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8/4/16 11:54 P

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Thanks for sharing your story. I'm glad you found us. There are many good resources and discussions in the various threads. We don't have a real active membership, but are always happy to hear how people are doing.

I understand that sometimes we have to make the choice to end a toxic relationship, or reduce the level of involvement with someone who causes us harm. It's important to do what is going to help you get healthy--physically, emotionally, mentally & spiritually. I hope you find encouragement here on this team and on Spark People.

Blessed Be, Amanda

"I love myself the way I am, and still I want to grow;
But change outside can only come when deep inside I know:
I'm beautiful and capable of being the best me I can,
And I love myself just the way I am."

[by Jai Josefs in his amazing song I Love Myself the Way I Am]

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8/4/16 3:33 P

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HI Yall,

Im Lu and im soo glad I found this group for I have been abused for along time from an aunt ( whos' Bipolar) to my husband who uses what my aunt vented to him about me and throws it in my face when we are in a heated argument and that's abusive and he doesn't know that hes doing it and that it is abuse. Ive been married to him for 4 yrs now. Other than that I am an awesome fun person to hang w and get to know! im super creative love the outdoors love to tan inside and outside, beach, blogging, website design, interior design, dance , photography and martial arts. Im also on a weight loss journey !
Below is my Mini Me Story :

Since the age of 12 yrs old I lived w my aunt that has Bipolar it really didn't effect me that much just thought that how all parents were like tough and strict but when I got in my late teen yrs it really started to effect me I would say around 17ish even more so when I was in the church leadership and the youngest to say the least she made my life hard to live creating an atmosphere where I couldn't make any mistakes at all which wasn't good. She would form me into a person she wanted me to be I guess as if she was living her life thru me or something weird like that. Anyways she would tear me down and I would over hear her venting to god about me and it wasn't nice at all! She also started causing issues when I started dating my now husband and somewhat still does from time to time. She still thinks of me as this one person that I am not like for example ive always wanted my belly button pierced so after I got married and after a few yrs of thinking about it I finally got it done and I told her and shes like well u are just telling me this cause u are trying to push my buttons!! and I didn't tell her cause of that at all!!! She put a lot of negativity into me and abused me verbally, emotionally , mentally and somewhat spiritually. Its sad but I recently talked to her and brought up the topic of my belly button piercing and she said the same thing but I forgot how she reacted a yr ago when I told her I just got it even more so there was evidence of the abusive ways and her thinking and how if shes on meds everyone has to be on meds! But I just came to realization that I cant have a relationship w her anymore cause of all of this!

Im slowly learning its not about being perfect but perfectly loved. There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear ~ 1 John 4:18

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