SparkPeople To Write Love On Her Arms Team Team Messageboard We will be the hopeful. This team is for supporters of TWLOHA, anyone suffering from depression, addiction or self mutilation, and anyone who is seeking help for themselves or a loved one. SparkPeople To Write Love On Her Arms Team Team Messageboard just checking in - from Kelly :) Good afternoon Spark Friends! <BR> <BR> I wanted to take a minute to reach out to each of the clubs I’m a moderator for. I joined SparkPeople a few months back and was actively taking the challenges and making friends and accomplishing my weight loss goals. Then a few things started to change in my life. I had to deal with a family crisis, some health complications of my own, and an 8-yr old child who is suffering from yet-to-be-diagnosed health issues. I don't have healthy coping skills, so... Sun, 24 Mar 2019 16:16:01 EST Emotional Eater... I've been struggling lately with emotional eating and was wondering if anyone had some tips or go-to things they do to combat that bad habit... Wed, 29 Jan 2014 11:26:18 EST Losing The Battle A few years ago I found out that I had a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, I say "found out" because I was diagnosed at age 11, but no one told me. I figured this was the reason for my suicidal tendancies and rollar coaster relationships and I worked my butt off in DBT to overcome my disorder- I no longer meet the criteria for the disorder! That is the good news, the bad news is, that along with that disorder we (my therapist and I) realized that I also have Chronic PTSD and DDNOS... Mon, 5 Mar 2012 03:28:53 EST I fell today Lately I have been fighting the urges to self harm myself and today I gave in. :( <BR> <BR> It all started with a mini fight with mom, she has been frustrated because she is working a 6-13 week contract a good 3 hours away and can only come home on the weekends and I was being funny with her necklace (a cross) and all of a sudden I heard "if you don't start believing in christ you're going to burn in hell." WOW. Nice to know how my mom really feels about me being agnostic and spiritual and n... Sun, 19 Feb 2012 17:55:59 EST heavy heart my beautiful only child, a son, will turn 30 on June 10 -- if he lives that long,. He struggles with addiction - heroin and apparently the saboxone treatment I have helped pay for lead him to now use cocaine. he is set to lose his license, he is about to lose his lights and water; he has no job, sleeps all day and just this week , the mothers of his sons have refused visits with him. He says life is not worth living. I just got to my Spark weight goal, my friends are really great, but I d... Sat, 28 May 2011 10:30:52 EST Going Downward/Q Questions? For the last week it seems that I've gotten myself in a black hole. I had an off day,so I decided to miss class. It then turned into another,because I was behind and so depressed and didn't even want to get out of bed. <BR> <BR> I have been on this side for awhile and I finally made myself get the strength to even get out bed today,but I'm still missing yet another class. I haven't worked out this week or done anything productive,so I feel like a failure. <BR> <BR> All I can think about a... Wed, 26 Jan 2011 14:36:39 EST Quote of the day... I have been posting quotes as my FB status lately that I feel are inspirational or speaking to me and where I am right then. The To Write Love on Her Arms FB does the same and that is where I got the idea from. I thought it would be nice to share on here too. So here is one I posted yesterday... <BR> <BR> “To be nobody but yourself in a world that's doing its best to make you somebody else, is to fight the hardest battle you are ever going to fight. Never stop fighting.” -ee cummings Fri, 7 Jan 2011 12:48:52 EST When will it STOP????? Last week was insane, form my car battery dying, to bad weather, to physical pain.. & I friggin LOST over 5 pounds! I didn't emotionally eat, so I think maybe that helped. This week, not so much... eating away, 0 exercise, therapy is insane (& with the holiday next week, it'll be longer till I see my therapist again. AAAARGHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!! Not to mention that my partner & I are fighting over the smallest things. Last night I was SO ready to just end it. I hadn't cut in a good while. The... Fri, 19 Nov 2010 17:27:07 EST Hi there! I go by Sarah! I'm new here... kind of. I've been here before, but I had to come back! How is everyone doing today? :) Fri, 27 Aug 2010 13:45:41 EST How do you cope? Instead of being destructive, what do you do to cope with life? What do you do that makes you feel better when your emotions are too much and overwhelming? <BR> <BR> For me working out and writing help a lot. Mon, 14 Jun 2010 10:50:53 EST DS Cuts.... Hi! I am Chris- I found this Team through a member's page in the Eating Recovery Team. <BR> I am mom to 2 kids, and a disabled DH. My DS is 14, DD is 11 1/2. <BR> <BR> I am hoping to get support, ideas anything at all to help my son who cuts. He is in therapy and is going to start seeing a psychiatrist- eval. is tomorrow. He is not happy about any of it, but his school is adamant that he either gets help or will need to leave the school. <BR> <BR> I am kind of in a 'bad head state' ATM, so ... Mon, 24 May 2010 11:12:27 EST New Hi, my name is Nicole. I am a 26 year old student (currently on medical leave) and social worker. I have been an SP member for years now, but am just now getting my life back on track. I am eating right, exercising, sleeping and trying my best to be happy enough to get through the weight loss and life change to the other side- happiness, or at least contentment. I found out a year ago that I have a mental disorder that causes the self harm and suicide attempts, I haven't "slipped up" in awhil... Tue, 18 May 2010 03:46:41 EST Rubber bands? I've know people who have dealt with harmful urges through popping rubber bands on their wrists. When my own therapist suggested it I flat out told her that she was crazy. Simply because I knew that I would keep popping until I did physically hurt myself. Has anyone tried this technique before? What was your experience? Tue, 20 Apr 2010 19:11:28 EST After Hospitalization Have any of your ever received treatment in a hospital for your depression or such? How did you feel before and after? I just got back from a stab center because my therapist felt like I needed a "mental vacation" I feel refreshed but now that I am at home I feel as if I'm being treated differently. Everyone is telling me to take it easy and not to do much. It's a sweet gesture but it makes me feel like a child. Have any of you ever had this "issue" ? How did you deal with it? <BR> <BR> Than... Thu, 8 Apr 2010 15:34:06 EST Hello All Hello All <BR> <BR> I'm Amber. I'm a 23 year old from Virginia. I've been diagnosed with manic depression for over 5 years now. I had been self harming since I was 15 and was clean for about three years until the fall of last year. I relapsed. So far I have been clean for 5 months. Sadly I've been going through a massive depression lately and it is taking everything within my spirit to not cut. I am very proud of myself but I am glad I found this small group on here. Support is what we all n... Tue, 6 Apr 2010 12:13:03 EST How do you handle all of those emotions? I recently let my shrink now that I have relapsed lately. We've noticed that one of my scariest emotions is anger. Needless to say, I came from a family that did not handle their anger in appropriate ways. So, I always have tried to manage <BR> my anger through SI. Can anyone relate? Fri, 26 Mar 2010 22:31:57 EST New members!! I'm so glad that we are still reaching out to new members and finding out that more and more people that can relate. But I am encouraging everyone who hasn't yet posted a little something about themselves here! We want to hear from you! And hopefully when you need us, we can help. Have a beautiful day! Thu, 25 Mar 2010 13:36:58 EST Believe in Yourself Believe in the magic in the power of each thought. For you are like a lovely flower, growing in a pot. You can do it, whatever goals you have ever thought and you can grow your roots and widen yourself to a great big plot. And don't let yourself be put on the spot. And whatever effort goes out is the same as you have brought. <BR> Takes time sometimes, don't get distraught. It'll be turned toward you every deed or need you've ever bought. Smile,you'll be happier, that's what I've learned and... Tue, 9 Mar 2010 22:27:40 EST Boyfriend Problem Hey ya'll, <BR> I am dating the most wonderful guy i've ever met. I just have one problem though. And it's me being bi-polar. He is a christian, like me. But he has big issues with me being bipolar and taking meds for it. He believes its not real and that it can only be healed through God. He also said that he would never marry a girl who has mental health problems. <BR> How do you handle this? What do you say to someone when they have this issue... <BR> <BR> Also...i used to self injure a... Tue, 9 Mar 2010 16:46:52 EST! dont know what to do Hey everyone, <BR> <BR> Im still new here, but i need some advice. I've been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder almost a year ago. I self injured a lot because of it. And I've been clean now for almost 3 months. But last week i had an accident in the city with 3 other cars. Wasn't my fault though. I handled it rather good. But on my way back to my home town the next day I got pulled over by the traffic police. I totally cracked and relapsed...i bit myself so hard it started to bleed...and i ju... Tue, 9 Mar 2010 16:21:51 EST Drug and Alcohol Issues? Many times this goes along with the content of this team so I am putting it out there.I am the co-leader of a team for people that have problems with drugs and alcohol issues called Coordinated Harm Reduction. Check us out Tue, 2 Mar 2010 16:04:26 EST THis team I found out about this team actually from people doing a piece on joaquin phoenix. As a person who has suffered severe depression and site that can help out is awesome. Tue, 2 Mar 2010 15:50:54 EST Ask for Help Many of you may have seen the story on Andrew Koenig over the past few days. TWLOHA on Facebook posted this link to a news conference his parents gave after they found him. I hope anyone considering hurting themselves will think twice and reach out before they do something to themselves. <BR> <link><BR>92886#35592886 </link> Sat, 27 Feb 2010 07:25:07 EST Relapse How do you guys handle a relapse? <BR> <BR> I have not hurt myself in months, and I'm fighting to keep that record, but life has been a little overwhelming lately. I've been struggling with a severe episode of depression, and I'm just about drained. <BR> <BR> Thanks for listening. <BR> <BR> Aron Fri, 26 Feb 2010 14:19:20 EST Help TWLOHA win $1 million for Suicide Prevention! To Write Love on Her Arms has the opportunity to save thousands of lives with the launch of IMAlive, a live online crisis center. Please use your vote for TWLOHA and help win $1million for suicide prevention <BR> <BR> thanks! <BR> Team TWLOHA Wed, 20 Jan 2010 15:21:14 EST Hi Hi all. <BR> <BR> Ill at the moment, so not all there. Will update this when I feel better, but just wanted to say hi! <BR> <BR> Squdge Mon, 18 Jan 2010 07:50:26 EST New here Hello, <BR> I just picked up 'The Spark' book recently and logged into Sparkpeople today. I was searching the teams and found this one. I had never heard of TWLOHA. Just reading the name made me look down at my arms. Old scars are there from my self-harm days. <BR> <BR> I did a little research and found out the meaning behind the name. So, I joined. :) <BR> <BR> I currently have depression and am on medication. In the past, I've tried to commit suicide and cut myself. I haven't cut i... Sun, 17 Jan 2010 08:10:40 EST My Safe Place Whenever I feel the stresses of the day, or I am feeling fearful about something, I go to a place in my mind I call my safe space. <BR> <BR> When I lived in Eureka, my boyfriend and I did a mural on the wall of our bedroom. It was so beautiful with roads that twisted and turned up to the mountains and a beautiful castle. A beautiful lady was there too. The colors exquisite. The memory a very good one. So whenever I feel down I close my eyes and return to my old room. I remember where each p... Sat, 16 Jan 2010 21:52:23 EST Introductions Hi! I just wanted to introduce myself to you all. My name is Catherine but I used to be called Sam, aka the pen name. I was an outreach worker in Humboldt County in N. California for about three years and then in San Diego for about 10 months. I distributed condoms and hygeine kits to street walkers, addicts, and homeless people. I really loved that work but then my husband wanted to move to Nebraska. So we got on a greyhound bus and here I am. It is kinda lonely here. I live with my husband ... Sun, 10 Jan 2010 19:04:57 EST Hello Everybody-New Years Resolutions I hope that everyone is settling down now, after the holidays. I have a new year's resolution to quit smoking. I quit on the 6th and still going. What are some of your resolutions? Use the thread to say. Sun, 10 Jan 2010 18:53:07 EST Tips for coping Hey everybody: <BR> <BR> Since we are suppose to be helping each other to overcome urges to harm ourselves, I thought that it might be helpful to create a thread for what we do to cope when we have these urges. I know that I have a list of things that I learned myself and from therapy, and who knows, maybe someone else has an idea that we haven't tried before. So, if you're comfortable, please share <BR> <BR> Here's my list (so far): <BR> <BR> 1. journaling (I also share my journal with... Mon, 28 Dec 2009 11:59:53 EST Self-injury and Stress I'm not sure about everybody else, but I use self-injury as a coping mechanism for stress and other overwhelming emotions. I have found that if I am stressed enough, there are times that if I don't self-injury I end up hurting anyway with migraines and other physical problems later. This sure puts you in a predicament. Any thoughts? Sun, 27 Dec 2009 17:35:14 EST My life feels like a trajedy Right now my life feels like a trajedy. I am supposed to get married on January 3 and I do love my fiance' with all my heart but here goes... yesterday he blew up at me telling me that he is lonely and that all I care about is being on the computer. Today he called me "a computer junkie" I am looking for all the signs but I feel stuck. We have been getting along great until yesterday. Now I feel about 2" high and I feel I have been emotionally abused. He would never hit me but he hit me with... Thu, 17 Dec 2009 10:52:58 EST Body Image/Health and Depression Members of Spark People are here to live a healthier life style and lose weight which is a great step in the right direction. However depression and addiction do seem to have a connection with body image and weight loss. Have you experienced depression in relation to you're own weight loss journey? Wed, 16 Dec 2009 14:09:36 EST