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3/18/10 7:45 A

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Welcome, GRRRLY!! Glad you introduced yourself to us formally after you popped into the RAAAAGE thread :) Nice to have you!!!

I feel you on several fronts too - I've been with my BF for nearly 9 years and all I hear is "when are you getting married?" and "when are you having kids?" I also have a bunch of cats - I love meeting people who have more than me; it makes me feel a little less crazy :D

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3/16/10 12:48 P

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Welcome Anna Rae! I'm another, in my late forties, never had kids. They don't ask anymore, I'm sure partly because I'm not married anymore! emoticon Now I'm living with my BF and really, no one asks!

Anyway, I hope you are successful at SP!

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3/15/10 1:20 A

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my husband and i might try some infertility treatments once he's finished school and we can afford to look into it, but i doubt we'd do much. i'd like to have at least a couple children of my own, but if not, i'll be a foster mom. i'd like to do that anyway. :) i see myself being involved in the lives of young people whether i can have my own kids or not....wanting my own is honestly more about the experience of pregnancy and childbirth than about it "being my own blood" or any of that BS.

having had time to think about having kids (rather than just becoming a parent "by accident" or as soon as my husband and i thought about it like *most* people i know with kids) makes me a bit more understanding of people who choose to not have children. i can certainly see a lot of good reasons to not want kids. :) i feel fortunate that i've had time to think about it and make a decision for myself rather than having a baby thrown at me and then realizing later that maybe i'm missing out on something because of that baby.

i *have* known people who walked away from their child, at least for awhile, because they weren't ready to be a parent. i have one friend who gave a child up for adoption when she was 30. i just can't see myself being happy chasing a career or whatever. i thought i wanted to be a teacher for awhile, but i don't think that's for me either.

i guess i'm sort of an "old fashioned" girl - staying home with kids and taking care of the house sounds VERY appealing to me.

i've never been on metformin. i've heard that it can do great things for some people, but i've never found a dr that will prescribe it for me because i'm not IR. even though i've seen plenty of stuff saying it can help women with PCOS who aren't. i'd like to try it, but so far, no luck.

anyway, i'm a rambler. must go now. :) later!

~*anna~rae*~


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3/11/10 10:14 P

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It doesn't stop even when you've had kids. Amazing how many people still ask me if I'm having more. In my 40s. "Good Maude, NO!" is usually my answer.


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Welcome aboard the health train- we're all working it here.


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3/11/10 6:49 P

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Hiya, Girrrly! emoticon

Heh. You're not the only one who's eaten her (or his) way up in response to stress - SP is FULL of us. :)

Debt ... our partner in life, huh? I have NO prior experience with school loans, but I'm wondering, won't they allow you to adjust against a new loan? Maybe not.

The kiddie thing - you're right. It *never* ends! I, for one, *chose* not to have any, and it's still irritating to be asked, to be pitied, to be even _gasp_ scolded for not wanting any! :) I'd expected it to be a foregone conclusion, but even now in my forties, I still get the questions and the nudges and everything. Frustrating, but I guess I could say I'm used to it now. :)

SOoooo. Welcome!

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3/11/10 9:13 A

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Hi there! Welcome to the team!

Your story sounds a lot like mine... I gained about 10 pounds every year I was alive, I think. I was 150 when I was 15, 180 when I was 18, 250 when I was 25. Fortunately that finally slowed down in my late twenties.

I also have PCOS and chose not to have kids because it would mean either losing a lot of weight first or expensive fertility treatments. Losing weight took too long, now I'm 40, and that time has passed. Most days I'm okay with that. Except that people will pretty much never quit asking if you have or are going to have children.

At any rate, are you on Metformin for the PCOS stuff? I took it and it did pretty much nothing for me, but my sister takes it and loves it. She says she has more energy and can lose weight more easily.

Good luck, and I hope you love your time with us!

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3/11/10 8:14 A

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howdy! i just joined the team yesterday and i figured i should type up a little intro. i'm a 27 y/o woman who's been married about 6 1/2 years. i don't have kids, and it irritates me when people ask questions about that. not cuz i have a problem talking about it, but cuz i just get sick of being asked - usually by people who have no business in my business.

so before anyone asks, i don't have kids cuz i'm broke and i have PCOS. i don't know if i *can* have kids, and i have no interest in pursuing infertility treatments until i'm in better shape physically and fiscally. if i got knocked up right now, i'd be crazy stressed but also super excited because i *do* want to have a family eventually. but i get really sick of the people around me acting like they don't understand why we haven't had any kids yet....like they don't realize my husband's a student and i can't find a full-time job....

i *do* have six fat kitteh's and one skinny one. they are both my best friends and the bane of my existence.

i haven't been a "normal" weight since i was about 4 years old. i was *always* trying to/wishing i could lose weight as a kid. i remember weighing 73 lbs in kindergarten. how many people know how much they weighed when they were 5?

i gradually climbed from about 180 lbs (when i was a 5'4" 13 year old) to 260 lbs (when i was a 5'4" 20 year old). i went on the pill and lost about 50 lbs in about 8 months. then my husband and i started talking about possibly starting a family and i went off the pill....and gained those 50 lbs back in about 4 months. so in the last 5 years, i've gone up and down a little and up again until i eventually weighed in at 320 lbs. i might have been over that briefly, but that's the highest weight i've ever seen on a scale.

i went to college for four years and double-majored in Art Ed and Special Ed....however, i was having trouble keeping up with my classes while i worked. then the economy started it's downturn, which meant i was hearing about schools cutting their budgets everywhere around me....and which programs do you think get cut first? since i didn't want to move across the country to find a job, and i was struggling anyway, and i couldn't decide on a different career path, i left school. it was supposed to be a short break to sort things out and go back, but i fell behind on my student loans and now i can't even think about going back to school unless i can straighten that mess out or pay out of pocket.

i've probably rambled on too much now....and i'm supposed to be going for a walk this morning. so....bye for now!!

~*anna~rae*~


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