SparkPeople Poly folks Team Messageboard Polyamorous folks have their own unique challenges when it comes when it comes to getting fit. Now there is a place on SparkPeople for those of us with the special considerations - come join us! SparkPeople Poly folks Team Messageboard I'm BAAAACK! Sorry to have disappeared folks, I'm back on the wagon, working to get my blood sugars in a good range and improve my A1C (yep, guess who's diabetic now, whee!) Mon, 7 Oct 2019 03:25:07 EST Activity Is there anyway we can get this team more active again? I’m new to a poly relationship and it would be great to have a support team that understands. <BR> <BR> I posted a new blog entry. <BR> <BR> <link><BR>urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=6463957 </link> Sat, 17 Feb 2018 10:41:54 EST HI from Boston MA Hi everyone, I'm Vanessa, and I was so excited to find a poly group on SparkPeople! I'm south of Boston MA, having lived in California also, and being originally from Pittsburgh PA. <BR> <BR> I'm 45, fighting my metabolism and various temporary conditions, looking to radically improve my health... <BR> <BR> Would welcome anyone local who would like to walk, maybe on the weekends? I can't go very fast right now, but as they say, I'm lapping everyone on the couch! Ha ha :-) <BR> <BR> Good ... Wed, 3 Aug 2016 20:10:04 EST Hail from the 4th Corner! Hey y'all: <BR> <BR> I can't believe there's a poly team! I guess SP really is all-inclusive. :) <BR> <BR> Anyway, I found my way over here because Tajiman befriended me - so thanks, Taji! <BR> <BR> I'm larger than life in more ways than one. Living with my lovely partners. I guess it's a W. If I have to pick logistical letters. <BR> <BR> Anyway greetings from the PNW, where it's a balmy 60º and sunny today. Don't hate! We're the rainy day people most of the time! <BR> <BR> Mon, 8 Feb 2016 18:40:42 EST Hello from Aus G'day lovely poly folk :) I am returning to SP after a long hiatus due to ridiculous life circumstances. I was very glad to find poly and kinky people on here. Yay! We are everywhere! Looking forward to getting my health back on track. <BR> <BR> BJ Sun, 10 Jan 2016 21:06:44 EST Questing For My Lost Fabulousness! Hello, Poly Folks! <em>213</em> <BR> <BR> I've recently gained some weight and lost some confidence in the process. My goal is to lose the weight and get back my mojo. <BR> <em>463</em> <BR> <BR> I live in a polyhouse in the New Orleans area. <BR> Fri, 30 Oct 2015 15:13:53 EST Hello Poly friends! I just posted this as a blog post, but please forgive the copy and paste and allow me to introduce myself: <BR> <BR> My name is Frank. I was born in Queens, NY, but only lived there about six weeks. I was raised in Alabama and Tennessee (Go Vols!). <BR> <BR> I currently reside in Wichita, KS with my wife and 8-year-old daughter. I own a small business blending, packaging and selling (online) specialty organic flavored iced teas. <BR> <BR> I'm a literature nerd. I love short fiction, poetr... Wed, 30 Sep 2015 15:11:40 EST Hi everyone! My name is Heather and I am a 34 year old mom of 1. My son is 7 and has aspergers syndrome, my husband is a truck driver and is out 2 weeks at a time, and my mom (who lives with us) was just recently diagnosed with cancer. Life around here is pretty stressful right now and I don't get alot of time to focus on working on me. When I'm not stressing out about everyone else I like to play video games, mostly sim type games or tycoon games.I am also going back to school to get my high school diplo... Tue, 20 Jan 2015 02:43:30 EST So... HIIIII!!!! I came upon this team and love the concept. Unsure of the team's current activity, I'll present the following 9 points... <BR> <BR> 1.) I have struggled with my body image and acceptance of who I am in a physical form for, i dunno... forever!?!?! <BR> 2.) I am working on getting fit and in the process have become a Zumba instructor (which I think is totally crazy) though it does make me show up at the gym and participate in an hour of cardio 5 times a week. ;) <BR> 3.) I have an amazing f... Wed, 24 Sep 2014 02:55:55 EST Sure - I'll do an intro in an inactive group. LOL. THIRTEEN THINGS ABOUT ME! (Plus one - Hiya, Eu!) <BR> 1) My nickname is Reya because I can't stand my birthname. It reminds me too much of my bizarro bio-parents and all of their drama. I'm in the middle of processing a lot of that pain into a beautiful understanding of my "personal mythology." It came from a sarcastic comment about me being a "F'ing Ray a Sunshine" and somehow that morphed into being called Reya ALL the time. LOL <BR> 2) I love to blog and do so almost every day (or getting ... Wed, 27 Aug 2014 11:36:01 EST Second Introduction I had a very old account that I had not checked in a while still listed here. But I signed back up to Spark People a few years back. My name is Portia and I am a 43 year old bisexual female living in Los Angeles. I am already in love with a guy and we are seeking other females to join us. Mon, 9 Sep 2013 01:46:20 EST HI! I'm new to Spark People and the group! <BR> <BR> I'm Tess a 20something (for about 4 more months) living in CA with her hubby. Currently I have no sweeties, though Im always trying to keep my eye out. <BR> <BR> Thought I'd join the group and say hello! Thu, 2 May 2013 17:12:53 EST Anybody around? Hello anybody stop by and check this group out any more? Sat, 23 Feb 2013 23:46:13 EST No new topics? Nothing new lately, so I figured I would ask if other poly peeps with kids find summer time a little extra hard? It is nice to have extra time with the kids and all. I just had a little more free time with the in school. <BR> <BR> Take care Sun, 1 Jul 2012 16:14:37 EST Just found Poly folks! Just found this group and wanted to say HI! It looks like it is pretty quiet around here. It is nice to have Poly people to talk to and learn from. <BR> <BR> Thanks to who set this group up and I am looking forward to learning more from everybody. Wed, 2 May 2012 18:56:32 EST Seeing my sweetie this weekend! I get to go see my LDR sweetie for the weekend. I am grateful every time to his wife, who is not poly but who married him knowing he was and completely supports our relationship. She is lovely about it. I'm very excited! Fri, 9 Mar 2012 10:21:32 EST A bright and shiny hello... Hello everyone! I just thought I'd pop in and introduce myself. I'm V.J. (K.R. in some circles). I'm 23 (one month exactly away from 24) and I live in Washington state. I've been on SparkPeople since 2010, thanks to someone in this group (*waves to Euphrates*). I'm always looking for new people to talk to and friend on this site and look forward to any interesting discussions here. Sat, 11 Feb 2012 00:23:47 EST Euphrates Theory of Poly Geometry I just randomly got a REALLY nice comment on this (I wrote it a WHILE ago, so the comment was quite unexpected), and thought it might prove helpful to others. SO, I thought I'd share! <BR> <BR> <link><BR>tml </link> <BR> <BR> Nowhere near as awesome as just about anything either Franklin Veaux or The Ferrett writes, but hey...if it helps someone avoid some of the pitfalls we ran into in our last triad, it's worth it. <BR> <em>334</em> Tue, 10 Jan 2012 19:29:25 EST Introducing Myself Heya- my name is Dani and I just searched the site for poly teams, and look- found one! <BR> In a nutshell- I turn 27 in January. I also celebrate my 7th year anniversary in January to an awesome hubbie. We are currently in an open marriage- we made it "official" about six months ago, but we've been dabbling in for the past four or five years. More or less, we've taken some friendships we've had to the "next level." <BR> It's kind of tough sometimes since a lot of people don't really underst... Fri, 23 Dec 2011 04:04:11 EST Teachable moments Tonight, hubs and I were the guest speakers at a Human Sexuality class to talk about poly. It was interesting and a lively two hours. Fun! Tue, 29 Nov 2011 22:41:36 EST BDSM in your poly? I am getting much more heavily involved in BDSM as a sub, and I was wondering if that's part of other people's lives as well. Are you kinky? Mon, 24 Oct 2011 07:39:25 EST Inspiring your partners As I've said before, I am involved with a pretty chunky poly family. We have tended to encourage each other toward "self-acceptance" -- meaning not making any effort toward improvement. Now I'm trying to get out of that cycle, and wondering how much I should be talking it up to the others. <BR> <BR> So, when you are eating for health and working out more, do you try to inspire your partners to do the same? Sun, 16 Oct 2011 17:47:51 EST Getting everyone on board My poly family consists of several chubby people. I'm a little worried that if I start losing weight, the result might be insecurity and sabotage. How do you deal with issue of challenge ande power in your poly families? Tue, 11 Oct 2011 07:55:10 EST New to Spark People, not to Poly Hi! I'm so glad it occurred to me to look for some alternative sexuality groups! <BR> <BR> I'm married to my wonderful hubby, who is and always will be primary. We have two mutual girlfriends, and I'm casually involved with the husband of one of those girlfriends. I also have another boyfriend, whose wife is a dear friend. My husband also has a couple other girlfriends who are long distance relationships. It's a bit of a crazy web, but it makes us happy! Mon, 10 Oct 2011 18:26:09 EST Hi From Sunny Florida Hey there this is Gypseagirl (aka Sandee) and I'm looking forward to getting to know you all and share my story with you..... Motivation and Support..... we all need as much as we can get... <em>334</em> Thu, 25 Aug 2011 15:00:34 EST My secret of success? Poly! It's weird, but if it weren't for my poly-family, I wouldn't be doing so well with my fitness this time around. <BR> Between going to the gym with my husband's girlfriend, and the encouragement of my boyfriend, I've got so much support and inspiration. If it weren't for them, I'd probably still be sitting around, allowing my bum to widen with the excuse of "Well, I'm a mum now. This is just what it's like." Or at the most, I'd be trying to get away with a bit of walking and maybe doing the bo... Tue, 2 Aug 2011 19:07:44 EST Do you have trouble with the "condom discussion"? Say you're meeting up with someone with whom you've been flirting online for a while, and it appears that sex is likely to break out. Do you have trouble bringing up safer sex, condoms etc.? <BR> <BR> I'm trying to figure out why I have such a hard it because I'm a pleaser and worry the guy will be disappointed? Or that I'm sure anything that might "slow things down" or make him think will have him running for the hills? Am I really THAT insecure and afraid of rejection? <BR> <BR... Tue, 28 Jun 2011 02:52:22 EST Hi from NY First of all, I can't believe I actually found a group like this on SP :D <BR> <BR> I'm not very out to my vanilla friends, but I wanted a place to be able to talk about everything somewhere! <BR> <BR> I'm Jess, 32, mom of 1 awesome son from my first marriage. Engaged to an amazing guy named Steve. We're getting married this Sept. And dating another amazing guy named Sam. And kinda seeing a girl named Shelby, but that's mostly a kink thing (she's in training by Steve and I as a submissive).... Fri, 13 May 2011 10:07:03 EST I could use some advice After four dates I finally made it to first base with my new beau. Whew! That was a lot of waiting. I finally just announced "I'm going to try to put the moves on you." And he said, "How were you planning to do that?" And I said, "Like this." <BR> First base was as far as it got because he then sort of let me know he was "out of his comfort zone." When I asked why, he explained, being new to direct involvement with a poly person (he has lots of poly friends) and having a history of...(he actu... Mon, 14 Mar 2011 17:08:11 EST My Poly Blog Hiya Poly folks, <BR> <BR> I write a blog on my experiences as a polyamorous mother and the lessons I've learned along my poly journey. <BR> Lately, I've had a bit of writers block. <BR> Since I don't know that many poly people and I'm not completely out to all of my family and friends, I thought it couldn't hurt to ask you all what you think I should write about next. <BR> Here's my blog. <BR> <link> </link> <BR> I'm thinking about writing about finding poly com... Wed, 16 Feb 2011 23:07:37 EST Hello from Seattle My name is Damon from Seattle, WA. Hope to chat and get to know you all very soon. Thu, 3 Feb 2011 17:22:52 EST Guilt and other silly worries So, to recap, my Dom's wife is pregnant. They have been poly for practically their whole 12-year relationship, and this will be their first child. Early on, she made a comment that I haven't been able to get out of my head. She said that while she's been poly, she's never been poly and pregnant, and wasn't sure how that would go over, what with hormones and everything. Including the fact that she'll be getting fat (her words, not mine) while I, as the new shiny toy who gets lots of attention ... Tue, 1 Feb 2011 01:38:53 EST So nice to meet all of you Hey y'all! I'm really excited to be on this site and am happy to see we have a group! :) I'm from Austin TX, and we have a quite active poly community here. We're very blessed! <BR> <BR> As far as my relationships go, I have a boyfriend (my primary) who is mostly vanilla, and a Dom. My Dom's wife is preggers and just the cutest thing in the whole world. She and I are friends...and beyond that, not exactly involved with each other, not exactly uninvolved. Yea for that great grey area that wor... Tue, 1 Feb 2011 01:29:07 EST "What is Polyamory?" Panel Discussion on Youtube! Just got this in my e-mail: <BR> <link><BR>#p/c/7C2066054A321F00/0/_skec-3Ptoo </link> <BR> <BR> Victoria Poly 101 and Poly 101 on Campus are proud to present "What is <BR> Polyamory?" on YouTube. Please feel free to comment, distribute and utilize this video in your poly community education efforts! <BR> <BR> Special thanks go to Cora Bailey Bilsker, facilitator of Poly on Campus in Victoria, BC, and producer of "What is Polyamory?" <BR> <BR> Kiki ... Tue, 25 Jan 2011 02:50:51 EST Breakups: How do you deal with them? Recently I was dating a man, whom I fell in love with. Communication was difficult between his partner that he lives with and I, and ultimately she decided she was so hurt (from our misunderstandings?) that she couldn't handle talking to me anymore. <BR> <BR> So, now not only are he and I not dating. But, I've also lost her as a friend. I have chosen both of them to be a part of my "chosen family." I had been spending time getting to know his other partners around the globe. And, had ... Thu, 30 Dec 2010 16:12:31 EST Site Maintenance Announcement! From Coach Nancy: <BR> <BR> Hey Team! <BR> <BR> FYI... Our site will be down tonight (11 pm EST) until tomorrow morning so if you are a team leader would you mind posting this on your team page! <BR> <BR> Thanks so much!! <BR> Nancy <BR> Wed, 10 Nov 2010 12:32:45 EST Hi from Texas! Hi y'all! <BR> <BR> I'm Amber. I joined SP yesterday via the BlackBerry app and logged on my laptop today and am excited to see there is a poly team! Just seems a bit dead... <BR> <BR> I'm 29, married to an awesome guy but currently seeking my female better half. Or would that be third? LOL Anyways. We've been involved as a couple with another couple. They didn't work out...too many issues with compatibility and other things. Recently, I found a girl on OKCupid. We've had a strange r... Wed, 3 Nov 2010 21:58:47 EST Dating.... I know of a few sites out there that are poly or poly friendly: <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> How do you all find your partners? Especially if the Poly group in your area is comprised of people not looking for partners or are clique-ish. <BR> <BR> I'm just curious and wanting to get this group a bit more active. <BR> <BR> ~ Amber Wed, 3 Nov 2010 18:24:35 EST You Guys were Right This place is dead. I mean, I'm good for posting a couple of 'Inquiring Minds' questions a week and just miscellaneous convo about health & fitness progress ,etc but not enough people participate to warrant that. :( That sucks. <BR> <BR> I hope you all have had a productive week and look forward to a great weekend. Fri, 17 Sep 2010 11:45:28 EST Inquiring Minds~ 091310 Hope everyone had a great weekend! <BR> <BR> So I had a splurge of bad judgment over the weekend. I am involved in an open poly triad and, in an attempt to give my two partners (married couple) their space and opportunity for quality time, I ventured to play with another guy. Once I had made the arrangements, I then considered that maybe it would have been wise to ask my polys if they were actually available or interested in playing with me before I decided to pursue other means of entertain... Mon, 13 Sep 2010 12:43:59 EST Inquiriing Minds ~ 0909 This brings up a good question triggered by Wednesday's poly site post. <BR> <BR> How many of you 'are' still in the closet? If you are in the closet...why? If you are not, tell us about your 'coming out' experience. How long have you been polyamorous? What are some of your other 'lifestyle' experiences prior to becoming fully polyamorous? Thu, 9 Sep 2010 09:36:14 EST Inquring Minds ~ 0908 If you could zap away one problem area on your body, right now, which would it be and why? Wed, 8 Sep 2010 13:22:06 EST Inquiring Minds~~~ How much does your body image affect your interaction in poly environments? Specifically, events designed to mingle with other poly persons, adult retreats, etc. Tue, 7 Sep 2010 17:46:00 EST Not new to SP but new to this team... Didn't think there would be a poly group but here we are. I've noticed some threads commenting on the lack of activity so, maybe, we can start working on that. There may be only a few of us but I'm sure we can make it interesting enough. <BR> <BR> Glad to be amongst my own kind! Tue, 7 Sep 2010 17:43:43 EST Poly Web Resources Just found out about a new website and thought I'd pass it on. <BR> <BR> "In a world that strongly privileges monogamy, choosing to live as openly polyamorous requires the courage to face constant curiosity and criticism from friends, family, and strangers alike. As we conduct our lives, we know we are not living openly unless we have taken the harrowing step of coming out. This site collects stories of people who have taken that step. These are stories of people who have found amazing sup... Wed, 25 Aug 2010 18:59:54 EST Polyamorous Misanthrope - another great resource The Goddess of Java (aka Noel Figart) writes this column and usually has a lot of great wisdom to share. Her most recent column is about handling jealousy - check it out! <BR> <BR> <link> </link> Tue, 24 Aug 2010 02:44:58 EST Poly In The Media Blog Not sure how many folks know about this resource - Alan posts everything he finds out there in the media world relating to polyamory. Here's the basic blog for you to peruse...I'm thinking of posting new entries as he publishes them for comment and discussion. Good stuff! <BR> <BR> <link> </link> Mon, 23 Aug 2010 05:08:47 EST New To PolyPPL Hi, I'm new to SparkPPL and want to introduce myself. I'm a 50ish y/o poly pagan womyn in Upstate NY. I have about 60 lbs. total to lose and have become a yoyo over the last few decades. I'm hoping to get my weight down and maintain. Blessed be all! <BR> Thu, 20 May 2010 12:06:23 EST New arrival *waves* <em>213</em> <BR> <BR> Hi everyone.My name is Letha (altho I tend to go by rayne much more then anything else) and I am brand new here. This is my first time trying to loose weight in a healthy manner. <BR> Ive always been a bigger girl,but healthy,until recently.I was diagnosed with high cholesterol and given 3 months to get it under control with diet or else I get placed on more medication.Which is something I truely do not want.Since I dont have any family (beyond my husband and... Mon, 10 May 2010 22:27:28 EST To Anyone Still Here I am having stress problems. I'm currently living with my boyfriend and his wife and kids. I know, I know, not the best idea I've ever had, but I'm kinda in between places right now. <BR> My boyfriend and his wife have alternated between complimenting me on the way I work with their son, and commenting on how "harsh" I am with him. <BR> Today, it makes me want to binge eat. So far, all I've had is extra coffee, but we'll see. <BR> <BR> Any suggestions on dealing with family issues? Fri, 9 Apr 2010 20:30:58 EST This makes me happy I never thought I'd find a team for poly people here! I am so delighted!!! There's nothing like working towards a goal with the support of like-minded people. I'm really looking forward to getting to know you all. <BR> <BR> peace...Leah Wed, 31 Mar 2010 00:18:31 EST Cool! Never thought to look here... Nice. I never thought to look for a poly group on SP. I first started on SP back in 2007. I was active for almost a year or more, then I got distracted with other stuff. I just started back with the new year...then my computer decided it was going to enter hospice. Ordered a new one and when it comes I'll be trying to log-in everyday like I used to. <BR> <BR> I'm a Unicorn who's known there was a name for poly since around 2005-6ish. Hoping to get to know the group better. *waves h... Sun, 7 Feb 2010 21:37:30 EST Howdy poly folk! Hi fellow poly peeps! I used Spark people to help me lose a bunch of weight before having my baby, and now I'm back to lose the baby weight. My husband and I are poly, and I'm totally stoked that there are other poly people here! Sat, 30 Jan 2010 05:19:37 EST Greetings Hi, the group seems quiet but I figured what the heck I'll post anyway. <BR> <BR> I'm married and I have a boyfriend. Not how we thought this whole being open "thing" would go, but I love them both very much and we try and make the best of an unexpected situation. I guess we have been in this relationship for 8 months now and it has been a roller coaster of learning. <BR> <BR> There is a lot I don't know or understand but I'm looking and reading and trying to gain knowledge as I go. <BR> <... Mon, 4 Jan 2010 21:10:14 EST Hi! I'm new! Hi all! I am new to the group and excited to be here! I am new to the poly lifestyle and am hoping to find some help not only in the weight loss department but also with my new way of life! I am in a polyfidellity sort of relationship MFF and I am faithful to him alone and he is faithful to us alone... almost like polygamy only we are Christians instead of Mormons. It just sort of happened but none of us have any idea what we are doing and Lord knows I have a million questions! Any advice or ... Tue, 22 Sep 2009 09:41:56 EST Topic of the Week: Survive Holiday Feasting SO we just had Easter weekend. <BR> <BR> My husband's family we have never had to worry about holiday meals - EVER. It's just another day to them, so visiting with them is never a big deal as far as food goes. <BR> <BR> MY FAMILY on the other hand - the kitchen has ALWAYS been the centerpiece of every visit whether it's a holiday or not. We love our food and the conversation that goes with it. Lucky for me, Easter dinner at mom's is always a lighter fare. This weekend was unusually light - ... Mon, 13 Apr 2009 11:40:33 EST Topic of the Week: Meal Planning First of all I know the week is almost over. But I figured I would post on Friday's with my check-in for the 3 month challenge. <BR> <BR> How much effort goes into your meal planning? <BR> <BR> For us (we are a quad with a 9 year old and a 6 month old) my only real challenge is making sure I remember to put the stuff on the grocery list. See I pick the menus basically, and with the wife doing WW and me sorta - I have used a lot of the WW recipes. No biggies really - accept for the fact the... Fri, 3 Apr 2009 09:21:11 EST Topic of the Week: New Snacks I cannot remember if I mentioned about doing WW with my "wife" again. I know I blog about my lunches and give points for them (http://andyoumaycallmeprincess.blogspot.c<BR>om/) Well, Her and I are snackers. If we had our way we would live on sushi, brownies, ceasar salads, and coffee with flavored creams. But I am sure that has helped to contribute to where we are right now. She scans her WW forums daily for new snack ideas. So here is one that I will share with you. <BR> <BR> No Pudge Brown... Tue, 24 Mar 2009 10:48:00 EST Are you getting ready? Hey everyone! <BR> <BR> Just chekcing in with everybody to see how their week has gone. I have started a "workout" don't laugh, but I am boxing on the Wii. It's something I decided to start doing since the baby is teething which means he is a joy to take anywhere right now. So really 20 minutes of trying to get my Mii to respond to the controls is a small aerobic workout. Of course I am following that up 50 crunches (for me that's actually 150, since I do front, left and right) <BR> <BR> Bu... Tue, 24 Mar 2009 10:36:50 EST This Week's Topic: The little things... Did you know that there are little things that can impede your progress. I am sure you are aware of it, we all have road blocks we must get around. <BR> <BR> Well yesterday I realized what one of my BIGGEST little things I needed to get over. I cook by taste. I have such a hard time following directions. I may use a recipe for the ingredients listing (and I add and subtract what I think is complimentary) But I cook by taste. Which means I have to sample what I make as I am making it. I am s... Tue, 17 Mar 2009 10:40:30 EST Happy St Patty's Day Hello Everyone - <BR> This is my weekly check-in to see how everyone is doing. I hope you all have been successful this past week. While my weigh in day is not until Friday - I am feeling pretty groovy about how well I survived the weekend. <BR> <BR> Something about the whole family being home makes me not always do my best when trying to stick to a routine. But I survived without too many a faux pas. Tonight we will be having the typical american-irish tradition of corned beef and cabbage... Tue, 17 Mar 2009 10:22:08 EST This week's topic: Water What do you do to make sure you are drinking enough water? Thu, 12 Mar 2009 08:53:20 EST March Madness First let me apologize to everyone for not being a proactive board leader. Second let me say welcome to those who have recently joined us. <BR> <BR> Here we are with March all ready upon us - and the question I have is where is everyone on their success in releasing the new you? My quest for success has had some very rocky and deep pitfalls. Being a first time mommy has made it hard to keep focused on the things I want to do for myself. <BR> <BR> Now that I do have the baby on a sleeping s... Wed, 11 Mar 2009 15:50:56 EST New to this Idea Hi, <BR> <BR> I am not in a Poly but have just heard recently about it and it does intrigue me. <BR> <BR> How long have you been in one and how does it work? <BR> <BR> Just now getting into a relationship with a beautiful woman and he has a man so if I live with them I think that would be considered a Poly right? <BR> <BR> BIG SMILE smart way to live if you ask me. More people working and loving makes life a lot more enjoyable as long as there are no health issues. STD's are a big fear o... Fri, 6 Mar 2009 13:06:14 EST Hello Hi I am new to this team and not certain I belong but would like to stay if it's okay? <BR> <BR> Lisa Fri, 6 Mar 2009 11:45:05 EST January Challenge Does anyone have a suggestion for January - or would we like to do a 3 month challenge - I am open to suggestions. Mon, 5 Jan 2009 01:33:38 EST My apologies My LH changed routers on me and knocked me offline for the last several days. I have an old bobo laptop that didnt like those fancy new security packages - lol. <BR> <BR> But I am up and ready to go again. Mon, 5 Jan 2009 00:17:11 EST Happy Tuesday Everyone - Today's Question Just taking a few minutes this morning to wish everyone a happy tuesday! Today and tomorrow are the last days of 2008 - are you ready for 2009? How about is 2009 ready for you? <BR> <BR> Many people start the year off with a bang as far as striving for their weight loss goals but some lose steam even when they have been successfully acheiving their goals. When is it that you seem to lose your steam? Think about it - this will be the best time to reach out for help. I am one of the worst whe... Tue, 30 Dec 2008 07:28:50 EST My OSO is coming to visit! I'm really excited. My OSO is coming for a visit on 13-JAN. We only get to see one another a couple of times a year and they never seem to be long enough. My husband likes him and my toddler adores him, so I'm hoping we can get to do goofy family-type stuff as a group. <BR> <BR> **crosses her fingers** Mon, 22 Dec 2008 15:25:01 EST Wow! Never thought I'd find a poly team, but sad it's so quiet. Still, I'm here! Mon, 22 Dec 2008 12:14:35 EST Improving Body Image Ten "Will-Powers" for Improving Body Image <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> Written by: Michael Levine, Ph.D., and Linda Smolak, Ph.D. <BR> ---------------------------------------- <BR> ---------------------------------------- <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> Taking care of your body and doing things you enjoy will enable you to enjoy a happy, participatory life. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> Twice a day, everyday, I will ask myself: "Am I benefiting from focusing on what I believe are the flaws in my body weight... Thu, 13 Nov 2008 15:02:32 EST Hello! Hi, everyone. Just joined the team, although I have been on SP for a while. Just looking to meet new friends and have good conversations! Mon, 27 Oct 2008 15:35:16 EST We have returned... Just wanted to say hello to everyone - I know i missed a lot of people that have joined since my pregnancy - But I am sorta back - atleast to monitor my weight until we are cleared for exercising. <BR> <BR> I hope everyone has been having a successful year - and I wish everyone continued luck. Tue, 7 Oct 2008 15:58:15 EST Poly Search How is the search going for everyone? <BR> <BR> <BR> Mon, 9 Jun 2008 01:23:33 EST Here Is A Good Poly Link I will warn you up front that it does lean more towards the Polygamy Life then plain Polyamory. With that said it does contain many good articles about the Poly Life in general, so it is not limited. There are atleast 410 articles. They also have a myspace page. <BR> <BR> <link><BR>tents.html </link> <BR> <BR> Thu, 15 May 2008 16:13:12 EST My Introduction My name is Portia and I am a 38 years old. I am involved in a manner of polygamy, another words we live as though all of us are married. I have just started out on this life. There is me and three other women that my man loves. I look forward to knowing everyone. Sat, 10 May 2008 13:18:34 EST Gym memberships Due to my physical limitations, and the medical assistance I receive, I am able to get a reduced price membership at the local YMCA - $130/year (instead of the $500+/year it normally is). I went in today and re-upped my membership, and it got me thinking - my sweeties that live with me would love to be able to go to the gym and workout too, but I cannot put them on my own membership as family members. I believe that they are going to try to apply for reduced price memberships as well (they bo... Fri, 14 Mar 2008 19:00:35 EST Let me introduce myself I am Sergeant Major here on Spark and am also know by that name in my alternative lifestyle social life. I am a polyamourous dominant with one pledged to my house at this time. We had another pledged however the geographic distance between her location and ours caused that to come to an end. My pledged one is bi but currently is not in a relationship. We are seeking another bi woman to join our family. Fri, 29 Feb 2008 13:06:25 EST Rough day I'm having a rough day today - woke up with some pretty intense pain in the upper right part of my abdomen, and thought for awhile I'd need to take a trip to the ER. I couldn't eat for much of the day, because it made me nauseous and increased the pain. After a long nap, I was able to finally eat some cheese and crackers, and I told my sweeties that I'd be okay, they could both go on to work. (They both work a closing shift tonight, don't get home until after 12:30am) <BR> <BR> But now, I've... Sun, 24 Feb 2008 19:50:17 EST Family meals For those of us who live in the same household with multiple partners, and maybe kids, it can get rough to make a family meal time that everyone agrees with! My household, for example is just 3 adults, and we have a select core of recipes that everyone can and will eat. A. has allergies to all types of fish (and she loves fish). M. has a nasty lactose intolerance (and he loves cheese). I love cheese, hate most fish (I like some tuna, salmon, frozen fish sticks, occasional shrimp, but that's a... Thu, 21 Feb 2008 22:40:57 EST I'm back! Hey all! Anyone still here? :) <BR> <BR> I have been gone from SP for awhile - I started school last June, had surgery in September, and kinda quit caring about what I was eating so much when I couldn't get out to go to the YMCA or anything. Bad idea, huh? <em>230</em> <BR> <BR> But, I have some new goals, and I am back with the drive to fulfill them! My two primary partners and I have discussed at length, and we are going to try to start expanding our family, and I'm the lucky bearer of ... Tue, 19 Feb 2008 23:29:50 EST Curiousity Question.... Does anyone here try the "exercise of the day" or any of the other exercises listed here on SP? If so, which ones have you enjoyed doing? For me, the first time I saw the "Wall Pushup" I knew it was good for me. I cannot do a regular push up to save my life - due to a cyst in my wrist and the general feeling of wanting to pass out after the second one - lol. But doing the wall ones have been good for me because I still get the arms moving and I can flex and feel it work thru my abs. Whats als... Wed, 23 Jan 2008 10:33:48 EST It's another year! Afternoon everyone! <BR> <BR> Well here I am at it again - the sparkpages again that is, because we all now growth within a healthy life is an ongoing daily journey. But I find myself at that point that I need to be sharing in that journey with others. I really dropped off at the midpoint of the year due to a family emergency (amazing how stresses can disrupt good habits you were working on), but it's a new year so it's time to get back to it. <BR> <BR> I have had an awakening - and I thin... Sun, 20 Jan 2008 16:47:32 EST Calling all bisexuals!! check it out I made a new spark team specifically for bisexual types. I figure it would be nice to have a place where I know no one will tell me to make up my mind or call me a poser because I have a boyfriend or for loving people instead of genitalia. Check it out! <BR> <BR> Sun, 16 Sep 2007 11:32:48 EST can we has challenge? so like... how about a challenge or a team goal or something? it is QUIET here in polyamory, which as we all know, is never true in RL ;) Mon, 10 Sep 2007 14:02:57 EST Let me introduce myself... I kinda jumped in and forgot this part. <BR> <BR> I'm a bi woman dating another bi woman, but also seeing a man. Both my SOs are aware of each other and are accepting of each other being in my life. Which is SO much easier on me :D <BR> <BR> Duh, I should mention that I also have a 7 year old son from a previous relationship (I share him with my ex-husband). Tue, 21 Aug 2007 22:13:55 EST Hello! Hi, I'm Shea, and I'm 29 and live in Portland, OR with my husband and 15 month old daughter. Neither of us has any other serious partners right now--baby's been taking up most of our time--but it's always nice to talk to other poly people. So, hello! Wed, 1 Aug 2007 18:38:57 EST How do you deal with the mens? My triad is a completely equal grouping of 2 women and one man. our man has recently spent time with a hookup who is a super butch super fit super thin woman. Now, not only has he become very body conscious about the 25 odd pounds he needs to lose, but he has been funny about my girl and me and our weight since he came back. He is not mean, he does not say derrogatory things intentionally, but he will say things like "if you want to hang with this new crowd, you will need to drop 60 pounds... Thu, 26 Jul 2007 11:19:05 EST cooking for three: suggestions Ok well we love Italian, Tex Mex, anything with lemon pepper in it, spicy foods like Indian and Thai. Suggestions for cookbooks and recipes? <BR> <BR> Also, how do people conquer cooking for three? can't halve the recipe like you would for two and often times we end up portioning out the 4th portion betwixt ourselves as seconds. <BR> <BR> What I would really love is recipes that give me ingredients in one or two serving quantities so I can better manipulate them for my purposes. Wed, 25 Jul 2007 18:36:21 EST Hi, I'm new here! I'm so glad to see a group like this on sparkpeople!!! I have 2 SOs, one male and one female. I live in Upstate NY with my 7 year old son I share with my ex-husband. Fri, 20 Jul 2007 16:21:39 EST How cooperative are your partners? Since I have tried to sleep this head cold off all day, I am just a little to awake for bed tonight. I was wondering what kind of help do your partners offer you in your changes you are making for a healthier lifestyles? <BR> <BR> I tried do WW with my wife last year - she has and continuous to do really well with it. It didn't do so much for me. My toothpick of a husband(the official husband) (my brother calls him toothpick) has no need of course for any weight maintenance - lol so he reall... Tue, 19 Jun 2007 23:46:35 EST Hi there... Hello everyone. I am a 38yo lesbian and I thought this sounded like a fun. MY wife is getting interested in being Poly and I have been in a few Poly relationships. We're both on here to lose weight and to live healthier lives, hoping that the internet can help. Tue, 19 Jun 2007 18:28:20 EST Ok I have returned... I know some of your never knew I left - but an announcement needed to be made if nothing else for my well-being. Part of me getting my butt back in gear and getting on track to seeing me again. <BR> <BR> I decided I really needed to get back into this after realizing my new wardrobe consists of clothes that are extremely comfortable - nothing wrong with that I know - but it is when you look at the fact that all the recent purchases were in the maternity section! My new way of hiding that tu... Sun, 10 Jun 2007 17:03:57 EST Hello all, I am new to the group. I have been poly for about 4 years. I have a wife and a husband. We are a closed delta triad and see ourselves as a marriage of 3. My family consists of my mates, our daughters 12 and 9, three adult boys 27, 25, and 21. <BR> <BR> My family is incredibly supportive of my weight loss. I have lost about 40 pounds. <BR> <BR> It's good to meet you. <BR> Kim <BR> <em>126</em> Tue, 22 May 2007 23:15:57 EST Welcome new members! I've been off for a little bit, dealing with some other issues that have come up in my life lately - but I'm back now, and wanted to take moment to welcome all the new members to the group! <BR> <BR> I wasn't sure how much a poly group would get used here on SP, but I'm glad to see that there are people for whom this group applies. ^_^ Sun, 20 May 2007 18:21:53 EST New to Group Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> My name is Cyndall, and I'm new to the polyfolks group here. I've been in a poly relationship with my husband for a little over a year now. We live in Fresno, CA. <BR> <BR> Looking forward to meeting everyone! <BR> <BR> Cyndall Thu, 17 May 2007 16:26:54 EST Anyone Still Home Out There? C'mon, I know there must be more poly people out there. Bueller? Bueller? Bueller...? Wed, 16 May 2007 14:53:17 EST A whole new start Heloo folks my name is hilly. I just made a completely new SP account in order to get a clean slate. I used to be Shrinkinghilly. Now I am hellotome. I made this change because my goal here is not to simply shed weight. My goal is to shed the binidngs and constraints that I have allowed to be placed upon me by others. <BR> <BR> My goal is to take control of my life and move foward into who I am with pride and confidence. <BR> <BR> So anyway, hi, I'm Hilly, Im 25 and I live in a triad with ... Wed, 16 May 2007 13:11:19 EST How do you meet people? So, how do you meet people that will be open to your poly life? <BR> <BR> For me, it was easier when we lived in Seattle as everyone seems to be open to it! However, in the midwest here, it is harder. <BR> <BR> It would be nice just to make contact with people to talk to, not necessarily have relationships with. <BR> <BR> So, are there any online sites or other resources people use? <BR> <BR> with smiles, <BR> rebecca Fri, 23 Feb 2007 09:47:46 EST Where is everyone from? Just wondering where everyone is at in the world. <BR> <BR> I am currently in Jefferson City, MO but will be moving to Kansas City in June. We just bought a house (my first house ever!) and are very excited! <BR> <BR> I just turned 37 and live with my soulmate/hubby and my 3 year old daughter. Luckily, I am a SAHM and a perfect setup! <BR> <BR> with smiles, <BR> rebecca Fri, 23 Feb 2007 09:26:46 EST Little victories Yesterday, I had 2 little victories that I'm still happy about. ^_^ <BR> <BR> 1. Even with eating a huge meal for lunch, I was still well within my calorie guidelines for the day - I even had to work to get *up* to the minimum of my calorie requirement! <BR> <BR> 2. For the first time since joining SP, I managed my 8 glasses of water yesterday! <BR> <BR> Here's to making today just as good! Fri, 20 Oct 2006 12:12:14 EST Some partners supportive, others not? Have you ever dealt with having some partners be very supportive of your weightloss/fitness goals, and others be exactly the opposite? <BR> <BR> Right now, I am blessed with partners that are very supportive of my goals - either actively encouraging me as I go, or at the very least not discouraging me at all. I am still working through some lingering hesitation to lose weight, however, from when I was married and my now-exhusband was actively antagonistic toward me losing weight (or changing... Sat, 7 Oct 2006 17:59:48 EST Special considerations for weight loss? When you have more than one relationship to tend that can mean more dates out at restaurants, less time to exercise, and more short-cuts taken in taking care of yourself while you are trying to give as much to your partners/sweeties/loves as you need to. <BR> <BR> Anyone noticed this or similar issues popping up in your life, when you are dealing with multiple relationships? Mon, 2 Oct 2006 19:53:41 EST