SparkPeople Senior Widows and Widowers Team Messageboard http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_individual.asp?gid=7018 NO NEW THREADS! We are dedicated to supporting persons who have lost spouses and are coping with their losses while trying to maintain their health during this difficult time. SparkPeople Senior Widows and Widowers Team Messageboard http://www.sparkpeople.com/assets/nav/nav_logo_v3.gif http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_individual.asp?gid=7018 Never such pain http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x70746845 My husband died on Thanksgiving 2018. The "Never such pain" applies to both of us. I have been present for a number of deaths, but I had never seen anyone in as much pain as my husband endured at the end of his life. I cared for him for many years, and the pain grew and grew until it was excruciating, so he was ready to go. I rejoice for him that he is now with Christ Jesus and no longer suffering. <BR> <BR> Yet I am in the most profound grief I have ever experienced, and it is very painful.... Tue, 8 Jan 2019 07:10:55 EST Toxic Relationships http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x69149010 I recently ended a very unhealthy relationship. Things began well, but after two or three weeks I knew it would have to end. She is extremely jealous and paranoid-probably due to her past abusive relationships. I'm relieved it's over. Being alone is not the worst thing. Thu, 31 May 2018 07:51:44 EST Today in HIstory http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x68672226 Today in ... <BR> <BR> 2003 Police recover Elizabeth Smart and arrest her abductors <BR> <BR> 2002 The color-coded terror alert system was unveiled by Homeland Security chief Tom Ridge. <BR> <BR> 1994 The Church of England ordained women priests for the first time in 460 years. <BR> <BR> 1993 Janet Reno was sworn in as the first female attorney general of the United States. <BR> <BR> 1959 The U.S. House of Representatives joins the Senate in approving the statehood of Hawaii. <BR> <BR> ... Mon, 12 Mar 2018 14:40:42 EST Old Sparker, new widow http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x68668214 I've been away from SparkPeople for a long while and have just returned tonight. My husband died very suddenly in February 2017. God is the lifter of my head, so I have not (and will not) drown in my grief. I'm from New Orleans. I'm thankful there is a group for those of us who never wanted to be part of such a team. <BR> <BR> Sun, 11 Mar 2018 23:55:52 EST Date Night http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x68651486 Date night tonight-dinner and a movie with my daughter-in-law. First though is my fitness class and my regular cardio and strength training routine at the gym. Stormy weather and a long power outage kept me inside all day yesterday. I still got over 10,000 steps by walking around the house. I made regular fifteen minute laps and walked during television commercials after the power came back. Fri, 9 Mar 2018 05:10:42 EST No longer a caregiver http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x68546475 I use to occupy my time by taking care of my husband who had COPD along with a few home bound activities of my own. Some days I feel like I have no motivation. I get some things done but not nearly like I plan to. My husband use to encourage me in whatever I did. He made me feel like I was capable of most anything. I wish he were here. Tue, 20 Feb 2018 22:51:51 EST Thursday http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x68463265 Today is my day to tutor at the library and then I’ll stop by the gym on my way home. I’m also taking a course on the history of the Italian Renaissance. It’s very interesting. I hope a trip to Italy is in my future. Who has been there? Thu, 8 Feb 2018 06:16:33 EST Gratitude http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x68442779 I’m grateful for my church family. Yesterday my daughter and I had lunch with eight others after church. I enjoyed meeting some new people and having the time with my daughter. Mon, 5 Feb 2018 07:18:29 EST Life Goes On http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x68323842 It’s nine months since my wife died of cancer. I’m slowly learning to get on with my life. I went to Ireland with my son and daughter-in-law in August. I have a tour booked for this Spring and I’m traveling by myself then. I joined a gym and am taking a fitness class. I’m tutoring a developmentally delayed young woman at the library and taking a course on the Italian Renaissance period. I’m happy I’ve found a caring church to attend where I teach an adult Sunday school class and serve as a de... Thu, 18 Jan 2018 07:34:18 EST Life http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x68316831 I lost my wife of 48 years to cancer nine months ago. I gained weight due to poor eating habits during the stressful time of her illness and subsequent death. I’m now working at losing that excess weight and living a healthy lifestyle. Wed, 17 Jan 2018 07:11:03 EST Not really a senior... http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x67630862 Hello everyone. In February, I lost my husband of close to 18 years. It has been difficult dealing with the fact that he is not simply at work. I am 43 years old. I never thought in a million years that I would have lost my World's Greatest Man. He was always strong and active and healthy. <BR> Needless, to say, that when they said his backache was Stage 4 colon cancer that spread everywhere -- we were shocked and devastated. <BR> <BR> I always have had 1 health issue or another, so I alw... Sat, 30 Sep 2017 15:42:38 EST Spark Trivia-----Did You know? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x67008737 Being overweight increases your blood cholesterol levels since your body stores the extra calories you eat as triglycerides. When these triglyceride levels are high, HDL (good) cholesterol levels tend to be low, a combination that is associated with an increased risk for heart disease. Losing just 10% of your body weight (25 pounds for someone who weights 250 pounds), can improve your cholesterol levels. <BR> Roz. Sat, 17 Jun 2017 21:08:56 EST What's Up For June ? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x66909926 I plan to improve my exercise programme..........what's yours ? <BR> Roz Wed, 31 May 2017 23:17:20 EST Season's Greetings http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x65792397 I haven't been here in a long time so I thought that this would be a good time to stop by. <BR> <BR> I hope that all is well with all of my friends and new members that I have never met. Wishing everyone Happy Holidays. May each of you have a healthy and prosperous new year. <BR> <BR> <em>445</em> Tue, 13 Dec 2016 12:57:48 EST Back In Times http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x64736839 What can you remember that was significant to you 40 years ago this day,or month? 1976 the year <BR> I became an aunt to my brother's daughter and my sister was expecting quads. <BR> <BR> Roz. <BR> Sun, 10 Jul 2016 14:11:57 EST Men vs Women http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x64484104 I believe that most women accept the aging process better than men. <BR> What do you think? <BR> Roz. Sat, 4 Jun 2016 01:15:55 EST Sleep Survey http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x62374246 I'm doing a personal survey to see how many persons have a sleep problem. <BR> Hope you don't mind my asking. <BR> <BR> How many hours sleep do you get at night? <BR> Roz. <BR> Sun, 30 Aug 2015 04:48:31 EST Dental jig http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x60633687 Anyone ever had to wear one of these? Would like some feedback please. <BR> Roz. Wed, 11 Feb 2015 21:19:02 EST Hi everyone http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x60429945 New to this board and looking forward to getting to know everyone.I want to lose about 40 lbs .hope we all have a great day .:) Fri, 23 Jan 2015 11:11:43 EST Middle Name http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x59769294 I don't have a middle name. <BR> Do you have one what is it and do you like it? <BR> Roz. <BR> Sat, 15 Nov 2014 14:23:51 EST Reflections... .............. http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x58787397 Today is a very reflective day for me because the memory of my dear husband is so so much alive in my heart. I have been thinking: <BR> <BR> My mom passed when I was 8,My dad when I was 50.My aunt(second mother) when I was 32. Through the years I got over these losses ,but I'm still coming to terms with my DH's passing.Why? Because even though my other loved ones are dear to me i believe that DH was the one who lived with me continuously for 42 years and that bond is very very hard to break... Sat, 9 Aug 2014 06:26:45 EST Hello i am new http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x57891268 Hello i am new. Thanks for having me. I lost my wife 6 months age and my life turned upside <BR> down. She was the world to me.. I did not know how much she did for me till she was gone.. <BR> <BR> Starting over is hard when you are alone. I have two wonderful doggies that keep me going. <BR> <BR> I need help and would be thankful for any.. Thanks for listening <BR> <BR> Howee Fri, 16 May 2014 08:05:47 EST Having trouble http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x57801659 Hi, I'm new to this team. I've been an off and on member of SP for several years. <BR> <BR> I'm not quite a senior yet. I've been widowed for almost 21 months. I can't seem to stick this time. And I really, really need to take this weight off. I know it's not helping me because it adds to the depression. <BR> <BR> There is "taking care of myself by eating healthy" and "taking care of myself by eating for comfort." <BR> <BR> <em>46</em> <BR> <BR> Any suggestions will be greatly apprecia... Thu, 8 May 2014 09:31:42 EST New http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x57592802 You may visit my page and find out about me. My husband passed away with Alzheimer's. I took care of him at home for years. Had to do every thing. The last 3 years of his life he had to be in a nursing home. I still went often to be sure he was bathed and dry and to see he was eating. It was a nightmare. I let myself go taking care of him and gained a lot of weight. I was overweight before but became obese. <BR> I knew nothing about Alzheimer's as I had no experience with it so didn'... Mon, 21 Apr 2014 14:27:21 EST EASTER http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x57588820 HELLO EVERYONE. I HOPE THAT ALL HAD A GOOD EASTER. <BR> <BR> THIS WAS OUR FIRST EASTER & HOLIDAY WITHOUT MY SWEET ALAN. IT WAS HARD, BUT WE GOT THRU IT. AS MUCH AS I MISS HIM, I WOULD NOT WANT HIM BACK IN THE PHYSICAL CONDITION, PAIN & SUFFERING THAT HE WAS IN AND HAD BEEN IN FOR MORE THEN THE LAST 12 YEARS OF HIS LIFE. <BR> <BR> OLDEST DD SPENT SATURDAY NIGHT WITH YOUNGEST DD & I, AND THEN ALL 3 OF US WENT TO CHURCH ON EASTER MORNING. THIS IS THE 1ST TIME THAT I'VE BEEN ABLE TO GO TO... Mon, 21 Apr 2014 09:27:30 EST Hi http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x57328970 Prayers going out to EVERYONE. <em>458</em> I'm so glad that even there was many warnings, that none of you experienced tornadoes. Here where I am were suppose to get rain from today thru Thursday. Was under a tornado warning yesterday and will stay under that warning till Thursday.......according to one of our local meterologists. <BR> <BR> Last night I loaded some new photos onto my spark page, for anyone who is interested in looking. <BR> <BR> I hope this is not too personal of ... Mon, 31 Mar 2014 10:31:47 EST new and in tennessee http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x57234473 hello,, i am new to your team.as of today i joined it.my name is pat and i live in tennessee. look forward to being a part of this group.i lost my best friend for 24 years. we were married for 13 but friends etc for 24 total.i lost him in jan of this year.we were divorced but still quiet close.i miss him every day. Sun, 23 Mar 2014 18:04:19 EST New & from Colorado http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x56878699 My name is Peggy, 66 years old & my husband passed away July 3, 2013 & it has been really hard. Dennis was diagnosed with esophageal cancer June 2010 & he went through chemo & radiation & he even had major surgery. Once he was diagnosed our lives were never the same. He was my best friend/husband. I miss him terribly! Sat, 22 Feb 2014 23:39:54 EST Hello http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x56855680 I am not really a senior, but I am a widow, and I guess I am finally starting to realize it. My husband died in an accident while he was on holiday last September. I was at home as I couldn't take time off work. Then I got a phone call from the police that would change my life. I know I went to identify his body and saw that he was dead, but I just felt for months that he was still on holiday...but recently it has really started sinking in...I am alone. I gained a lot of weight that I had pre... Fri, 21 Feb 2014 02:26:33 EST Getting back on track http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x56800278 I am a 47 year old widow, it has been almost 6 months. I gave myself 6 months to do and eat anything, so now I am trying to get healthier. It has been so long since I worried about myself, I am afraid this is going to be very difficult. Sun, 16 Feb 2014 20:08:12 EST The Kennedy Assassination http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x55728415 50 Years Later, the Kennedy Assassination Still Haunts a Generation---------------this is the heading of an article I just read and I thought it would be interesting to hear if you can remember where you were or what you were doing when you first heard this terrible news. <BR> <BR> I remember that I had just got in from writing my high school final exams and was shocked and even distressed on hearing the news on the radio. <BR> Roz. Fri, 22 Nov 2013 10:25:18 EST Appreciative of this forum http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x55012831 On July 22, we took my husband to the ER as he was having issues with his balance and had fallen and his legs appeared swollen. The initial assessment did not show any cardiac issues but they wanted to do further tests so admitted him. The next morning the doctor explained that he had pancreatic cancer with leissions in the liver. We met with the palliative team to discuss therapy at a nursing home followed by hospice care. On July 27, he passed away. It seemed so unreal. He retired June 30th... Tue, 24 Sep 2013 02:46:51 EST sister passed away. http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x52863526 This has been a bad week for me. My sister passed away on Easter Sunday March 31,2013. She didn't have life insurance so me and my other sisters and brothers had to come up with the money to get her buried. We had the service on Friday. So now I can let go of the stress from that now. But it brought back a lot of memories of my Bob passing 2 years ago. Can't wait to get outside and works in the flower beds. <BR> <BR> <BR> Take care ladies <BR> <BR> Theresa Sun, 7 Apr 2013 08:23:34 EST trying to be positive http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x51340826 I lost my wonderful husband in March of this year. We were going to celebrate 39 years in August. He wasn't ill,he went in for hip surgery and never came home.Ended up having heart complications.I miss him so very much. We did everything together. I am trying to get back on track. I have lost most interest in preparing myself dinner and I haven't been paying much attention to what I am eating. I am looking for support and suggestions. I work full-time and I am looking for some easy no brainer... Thu, 27 Dec 2012 07:19:50 EST Facing Reality http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x50694306 On Monday was the first time I went back to my husband's graveside my s-i-l accompanied me. I was very calm and in a good frame of mind we cleaned up the grave site and planted some flowering shrubs I feel that I can go back alone anytime now and not feel too sad but look at it as a labour of love <BR> <BR> Last Wednesday my daughter and I decided to attend a funeral service ,the first since my husband's passing last August. It so happened that I was seated outside the church so I did not ... Mon, 5 Nov 2012 01:00:37 EST Two weeks ago today http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x50557829 Hi. My name is Laurie. My husband of 29 years passed away suddenly two weeks ago today. <BR> <BR> We celebrated our 29th anniversary on September 29th and took a trip to Puerto Rico. We left on October 5th and returned on October 12th. We had a "normal" afternoon and evening doing all the things you do on return from a trip. He prepped his bicycle for his weekly Saturday morning ride with the bike club. We went to bed at 9:30 and at 10:15 he got out of bed, gave out a little cry and collaps... Fri, 26 Oct 2012 09:37:27 EST Mourning Customs http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x50343901 I'm interested to know what is, if there is any customs concerning mourning for one's loved ones where you are. <BR> <BR> In the Caribbean and especially in Trinidad where I am, the bereaved person is expected to wear black or very dark clothing for a certain time, some 3 months some 6, or even a year. <BR> <BR> What is done where you are, and how do you feel about this? <BR> <BR> Roz. Thu, 11 Oct 2012 11:50:50 EST 23 days http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x49758077 Hi, my name is Rosalind ,friends call me Roz . <BR> <BR> I live in Trinidad in the Caribbean and today is 23 days since my dear husband went to be with the Lord. <BR> <BR> Thought I would join this group where I'll be able to chat with someone who could identify with my loss and grief at this time. <BR> <BR> On Saturday 8th would be 39 years since we had been married. <BR> We had been together for 43 years!!!! <BR> <BR> We have two married daughters and two lovely granddaughters. <BR> Sta... Mon, 3 Sep 2012 22:52:08 EST Still grieving http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x48750222 Hi! My name is Linda and I am still grieving after 8-1/2 years. Pretty much everyone around me has moved on (without me) and act like there is something wrong with me for still missing the man I was married to for 30 years. My children try to understand but would rather I not talk about their Dad. My friends are all gone; dwindling away one by one like being a widow is contagious. I think that's the part that hurts the most now...being truly alone. I joined this team hoping to find one other ... Fri, 29 Jun 2012 15:05:23 EST Happy Easter http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x47480404 Happy Easter everyone, <BR> <BR> I went to the 8:00 Mass this morning. Not to crowded for a change. Very nice homily by the priest really enjoy it so much today. I missed my Bob not being here today. It has been 1 year and 4 months since he passed. Not a day go by that I don't think of him. My arthritis have been acting up the last two weeks. Hopefully it will get better soon. I hope that everyone is having a Nice Easter today. Take care everyone. <BR> <BR> <BR> Theresa <BR> <em>... Sun, 8 Apr 2012 09:56:06 EST Merry Christmas http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x45642856 Hello Everyone, <BR> <BR> Merry Christmas and God Bless us all today. Life does it better. My husband Bob passed away 1 year ago this month. So I little sad today. I missed him so much wish that he was here to share today with. But life does goes on and we must go along with it or we will be stuck in the past. <BR> <BR> Take care everyone <BR> <BR> Theresa <em>446</em> Sun, 25 Dec 2011 09:17:06 EST One year annv. of my husband Bob passing. http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x45466382 It has been 1 year on Dec 7th since my Bob passed away. Missed him so much. He was such a wonderful husband and father. It is hard to talk to other person who have not gone through losing a spouse, they just want you to get on with your life. Two months ago I went and had all my teeth pull and dentures put in and now I don't have any sinus problems like before it is true what they say that you teeth and gums can cause alot of problems with your health if you don;t take care of them. I d... Sun, 11 Dec 2011 10:25:33 EST Hi all http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x43349008 I've been widowed 6 1/2 months now and it's time for me to start looking outward. My daughter is my inspiration. She has been a member of Sparkpeople for several months and has lost over 40 pounds since her Dad's death. She is encouraging me to find myself and lose these extra pounds that I've been carrying around for years, so I'm going to work at doing that and feeling better so I'm around as my grandchildren grow up and I enter this new and scary chapter of my life. Wish me luck! Wed, 3 Aug 2011 12:56:47 EST Hi Everyone http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x42902667 Hi everyone, <BR> <BR> I doing fine. Thursday was 7 months since Bob passed away. Took the day off from doing things around the house. Just had a me day for myself. His estate is close now. Just trying to a get the loan from the house into my name. A slow process but will get done soon I hope. <BR> <BR> How is everyone doing. Been a awhile since I was on here. Been on widow.net and the ladies on that site are very nice and helpful. <BR> <BR> Theresa Sun, 10 Jul 2011 08:51:33 EST I just can't bear the loneiness this weekend. http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x41671343 We always did things on Friday, I am learning to get through that night, till now. Tomorrow is my birthday and no one here to kiss me good morning and wish me a happy one. Then Mother's Day, and he won't be here for that, I am just so unhappy now, and it feels like I just lost him again. I hate being so alone, and can't wait to move from here and get my handicap van, so if I get lonely I can at least go for a ride. Maybe if I have the tears tonight, I will get through the weekend easier. ... Fri, 6 May 2011 20:09:08 EST annv. http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x41639323 Today is Bob and mine wedding annv. So today I rembering today will a lot of love. We got married in Vegas, and I can still see us so happy together. It would have been 11 years today. And saturday will be 5 mos. since he died. So this month is kinda sad for me. But I will get through it. take care . <BR> <BR> Theresa Thu, 5 May 2011 08:22:03 EST Just a note to say "Hi" http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x41581470 My name is Linda and I'm almost 66 years old. My husband died in May of 2008. We were married for 43 years and I still miss him every day. Since I live alone, I frequently find myself with way too much time on my hands. I often reach for comfort food because I don't know what else to do. <BR> <BR> I woke up this morning and decided that I had to do something about my weight because it's spiraling out of control. Mon, 2 May 2011 17:27:01 EST Just found this team http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x40728559 I have been a Sparks member for a few years now but have not been on the site since I lost my hubby from cancer in September 2010. It will be 6 months tomorrow and I realise that I need to start eating healthily again. I just trawled through the teams and found this one. So here goes. Toe back in the water again. Don't know how my commitment will go, this bereavement kick is so up and down. Such a real roller coaster ride. I was married for 44 years and am finding it so hard to get thi... Tue, 22 Mar 2011 18:30:28 EST Am I wrong.....to hide my pain? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x40707008 I have been able to be super relaxed around the kids, but when I am home alone, I am a basket case. I have good days, and those I like, but the bad ones are really painful. I have the last shirt he had on and cling to it, smelling him and crying. Should I put it away or am I doing the right thing with it. I have so much to do, clean out a house, look for a new one, or an apartment, clean all his things out,, he was a hoarder, and that is taking forever. It hurts when I go past his room, ... Mon, 21 Mar 2011 20:27:38 EST coping http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x40647620 I finally found a support group to go to next month. The funeral home is having a six week course on the loss of a spouse. I need to know that I not alone. I miss my Bob more and more every day. I talk to his picture and its helps some, but I miss him so much. Nights are the worst being alone in the bed without him there beside me at night. So today I clean house and went through some things to give to goodwill and start to get things done around the house. I can feel some normalcy in ... Fri, 18 Mar 2011 21:17:03 EST Not sure what I am feeling is right. http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x40628006 Been feeling like I would like to be with someone, but is that just me being lonely or what. No there is no one in line, no one waiting, but I feel so alone at times, and if it weren't for my friends here and on Face Book I would be alone. My son in law told me they can't keep coming here so much, so when my daughter asked if I needed anything, I told her no, it was so hard to say that, but I am ok. I kinda went a bit nuts today and ordered $300 worth of new clothes, I need them, but it co... Thu, 17 Mar 2011 21:19:07 EST When does it stop.... http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x40069310 Today I tried to watch the Dr. Who series and couldn't, it was one of the only shows we watched together and as soon as the music started, I started to cry and felt so empty, I had to turn it off, couldn't bear to watch it. Will this ever end, when do things stop reminding me of him? Mon, 21 Feb 2011 12:59:06 EST Almost two weeks now.... http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x40021637 Hi, I'm Linda, and at 61 and in a wheelchair, I feel so alone. Gene passed unexpectedly on Feb. 8 this year. My pain is so intense with missing him, he left me so quickly and I wasn't ready to be alone. He had a massive heart attack and there was nothing they could do. He left me with a house, that is not handicap accessable, I think he liked me relying on him to get in and out. We didn't always have a great marriage, there was abuse and he and I separated for 3 years while he decided if... Sat, 19 Feb 2011 09:02:23 EST When does the pain and guilt stop from missing him http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x39375254 I still keep thinking there was something more that I could have done to save him. If he only told me sooner about the swelling in his feet and the pain in his stomach. I could hae got him to the hospital and they could have save him. I don't dream about him. I pray for his soul every day. I keep asking myself why did it have to happen. I missed him so much. I just want him here with me. When do you get to the point of taking off the wedding rings. I never want to take mine off. As a ... Sun, 23 Jan 2011 08:22:18 EST Hello http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x39128800 This is mhy first day finding this site and this forum. I have been a widow for 8 years now and I have younger children (now 21 and 13). I had just taken an early retirement from my corporate career to start my own consulting firm when my husband died and I went straight into crisis management mode for my children--they were so young. It has taken its toll on me--the kids are fine and I am almost 100 lbs. overweight. I live over 6 1/2 hrs. from my family. I am just now starting to let my f... Thu, 13 Jan 2011 11:38:56 EST grief http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x39007513 I keep wondering what I could have done to save my husband. If only he told me sooner about the blister on his feet and how bad they were swollen I could have got him to the hospital sooner and they could have save him. I keep going over it in my mind but no answer comes to me. I know that the Lord has a plan for me so my faith will help me get through. It has been 1 month since he died. Sun, 9 Jan 2011 10:04:28 EST Just became a widow http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x38704547 Hello, <BR> <BR> My name is Theresa and I just lost my husband this month on Dec. 7, 2010. I having a hard time adjusting to being alone and trying to settle his estate. I know that it will take time to get everything done. Sometimes I think why did this happen and what am I suppose to do now. But the Good Lord will help me through this difficult time of my life. Tue, 28 Dec 2010 20:21:34 EST new member.. http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x36306639 I lost my husband on March 4, 2010. It was a great shock to me and Ive had a really hard time adjusting to being alone after 38 years of marriage. I am getting better though. I developed depression and some anxiety, but being treated for that and doing fine now. I know I have to make a new life for myself, but other than going back to church and possibly doing some volunteer work, I have no idea what I will do with my life. My husband left me with a pretty good income and I have a home that i... Fri, 27 Aug 2010 04:12:41 EST when does it make sense again? http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x36201221 Have been widowed for 3 years, 3 months and 20 days (but who's counting)and still haven't totally found my new "legs". I seem out of step with some of my kids, esp. those living far away (one of my DIL's said that they still remember the married Mom). When they visit, I feel like a 3rd wheel following them around as they do their things. I keep real busy but I get nervous about what I'll do when I'm all 'caught up'. My best friend and her hubby died before my hubby soooooo. I truly miss bei... Sun, 22 Aug 2010 08:56:32 EST I'm needing prayers and hugs from my teammates. http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x35586328 I have had kinship custody of my 12-year old grandson, Austin, since September 1, 2009. This has been a busy and emotional two weeks with meetings in behalf of my dear grandson. I am having to make a choice between my grandson and his mother (my daughter). The choice is my grandson. I could use a lot of prayers on our behalf. I'm hoping to gain Guardianship custody of Austin next month. I truly don't believe my daughter will ever be ready to raise my grandson. We appear in court next month (8... Fri, 23 Jul 2010 10:24:24 EST Hello ;) http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x34993967 I lost my husband on May 15th last year. I found him in the front yard and tried to save him but I knew he had already died of a heart attack. We had just come home from dinner after work and in an instant he was gone. We met when we were 16 and 18 and married 2 years later. Last October we would have been married 37 years. It's really been hard learning to live alone for the first time. My sons are 27 and 29 and I also have 3 grandchildren (3 and 1 year old twins). No one really knows ... Wed, 23 Jun 2010 22:24:56 EST New at this http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x33188001 Happy Easter! I am a 53-year young-at-heart widowed mom of (3) children and (1) grandson. Since my beloved husband's passing in January, 2008, I have been eating unhealthy and gaining weight to which the doctor scared me into wanting to change my eating habits. I am hoping to meet others and having lasting friendships. Looking forward to hearing from you. Have a beautiful day. ~ Monika ~ Sun, 4 Apr 2010 08:17:58 EST Hi Just found this team http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=-1x7018x32667431 My dh passed almost a yr & a 1/2 ago but, I'm still struggling with that plus the over 100 lbs gained while being his sole caregiver. I had originally joined in 2006 & then dropped out so am back to try to get things under control again. I did lose 37 lbs but still have just over 60 to go but sometimes just doesn't seem worth the effort! <BR> Sat, 13 Mar 2010 16:03:45 EST winter survival http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x21510381 Jan and Feb have always been awful for me but now that I am a widow, snow has taken on a whole new dimension! I used to walk out the door to beautifully snowblown drives and decks, etc. Hah! Now guess who gets to run the snowblower!!! Once I get going it's OK... I put headphones and music on. call my neighbor so she can call the EMT's if I don't call her back in a reasonable amount of time. Same with garbage. It used to make its way magically to the edge of the road. However, retuning t... Mon, 5 Jan 2009 19:56:42 EST Sunshine Inn http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x5936640 <em>67</em> <em>67</em> <em>67</em> <em>67</em> <BR> <BR> This is our thread where we will post uplifting quotations, articles, and posts. The first one is from the web site "God's Garden" http://members.aol.com/rosebytes/index.htm <BR> <BR> God's Garden in the Sun <BR> <BR> God sent me down a ray of hope <BR> and it has broken through <BR> Tomorrow is a brand new day <BR> and I can start anew <BR> The forecast is for sunny skies <BR> with not a cloud in sight <BR> So I'm getting m... Wed, 11 Apr 2007 23:26:02 EST Welcome to New Members http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x5864228 <em>235</em> <BR> <BR> <em>227</em> PLEASE DO NOT REPLY TO THIS MESSAGE! <BR> We want this message to appear at the top and if you reply, it will move down. This should be the only message in this thread! <BR> <BR> "What is a team? One generally accepted definition is: <BR> <BR> A small number of people with complementary skills who are equally committed to a common purpose, goals, and working approach for which they hold themselves mutually accountable." <BR> <BR> Source: Katzenba... Sun, 8 Apr 2007 13:05:57 EST Introduce Yourself! http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x5863793 Please tell us about yourself. Please feel free to tell us as much or as little as you would like at this time. I am sure as time goes by we will get to know more about each other. <BR> <BR> Janice <BR> <em>223</em> Sun, 8 Apr 2007 12:19:55 EST widowhood and health http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_messageboard_thread.asp?board=0x7018x4318440 I'm a 70+ year old widow who has had 2 heart attacks and wants to be healthier, but finding it difficult while living alone. I have 3 dogs, and get exercise by walking them, but eating habits are poor. I suffer from depression as well, but trying to overcome that on a daily basis. Wed, 10 Jan 2007 09:51:34 EST