SparkPeople Friends In Recovery Team Messageboard WELCOME! You are among friends. We offer support for anyone in recovery. When someone reaches out for help, this group will always be there. Together we celebrate health, growth, joy and sobriety! SparkPeople Friends In Recovery Team Messageboard new to team Hello, <BR> <BR> I am grateful for opportunity to become a part of this community. <BR> <BR> TJ Mon, 21 Dec 2020 11:20:29 EST DAILY MEDITATION - POCKET SPONSOR - 24 HOURS A DAY A posting for today from Pocket Sponsor: <BR> <BR> Before our recovery, we used people and loved things, and given recovery, we learn to love people and use things. Things are not important, people are. <BR> <BR> I treat others the way I would be treated. Fri, 17 Apr 2020 09:51:50 EST FINDING BLESSINGS IN THE 12 STEPS I THINK THERE ARE CERTAIN THINGS WE LOVE TO HEAR AT AN AA MEETING, AND AT MY HOME GROUP, SOMEONE ALWAYS READS "HOW IT WORKS" FROM CHAPTER 5 OF THE BIG BOOK. HEARING THE PREAMBLE IS ALSO IMPORTANT TO ME, AND MANY TIME SOMEONE WILL ASK IF THEY CAN READ THE PROMISES, AND THOSE PROMISES DO BECOME A REALITY IN OUR LIVES. <BR> <BR> I'M FEELING TODAY THE IMPORTANCE OF SHARING ON GRATITUDE. LIFE ISN'T ALWAYS GOING THE WAY WE WANT IT TO BE, BUT IT DEFINITELY HAS NEVER MADE ME FEEL UNGRATEFUL FOR THIS... Tue, 11 Feb 2020 10:40:27 EST AS RECOVERING ALCOHOLICS, WE COME TO BELIEVE AS RECOVERING ALCOHOLICS, WE OPEN ARE EYES AND SEE THINGS DIFFERENTLY THAN WHEN WE WERE USING. WE VIEW ALCOHOL IN A DIFFERENT LIGHT, A DAY AT A TIME, WE LEARN TO COPE WITH LIFE'S STRESSFUL SITUATIONS. WE KNOW IF WE WERE EVER TO FALL BACK INTO THE CLUTCHES OF ALCOHOL, IT WOULD DESTROY US. YOU CAN READ PEOPLE'S STORIES OF WHAT HAPPENED TO THEM, AND WHAT LIFE IS LIKE NOW. WE LEARN TO COPE THROUGH EACH SITUATION WE FACE IN LIFE. DRINKING WOULD NEVER MAKE THINGS BETTER. IT WOULD BE CATASTROPHIC TO... Sun, 10 Nov 2019 18:13:58 EST STACY E SHARES HER EXPERIENCE STRENGTH & HOPE Stacy, each year gives me permission to share her Story in Recovery. She has even been asked by Law Enforcement to come and share her story in jails, treatment centers and other places as well. I feel honored that she gives me her permission to share it with you. <BR> <BR> If anyone who reads Stacy's Story, is struggling to stay clean &amp; sober, NEVER GIVE UP! <BR> <BR> <BR> **long post alert** <BR> <BR> I post something like this every year, but every year I have more blessings to add ... Thu, 31 Oct 2019 19:03:54 EST Living One Day at a Time Being clean &amp; sober is so wonderful. You are getting healthier. Living one day at a time. Holidays are the hardest &amp; it's only 1 day. We can do this! Sun, 21 Oct 2018 11:50:52 EST FROM THE BIG BOOK July 21 <BR> <BR> Alcoholics Anonymous - Big Book - The Man Who Mastered Fear <BR> <BR> He spent eighteen years in running away, and then found he didn’t have to run. So he started A.A. in Detroit. All this changed when I was thirty years old. My parents died, both in the same year, leaving me, a sheltered and somewhat immature man, on my own. I moved into a “bachelor hall.” These men all drank on Saturday nights and enjoyed themselves. My pattern of drinking became very different from th... Sat, 21 Jul 2018 11:15:56 EST FOOD FOR THOUGHT - O.A. MEDITATION July 16 <BR> <BR> FOOD FOR THOUGHT <BR> <BR> Hard Right or Easy Wrong? <BR> <BR> We are constantly faced with choices, and often we are tempted to follow the way of least resistance. In our dealings with others and ourselves it is usually easier to say yes than no, but yes is not always the best answer. If we are too permissive, we become lax and ineffective. <BR> <BR> The problem with taking the easy way is that it usually ends up being harder in the long run. If we do not control ou... Sun, 16 Jul 2017 16:11:09 EST BIG BOOK CHAPTER 5 - HOW IT WORKS Chapter 5 <BR> <BR> How It Works <BR> <BR> Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves. There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which demands... Tue, 25 Apr 2017 11:32:09 EST Hurt feelings in the Rooms Ever had a person in the rooms really hurt your feelings and then be all like ugh, I never want to see her again in a meeting and get all down on recovery just because of the one thing that hurt your feelings. <BR> <BR> I have spoken with my sponsor at length and I know my disease wants me dead so I get that and I haven't skipped any meetings but I am so hurt and mad (which for me look a lot alike) that I am letting go of it here in hopes of some Experience Strength and Hope. <BR> <BR> I ma... Mon, 6 Feb 2017 12:18:49 EST Food and Using (cheat days) So I have been thinking really hard about my relationship to food and my disease of addiction lately. It started with a battle over the concept of a cheat day in my head. I don't think that will work for me and here is why....... <BR> <BR> I can't have an opiate cheat day or a wine cheat day and you all know why. It's this disease. It is so much harder with food. I am going to have to change my mind frame with food from I can't have one to I must only have one (serving) whether it be an... Tue, 13 Dec 2016 12:23:34 EST Just For Today November 2 <BR> <BR> Just For Today <BR> <BR> Living with unresolved problems <BR> <BR> Page 320 <BR> <BR> "It makes a difference to have friends who care if we hurt." <BR> <BR> Basic Text, p.56 <BR> <BR> For most of our problems, the solution is simple. We call our sponsor, pray, work the steps, or go to a meeting. But what about those situations where the burden is ongoing and there's no end in sight? <BR> <BR> Most of us know what it's like to live with a painful situation-a proble... Wed, 2 Nov 2016 09:55:53 EST The Al-Anon Promises The Al-Anon Promises <BR> From Survival to Recovery (page 269) <BR> <BR> "If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of the <BR> Twelve Steps, our lives will be transformed. We will become <BR> mature, responsible individuals with a great capacity for joy, <BR> fulfillment, and wonder. <BR> <BR> Though we may never be perfect, continued spiritual progress <BR> will reveal to us our enormous potential. We will discover that we <BR> are both worthy of love and loving. We ... Sun, 2 Oct 2016 14:48:38 EST Walk In Dry Places Daily Meditation September 3 <BR> <BR> Walk In Dry Places <BR> <BR> What is Possible? <BR> Spiritual Power. <BR> With God, all things are possible, goes an old saying. Yet most of us haven't seen any <BR> evidence of doing the impossible. <BR> But through our program, we have truly accomplished things that we had <BR> considered nearly impossible at one time. No human power could <BR> have relieved our alcoholism, we read in the AA Big <BR> Book. How many more conditions are we accepting because no human <B... Sat, 3 Sep 2016 20:13:23 EST 24 Hours A Day Meditation <BR> 24 Hours A Day Meditation <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> September 3 <BR> <BR> Thought for the Day <BR> <BR> <BR> "Offer new prospects friendship and fellowship. Tell them that if they want to get well you will do anything to help. Burn the idea into the consciousness of new prospects that they can get well, regardless of anyone else. Job or no job, spouse or no spouse, they cannot stop drinking as long as they place dependence on other people ahead of dependence on God. Let no alcoholic sa... Sat, 3 Sep 2016 19:17:21 EST Share Some Wisdom You've learned from AA Oldtimers Over the years, I've met some very wonderful people who touched my life in a very special way in AA. Two of them were great women who became my AA sponsors. Most of these people I came to know and admire have since, departed from this world. <BR> Many that I met made an impression in my life, and I have special remembrances of each of them. <BR> I never experienced Friendship like I have within the AA Groups that were a part of me. We all share this common bond being recovering Alcoholics. ... Mon, 1 Aug 2016 22:22:49 EST How Do You Get Through the Tough Times? I think we all face frustrating moments in our life. I know I have had my share over the years, and I still do. The thing is that before I got sober, the way I coped, I took a drink. <BR> When I sobered up, I found that I could deal with the the every day problems in my life without a drink. <BR> I have had one person in my life, especially, who very early in my sobriety began causing me problems, one of my Husband's sisters. <BR> My Husband has been a wonderful support to me, and has a... Sun, 31 Jul 2016 21:15:24 EST Those Significant Moments & Times In Our Recovery When I was able to surrender and could admit I was an Alcoholic, such a heavy burden was lifted from me. I felt at peace. I really wasn't sure how things would work, especially when I liked to have at least a couple of drinks each day. <BR> I was fortunate that my Husband had a Cousin, who was a recovering Alcoholic, and she was my first AA Sponsor. I remember going to her house, she gave me AA material, one being the Big Book. We made plans to go to a meeting. I lived 20 miles away from... Sat, 30 Jul 2016 23:55:39 EST weight issues I have had problems with food my entire life. and I was gained and lost so many times it is unreal...when I first got on sparks I called myself yo-yo queen because that is who I was. <BR> the last four yrs I had given up on weight lose. I was up to 198 pounds and I would get up take my daughter to school and come home and sleep. I would get up about 1pm and eat but stay on the couch. i would pick my daughter up and be with her. when her dad came home i would cook dinner and eat it and than g... Sun, 10 Apr 2016 15:56:55 EST Al-Anon Podcast Links Sometimes I want to hear a voice, a meeting: online. Here are a few links I've found that I've used. Perhaps others would be interested in them, too? <BR> <BR> <link> </link> <BR> <link><BR>ion=category&amp;id=7 </link> <BR> <link> </link> <BR> <link> </link> Mon, 28 Mar 2016 01:09:43 EST Al-Anon Hello, Deb here. I was so glad to find this group on Spark People. It's nice to be able to touch base with some of the basic literature and reminders. I'm looking forward to connecting with others here. Sat, 26 Mar 2016 17:18:31 EST Emotional Freedom Technique I found that EFT (or tapping) is a great way to uncover and correct negative thoughts or emotions, even pain, that are holding you back. A recent video <link><BR>Series/nick-ortner-explains-tapping-post/ </link> discloses just how EFT does that. Fri, 12 Feb 2016 18:04:05 EST Suggestions for Books on Sobriety I recently read, "Drinking: A Love Story" by Caroline Knapp which I really enjoyed. I also started, "Your Six Week Plan: Join the Sober Revolution" by Sarah Turner and Lucy Rocca. I love that the book is so insightful and also a journal for people new to recovery, like me. Any other suggestions? <BR> <BR> <em>149</em> Thu, 11 Feb 2016 16:25:50 EST Dealing with Triggers How do you deal with triggers? It seems like as soon as I'm feeling strong, something random will make me think about drinking (i.e. song on the radio). Any suggestions on how to deal with these sudden triggers? Tue, 9 Feb 2016 16:03:06 EST Anxious about Super Bowl Party Wine Free I always look forward to the Super Bowl regardless whose playing. Getting together with friends, food and way too much alcohol has always been a tradition. Since I'm still early in my recovery, I know I need to be very careful. My fiancée said we could watch it at home, but I don't really want to do that to him or to myself. I don't want to start avoiding friends and family just because they are able to drink without incident. I feel like I'll be fine and planning to take a bottle of my ... Fri, 5 Feb 2016 15:30:22 EST Reasons to stay sober... More energy and less moodiness Tue, 2 Feb 2016 14:41:40 EST Managing Thought and a Challenge for You I always did poorly in sports of any kind and could never keep my breath after running for one minute, and I doubted my manhood as I grew up. I never seriously thought of exercising or consider myself capable of excelling in any physical activity until after retiring. However, my health insurance provider said I needed to lose 32 pounds which is why I considered running in the first place when my daughter announced plans for her and her daughters to run a 5 K. At 67 I ran and walked 2 miles ... Wed, 6 Jan 2016 19:00:59 EST HELp please..fear of Relapse Cynthia here a grateful recovering addict. I am what is called a poly-substance user; meaning I used several drugs and had more than one drug of choice. My main two were alcohol and also cocaine. <BR> <BR> I have 11 years free of cocaine, by the grace of God. I just turned into my 9 month anniversary of be sober from alcohol. I am in danger of relapse. I never saw this coming and I must say I am embarrassed. I have been reworking steps, but struggling with 3. I've done the steps before and e... Mon, 7 Dec 2015 00:57:30 EST Hello I don't know if I belong here or not. I was in recovery for 3 years, out for 2, back in for 6, then my home group moved away to another town, too far to drive to. And at the time my study schedule in my final semester made it impossible. I don't have the desire to drink that I used to, but periodically I do drink too much in an evening. I don't enjoy it like I used to though. It's never as good as I expect it to be. I guess I'm confused. I was in AA in recovery and have some reservations abou... Sun, 22 Nov 2015 20:28:08 EST PRAYER FOR THE ADDICTED Do not be afraid. Do not be satisfied with mediocrity. Put out into the deep and let down your nets for a catch." - Pope St. John Paul II <BR> <BR> PRAYER FOR THE ADDICTED <BR> <BR> God of mercy, we bless you in the name of your Son, Jesus Christ, who ministered to all who come to Him. Give your strength to (name of the one I am praying for), who is bound by the chains of addiction. Enfold him/her in your love and restore him/her to freedom through your grace. <BR> <BR> Lord, look with ... Mon, 24 Aug 2015 15:06:24 EST Recovery Suggestions Welcome. I have been going through this one for a while, my home group is getting on my nerves, I know that when I am feeling that way it is something with me. I love my home group and have been secretary for almost 2 years. I am very active. I have been trying to figure out why I feel so annoyed recently. I actually opted to got to yoga last night and miss my home group. I did that because another member of my home group said that was the thing to do. Step back a little and I was glad for the aw... Fri, 14 Aug 2015 10:20:08 EST A cool story I heard last night St. Peter was doing a tour around heaven. He opened the first door and there was a table with the most amazing food, beautiful music playing. The people in the room had really long arms and elbows that would not move. They could not reach the food and they were miserable and staving. St. Peter asked the crowd, "What room is this?". The crowd replied "Hell" <BR> <BR> The second door was opened and the rooms were the same, wonderful food, sparkling drinks, beautiful music. The people were... Wed, 8 Jul 2015 09:20:53 EST Listen and Learn Twelve step programs give us hope for changing things according to our desires, and can serve as a sounding board for our concerns. But if we focus on listening to the views and experiences of others, we often learn that the solution is not what we were desiring; but, rather, that part of the solution was to change our concerns to something more worthy of our, and others, attention. John Tue, 23 Jun 2015 17:04:14 EST Let go and Let God (Al-Anon slogan) This is one of the most important slogans of the Al-Anon program but it is important to not abuse it by turning it into a mandate for displaying utter apathy toward the alcoholics need for compassion and understanding. Instead the slogan is meant to help us release the stress of trying to solve the problem of alcoholism by admitting that we have no control over the problem and instead focusing on self improvement and the wisdom of a higher power for guiding our relationship with the addict. ... Thu, 11 Jun 2015 19:54:33 EST Keep it simple (Al-Anon slogan) The book "One Day at a Time in Al-Anon" uses simple slogans that together give wise advice for facing complex problems. Many people stress themselves into a turmoil by looking for a complete and lasting solution to a problem where none within their power exists in reality. Often the reality is that the problem is not as serious as our confused thoughts make it. <BR> Why stress your self out looking for a lasting solution to a problem when the chances are that the problem will not last just ... Tue, 9 Jun 2015 21:21:20 EST First things First While changing your attitude towards alcoholism, letting go of resentment, controlling your impulse to complain and scold, and avoiding quarrels are all part of the 12 step program; we all must first take care of the things that matter most - 1. our children, 2. job responsibilities, and 3. our home. 1-Teach the children responsibility and compassion/respect for others, including the alcoholic; do not use them as pawns in your quarrels, help them understand that the whole family unit is impo... Mon, 8 Jun 2015 09:30:24 EST Easy Does It (Al-Anon Slogan) There is nothing so important as being right or changing another's viewpoint that needs to be turned into a heated discussion. Why stress your self out because another doesn't see things as you do. Even in marriage, the two spouses seldom see everything exactly as the other and a good marriage often depends upon not reacting too strongly to criticism or accusation, whether justified or not. Life always has its bumps but if you take it easy you can ride the waves. Rather than get into heated ... Sun, 7 Jun 2015 09:33:53 EST Think (Al-Anon Slogan) Think before reacting or speaking since thoughts spoken when the mind is not quiet and calm can lead to self harm just as a bee kills itself when it stings you. To give impulsive criticism, display impatience or hostility, or speak words of anger all tend to sting you back. A thoughtful act or word will make the situation less stressful and give you more peace. <BR> <BR> Join My Team: Building/Improving Healthy Relationships <link><BR>ndividual.asp?gid=... Sat, 6 Jun 2015 07:43:37 EST Life is Hard, but Clarity is Comin'! I am happy to say amidst the chaos and heartache I am staying sober one day at a time. I am almost a 90 day mark. I have been crying most of the morning as so much is out of control. My ex boyfriend has now declared he doesn't want to be friends at all. The rejection pierces at the very being of my heart. <BR> <BR> I sat on my bed just trying to figure things out. I got up and while standing I said OUT LOUD. "No matter what, I am NOT going to drink. I am NOT going to pick up drugging again."... Sun, 31 May 2015 12:44:23 EST Jonathan Lockwood Huie's Daily Inspirations Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal <BR> with the intent of throwing it at someone else; <BR> you are the one who gets burned. <BR> - The Buddha <BR> You create stress in your life by getting angry, <BR> and you can instantly remove <BR> that stress by granting forgiveness. <BR> - Jonathan Lockwood Huie <BR> Also one of today's readings lists 7 ways to control anger <link><BR>fore-it-stops-you-7.html </link> <BR> This is only part of Jonathan'... Wed, 27 May 2015 07:19:24 EST Temptation! Hi everybody! This is long. <BR> <BR> Since I stopped drinking (today is 61st day sober) I have only had the mildest desire to have a drink. You know, "it'll be ok to have a couple of beers with the guys". And I quickly quashed the thought. About once a week, I even meet up with friends at a local bar for a little while, drink iced tea and chat. <BR> <BR> Yesterday, I went to local bar to meet up. The bartender was one who hasn't seen me since I stopped drinking. She put my usual beer down ... Thu, 21 May 2015 12:17:29 EST Meetings So here's me on day 39 without a drink. I don't want to go to meetings, AA or otherwise. <em>530</em> <BR> <BR> Before you flame me, please understand that I'm talking about now, at this point in my sobriety. In the future, when (and I'm pretty it's when, not if) I really start thinking I can have a couple of beers with the guys, it'll be time to get out there. <BR> <BR> I have a whole list of reasons not to go to meetings, all boiling down to "I don't feel like it". The only reason I hav... Tue, 28 Apr 2015 16:24:33 EST Grief & Maintaining Sobriety Hi Team! <BR> <BR> I have been through many trials/losses in life. (I am sure we all have.) Nearly each time I have gone through a major life changing event I turned to drugs and alcohol and other unhealthy behaviors. I lost my mother when I was 18. Bad time to be sure; didn't clean up til meeting my now ex husband when I was 21. My grandmother died in 2001 a month after I got married. I relapsed in 2002 and finally admitted I really needed help and could not do this on my own. That was the ... Tue, 28 Apr 2015 07:27:26 EST AA v NA? Can anyone tell me if they find a significant difference between AA meetings and NA meetings? Sun, 12 Apr 2015 13:08:02 EST Checking In Hi all, <BR> <BR> Yesterday was my 21st day sober. It wasn't a good day. It wasn't a bad day, either, I just didn't feel like talking to anyone or even be around people. I had a desire to drink/drug, but not overwhelming, not even that bad, and I didn't do either. <BR> <BR> I tried doing an on-line AA meeting. After about 15 minutes, I didn't want to listen anymore and I certainly didn't want to talk. <BR> <BR> Wife tried engaging me in conversation, feeling something was wrong with me or ... Sat, 11 Apr 2015 09:12:06 EST A little guidance, please? I've read a few messages on this team forum about on-line meetings. I'd like to get into one today. <BR> <BR> I attempted to get to a meeting at noon today, but was held up at work long enough that I would have only made the last five minutes. I don't like being late for anything, let alone showing up right at the end. <BR> <BR> I could go to a Celebrate Recovery meeting tonight. Unfortunately, I didn't care for the meeting last week because of format and content to some extent. My wife wan... Fri, 3 Apr 2015 15:19:44 EST Embarassed to say... <em>39</em> I messed up big time. I should have seen this coming as my boyfriend and I are having major troubles; not attending Al-anon meets like I was, not asking for help like I should have, Just NOT doing what I needed to do. The TRUTH is, I threw away the months of sobriety I had. I feel so ashamed. I haven't told anyone til now; not here; not in my other recovery group that is online. The only one that knew is God, me and boyfriend. <BR> <BR> I would tell you what happened, but I am... Mon, 16 Mar 2015 02:53:24 EST Doing Better But... I have badly swollen ankles and feet from exercising. I'm gonna have to stay off of my feet for a couple of days. Dratted Fibromyalgia! <em>40</em> <BR> <BR> Overall I'm doing much better this week (week 2). I've been logging my nutrition, and keeping within range. I'm feeling more confident and prideful about the SP Program too. Now I need to find a workout routine I can stick with. Thu, 19 Feb 2015 10:27:51 EST What's For Dinner Tonight? I'm having a large Fresh Broiled Salmon filet (with lemon, no tartar sauce) and Green Beans. <em>4</em> Fri, 13 Feb 2015 17:08:35 EST Off To A Rough Start :-( Happy Thursday my Friends. I'm just 4 days into this new food and fitness management program (my Diet). I'm having a hard time sticking to 1300 calories, so I keep ending up eating like 2000. I got my Gazelle exerciser out of storage, but when I tried using it my I ended up with knee pain and swelling (I have fibromyalgia). This feels like depression and I'm not sleeping well at night. Night time is when I get hungry and I overeat. I am gonna stick with this though. I have made some good chan... Thu, 12 Feb 2015 22:35:22 EST Greetings & Salutations Hi All, I'm Sheri from The Monterey Peninsula, CA. I'm returning to SP after taking a few years off. I need to lose about 80 lbs. I have an extensive background in Recovery, but most recently I got clean off of prescribed pain meds one year ago January 25th. I have Fibromyalgia. My Pain management Dr. was very generous writing the prescriptions. I ended up chasing high dosage Oxycodone and Norco for 8 years STRAIGHT! <BR> <BR> I'm looking for a home team where I can hang out and make some p... Tue, 10 Feb 2015 00:08:47 EST Celebrating One Year Clean! Hi There I'm proud and thrilled to be One Year Clean off of pain meds on January 25th! Mon, 9 Feb 2015 23:55:49 EST It's my birthday!!!! I am so very grateful that God has been by my side helping me get through the last 365 days one day at a time. I pray He will continue to be with me as I continue my journey down life's path doing as He wants. <BR> <BR> Blessings to all my friends, family, sponsors, counselors and even strangers that have helped me through all the ups and downs. <BR> <BR> <em>520</em> Wed, 15 Oct 2014 02:06:06 EST Today is a VERY special day! Today is my 10 year anniversary from active addiction! <BR> Talk about gratitude for the program... It saved my life. <BR> <BR> Got on the scale this morning and, to my surprise, my goal weight has been reached! <BR> That is a weight loss of over 90 pounds. <BR> <BR> Now the challenge begins... <BR> The challenge is keeping it off long term. <BR> Will just do a little happy dance. <BR> The big happy dance will be in a year when I have maintained both recovery and weight loss. <BR> <BR> Co... Tue, 30 Sep 2014 14:15:19 EST ES&H needed here. I have been going to al-anon online meetings for a little over a month now. I have found them so helpful, yet I have trouble remembering all that I have learned and I certainly have not been doing well to apply what I have learned. I know I am new, so I need to someit easy. It's just that I am frustrated that I can't seem to apply the part about not reacting, but instead detaching. It makes sense...but I just react without thinking. <BR> <BR> Tonight's meeting was for newbies, and so the 3 C... Fri, 19 Sep 2014 21:39:25 EST Arrggh...vent <em>28</em> This is about how I feel...along with some other emotions that I am not sure how to name other than I feel the tears wanting to come. <BR> <BR> My boyfriend has been sober for a little while now, but not a very long time. Anyhow his medication for illness (mental) has been off as his Dr. put him on a new medication. He was only on it for a week, but it really messed with him, so she took him off of it. He was a nervous wreck and yesterday he took his normal dose of anxiety med ... Sat, 16 Aug 2014 17:20:58 EST HELP...Really Struggling!!! I am so very tired...both emotionally and physically. I'm not sure in my intro that I talked about my chronic health conditions other than bipolar and anxiety. Well the list goes on. I have been dealing with Fibro for past 4 years and a really bad flare for past 4 months...a lot of pain and fatigue. I also have hypothyroidism, which was under control until earlier this year. Now my levels are way elevated even though the Synthroid was upped. I can't help but wonder if that is making my fibro ... Fri, 25 Jul 2014 23:22:09 EST Question re Realistic Expectations of Addict My husband has relapsed on alcohol for the umpteenth time. I have sent him to numerous programs/inpatient treatment. He does well for a month or two after then we wind up here again and again and again...At this point we have no money and no way to borrow money for treatment as his last few rounds have put us into bankruptcy. He says he wants to stop. He knows this is killing him. He ended up in ICU for a week last time around. So my question: <BR> <BR> Is it reasonable for me to tell... Thu, 17 Jul 2014 12:18:21 EST Thinking about comment made at Al-Anon Hi there! <BR> <BR> I was at an Al-Anon meeting on Monday (which was wonderful!) and have been trying to process one comment someone made who has been in the program for a long time. She said that for most of us (us referring to those who've been at the meetings a long time), the drinking in the home got worse but the relationships got better. What I find myself wondering is does the drinking getting worse side of the trend simply speak to the fact that alcoholism is a progressive disease ... Wed, 2 Jul 2014 23:43:06 EST national recovery month, sept. 2013 This years theme is ...many pathways to wellness... <BR> <BR> In meadville pa, we r having a celebration which includes many partners in our recovery from the community, 12 step programs, treatment programs, counseling centers, herbal medicines, therapy dogs, yoga, tai chi, labyrinth...speakers, clean count down and more. <BR> <BR> Are others around the nation and beyond celebrating recovery this month? <BR> please share. Thu, 5 Sep 2013 19:56:50 EST Step 12 This team only has one leader right now. You may have noticed I haven't been doing the daily meditations on a daily basis. I do blog a lot, but I don't have the zen for written meditations for whatever reason. So there is an opening, as it were, for a co leader or two. I'm fine with continuing to do what I do but just wanted people to know that the door is open. Thu, 1 Aug 2013 08:03:41 EST New to this Hi, I'm Pam and I'm an alcoholic. I had my last drink on Dec. 30, 2012 and I started attending AA six weeks ago. I live in a remote rural area so only make one meeting a week and wanted more of the support and kindness I've found there. It's been a tough year with deep disappointment in my work life (I was laid off and have been unable to find another position) and my son who is bi-polar has been extremely difficult. I've been on Spark People for several years, but always gave up - then one d... Sat, 15 Jun 2013 01:30:35 EST Healing Rhythms - Relax, Relieve & Restore BONNIEMARGAY posted this info on another team I belong to and thought it might be of interest. <BR> <BR> "Healing Rhythms - Relax, Relieve & Restore is a 15-Step inner journey of inspirational guidance. <BR> <BR> Presenter Dr. Deepak Chopra, along with top leaders in the world of wellness such as Dr. Dean Ornish and Dr. Andrew Weil and others, will expand your mind-body training experience to new levels to inspire and motivate as you head down the path toward greater well-being and happines... Sat, 8 Jun 2013 23:24:45 EST DAILY QUOTES - POST YOUR FAVOURITES "Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared." <BR> <BR> Buddha <BR> Sat, 8 Jun 2013 23:12:51 EST Relapse I have been sober for several years and have not been going to meetings lately. But tonight I had a horrible time at my mothers house...she is very negative toward me. i came home and poured a coffee cup full of whiskey and guzzled it. As soon as i did it i knew it was I want a beer and i am thinking of going into town to get more to drink. I tried to look for a meeting but the meeting in my town for tonight was at 6 and i didn't even start looking until 7. now that I've had a d... Sat, 8 Jun 2013 21:30:46 EST Air the situation and maybe find what you need Anyone having a problem with working a specific step? <BR> Or a place to vent when things are going wrong - maybe at home or work? <BR> Not sure how to apply the AA programme in a specific situation? <BR> Gone off AA or whatever Anonymous programme you belong to? <BR> Don't like meetings? <BR> Feel like an alien in an earth body? - I did <BR> Just plain fed up with some people? <BR> Need help with the fourth step? <BR> Sober and still depressed? - I was for years <BR> Feel trapped and going ... Fri, 31 May 2013 23:51:50 EST denial Why am I in much denial about how heavy I am <em>46</em> Sun, 24 Feb 2013 10:07:58 EST Message Removed Message Removed Sun, 10 Feb 2013 07:53:42 EST Need to take care of ME! Been off Spark people for a year, in that time I've gained back my 18lbs, plus! Just like anything else in my life I need to keep at it. Better back then not at all. If I could incorporate what I've learned in the past almost 3 years into everything I do, I'd do better. Work in progress!! Sun, 27 Jan 2013 09:30:27 EST Finished Treatment Well folks I am home now after my 30 day treatment stay. I am feeling great and totally energized, comes with being clean and sober. <BR> <BR> I have a different perspective this time after my second time through treatment in 12 years. I finally get it that I can never drink again, I cannot control it and I cannot ever become a "social drinker" so I am prepared to move on with my life on this basis. Right now I am still busy building a support network and developing a recovery plan out of t... Thu, 13 Sep 2012 09:13:40 EST Back in one month! Well folks I have been sober this time around for one month and counting. In order to keep my employment I am required to do a 30 day residential treatment program wich I will be starting on Monday. I cannot have any electronic communication devices with me and I will not have access to the Internet so its farewell until then. <BR> <BR> Good luck to all and I'll send a note when I am back online. Sat, 11 Aug 2012 10:22:40 EST How do you do it? How can it be that I am clean and sober but can't stop or even cut down on drinking sodas? I know that in a way I tell myself I deserve to drink sodas because I enjoy them and I gave up alcohol and drugs and "everyone does something". But I realize that drinking so many sodas (at least 6-8 a day) is harmful to my weight loss program and my health in general. But I just can't seem to put the kind of energy into cutting back on sodas that I put into quitting drugs/alcohol. Maybe because I never... Wed, 8 Aug 2012 21:17:56 EST Back in Recovery Hi all: <BR> <BR> I have been a Spark member in the past and have been a recovering alcoholic for a lot of years. Lately I had a serious relapse during which I left Spark and all my connections here. I rejoined using another nickname and I am starting clean once more. I am one month sober now from my relapse and I am feeling more positive now than the last 10 years in off and on recovery. <BR> <BR> I attend AA meetings but my main support comes from a group called LifeRing Tue, 31 Jul 2012 10:02:02 EST BUILDING SELF ESTEEM This particular exercise is not an account of the good and 'not so good' - it is a written account of good things only. <BR> <BR> It is especially helpful when I am filled with depression and feel as if I have accomplished nothing in the day, week, month, year - you know how it is with depression, all we can see is the negative and it seems like we have always felt this way. <BR> <BR> This exercise is a way of keeping track of the good stuff we can and do accomplish no matter how bad we ma... Mon, 23 Jul 2012 00:46:32 EST Hi Everyone! Just wanted to say hello and wish everyone a great evening. I am very grateful to be 292 days clean and sober today, and feeling very humble because I know it would not be possible for me to even be alive without my Higher Power, my family, and a couple of dear friends who never stopped believing in me. God gave me one more chance--I want to make Him glad He did! Wed, 6 Jun 2012 22:13:42 EST Hi.New to spark Hi.I just found this team on here and I joined spark a couple days ago for some weightloss support.I decided I was ready to lose some weight now after stopping drinking.Then I saw this team on here today.I am 27 days without alcohol today. Wed, 30 May 2012 22:39:28 EST Reflecting on my journey This season of the year was when I started my journey in 2001, and I've had many big moments along the years between Mother's Day and Memorial day. In Judaism, this is the season of Shavuot or first fruits, which was the occasion of the first disciples gathering on the day of Pentecost in Christianity. <BR> <BR> I think there is something about the length of these days that fills me with hope and peace, when the world (the northern hemisphere, anyway) is full of light but not yet inhospit... Tue, 22 May 2012 11:57:22 EST RECOVERY SABOTAGE Is there anyone in your life trying to sabotage your recovery? I have several people who aren't convinced that I am through with drinking and are continuing to invite me to pubs, and send me email around drinking; even my own husband who continues to drink frequently talks about drinking and how good it feels. I am maintaining my sobriety with the help of God and SparkPeople. I was just wondering if I am alone in this. <em>252</em> i would love to hear from others who are facing a si... Thu, 5 Apr 2012 12:41:26 EST M is for March and... maintenance Mon, 5 Mar 2012 17:16:05 EST NEW to SPARKPEOPLE and HOW TO NAVIGATE THE SITE? <em>306</em> <em>220</em> <em>306</em> <em>220</em> <em>306</em> <em>220</em> <em>306</em> <em>220</em> <em>306</em> <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>235</em> to SparkPeople! SparkPeople offers many amazing tools, resources and community features that it can be overwhelming to know how to begin, especially when you're new to the site. The following is a link to the SparkPeople Tutorial Videos that not only offers step-by-step instructions on how to use the tools of this wonderful site, but w... Sun, 12 Feb 2012 12:37:07 EST UNEMPLOYED & frustrated w/God.PLZ share your E,S,H Unemployed and frustrated with God. Please share you experience, strength & hope. <BR> <BR> Hello all my beloved fellow recovering Alcoholics (and such), I have been unemployed for two years this month. I graduated from undergrad and law school, and I am an active member of the bar. <BR> <BR> I am stuck between a rock (I have the degree) and a hard place (no experience and over qualified for "survivor" jobs) I have applied for hundreds of jobs, including paralegal, legal assistant, deli w... Wed, 8 Feb 2012 10:54:53 EST A great Welcome home! Hi, My name is Bonnie and I am a grateful member of Alanon....I have been more or less in recovery from co-dep.since 1998. This is such an insidous disease that I struggle with it over and over again...these days though, I seem to struggle less and enjoy my loved ones more! Overeating is my next addiction along with shopping which I had to pretty much discontinue several years ago. I work hard now to "spend within my means". <BR> The food is another thing. One of those things you can't do wit... Sat, 4 Feb 2012 19:48:55 EST You Found Me!! So glad to hear there is a Recovery page so that I can touch base! This makes me feel right at home! Thanks for contacting me! <BR> Bonnie Sat, 4 Feb 2012 19:37:37 EST F is for February and..... Fruit.....not sure why that is the only "F" word that came to mind, I must be hungry. <em>265</em> <em>277</em> <em>491</em> <em>45</em> Thu, 2 Feb 2012 11:25:24 EST SP FEATURE PRIVACY WARNING for BLOGS <em>215</em> <em>17</em> The following information was passed on to me from another team that I am on. Because I do not want anything I write to show up on someone else's facebook wall, I felt it was important for everyone to read this: <BR> <BR> A new feature on SparkPeople automatically added a "Share Bar" to our blog entries. <BR> <BR> If you'll notice your own blog now there is a "Share" bar at the top of the blog. That means if someone likes your blog entry they can "share" on thei... Sat, 14 Jan 2012 16:06:18 EST Post your favorite Emoticon <em>252</em> Mon, 2 Jan 2012 09:16:42 EST J is for January and... Just do it!! Mon, 2 Jan 2012 09:15:09 EST New to Sparkpeople; 17 years clean and sober Hello friends, I am just starting out on this journey to health and fitness. I am really down on myself for ending up like this - fat and sober. Oh well, nothing to do but go forward. I need some support. Help! Sun, 1 Jan 2012 21:15:24 EST DAILY MEDITATION JAN. 1 <BR> <BR> "In the new year, I will live one day at a time. I will make each day one of preparation for better things ahead. I will not dwell on the past or the future, only on the present. I will bury every fear of the future, all thoughts of unkindness and bitterness, all my dislikes, my resentments, my sense of failure, my disappointments in others, and in myself, my gloom and despondency. I will leave all these things buried and go forward, in this new year, into a new life." <BR... Sun, 1 Jan 2012 20:03:00 EST Reflections from 2011 into the New Year, 2012! <em>242</em> <em>220</em> <em>244</em> <em>220</em> <em>242</em> <em>220</em> <em>244</em> <em>220</em> <em>242</em> <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>243</em> on your 2011 achievements!! Today is the last day of the year, 2011. This year's end doesn't have to be an end or a beginning, but a CONTINUING ONWARD with all the wisdom we have received from our 2011 progresses and achievements. Reflect back at how far each one of you have come from the beginning of your journey into living a healthie... Sat, 31 Dec 2011 13:23:55 EST Newbie introduction Hello, I'm Gina. I'm in imperfect recovery with compulsive overeating and codependency. I've just joined the site to help me with my health goals and to work on reversing the isolation I've created for myself. I'm looking forward to participating and building community with this group. Fri, 23 Dec 2011 04:19:49 EST Three things you love about Christmas Well I am so into the festive spirit. Strange since I dont get out round the shops, well I havent managed it this year. But I can feel it in the air, and I guess I just love it so much. This is my all time favourite festival in the year. I love everything about it including all the hype and tinsel, the brightly lit houses and the music. Thats just some thoughts to start us off. <BR> <BR> I'd love to hear about all your favourite things. Sun, 11 Dec 2011 18:09:28 EST Recovery Jokes and Humor <em>246</em> <em>30</em> <em>100</em> <em>246</em> <em>30</em> <em>100</em> <em>246</em> <em>30</em> <em>100</em> <BR> <BR> <BR> Sometimes we need a little break from the seriousness of recovery. Humor can be the BEST medicine. Hoping you enjoy the following: <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>334</em> Why aren’t people in recovery good dancers? They lose interest after twelve steps. <BR> <BR> <em>334</em> Why did the accountant do so well in AA? He was already a friend of bills. <BR> <BR... Thu, 8 Dec 2011 09:31:14 EST I Need Help, am in a crtical place here I haven't been on this team page since the first time I found it. I am in a very bad place right now. I ended up in the hospital Friday night, had to be taken by ambulance because I was incoherant. I was at work at the time, I work 2:00pm to 10:00pm in a building where there is NO ONE here but me after 5:30pm. The guard found me when he came to walk me to my car after work. My boss had talked to me just the day before because I showed up late for work and when a friend who works with me ... Mon, 21 Nov 2011 22:05:34 EST Hi - New To your Team. . . Hi, my name is Laureen and I came across your team today. To introduce myself, I will tell you a bit about me, I am 56 years young and have been clean and sober for over 24 years, though for a period of 2.5 years, I was basically living as a dry drunk, due to a move I made from NY to SNJ. Prior to my move, my sponsor of 12 some years, got sick and died and so because I had not really replaced that vital component of my recovery and my life was going well, add a major change in my life, divo... Wed, 21 Sep 2011 12:27:03 EST little of this alot of that i can relate to most addictions,glad to join you <em>250</em> Tue, 20 Sep 2011 07:59:50 EST Hi My name is JoAnn and I am a Alcoholic I have 26 years in AA Sept 28 god willing I quit smoking 10 years ago but just can't get in the solution with food I ask my self do I real need this vice I get on my knees and ask god to help me and when I stand up I am looking at weights a tread mill a wii fitness and dvds on fitness so he does answer my prayers I just keep on forgetting to bring the shovel, I guess I am just real lazy is that called sloth we think so. <BR> So today is a new day I am going to pick myself up and brush my self... Mon, 5 Sep 2011 12:29:21 EST Hi everyone, my name is Louise and I'm a recovering compulsive overeater and a grateful member of al-anon. been in OA for 31 years and abstinent from refined sugar and binging for 30.5 of those. been in alanon off and on for 27 years. don't go to those meeting much anymore but i continue with OA. <BR> <BR> I have had my weight under control for most of those years. but was diagnosed a celiac 5 years ago. acted like a two year old and started eating rice products especially bread, which i hadn't eaten for years. it's ... Fri, 26 Aug 2011 12:06:32 EST starting over I have abstained from alcohol for nearly 4 years. My food addiction, however, seems impossible to tackle. I used to attend OA and CEA/HOW meetings for compulsive overeaters, but now am attending AA only. I have an AA sponsor who is helping me deal with sneaking food and the thrill of getting away with it. But of course everyone who sees me knows what I am doing. I need help. Tue, 16 Aug 2011 14:12:21 EST Why do I... Why do I continue to choose as partners men who are emotionally unavailble? Thinking back over my adult life, every one of my partners has been emotionally unavailable to me for one reason or another. This is part of the reason I feel so insecure. <BR> <BR> Why? <BR> <BR> Goodness current boyfriend is the best thing that has ever happened to me; however, he is increasingly reticent and instead of spending time "just hanging out" with me and talking like we used to, he heads off ... Tue, 9 Aug 2011 13:31:09 EST New to the Team Hi. My name is Emily and I am a member of al-anon (for about 17 years now). Just recently I joined SP, and through this website I realized that I also used food and sugars addictively. I was quite amazed to see how much this website is like program and I love it. It is like having a meeting every time I get online. <BR> Anyway, I am looking forward to meeting you all online and best of luck to everyone on his or her lifestyle journey. Sat, 6 Aug 2011 21:18:22 EST hi...i'm new to sparking not new to program...i'm an old-timer ... possibly have type2 diabetes... am serious about losing the weight this time and low carbing it...need to get motivated to exercise... off to a meeting... Tue, 26 Jul 2011 08:28:26 EST Listlessness I'm in a weird space right now. <BR> Not really sure if it's a funk or what? <BR> <BR> On one hand I'm really motivated and there's a lot of positive life changes that I'm working on and making progress with. <BR> On the other hand there's some things that I'm sad about. It's not overwhelming or a constant feeling. It's just, sometimes I get sad. I think that's normal and even healthy to some extent. <BR> <BR> There's lots of times though, where I just don't feel much of a spark or passion ... Sun, 17 Jul 2011 12:01:34 EST Change 1 letter in 4 <BR> <BR> I'll begin with a word that has four letters. Please change one of these letters to make a new word. <BR> <BR> <BR> POOR Fri, 15 Jul 2011 21:58:58 EST Question-Co dependents. I guess this really isn't about the Steps, but it didn't seem to really fit in the General Discussion Forum. <BR> <BR> How do codependents measure sober birthdays? We didn't have an addiction to a substance or to food or to sex, so we don't have a marker like "5 years without a tryst/binge/snoot/etc." <BR> <BR> Can someone enlighten me, please? <BR> <BR> Thanks! <BR> Jen M. Tue, 5 Jul 2011 09:52:31 EST Addiction Hi Group, I have not been posting for the past week because I had company from out of town. I really enjoyed the company but I ate to much. I quit drinking about six years ago so while the others drank I ate. Its funny how quick I can switch addictions. I ate all the kinds of food that have the same ingredients as alcohol. The sugar and grains. I guess you could say I chewed my booze. I feel very fat and bloated tonight. <BR> <BR> I got all the junk food out of the house since the co... Sat, 2 Jul 2011 20:57:05 EST In Loving Memory - Happy Father's Day! Today is Father's Day. Though, I no longer have my dad and late husband to celebrate Father's Day, I cherish the memories I have had with them. The greatest gift my husband passed down to my teen-aged sons are the words, "The best thing a dad can do for his sons is to show how much he loves and respects their mother." Every Father's Day, I remind them of his words, hoping it will be passed down to their future wives and generations to come. Just Friday, my older son was complimented for actin... Sun, 19 Jun 2011 09:35:46 EST Resentments This past week has been very hard and my feelings have been all over the place. I did not track my food and had an emotional binge. I ate food that was not healthy for me. I ate extra food not to feel my feelings. I was very hurt by a family member. I know I set myself up by having expectations how this person in my family should have acted. I was deeply hurt and acted out with extra food and sugar to stuff my feelings. I'm back home now and prayed for my Higher Power to help me let go... Sat, 11 Jun 2011 22:26:09 EST Feelings Its about 7:30 pm and I already had my dinner. I can't stop thinking about having something not on my food plan. Sometimes I can't tell the difference between feeling hungry or feeling like I want to distract myself with food. <BR> <BR> I'm all up in my head about going north to see family in June. I feel fat and emotionally all over the place. I thought I would write about it here to get it out there. My oldest son lives in Maryland but he has not spoken to me for over four years. I t... Sun, 22 May 2011 19:41:44 EST New to Group My name is Janis and I'm an alcoholic and food addict. I used alcohol for many years to not l pain and feel justified. Today I use food the same way I used booze to relieve pain and a filling of emptiness. <BR> <BR> Today is the fourth day of me tracking my food. Nerves and feelings are coming up and keeping me on edge. I'm feeling everything. I don't like how I feel but I'm tired of hiding behind my fat. I feel I insulted myself against pain if that makes any sense at all. I'm panick... Sun, 22 May 2011 13:34:19 EST The Obligation of Friendship "In real life, we do not remember the actions of our enemies nearly as clearly as we remember the silence of our friends." <BR> <BR> That's from something written by Martin Luther King, Jr., I think. Resonates, doesn't it? Fri, 20 May 2011 11:38:44 EST Daily Moral Inventory <em>224</em> <em>247</em> <em>220</em> <em>247</em> <em>224</em> <em>247</em> <em>220</em> <em>247</em> <em>224</em> <BR> <BR> <BR> Watch for Liabilitites .......... Strive for Assests <BR> <BR> Self-Pity .............................. Self-Forgetfulness <BR> Self-Justification ................ Humility <BR> Self-Importance ................. Modesty <BR> Self-Condemnation ........... Self-Evaluation <BR> Dishonestly ........................ Honesty <BR> Impatience .................. Fri, 20 May 2011 09:07:28 EST The Serenity Prayer for Weight Loss <em>247</em> <em>306</em> <em>220</em> <em>247</em> <em>306</em> <em>220</em> <em>247</em> <em>306</em> <em>220</em> <BR> <BR> <BR> The Serenity Prayer is one of my favorites. I use the revised version of The Serenity Prayer for Weight Loss ( in my daily lifestyle to maintain a healthier way of living. Sending * Hope * Unity * Gratitude * Serenity = HUGS to all! Have a Sparktacular weekend! <BR> <BR> <BR> The Serenity Prayer for Weight Loss... Sat, 14 May 2011 09:34:26 EST Hi =) Hi all! I got an invite this morning from Corkythemom and thought I would swing in to introduce myself. My name is Amber I have been on SP for quite awhile, since early '07. I am actually pregnant with my fourth (and last, lol) baby so I am working to make this the healthiest pregnancy possible! <BR> <BR> About me, hmmmm... I grew up in an alcoholic home with both parents who abused both alcohol and drugs. I can't say it was an awful childhood because it wasn't. My mom was a binge dri... Wed, 27 Apr 2011 15:25:37 EST Hey Y'all Hello, well lets see, who am I ? Well I live in Kansas With my hubby of 7 + years, I saw plus because we knew each other a few years before we got hitched, I am a member/ leader of inner healing - sexual abuse. I go to 2 face to face groups on addiction but feel out of touch when they talk about alcohol addiction- thank goodness that was never an addiction, mine is food, things and was men and sex because of the abuse I suffered. (shhh) but I am working on my recovery and have written a... Wed, 27 Apr 2011 14:22:53 EST Thankful for... I realize how good I feel when I take a moment to remember how bad I felt. I hold on to some of those memories just to remind myself how far I've come. Blessings to those who have reached out a hand along the way. <BR> Mon, 25 Apr 2011 10:11:47 EST 2 Words / Change One Say No Sat, 23 Apr 2011 17:43:10 EST WORD ASSOCIATION Apple Sat, 23 Apr 2011 17:41:17 EST Recipe for Recovery How is your garden growing? WHAT TO PLANT IN YOUR RECOVERY GARDEN OF DAILY LIVING: <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>146</em> PLANT THREE ROWS OF PEAS: <BR> <BR> 1. Peace of mind. <BR> 2. Peace of heart. <BR> 3. Peace of soul. <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>126</em> PLANT FOUR ROWS OF SQUASH: <BR> <BR> 1. Squash gossip. <BR> 2. Squash indifference. <BR> 3. Squash grumbling. <BR> 4. Squash selfishness. <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>125</em> PLANT FOUR ROWS OF LETTUCE: <BR> <BR> 1. Lettuce be faithful. <BR> 2. Le... Sat, 23 Apr 2011 11:00:46 EST new too Hi. Today is day 100 of my recovery as an alcoholic! All was going great until I started a rather high stress job 6 weeks ago and started eating tons of chocolate as a substitute for wine. So its day 3 here (although I had a pretty good streak going a few months back... darned relapses.) <BR> Thanks for the warm welcome. <BR> Chris Fri, 22 Apr 2011 13:35:41 EST Hello Peeps!!!! :P My name is Janet, I am happily married to a wonderful guy that it took me 31 years to find. We have been married 14 1/2 years. I will be 48 in June. We have 2 fantastic sons, Nick 13 and Daniel 11. I am also Mom to 3 Chihuahua's and 1 Rat Terrier, and a STRAY TOM CAT named Starkist, that I feed twice a day, but he isn't OURS!!! Hahaha. <BR> I have drank pretty much steady since 1987 when I was attacked (yes, the ugly way) on Christmas night. I told no one for 4 years, BIG MISTAKE, finally ... Thu, 21 Apr 2011 20:34:41 EST What is Detachment? A beautiful recovery day to my Al-Anon/Nar-Anon friends. My name is Monika. I'm a grateful recovering alcoholic & addict. I'm a member of the Al-Nnon & Nar-Nnon Family Groups. Because of several loved ones that have the diseases of alcoholism & narcotic addiction, I have learned that I am not responsible for anyone's happiness but my own. I may be affected by their drinking and/or using, however I no longer need to enable them. Sending recovery hugs & love to all.The first thing we had to lea... Thu, 21 Apr 2011 16:54:00 EST How To Stop Enabling an Alcoholic and Addict <em>306</em> <em>220</em> <em>306</em> <em>247</em> <em>306</em> <em>220</em> <em>306</em> <em>247</em> <em>306</em> <BR> <BR> <BR> Have you been struggling with daily Anger vs Tough Love? REMEMBER: You didn't cause it, you can't control it, you can't cure it. The following will help you to stop ENABLING an Alcoholic and/or Addict: <BR> <BR> 1. Cease doing anything that allows the alcoholic and/or addict to continue their current lifestyle. <BR> <BR> 2. Do nothing to 'help' th... Thu, 21 Apr 2011 16:41:33 EST A Friend of Lois and Bill I just discovered this SparkTeam, quite by accident as I was looking for something else. I am a longtime friend of Lois and Bill (since the mid-80's!) and I'm very glad to have this SP link to my other programme! The two are so interwoven. I look forward to touching base and participating in daily topics of discussion.. Thu, 21 Apr 2011 16:25:05 EST Twelve Signs of A Spiritual Awakening <em>247</em> <em>306</em> <em>220</em> <em>247</em> <em>306</em> <em>220</em> <em>247</em> <em>306</em> <em>220</em> <BR> <BR> <BR> Throughout the variety stages of my life in recovery, I began to to take the suggestions of the 12 steps in each of the AA, NA, Al-Anon and Nar-Anon programs. Years have passed and I continue to be active within these groups. I have been able to live one day at a time filled with the 12 signs of a spiritual awakening. I'm hoping that each one of you a... Thu, 21 Apr 2011 12:55:02 EST 12 Rewards of Recovery "There is no elevator, you have to take the steps." This is what we can get in return when we work the steps: <BR> <BR> Step # 1. Hope instead of desperation. <BR> <BR> Step # 2. Faith instead of despair. <BR> <BR> Step # 3. Courage instead of fear. <BR> <BR> Step # 4. Peace of Mind instead of confusion. <BR> <BR> Step # 5. Self-Respect instead of self-contempt. <BR> <BR> Step # 6. Self-Confidence instead of helplessness. <BR> <BR> Step # 7. The Respect of Others instead of their pity... Mon, 18 Apr 2011 09:43:40 EST Recovery Slogans / Quotes What recovery slogans and quotes inspire you to live the next 24 hours without a drink, drug and /or enabling an alcoholic or addict? Sending lots of support and hugs to all! RECOVERY ROCKS and So Do You! <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>306</em> A.A. also stands for "Attitude Adjustment." <BR> <BR> <em>306</em> "Recovery is an inside job." <BR> <BR> <em>306</em> "Al-Anon doesn't give us the choice between feeling good or feeling bad - it gives us the choice between feeling and not feeling." <... Fri, 15 Apr 2011 11:58:03 EST DO YOU NEED NAR-ANON? Questionaire Do You Need Nar-Anon? Ask yourself the following questions and answer them as honestly as you can. (Copyright © 2004 - 2011 by Nar-Anon Family Groups Headquarters Inc.) <BR> <BR> <BR> 1. Do you find yourself making excuses, lying or covering up for the addict in your life? <BR> <BR> 2. Do you have reason not to trust the addict in your life? <BR> <BR> 3. Is it becoming difficult for you to believe his/her explanations? <BR> <BR> 4. Do you lie awake worrying about the addict in your life?... Thu, 14 Apr 2011 23:28:36 EST ARE YOU TROUBLED BY SOMEONE'S DRINKING? (Al-Anon) Are you troubled by someone's drinking? Millions of people are affected by the excessive drinking of someone close. The following questions are designed to help you decide whether or not you need Al-Anon. (Copyright Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. ©1980) <BR> <BR> <BR> 1. Do you worry about how much someone else drinks? <BR> <BR> 2. Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking? <BR> <BR> 3. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking? <BR> <BR> 4. Do... Thu, 14 Apr 2011 23:14:38 EST Are You Troubled by Someone's Drinking? Questionai Are you troubled by someone's drinking? Millions of people are affected by the excessive drinking of someone close. The following questions are designed to help you decide whether or not you need Al-Anon. (Copyright Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. ©1980) <BR> <BR> <BR> 1. Do you worry about how much someone else drinks? <BR> <BR> 2. Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking? <BR> <BR> 3. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking? <BR> <BR> 4. Do... Thu, 14 Apr 2011 23:12:47 EST AM I AN ADDICT? Questionaire Am I an addict? Only you can answer this question. The following questions were written by recovering addicts in Narcotics Anonymous. If you have doubts about whether or not you’re an addict, take a few moments to read the questions below and answer them as honestly as you can. (Copyright © 1983, 1988 by Narcotics Anonymous World Services, Inc.) <BR> <BR> 1. Do you ever use alone? <BR> <BR> 2. Have you ever substituted one drug for another, thinking that one particular drug was the prob... Thu, 14 Apr 2011 22:58:04 EST Is A.A. For You? Questionaire Is A.A. For You? There are twelve questions that only you can answer. Answer YES or NO to the following questions. (Copyright © 1973 by A.A. World Services, Inc.) <BR> <BR> <BR> 1 - Have you ever decided to stop drinking for a week or so, but only lasted for a couple of days? <BR> <BR> 2 - Do you wish people would mind their own business about your drinking-- stop telling you what to do? <BR> <BR> 3 - Have you ever switched from one kind of drink to another in the hope that this would kee... Thu, 14 Apr 2011 19:52:39 EST TOGETHER, We Can Do It! I wanted to thank SKRIBBLEZ (Stephanie) for starting this wonderful group. With her blessing, she stepped down as Team Leader and allowed me to replace her as Team Leader. I am hoping that Stephanie remains with this group. Despite any obstacle she is facing, I hope she knows that she is always among friends in recovery. Stephanie, we are here for you. <BR> <BR> I wanted to thank each one of you for the confidence you have in me in becoming your Team Leader. I am hoping we will be able to re... Sun, 3 Apr 2011 09:28:20 EST The AA Paradoxes <em>235</em> <em>306</em> <em>235</em> <em>306</em> <em>235</em> <em>306</em> <em>235</em> <em>306</em> <em>235</em> <BR> <BR> <BR> A few days ago, a friend in recovery sent an email to me. I wanted to share it among my SP friends in this group. I hope you enjoy the following as much as I do. <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>321</em> From weakness (adversity) comes strength. <BR> <em>321</em> We forgive to be forgiven. <BR> <em>321</em> We give it away to keep it. <BR> <em>321</em> ... Sun, 27 Feb 2011 14:09:24 EST Hi Good evening and Happy Valentine's Day. My name is Linda. I'm 42 and have been drinking on and off (mostly on) for the past 25 years. I've never been an all day drinker. Nighttime was when I did it, to help me sleep better. I'm 21 days sober and it's been rough. The headaches have subsided for now and the cravings have been reduced.It's still hard though. I have not gone to a meeting yet but I really want to. I guess I'm afraid to go because then it makes it official. Is that odd to feel th... Tue, 15 Feb 2011 00:24:46 EST ***Drop in Centre for a chat and a smile*** Hi there girls and guys, just popping in today to say a warm welcome to KMIRANDA2000. <BR> <BR> Most of us have other sources of support to remain alcohol free but if anyone would like to chat or ask any questions please drop in here. We have many years of sobriety between us and it is the most important thing in my life. When I first joined AA I was told to share it in order to keep it, so we are here to help each other stay sober one day at a time. <BR> <BR> Hugs to all. <BR> <BR> Wisp... Thu, 27 Jan 2011 23:39:04 EST Hello Folks Hey ! <BR> I am not personally addicted to any narcotics however the reason I am here is because the person I love very much and is my best friend is addicted to Perk 10's. Recently in within the past 5 days he went through 120 perks. I don't even know how he is alive. <BR> He has been to rehab before though it was for oxy 80's at that time. Still it is not good. He told me today he has no more and he can't live his life behind pills. He got news yesterday that his grandmother died. At ... Tue, 18 Jan 2011 23:42:19 EST The "AA" Way <em>215</em> <em>321</em> <em>306</em> <em>215</em> <em>321</em> <em>306</em> <em>215</em> <em>321</em> <em>306</em> <BR> <BR> <BR> My name is Monika. I am a recovering alcoholic. On January 6, I was blessed with 10-years of continuous sobriety. Earlier this morning, I received this email from a close friend of mine in both the AA and NA recovery programs. I thought this group would enjoy it as much as I do. This is what I refer to as "Keeping it Simple." <BR> <BR> <BR> I found ... Mon, 17 Jan 2011 15:27:18 EST Let's get BLOGging, teammates! I've found that blogging/journaling/writtin'itDown helps immensely with my weightloss and with other issues too. I'd really like to see some of us blog or even just huddle here; I think it would help us all as well. <BR> <BR> What do you think? <BR> lizzy <em>213</em> Mon, 17 Jan 2011 01:12:11 EST The Happiness Project - January "Contemporary research shows that happy people are more altruistic, more productive, more helpful, more likable, more creative, more resilient, more interested in others, friendlier, and healthier. Happy people make better friends, colleagues, and citizens" (Rubin, 14). <BR> <BR> "I knew it was certainly easier for me to be good when I was happy. I was more patient, more forgiving, more lighthearted, and more generous" (Rubin, 14). <BR> <BR> January - Boost Energy - Vitality <BR> <BR> 1.... Sat, 1 Jan 2011 21:54:22 EST The Happiness Project - Getting Started Keep in mind this is what I highlighted (and took notes on, but I don't think I need to share all of my notes). To get the full gist of this, you should read the book or check out the website. So far it's a very good book! <BR> <BR> "Identify what brings you joy, satisfaction, and engagement, and also what brings you guilt, anger, boredom and remorse" <BR> <BR> "I was in danger of wasting my life" <BR> <BR> "I had everything I could possibly want, yet I was failing to appreciate it" <BR>... Sat, 1 Jan 2011 02:40:33 EST The Happiness Project I wanted to share some of my notes from The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin. This is a book my sister bought me for Christmas, it's little things you can do every month through the year, to make yourself generally more happy. I'm gonna post each month on these and how I'm doing with them and if you'd like to join in with me, that'd be fantastic! She has a lot of information on her website too. <BR> <BR><BR>ss_project/about.html <BR> <BR> Sat, 1 Jan 2011 02:24:02 EST Change and acceptance in 2011 My hope for the New Year is that those of us who have had a rough time this year will find some resolution to their problems in 2111 and acceptance of the situation if the solution does not lie in our own hands. <BR> <BR> It is amazing the difference that acceptance of a situation can bring when it is something outside our own control. <BR> <BR> The Serenity Prayer has been my life's companion for many years now. <BR> <BR> God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. ... Sun, 26 Dec 2010 22:16:38 EST ***CHEER A SOLDIER AT CHRISTMAS*** Hi everyone, <BR> <BR> Whatever the weather in your neck of the woods and no matter how bad you may be feeling today - I know for many of us this is a particularly difficult time of year, it used to be for me also, I started dreading it around mid November. Everyone seemed to be on holiday or out of town, having fun and celebrating and then there was me. Somehow I felt there was no one else alone in all the world. <BR> <BR> That was when I came to realise that by trying to make it a spec... Sun, 12 Dec 2010 18:22:30 EST The Purpose Driven Life Found this while cleaning out my filebox, something Mom had written on one of those yellow legal pads, very uplifting and I am glad I found it today. <BR> <BR> The Purpose Driven Life: <BR> <BR> It is only in God that we discover our origin, our identity, our meaning, our purpose, our significance and our destiny. EVERY OTHER path leads to a dead end. <BR> <BR> Becoming what God created you to be: <BR> <BR> God the VERY SOURCE of our lives <BR> <BR> 1. Discover identity and purpose thr... Fri, 15 Oct 2010 11:03:19 EST Daily Affirmation I express the joy of living. I allow myself to enjoy every moment of every day totally. I love myself. I am safe and secure. <BR> Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:50:21 EST Daily Bread of Life "Let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not". Galations 6:9 <BR> <BR> "My soul, wait thou only upon God". Psalm 62:5 Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:42:53 EST SparkPeople Sponsor If you do not have a sponsor, or have a sponsor and would just like an online buddy to help you through recovery, please post here. Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:40:57 EST Free-for-all Post here any comments or questions you may have or if you just need someone to listen to for a moment, please post here! Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:40:06 EST Daily Reflections October 2, 2010 <BR> <BR> THE ACID TEST <BR> <BR> As we work the first nine Steps, we prepare ourselves for the adventure of a new life. But when we approach Step Ten we commence to put our A.A. way of living to practical use, day by day, in fair weather or foul. Then comes the acid test: can we stay sober, keep in emotional balance, and live to good purpose under all conditions? <BR> <BR> TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 88 <BR> <BR> I know the Promises are being fulfilled in my l... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:39:05 EST Just for Today October 2 <BR> <BR> Keeping faith <BR> <BR> "We grasp the limitless strength provided for us through our daily prayer and surrender as long as we keep faith and renew it." <BR> <BR> Basic Text p.44 <BR> <BR> There are two parts to recovery: getting clean, and staying clean. Getting clean is comparatively easy because we only have to do it once. Staying clean is more difficult, requiring attention every day of our lives. Yet both draw their power from faith. <BR> <BR> We got clean on f... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:36:55 EST The 12 Promises The 12 Promises <BR> <BR> The 12 promises are from pps. 83-84 of the Big Book. <BR> If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through . . . <BR> <BR> 1. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. <BR> <BR> 2. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. <BR> <BR> 3. We will comprehend the word serenity. <BR> <BR> 4. We will know peace. <BR> <BR> 5. No matter how far down the scale w... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:34:48 EST The 12 Steps The 12 Steps <BR> <BR> Step 1 - We admitted we were powerless over our addiction - that our lives had become unmanageable <BR> <BR> Step 2 - Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity <BR> <BR> Step 3 - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God <BR> <BR> Step 4 - Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves <BR> <BR> Step 5 - Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:33:12 EST Step Twelve (12) Step 12 - Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, I try to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in all of my life <BR> <BR> • Have you been able to reach out to another recovering addict? If so, describe the situation and how it feels to you. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • What kind of approach would you like to have had when you first started the program? How can you implement that type of approach in your life to others now? <BR> <BR> <BR>... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:32:23 EST Step Eleven (11) Step 11 - Through prayer and meditation I seek to improve my conscious contact with God as I understand God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for my life and the power to carry that out <BR> <BR> • Can you recall anytime that your life was heading in the wrong direction? If so, what brought you back? Describe this in detail. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • How would you describe your beliefs about God and a Higher Power to a child? <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • What are your favorite sou... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:32:00 EST Step Ten (10) Step 10 - I continue to take personal inventory and when I am wrong I promptly admit it <BR> <BR> • What is your plan to allow time for reflection each day? <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • What new behaviors would you like to try to make your program more effective? How would you go about implementing these? <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • What kind of behaviors and attitudes do you need to be most vigilant against to keep from your addictive behaviors? <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • What are your tr... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:31:41 EST Step Nine (9) Step 9 - I make direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others <BR> <BR> • What amends do you think that you have already made? These can include apologies already made, helpful tasks for those that you have hurt, changed attitudes and so forth. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • From your list of amends, if there are apologies that you need to make, write them down here first. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • Read your apologies to a friend or a spons... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:31:22 EST Step Eight (8) Step 8 - I make a list of persons that I have harmed and become willing to make amends to them all <BR> <BR> • How have you hurt yourself by practicing your addiction? <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • What important relationships did you destroy or damage because of your addictive behaviors? <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • How much time and energy have you lost from your addictive behaviors? What do you think you would have done or become had it not been for your addictive behaviors? <BR> <BR> ... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:31:02 EST Step Seven (7) Step 7 - I humbly ask God to remove my shortcomings <BR> <BR> • What defects will be most difficult to give up? In what order to you plan to give them up? <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • What kind of situations, stressors or pressures cause you to regress back into your defects of character? What can you do to lessen the likelihood of that stress occurring? <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • Where do you feel most supported and helped in your strivings for recovery? <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • What m... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:30:40 EST Step Six (6) Step 6 - I become entirely ready to have God remove all of these defects of character <BR> <BR> • Do you have any fairy tales or myths that you feel a special affinity with? Why? <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • Describe situations and events where you have been full of pride. What has this brought into your life that you like or enjoy? What problems has it caused you? <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • Describe the kind of activities do you really enjoy (of course, NOT your addictive behavior). <BR> ... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:30:14 EST Step Five (5) Step 5 - I admit to God, to myself and to another human being the exact nature of my wrongs <BR> <BR> • After working through the fourth step questions, what do you realize about your limitations and capabilities? <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • Describe any person who has helped you to see yourself more clearly and objectively in your process of recovery and of life. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • What qualities would you like to have in a sponsor? How do the people in the list of possible spons... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:28:29 EST Step Four (4) Step 4 - I make a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself <BR> <BR> • Have you had any broken relationships? If so, describe them and how they hurt others or yourself. Describe any grudges, anger or resentment that you have over these relationships. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • Have you ever felt self-righteous? Explain when and the circumstances. Was this justified? Elaborate. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • What events or triggers have caused you to begin your addictive behaviors in ... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:28:11 EST Step Three (3) Step 3 - I make a decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of God as I understand God <BR> <BR> • What are your greatest fears about giving up control over your life to God as you understand God? <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • What things, people or circumstances have you tried to control in the past and how has that turned out? Do you think that God will be able to handle your life better than you have? <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • How do you feel in general about turning ... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:27:46 EST Step Two (2) Step 2 - I come to believe that a power greater than myself can restore me to sanity <BR> <BR> • What was the religion that your family of origin practiced or claimed to be a part of? <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • List the positive and negative aspects as you see it of your family’s religion. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • Have you made a break with your family's religion or have you stayed with it? Explain why you have taken your particular course of action. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • What oth... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:27:24 EST Step One (1) Step 1 - I admit that I am powerless over my addiction and that my life has become unmanageable <BR> <BR> <BR> • Have you seriously damaged your relationships with other people because of your addictive behaviors? If so, list the relationships and how you damaged them. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • If other people have told you how you how your have hurt them, then write down what they said. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> • Describe any missed appointments that resulted from your addictive behavio... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:26:49 EST Introduction to the 12 Step Questions Welcome... <BR> <BR> This is a list of questions for working the 12 Step program for recovery from addictive behavior. You are invited to pick those questions that seem most relevant to your recovery and answer them to the best of your ability. In this way, you can better keep track of truly working your 12 Step program. And in truly working the program, then you can gain the benefits of 12 Step recovery. <BR> <BR> Note that this does not claim to be a definitive list of questions or repla... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:26:11 EST Sobriety Birthdays July 27th, 2010 Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:24:52 EST Feel free to share your story if you would like to I started drinking and smoking pot when I was in high school. When I was 18 I moved to Los Angeles and tried coke and crack and speed. I eventually quit doing those and started primarily just drinking and smoking pot. I was in an unhealthy relationship for 9 years - abuse, addiction and unhappiness. Sure there were good times but for the most part it was a destructive relationship that was never going to get any better. I drank constantly (sometimes passing out drunk and then having one ... Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:24:20 EST Please introduce yourself to the group My name is Stephanie and I am a gratefully recovering alcoholic/addict. I have been clean and sober for a little over 60 days now. Sat, 2 Oct 2010 08:16:45 EST