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10/27/15 11:55 A

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Well, 2 years has passed since my last post here and many things have changed. I am now 67 years old and now divorced for 16 years. From my past post I have moved into a 55+ Community about 20 miles from my former home. It is one of the best decisions I have ever made. My former home was in a community where almost 50% of the homes had become rentals (it is currently more than 50%). Those are not good odds! While on a cruise I ran into a couple who had just closed on their home in the new community and they sang the praises of the builders, construction, residents and activities. After my first visit to scope out the area it was less than a week and I was signing papers to purchase my new home. I am perfectly content living here.They have a very active singles group and the ladies group meets each month for luncheons. We have a monthly pot luck. I sing in our Village Choral group, take line dancing lessons and am now walking 4 miles each morning (no Curves nearby so, sadly, that is a thing of the past.) There is also a monthly "Social" which the singles do not usually participate in, simply because a few of the wives are a bit jealous of we singles and to avoid problems, we leave the Social to the couples! My immediate neighbors are all a close knit group (no jealousy here). We regularly get together in social events and some local travel. My new Parish is a wonderful gathering of fellow Catholics with a marvelous pastor. I have met so many fantastic people there. I could not be happier with my situation.

I continue to play cards with the same group of friends on a weekly basis. I am still involved with 2 groups from my former Parish, so all of those friends are still in my circle. I have begun to volunteer 2 times a week at a low income after school care program where I help the young kids with their reading and homework. (And, yes, Common Core is as bad as you've read!!)

Unfortunately, many of my activities revolve around eating away from home. I have gained back about 20 pounds (give or take a few) After I moved in I was plagued by Plantar Fasciitis and walking was very painful for just about a year. With no Curves nearby (and who had time with all the unpacking?) I was limited in my activities,and convinced myself that I was "working off" the extra calories, hence the weight gain.

I also continue to travel which adds the pounds as well. I did make the trip to Antarctica, so I have all 7 Continents under my belt. I am leaning away from travel to Europe because of the influx of "refugees" to that area. Instead I have been looking more towards South/Central America. I went to Easter Island along with the Chilean Fjords, last year and to Ecuador and Galapagos earlier this year. Next year I have a big, 3 week trip to Brazil which encompasses both the Atacama Desert in Chile, a cruise on the Amazon, and 2 full weeks in various cities of Brazil, ending up at Iguassu Falls.

My life is so peaceful and full of enjoyment, I cannot imagine anything better. My health is great (knock on wood!) and with the exception of the weight situation, I can think of nothing that could improve my life. My time is my own and I can do, or go, anywhere I choose to. I still have 2 cats, though one is a new one since the last post. Both bring great joy and warmth to my life. Yes, I can say with great conviction that life is indeed good!

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10/27/15 11:28 A

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I see this topic was started back in 2013 & I just now noticed it.

I have been lucky enough to have been married for 53 years now. We at times didn't think we would make it since my husband has had 4 bouts of cancer. In 2007 he was given just a couple of months to live. However, he had a bone marrow stem cell transplant in June 2007 which saved his life and given us 8 more years so far to be together.

I retired in February 2007 & the 1st year was mostly taking care of my sick husband, but when he recovered & started feeling stronger, we started traveling. Our 1st big trip was to Australia & New Zealand because that was on the top of his bucket list. We have made several trips to Europe since then & seen many wonderful sights together. My husband loves to drive so we have taken many road trips across this country too. He likes to visit the casinos so we stop at many of those along the way.

When we are just at home & not traveling, my favorite part of retirement is NO MORE ALARMS. We can sleep as long as we want. My typical routine day is to get up, have breakfast together, read the newspaper, then I'm off to the fitness center for an hour most every day. In the afternoons I do Genealogy for many hours & also am in the process of scanning our 53 yrs of family photos onto the computer. We married in 1962 & I am up to 1987 with my pictures. My genealogy work has slowed my progress of my photo work.

I saw an ad for a temporary job doing the City of Peoria, AZ Census Count for 2015. I applied & now am working 35-40 hrs each week. It was originally only supposed to be for 3 to 5 weeks, now they are saying 3-8 wks. We had 1 week of training & now I'm into the 4th week of actual work. It's a fun job, but I really don't have time for a job with my other hobbies. It will only be for a few more weeks anyway.

We are taking this weekend off to go to Laughlin to see a Mark Chestnutt concert. I think I've only had 1 day off since September so it will be a nice break for me.

Deena

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10/27/15 1:13 A

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Thank you for sharing, Joyce. I hope more of our readers will do likewise. It is very difficult to lose one's husband, and I lost mine when I was 62 years old. Couples do not like to have a single female around as a friend because, face it, they are a threat to their own marriage. I was one of the youngest of the wives in our circle of friends, and that made it even worse.

It was 9 long years before I met George. And while he was quite overweight, he assured me he was in the process of attending the gym frequently and had lost his own wife just months before after a 6-year illness. Well, his weight has gone up and down somewhat, but he is not a tall man and I think the lowest his weight has been since we met was 207, it is now 250 and it's mostly due to eating junk food and never doing much except sitting behind his computer. But I've found you cannot change another person's habits, they must make the decision for themselves, and they have to want it for themselves. I have come to accept the fact that words and my wants and needs will never change it, it must come from him.

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10/26/15 9:06 P

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I am blessed my husband is still here. We did a lot of stuff when we were younger, we are more homebodies now. I am more active than he although he does lots of stuff around the house which makes it easy for me to do the things I want to do. I am active in church, on the council and chairperson of Worship and Music, prayer chain coordinator and leader of our ecumenical Bible study group. I am also active in the red hats. Go out to lunch with girlfriends. Basically that is how I spend my retirement time now .

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No one has written on here for a long time, but I still find it interesting to see how active or inactive various seniors are.

It seems like mostly all I've done this year is gardening. And while I love it, I feel like I should be doing more. Oh, I did serve as a volunteer at the local Thrift shop on Saturdays for abou 2 months, but then a family emergency came along and I had to spend weeks and weeks helping out my future son-in-law in Florida.

Sometimes I feel like my entire year was all a big waste of time.

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Pat, I think this is what "Retired Seniors" is all about. We're all individuals and I would think we all have lives that are quite different. When I sold my huge home in Sedona and decided to move down to the Phoenix area, it was a big switch in living styles. I bought a home also in a Retirement Community and I was happy living there, the house was small, but plenty big for me and my dog, and I would sometimes run into people I knew when I'd go to the Recreation Center. In fact, I became good friends with the lady living behind me and we would see each other nearly every day. I can easily see how you could be happy and content with your life.

I actually do not know how many of us on this site are married and how many are widowed or divorced. And I figure if it's something anyone wants us to know they will tell us. lol I think at times I've chosen to live a much more sedentary life than I should, but it's comforting to know that I can if I so choose. I like to stay busy in my own way. I love hobbies and like to have 2 or 3 of them going at all times. That way I can go from one thing to another. I also believe in keeping my mind busy, so I like to write also and do jigsaw puzzles, although I don't have a spot right now to set one up, I'll do one again one of these days.

How about the rest of you? Anything you want to vent about -- or brag about??? It's a Team that is just for us, so let's talk about anything you want to cover.

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1/23/13 11:32 A

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Hi Scotmama, I sound like your sister and it's good for us. I'm glad you found happiness in your current marriage. I, too, was 61 almost 62, when my husband died. I was still working as an RN and after some bereavement time, I returned to work.. This was a lifesaver. I dealt with people who were actually worse off then me and it relieved some of the grieving (it never totally goes away). I sold my home and moved to a senior community (not assisted living - but totally independent living-- Just a bunch of old folks:) I like it here and I don't have to work, but I do have to keep an eye on my spending and live within a budget. I too love the independence of getting up when I want, be it very early or late. I eat when I want (It helps to eat only when I'm hungry) so I don't always have a set meal time. I don't need to busy all the time, but I like to have some things to do that get me out of the house. Love this site. Thanks for letting me vent. emoticon

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Pat, I know what you mean. My sister lost her husband of 50 years just last Christmas. I know she will not date anyone or even look around -- she now relaxes, eats what she wants and is losing weight -- so I know that dating isn't for everyone, and it's a good thing that we all have different personalities. I was 62 when my husband died and felt much too young to spend the rest of my life alone -- and my married life was such a happy one, I just wanted it back, even if it had to be with someone else.

I love the comfort of retirement, sleeping late if you want to, not worrying so much about what you are going to cook and whether every spot of dust is banished from the house. My life is very laid back -- and I'm glad I found someone who shares the same outlook as me. I could never live the life where I'm busy every moment of the day, but I know many retirees in this area who aren't happy unless they have a full schedule. I admire them in their busy lives. If it is what they want, I'm glad they have it that way.

What is sad is when I see a much older person who has to continue to work to make enough money to pay for food and rent. It just doesn't seem right.

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I'm 70 and have been widowed for 8 yrs.now. I'm not looking for a husband, and haven't dated. I have no desire to do so. My husband was my best friend and soul mate and I still feel married to him. I like it like this. I have many wonderful memories and they keep me company when I need them. I glad that you found happiness in your current marriage. I have friends who have done the same. My husband and I also traveled a lot and now that I'm retired, I don't have a big desire to be on the go. I'm content to stay in my own "neck of the woods." To those of us retirees who enjoy it -- go for it!

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It was such a pleasure to read through the various responses to my post, and I'm so happy that so many of you did respond.

Pat -- It's great you stay so involved with friends and family. I don't have any relatives in the Phoenix area, so it's always a long drive if I wanted to see a relative. I noticed you are a widow and wondered how old you are? And do you date? I know that many people choose not to date after their spouse has died; however I loved being married, and when Steve died in June 2001 I spent the next 9 years searching for a new husband. It kind of seems the older we get the pickier we get, but I did get married on 1-11-11 and we have a very happy marriage that suits us both.

Kathie -- lots of learning going on in your life, and it sounds as though it's time to start thinking of adopting a new dog. Perhaps not a "puppy" as that might be too much excitement for your older dog -- but someone a bit older, who will be there to help you with the transition of your dear old friend passing on. I've taken 2 or 3 college courses since retiring and love it that my brain is still functioning and active enough to get an "A" -- boosts the morale too!

Mary Ellen -- 2 cats make for good company, and I remember you as the "travel" gal. It's so nice to be able to do what you want with your retirement. I've travelled a great deal when I was younger, so to me travel is not always a big joy, but it certainly makes you appreciate getting back home again. And if you enjoy it -- more power to you. I now own my very first cat ever, and while they are infinitely more independent than dogs, they are very loving in their own way and I'm enjoying my "Luci" very much.

Thank you all -- hope to hear from more of our retired ladies and learn how you spend your time. I love to bake, especially cookies -- and it's never hard to find someone who appreciates them if you want to give a few away!

Trying to find the silver lining in all the clouds!

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Mostly putter around doing computer stuff. I read news sites for what's going on in the world. Generally it is the same old stuff. Once in a while my son and I go to the big city for doctor visits, or shopping. Or coin shows. I have quite a collection so far. Nothing really expensive. Just old US coins.



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1/20/13 2:26 P

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Well, I'm divorced with 2 cats so it's only me. I've been retired since Jan, 2011. I love to read, browse on the computer, garden, and bake. Most of my baking goes to friends and neighbors. I cook almost all of my own meals. I play a canasta-like card game called Hand & Foot once a week. I belong to our Church's Seniors group and am one of three who plan monthly trips and outings for the group. I usually do Curves 4-6 times a week though I hate to exercise!

My main diversion though is travel! I love unusual places and I usually manage to do about 5 or 6 pretty major trips each year. If I were typing this in March, I would be able to tell you that I've been to all 7 Continents! I do Antarctica beginning February 7th. With the completion of that trip, my top tier bucket list will be finished. Stop by my page and take a look at my pictures. I'm living the dream! Retirement is wonderful! I highly recommend it!

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When the weather is nice I walk. Unfortunately my thirteen year old dog is not able to walk as far as we used to walk so we don't wander as far as we used to. I go to the gym two to three times weekly

I take classes through the Osher Lifelong Learning Institute through the University of Utah. Classes are held for six weeks for three terms. There are Osher Institutes throughout the country. These classes are for those over 50, no tests, no papers just learning.

We take a major trip once yearly. We spend one week each summer at a family camp.

I spend a lot of time reading, watching TV, and relaxing.

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Sometimes I'm busy and sometimes I just want to read or watch tv by myself.

I try to go to the gym for Silver Sneakers 2 times a week for exercise & fellowship. I have lunch with my grandkids at their schools -- kindergarden 2 times a month,second grade 2 times a month. I see a movie with one of my friends once a month. My 14 yr. old granddaughter plays basketball so I go to all of her games (one or two a week). Lunch or dinner with friends once a month. I'm on a fixed income, so I have to watch my spending. I cook almost all of my meals at home, because I enjoy it, it's healthier, and cheaper.

I'm a widow and this is pretty much how I spend my time. How about any one else???

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Are you one of those people who have something planned for most of the day? One of those who doesn't seem to have enough hours in the day?

Or are you on a definitely relaxed schedule? Naps every day? Lunch with friends? Do you eat out a lot? Cook seldom? What do you do to fill your time? Do you volunteer? Do you have a part time job? Do you take care of your grandkids?

I sometimes wonder how my life compares with other retired folks. And I suppose that was my main purpose in starting this team. But I still don't know what most of you do in a typical day, so I hope to get some responses on here. I'm not only curious, but interested.

Trying to find the silver lining in all the clouds!

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