folks!!

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Did not even venture in to the Salvation Army on Saturday and passed by several rummage sales! Even at WalMart I only bought 5 more of the cement border thingies that I needed and nothing else...although I did go down the clearance aisle browsing! If I can keep up the pace of letting it go out without bringing in more...or twice as much...there might be light at the end of the tunnel!

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Was sorting more books today. Hard to do since I stop to read a little and then might just forget to start up again. But it made me realize how many books I really have and that I need to just stop buying them. I have 2 big crates of 'winter reading' and have decided not to get any more until I have read these...I have 2 huge books (compilations of over 1200 pages) that I am working on now. But I always get excited this time of the year to get my winter reading list (really winter reading stack) ready. So I'm looking at all the books I am taking to OR to my friend's new bookshop as great winter reading stacks for someone else. Makes it a little easier to let go of them!

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I went to the Salvation Army after work on Thursday and didn't get a single thing. Dropped off a box of kitchen items. So headed there today to see what I can't live without. Just kidding. I sorted books and found 2 big crates that I want to keep and put the others into 2 smaller crates to donate.

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Pulled this one back up since there are no new members!

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Yesterday went on a trip to Great Falls with a friend and he dropped me at a thrift store while he went to get his hair cut. I bought a khaki skirt and a mumu for my mom for her upcoming cruise and a red/white/blue flag to use as a bulletin board at the senior center. Also bought 3 hanging baskets and 3 little packs of plants to replace the ones that froze last week. Should not have bought the stuff for my mom but the rest I am okay with!

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Have been good about sticking to my list for the last 3 excursions! emoticon

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I am failing miserably in my efforts to stop buying. I got stuff at the Salvation Army today...books that I need like a hole in the head and then 4 bags of stuff at the Methodist Church rummage sale. Mostly Christmas decorations and Star Trek stuff to give as Christmas gifts but still...I can't help myself. I should have just had my mom go alone to avoid the temptation.
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I love what you wrote. I also was touched by the idea that contentment and gratitude are what is needed to deal with letting go. I am certainly NOT content with the mess and also if I was truly grateful for the blessings God has give me, I wouldn't let them be buried at the bottom of a pile or get broken because I step on them. I wholeheartedly agree with your premise.

I buy sometimes because I felt deprived IN THE PAST. I had to go without then, but not now. I was just thinking how stupid that is the other day. Lots of realizations happen when we are in the midst of decluttering and trying to figure out how we got to this place. Glad you shared!!

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your list is very helpful.

One thing it helped me with is an ongoing problem I've had for a while now. I'm cynical and angry. and when I read about that book Tidying up, with her erroneous idea of thanking unloved items for their service, I still didn't realize what I DID need to do.

I need to have Gratitude toward GOD, and THANK GOD for HIS BOUNTY toward me! toward my family. I bought a lot of my excess to try to be able to care for my grandkids in a very dark and hopeless time in our lives. BUT thankfully we pulled through and my daughter was able to take over their care. She was able to get a good job and all this excess is now unnecessary and unneeded. I need to give it away and make ROOM for sharing what my grandkids now need, ME, and space to visit and enjoy being here again.

Oh what a blessing! Thank you so much for posting this!

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In the materialistic world that we’ve been brought up into, we think that shopping is the answer to everything. Manipulative advertising has convinced us that buying stuff will satisfy all our emotional needs — it will bring us happiness, love, freedom, and anything else that we long for.

This, however, couldn’t be further from the truth, and the sooner we realize it, the sooner we will be able to escape from the prison of materialism and live a more meaningful life, free from the burden that excessive consumerism places on our psyche.

10 Emotional Needs Shopping Can Never Satisfy


1. Confidence. Because of how much we value products, we sometimes fall under the illusion that the more of them we buy, the better we will feel about ourselves — we will be more confident and will have higher self-esteem. But how simple-minded is it to think that external things will make us feel confident? Products are ephemeral and superficial, and the more attached to them we are, the more vulnerable and weak we will feel.


2. Security. The main reason why people shop excessively is because of their emotional insecurities, which are mainly created by the advertising industry. If you don’t feel beautiful, you might want to buy so-called beauty products. If you feel unloved, you might want to buy a shiny car to impress others. But material objects can offer us nothing more than substitutes for what we need, hence they will inevitably leave us disappointed.


3. Happiness. We have fallen victims to the idea that happiness can be bought and that everything that can bring us joy is on sale. So we keep on shopping, thinking that this will make us happy, but in the end it only leaves us emotionally thirsty, since what we truly need to be emotionally satisfied is healthy relationships with people, creative work, play, and inner peace.


4. Fulfillment. True fulfillment is derived from finding purpose and meaning in our life. It comes from doing things that matter to us and that we feel passionate about, as well as from being close to the ones who love us, support us, and help us become the best version of ourselves — things that shopping can never provide us with.


5. Significance. Many of us spend most of our money on as expensive stuff as we can afford in order to feel proud of ourselves and show to others how significant we are. All the things we buy, however, are ephemeral, and sooner or later the market will replace them with more advanced versions of them, thus they’ll never make us feel significant enough, since there will always be people who will have better things than the ones we own.


6. Influence. We humans are inherently social beings, loving to connect and communicate with others, and we desire to influence others with our heart and mind. But instead of building true, sincere relationships with people who can truly understand our being and be influenced by our ideas and passion for life, we try to superficially influence those around us through the acquisition of possessions, thinking that they will somehow make us more powerful and will allow us to exert more influence on others.


7. Connection. In our competitive society, we feel lonely and disconnected. In addition, living in big cities of concrete, we have lost touch with our inseparateness with nature. This sense of disconnection from people and the natural world makes us experience the outside world as separate and threatening to us, which puts us in a constant state of stress. We’ve fallen into the trap of thinking that shopping can help us expand our sense of self and re-connect us with the world. And although it is true that our ego grows by feeding on possessions, it is also building huge psychological walls all around us that only makes us feel even more alienated than before.


8. Freedom. Most people are under the impression that shopping brings them freedom. Of course, in the economic system that we have, this is true to some extent, since shopping is the means through which we can provide ourselves with what we need to cover our basic physical needs so we can then have the freedom to pursue our passion and live the way we want to live. When, however, we mistake wants for needs, shopping actually restricts our freedom, turning us into emotional slaves to material objects that we don’t truly need and which fills our lives with worries and distractions.


9. Contentment. To be content means to be emotionally satisfied just the way you are, to enjoy the present moment and savor everything that life brings on your way. However, most of us are in a continuous stress to acquire material things, always looking at contentment as a future end that we’ll experience once we acquire them, and hence we can never relax and enjoy the here and now.


10. Gratitude. When we are always looking for new things to buy, we will always feel that our life is lacking something, and thus we can never appreciate and enjoy what we already have. Therefore unless we develop gratitude, we will never be able to live a fulfilled life. Gratitude arises from the understanding that we have more than we need, and that the journey of life is wonder-full, no matter its ups and downs.


As you can see, shopping doesn’t and can’t satisfy our emotional needs. We need to direct our attention elsewhere if we want to find true emotional fulfillment.

The best cure for stressing is to count your blessings...and a long walk won't hurt either!

Never give up what you want the MOST for what you want at the MOMENT!


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