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Great blog today from IMEMINE1 aka Donna. Just felt like I had to share it.
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Hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

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Yup! "That" kind of pie!!

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When you feel the need to begin letting go, shift the focus from letting go to taking some sort of action that advance a goal or dream. When we take hold of something more positive and productive, we are actually letting go of something (or someone) else less positive and productive! Small action steps count more than you could ever imagine!

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I don't sleep well. I have nightmares. I get leg cramps or back pain that wakes me up. I've always been "a night owl" and loved working graveyard shift! So, often, if I have to be up early for something, I just don't go to bed. It's worked for me for years. I also skip meals when doing this because once I eat it seems I need a nap!

So when I went for my annual physical, I stayed up all night, left here at 8:30 a.m., got there at 10:30, stopped to pee and buy donuts for my Mom and headed to the appointment. Some of my test results weren't good news. I had a prevnar pneumonia shot and in the other arm my tetanus shot.

I stopped at the rescue mission thrift store and dropped off lots of stuff! I shouldn't have gone into the store. I bought things I definitely did not need. Some stuff was clearance for a quarter!! I couldn't pass it up. I forgot to ask myself the question "would you pay full price for w?" because the answer would have been "NO!" At least I didn't get any clothes or books!

Drove on the next 110 miles and checked in to my motel. I was tired but it was only 4:00 so too early to go to bed. I got directions to a Chinese restaurant, then changed my mind and went to a Mexican fast food place where I knew they had good low carb salads. Then went to another thrift store. My excuse was I would get cards for my Mom to send to her friend who just found out she has cancer!

I got lots of nice "thinking of you" type cards. I also bought 7 books? I went back to the motel and changed and went to the pool. Spent an hour in the pool and 2 15-minute sits in the hot tub. Then back to my room to shower and get ready for bed. I watched the news and pondered why I had bought stuff at the thrift stores after doing so well not buying anything. Bad test results? Being tired and hungry? Anxious about the weather and road conditions? Who knows!?? It was after 2 a.m. last time I looked at the clock.

Got up late. Scrambled to get checked out and drive to the VA hospital. I got my knee injections, had some x-rays, scheduled an MRI and was out of there by 9:30. Great roads. Saw 2 Bighorn sheep about 15 miles apart! Stopped at Barnes and Noble to get a book on Keto diet, went to a big grocery store I like, filled up with gas and headed for home!

My mom was thrilled with the bear claws and all the cards! The dogs were excited to see me. I told mom I needed to eat so let's go out! Had a nice chef salad! Brought in my overnight bag, rounded up the dogs and went to bed!

Was up early on Saturday to get things done before the big winter storm hit! My knees were killing me but I kept moving and went up and down the stairs several times with laundry! I did not unpack any of the stuff I bought at the thrift stores! Brought in the groceries and books from B&N, and left the rest in the car! I'm going to take it back and donate when I go back to the airport next week! I decided that is the best thing to do!

Snow and bitter cold wind chills arrived Saturday night! I cooked stuff to freeze and prepped veggies and cleaned out another cupboard. Lots of school and business and road closures for Monday due to the storm. It's still snowing?!! Not going to go out. Will get more things organized!

I'm just trying to stay warm! Seriously polar brrrrr!

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Don't ever be embarrassed about how you feel! It took me years of therapy to understand that feelings are neither right or wrong, they just "are"!

I grew up in an environment where we didn't show our emotions or discuss how we were feeling or what was bothering us. I think my over-eating was a way of stuffing feelings back down, kept me from talking about them and it "comforted" me!

I am a cigarette smoker. I had a therapist years ago who was also a smoker. She said that she had just taken a class and that patients should not be allowed to smoke during therapy sessions because it made them less honest about their feelings. It was very interesting and we both determined it was true! Before I talked about something uncomfortable, I had to dig out a cigarette, light it, put the pack and lighter away while I "organized" my thoughts! And the inhaling of the cigarette was a way of not only stalling, it was a way of sucking those feelings back down!

I didn't associate it with eating until years later! I know it's hard to share feelings. I think that's why my blogs are mostly jokes! We all want to be seen as happy, got-it-together people! ...the "never let 'em see you sweat" mentality.

Share what you need to share! If it's uncomfortable to blog about it, share it on one of your more trusted teams or in a spark mail to one of your more trusted Spark Friends! It really does help sometimes to just get it off your chest! I have found wonderful support and inspiration here on Spark People! I think we can write stuff we would not say out loud to those people in our real lives!

I think that's what I like the most about this team! I can write stuff I need to say or process!

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Believe in yourself -
in the power you have
to control your own life, day by day,
Believe in the strength
that you have deep inside,
and your faith will help
show you the way.
Believe in tomorrow
and what it will bring -
let a hopeful heart carry you through,
For the things will work out
if you trust and believe
there's no limit
to what you can do.
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There is one of those huge construction dumpsters out in front of the place next door. I mentioned in another post that the people had been evicted. Today the dumpster is overflowing. This top layer looks like mostly bags of clothes. A u-haul came today and they were hauling out boxes of stuff. Don't know if this was the final push or not. There is still stuff on their porch.

It has really had me (and my neighbors, Darren&Denise) thinking about all the "stuff" that we are hanging on to. I am glad to have a couple of days off so that I can get rid of some things while I am feeling motivated to not let the emotional aspect of it stop me.

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I think the sadness over my old boss, Dan's, death has caused some strange emotional things that relate to hoarding. I have so many great memories of things he taught me and times we laughed so I don't need any 'thing' to remember him.

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Life isn't meant to be easy
it's meant to be lived!
Sometimes happy
other times rough...
But with every up and down
you learn lessons that make you STRONG!
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4/4/18 10:54 A

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I have been doing ok. I am having a hard time with the junk/ stuff them in here (for now) drawers.
I don't know how many times I have started them, decided to wait on this or that,sraightened it up with said items back in the drawer.
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I'm having a much easier time letting go of things these past couple weeks than I normally do. I used a corning ware pan about 9x13 to roast the turkey. It takes up a lot of room in the cupboard because it doesn't stack in with the other 9x13 pans. It doesn't wash out easily. I put it in the box to donate. Also had some cute dessert plates and a couple complete sets of stoneware that have a Thanksgiving/Autumn/Harvest decor theme to them. They are also in the box. Just too much trouble to get them out once a year.

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Was petrified the cable guy would want to come in to my side of the duplex today. I can barely walk through with all the piles of clothes. Big mistake to try to go through them right now. Too much to do outside before the weather takes an ugly turn so now I have created a bigger mess for myself.

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Now today I went to a rummage sale at one of the churches. Bought some tile for the bathroom and some for the basement floor. Got a garbage can to hold newspaper recycling. Got a couple pair of sunglasses. Got a couple napkins for my mom. Didn't really need any of it. Should not have stopped. Worse, I only got the sunglasses and napkins the first trip. But decided if I went back and the tiles were there I would get them.

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Let's have a CLEAN SWEEP this week!
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Clean = eat with dignity
S = 7-8 hours of sleep
W = 8 glasses water
E = eat healthy
E = exercise 6 times this week
P = persistence
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I'm off to pats on the back! emoticon

If the mind mends, the body will follow.

Gluten free is working for me!

"If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves." Thomas Edison


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You are certainly welcome to start the thread! I think it's similar to "Pats on the Back" that Susan started...but if it helps you...go for it!!

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Luv the quote. I started my journal today! I have a category (SPED) Something Positive Every Day) where I can quickly keep track of what I've done. Today, I dejunked one kitchen counter and cleaned the counter and the facade of the cabinets.

I borrowed SPED from another SP team, Baby Steps Brigade. Do you think it would be helpful as a thread here?

If the mind mends, the body will follow.

Gluten free is working for me!

"If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves." Thomas Edison


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There really is a lot of great information on this and other sites. The thing is to find the motivation to just keep clearing the clutter!

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I am going to start journaling, and this list is a perfect place to start, especially number 3.

This is very helpful. emoticon

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How To Make Decluttering A Spiritual Experience
by Lili PettitDecember 7, 2016 5:27 AM
Let go. Surrender. Give up control. Breathe.

This may not be the prescription you were expecting from a professional organizer, right? You probably thought I was going to give you a list of supplies to buy, healers to contact, and all my resources for crystals and smudge sticks. Nope. Creating a spiritual experience while clearing your clutter comes down to one very simple question: Do you rule your belongings, or do they rule you?

It is easy to become seduced by possessions and let them run the show. It is much harder to set aside time and create a routine around letting go. This simple 10-step spiritual ritual will help you tap into your inner organizer and clear your space once it begins to feel overcrowded and uncomfortable.

1. Get present.
Sit in your favorite chair. Roll your shoulders back and gently down, imagining any tension dripping down your back, melting into the earth. If you're not present, you won't be in the right frame of mind to clear your clutter. So take a moment to notice your breath. Are you breathing? Are you holding on to your breath? Start deeply inhaling through your nose and exhaling out your mouth. Repeat: Inhale through your nose and exhale out your mouth. One last time, inhale through your nose and now exhale out your mouth, making a loud sighing sound. Notice your feet on the ground.

Tune into the present moment. What are you feeling? What do you want? What is standing in the way of your ideal home environment?

2. Identify the areas where you and your home feel stuck.
Once you are in a place of total presence and without distraction, list all the areas in your home and within yourself where you feel blocked or stuck. Simply calling out the spaces where you'd like to see change helps kick-start the process. Take a moment to notice any connections between the areas inside and outside your home you'd like to see change. For example, if you desire a romantic relationship, is your bedroom in need of some attention? If you wish to improve your health, is your kitchen clean and functional?

3. Set an intention.
Using your powerful imagination, visualize your space as you dream it! Write down exactly what you desire with careful attention to detail. Maybe you would like a meditation room that is mostly white with a simple rug, pillow, and candle? Maybe you'd love a dining room table where all your favorite people are seated around a beautifully displayed meal. Maybe you and your dog are wrestling in your newly renovated outdoor space. Whatever the space inside you may be, feel it, hear it, see it, taste it, smell it. The more details you can muster, the easier it will be to make them reality.

4. Create manageable and realistic goals.
Instead of making grandiose statements such as, "I'm going to get rid of everything I own on Saturday," reframe your intention into something like, "This Saturday I am committed to cleaning out my chest of drawers. I will give away anything that no longer fits me well or doesn't work with my current lifestyle." You will gain natural momentum by starting small.

5. Check your attitude at the door and take heartfelt action.
A mindset focused on "attacking" clutter or "slaying" the clutter dragon simply won't inspire lasting change. It is impossible to ride an aggressive energy wave for an extended period of time. You will burn out, make irrational decisions, and be left exhausted. While fear-based, punishing energy may help to kick-start your organizing project initially, the adrenaline high will fizzle out as quickly as it came on. Instead, start your organizing ritual with a clear head and an open heart. Tap into positive, rewarding energy channels to create sustainable life force energy.

6. Get unwanted items out of your home immediately.
Once you have made the effort and the decision to let go of items that aren't serving your highest self, it is vital that you remove them from your home immediately. Your ties to them may have been cut energetically, but you won't feel a lightness until these items are out of sight. Removing the items also ensures that you won't change your mind and dig through the to-go bin.
As you eliminate what no longer serves you, allow yourself to be spoiled with what you really want and deserve.


7. Add something new.
Adding something to your space may seem counter-intuitive to the point, but you'll likely need a little extra decor once your space begins to clear out. Bringing in remnants from Mother Nature like crystals, succulents, or drift wood is a lovely way to create a home that holds, nurtures,and supports you. As you eliminate what no longer serves you, allow yourself to be spoiled with what you really want and deserve.

8. Burn sage or your favorite incense.
Burning sage or any other kind of plant smoke is a sweet way to close a clearing ritual. Doing so will remove negative energy and help clean the air. Find your own alliance with a plant that can help you continue to clear your space for years to come.

9. Close the experience with gratitude.
Maintaining an attitude of gratitude allows us to cultivate more of what we authentically desire. Even if evaluating your possessions and letting things go is excruciatingly painful, there is something in the experience you can be grateful for. The acknowledgment can be as simple as saying, "I'm grateful for my home." Try not to over complicate this part. There is great power in allowing simplicity to take the lead.

10. Commit to maintaining your space.
Now that the hard work is done, make a commitment to keeping your space clear. I advise my clients to come up with a mantra that will help them keep their homes sacred. When your home starts to collect and feel overwhelming, a personal mantra can serve as a guide back to center. A couple of good examples include, I am committed to keeping my home a sacred temple, I vow to give my home daily attention, I keep my home clean and clear, and I am taking care of my home as I would a dear friend. Again, keep the mantra simple and deeply personal.

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Elise, try taking photos of the shoes you like and saving them on your hard drive so you can use those for reference to find others. maybe that'll even give you incentive to type a description and do a web search. then put the shoes lovingly into a box and kindly drive them to the goodwill so that they may find owners who'll not only like them, but use them.

just think of the poor overworked mom who can't afford new shoes who'll be so happy to find those shoes, nearly unworn, and will wear them proudly to work or church.

Edited by: KITTYF54 at: 7/31/2012 (09:02)
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Thanks for the ideas. First I have to get it cleaned. It's been almost ten years since our ceremony. I wonder if I fit in the dress. Hmmmmm...

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I still have my wedding dress and no one to pass it on to. Any suggestions?

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You remindedmethat I have a box of shoes(9 prs at least) under the bed that I haven't looked at in a long time. Need to pull these out & let them go. Some are shoes that I wore all the time but due to swollen ankles & feet they are no longer comfortable. Time to say bye bye.
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I'm glad I found this group here, I'm on a few email groups on yahoo but I end up hoarding the emails and then reading them all at once for emotional support, which helps sort of but I end up not participating as much as I'd like to because instead of commenting, I'm reading 3 months behind.

I know I have really strong emotional issues to deal with and that's a huge part of my hoarding. I know I inherited severe depression from both sides of my family and now I think I inherited hoarding patterns from both sides as well.

I've come to realize that my hoarding isn't just an issue when I have too much stuff for the space I have, it's an issue when I look at what I actually have versus what I actually USE, and my reasoning for keeping things. For example, I hoard my shoes. I don't have a LOT of shoes though, so the fact that I'm hoarding them isn't obvious at all, nobody would guess I have a hoarding problem looking at my meager shoe collection! I have 10 pairs of shoes. I have 2 shoe boxes in the closet with the shoes packed away because 1 is from my wedding, and 1 is from when I was a bridesmaid and we had shoes dyed to match our dresses. I keep those for nostalgia, memories, keepsakes. OK so it's not so bad to keep my wedding shoes, that might be pretty normal. But moving on I have a pair of shoes my mother in law gave me. I think they're super cute casual slip ons made of denim with flowers and a rubber sole. But they don't fit my mutant feet and never will. I need to let them go but I'm having trouble with it because I WISH they fit, I was keeping them so I could look for others like them that DID fit. But they gatherer dust and depress me and remind me I'll never wear shoes like them. I have a pair of leather sandals that are falling apart, I can't really wear them anymore, I loved them and want to find another pair like them. I think I see a pattern. I have slip on canvas shoes that are uncomfortable and I never wear them but I wanted slip ons. I have wedge sandals with elastic straps I'd hoped could replace my leather sandals but that just didn't work. I have wedge canvas shoes I love but forget to wear because they're packed up in a box so I haven't even broken them in yet. I have a pair of black dress flats I don't wear much because I don't get to dress up much. And I have 1 pair of black boots I actually do wear in cold weather and my 1 pair of sneakers I wear all the time. So I have 40% of my shoes hurting me physically and emotionally. I have 20% of my shoes as keepsakes, 20% of my shoes on standby limbo just in case duty, and only 20% getting anything like regular use. I think I should throw away the leather sandals, and give away the canvas and denim flats and wedge elastic sandals that aren't working, and even reconsider the wedge canvas shoes I like but haven't really used. But I'm just not ready. I'm afraid of not finding the shoes I really would use. I'm afraid this will be as close as I get to having the shoes I would like. I'm sad nobody makes shoes that work with my feet. So I hold on to what I've hoarded and keep wearing just my sneakers most of the year. To me this really shows me my hoarding problem. The square feet of space it's taking up in my home isn't so much, but the emotional space it's taking up in my head and heart is.

~Elise~


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