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10/28/12 12:10 P

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Hi Heather, welcome. Hope you will find lots of support here.

Personally I am experimenting with cutting foods out, to see if that works for me. But I feel it has to be a 'free choice', made because we're convinved we're better off without food x or y. Not an 'I have to or I'll get too fat' kind of thing.
Then, for some and maybe even for me too, in the long run, it's best to not cut things out. I can't tell yet, I'm forever experimenting it seems.

I've recently read the book "Shrink Yourself" by Roger Gould and written about how I liked it in my blog (I put the title or the author's name in each entry that I wrote about this book, in case you want to look it up). I'm mentioning this because you say you want to get rid of emotional eating and that book offers some interesting insights in it, and exercises, that might help you with this. Dr. Gould also offers a free e-book on his website that may give you an impression of his work.
Another author on this topic is Geneen Roth - one of her recent books is called 'Women Food and God' and I think she offers some free articles and materials and a newsletter that might inspire you, also.

Then maybe you already know these authors... Anyhow, take good care of yourself and don't give up.

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10/28/12 10:08 A

welcome to the team, Heather. And Congrats on all the progress you have made toward a healthy lifestyle. Over the past year, when I found myself straying ("messing up"), I would take a step back and regroup. Look at what I was doing before that worked, and look at what I was doing now, and figure out what was going on. If it was stress, I made sure I relaxed / took time for myself. was it portion control? was I bored? Times like that I blogged, spent time reading and responding to blogs. But I just tried to concentrate on one thing I could change.

Give yourself a break, take a deep breath....and don't give up....

Slow and Steady Wins the Race!

Healthy eating is the end goal. Losing weight is a bi-product of it.
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10/28/12 2:12 A

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The last thing you need is another diet. An American Health magazine poll several years ago found that only 1% of those who had lost at least 10% of their weight and kept it off for 4 years had used a diet book or program.

I'm sorry you're experiencing the backlash of prematurely swearing off foods. (I am always recommending that people NOT do that and I know it makes members feel very frightened because they're sure they will be completely at the mercy of that food forever if they can't abstain. But it isn't true.) You can get over the backlash, too, though.

I'm a big fan of working in a portion of favorite starches (but not sweets- I save those for weekends) to a lunch and/or dinner balanced with a good protein and plenty of freggies with a sauce I love and some good fat to improve the scrumptious factor. In fact, just about any rich food can enjoyed and balanced with trusty freggies!

Okay, I'll stop. You will figure this out (might take a few months at least) and we got your back while you do and beyond.

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*To seek happiness, identifying the Self with the body, is like trying to cross a river on the back of a crocodile." Ramana Maharshi
*The No S Diet saved me from my emotional eating defeats.
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10/27/12 7:14 P

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You have done fantastic so far. I would say to keep focused on what you have achieved not on the last few pounds you have to lose. That will happen in its own good time. In the meantime focus on maintaining what you have achieved which is amazing. That makes you amazing. So you can really do this!!


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You only fail when you stop trying

There is nothing to hold you back except you.

You can press forward long after you canít. Itís a matter of wanting it bad enough.

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10/27/12 5:50 P

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Hi and welcome to the team! emoticon emoticon
Feeling like you're losing control can be very scary cause you don't want to lose the hard work you've done. emoticon
Try to find activities to reduce stress and take it one day at a time.
Writing down your feelings might help.
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10/27/12 2:58 P

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Hi Heather, I am more of a direct to the point person. That being said. This is what I want to say: I think you are doing fine. Your weight loss is great and so is your weight. Have you looked the the mirror lately? I bet you look great...

Miss Ilene. Ready to get back on the wagon.

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10/27/12 2:54 P

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Good afternoon everyone,

I joined this team last night after someone referred me to you. I have been on Sparkpeople for 15 months. I have done really well, all thanks to God. The past few months I have been struggling with overeating. At first it was 1-2 times a week. This week was really bad.

I know what's caused the overeating/binging. On one hand, I completely cut certain things out just because I didn't trust myself at all. That has now backfired. My overeating stems from stress at work, and stress from messing up so much lately with my eating habits. There was a coworker of mine that kept saying I should try a particular diet plan. That stressed me out too - I mean, I really like Sparkpeople and just because I am struggling doesn't mean I should try something else. I just can't handle people judging me or my eating habits right now.

It has slowed down my weight loss a lot. I really need help. All this stress has really gotten to me, and I have had a really hard time dealing with it. I have to learn how to handle stress, and I have to learn not to beat myself up.

I joined this team because I want to turn over a new leaf, so-to-speak. I feel like I am fighting in a huge battle to defend and protect my health. I don't want emotional eating to control me anymore. If I am having a problem or need help I want to cling to my faith in God and not use food. I don't like the idea of food or stress having that kind of control or power over me.

Thanks for listening and reading my post. I will start to look over the message boards here, but if you can recommend any articles or blogs on Sparkpeople that would be great. :-)

"He who did not spare His Own Son, but delivered Him up for us all, how will he not along with Him also freely give us all things?"
-Romans 8:32

"For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though He was rich, yet for your sake He became poor, so that you through His poverty might become rich." -2 Corinthians 8:9

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