SparkPeople Overeaters Anonymous Team Messageboard This team follows Overeaters Anonymous mission of using the 12 Steps to help compulsive overeaters live free from binging, bulimia, anorexia and other food issues. SparkPeople Overeaters Anonymous Team Messageboard Struggling lately I was doing really quite well for a while and then all of a sudden around noon yesterday my mood just dropped and all I wanted to do was curl up under a warm blanket, binge on comfort food and escape into a good TV series or movie. I didn't and while it got a little better towards evening, that was mostly because I knew I'd be able to pull the covers over my head soon. I still can't quite shake the feeling. I think my stress level is just to the max. It was good over Christmas because I could... Wed, 6 Jan 2021 10:20:54 EST Getting There Hi, everyone. I’m new to OA and to this website. I’m really glad there’s an OA team here. <BR> <BR> I’ve struggled with my weight for my entire life. My mother was/is obese, and I grew up in a family where all of our fondest memories and conversations were/are centered around food. I’m young and still at home with my folks, and most of the food we eat is heavily processed. I’ve tried talking to my family about incorporating fresh vegetables into our collective diet, but it’s be... Fri, 29 May 2020 12:36:43 EST The Nine Tools of OA<BR>ine-tools-of-oa/ <BR> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> The Nine Tools of OA <BR> <BR> In working Overeaters Anonymous’ Twelve-Step program of recovery from compulsive overeating, we have found a number of tools to assist us. We use these tools regularly to help us achieve and maintain abstinence. <BR> In Overeaters Anonymous (OA), abstinence is “the action of refraining f... Mon, 4 May 2020 11:57:47 EST Covid19: How is everyone dealing with pandemic? I feel like everything's changing so fast, and I have no idea where this is headed. I'm trying to stay more centered spiritually and reach out rather than worry so here goes. <BR> <BR> Today, I'm feeling the heaviness in the air. Many people are learning they will not be able to work for long today. Many are fearing this disease for either themselves or their loved ones. Many are wondering who's going to watch their kids now that schools are closing. Many are worrying they can't stock u... Mon, 16 Mar 2020 20:15:01 EST Step and Tradition 3 Step 3: 3.Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. <BR> <BR> Step 3 Spiritual Principle: Faith <BR> <BR> Tradition 3: 3.The only requirement for OA membership is a desire to stop eating compulsively. <BR> <BR> Tradition 3 Spiritual Principle: : Identity Sun, 1 Mar 2020 11:49:56 EST Message Removed Message Removed Wed, 19 Feb 2020 12:39:34 EST Twelve Steps of OA/Step 2 Step 2.Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. <BR> <BR> Spiritual Principle 2: Hope <BR> <BR> Tradition 2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority— a loving God as he may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern. <BR> <BR> Spiritual Principle 2: Trust <BR> <BR> Fri, 31 Jan 2020 11:41:48 EST Message Removed Message Removed Fri, 17 Jan 2020 12:22:20 EST OA 3rd edition book discussion <img src=""> <BR> <BR> Hi OA friends! <BR> <BR> Let’s discuss the OA 3rd edition book. <BR> <BR> Each Week we can discuss a story in the book. Sat, 4 Jan 2020 17:52:37 EST Twelve Steps of OA/Step 1 We admitted we were powerless over food — that our lives had become unmanageable. <BR> <BR> Our unmanageable disease. This is truth. We have tried to manage it for so long only to know that we can't. We can turn it over to our Higher Power who can manage the unmanageable. If we learn to let go...there is a "free" feeling that goes along with not wanting to manage it anymore. Our job is to turn to our Higher Power. Wed, 1 Jan 2020 19:58:51 EST January 2020 Wishing everyone a HAPPY and HEALTHY NEW YEAR! <em>445</em> Wed, 1 Jan 2020 19:49:27 EST Dec 2019 Step 12: Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to compulsive overeaters and to practice these principles in all our affairs. <BR> <BR> Tradition 12: Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of our program, always ensuring principles before personalities. This means that OA itself is not anonymous, but its members are. There are no exceptions. While OA may be publicized, we do not break our individual anonymity at the level of press, radio,... Sun, 1 Dec 2019 12:21:36 EST Message Removed Message Removed Fri, 29 Nov 2019 09:45:57 EST November 2019 Step 11: Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us, and the power to carry that out. <BR> <BR> Tradition 11: Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion: we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio films, television, and other public media of communication. <BR> <BR> Spiritual Principle 11: Anonymity &amp; Spiritual Awareness <... Fri, 1 Nov 2019 13:54:25 EST October 2019 How do you embrace step 10? <BR> <BR> Step 10: Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. <BR> <BR> Tradition 10: Overeaters Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues: hence the OA name ought never be drawn into public controversy. <BR> <BR> Spiritual principle 10: Neutrality &amp; Perseverance <BR> <BR> Tue, 1 Oct 2019 10:12:00 EST Twelve Steps of OA/Step 7 Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. Sun, 1 Sep 2019 22:59:23 EST SEPTEMBER 2019 I love September through November in Michigan. It is about the only months we can count on some consistent weather. Most of the year we can't. <BR> September, to me, was always a month of new beginnings. Children go back to school. It's still beautiful outside so you can enjoy the park, a walk, a sip of iced tea on a park bench. <BR> I know with this disease, many of us have felt alone. I used to. This group has taught me that my Higher Power is the best person to have when I am by m... Sun, 1 Sep 2019 22:54:47 EST Twelve Steps of OA/Step 6 Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. Tue, 13 Aug 2019 10:47:39 EST Twelve Steps of OA Step 5 Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. Tue, 13 Aug 2019 10:46:57 EST AUGUST 2019 So we are nearing the end of summer but that doesn't mean we are near the end of this disease. It kind of amazes me how sun and light make us feel so much better about ourselves compared to dark winters. We can always change that with uplifting quotes, books, exercise and the help of the OA Sparkteam! Let's have summer all year long! (without the humidity!) Tue, 13 Aug 2019 10:44:49 EST Motivation Quotes Hi, <BR> <BR> Lets put in some motivational quotes. This is a great way to think about your recovery and help others on the rough days. <BR> <BR> Kelly Fri, 12 Jul 2019 09:35:44 EST 7th step- July 7th Step: Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. <BR> <BR> Spiritual Principle: Humility <BR> <BR> Tool of Recovery: Plan of Action (PoA) <BR> <BR> 7th Tradition: Every OA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. <BR> <BR> How do these support your life and recovery? Fri, 5 Jul 2019 16:31:54 EST Hi everyone :) Hi all. <BR> <BR> I am really hoping that I can find someone to connect with in here. <BR> <BR> I have struggled with my weight my whole life, the thought of getting it "under control" scares me and overwhelms me. While I lived in Colorado I worked with a nutritionist and emotional eater doctor. She helped me realize the reliance I have on food. Eating when I'm happy, sad, angry, stressed. I felt like I was starting to understand things and we moved and my connection with them ended.... Thu, 13 Jun 2019 23:51:45 EST First meeting next week I will be attending my first meeting next week. There are several different kinds in this town but none say beginners meeting. One says big book, and each meetings says something else. Any suggestion what my first meeting should be? Thank you. Mon, 10 Jun 2019 21:02:46 EST June 2019 : Step & tools Tools of Recovery: Literature <BR> <BR> Step: Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. <BR> <BR> Tradition: An OA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the OA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary purpose. <BR> <BR> Spiritual: Willingness <BR> <BR> <BR> How do you use these as a part of your recovery program? <BR> Sun, 2 Jun 2019 11:42:57 EST Face to Face Meetings I am new to the team and new to O A. I found on here a link to meetings; face to face, phone, etc. On this link I found a face to face meeting that is close by my house and I called and left a message for the contact person .. asking if the meetings still took place and so on. <BR> <BR> So now 3 days have gone by with no return call. Do I "assume" the meetings are not current or is there another way to get this information? <BR> <BR> Any ideas or suggestions are appreciated. Sat, 18 May 2019 22:19:55 EST Helpful Resources The 12 Steps of OA and Spiritual Principals <BR> <BR> <link> </link> <BR> <BR> Please post any helpful resources here. I just needed an easy place to access these items. <BR> <BR> <em>247</em> Thu, 9 May 2019 13:18:51 EST May 2019 Step 5: Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. <BR> <BR> Tradition 5: Each group has but one primary purpose--to carry its message to the compulsive overeater who still suffers. <BR> <BR> Spiritual Principle: Purpose <BR> <BR> Tool of Recovery: Writing <BR> <BR> <BR> How do you apply these in your life? Fri, 3 May 2019 13:27:30 EST Message Removed Message Removed Thu, 2 May 2019 16:23:38 EST History of permutations of OA? Hi everybody, <BR> <BR> I've been in and out (mostly in) of OA since 1993. I've done something people now call "traditional OA" (which I don't believe is the original, because the original OA used grey sheet), OA HOW, CEA HOW, and now greysheeters anonymous. I've heard there is a Food Addicts Anonymous. And, there is another one or two structured OA programs sort of like OA HOW and CEA HOW around. <BR> <BR> I'm trying to figure out the history of all of these. It's never written about ... Sun, 7 Apr 2019 12:22:58 EST Twelve Steps of OA/Step 4 Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. <BR> <BR> This is an on going and critical process that digs really deep. I think the key word is FEARLESS. Our Higher Power is with us 24/7 and if we truly have faith and believe this....we can complete this task without fear. Mon, 1 Apr 2019 09:58:43 EST APRIL 2019 I think just the feeling of Spring lifts everyone's spirits. New beginnings. New life. New relationships with your Higher Power. Remember that you can start "NEW' at any time. We don't have to wait until tomorrow. We can do in the next minute. If this disease can take over minute by minute.....we can start new ways minute by minute. Mon, 1 Apr 2019 09:47:05 EST Twelve Steps of OA/Step 3 Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. <BR> <BR> Its so amazing when we give up. When we feel defeat. It forces us to learn that what we have been doing on our own hasn't been working. How could we believe that someone greater than us could help? How could we turn our control over to someone that we have no "adult" relationship with because we only knew what we were taught as a child and never learned otherwise? <BR> This is the beauty o... Mon, 11 Mar 2019 09:35:06 EST March 2019 Tool of Recovery- Meetings <BR> <BR> Step 3- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood Him. <BR> <BR> Tradition 3- The only requirement for OA membership is a desire to stop eating compulsively. <BR> <BR> Spiritual Principle 3- Faith <BR> Fri, 1 Mar 2019 11:21:58 EST February 2019 I have to say I love the month of February because Valentine's Day is my favorite day besides my birthday. Wouldn't this be the time to show ourselves some love? How many times have we beaten ourselves up, thrown in the towel, beg, pleaded and bargained with our HP? All we need to do is show ourselves a little love and compassion. Light some candles, get our that favorite book, soak in a bubble bath. Wouldn't you treat a lover that way? We need to treat ourselves that way first. Sun, 3 Feb 2019 15:24:25 EST Twelve Steps of OA/Step 2 Step 2: <BR> <BR> Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. <BR> <BR> Tradition 2: <BR> <BR> For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority— a loving God as he may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern. <BR> <BR> spiritual principle 2: <BR> <BR> Hope <BR> <BR> Tool of Recovery 2: <BR> <BR> Sponsorship <BR> <BR> <BR> Fri, 1 Feb 2019 15:15:44 EST Spirituality and Abstinence. I am writing this here to always remember it. How many times do I need to re-experience this epiphany? Well, there seems to be an endless supply of blinding flashes of the obvious in the area of abstinence from my HP, thank goodness. <BR> <BR> In meditation this morning: I opened ny inner field of vision to whatever Jesus had to say to me today about my food issues (My conceptualization of HP is broader than this, but I do talk to Jesus because he's always there for me). I "saw" in my m... Thu, 24 Jan 2019 00:52:54 EST Twelve Traditions of OA/Tradition 1 Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon OA unity. <BR> <BR> Personal recovery should always be guarded by the group. What we do for ourselves first, can be passed onto the group when they are seeking counsel or advice. We can share by experience. Thu, 3 Jan 2019 08:48:11 EST Twelve Steps of OA/Step 1 We admitted we were powerless over food — that our lives had become unmanageable. <BR> <BR> Please be aware that if we cannot take this FIRST step....we can't truly experience the freedom we will have from this disease with our Higher Power. Whatever or whomever that Higher Power is to you. We have to be humble. We have to be willing to accept help. This disease wants you to believe you can do it on your own....which is the disease illusion. Thu, 3 Jan 2019 08:45:20 EST Sponsor Help This part of our forum will be for those looking for an OA Sparkteam Sponsor. Thu, 3 Jan 2019 08:41:11 EST January 2019 Happy New Year! Thu, 3 Jan 2019 07:50:55 EST Dec 2018 Step !2: <BR> <BR> Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to compulsive overeaters and to practice these principles in all our affairs. <BR> <BR> Tradition 12: <BR> <BR> Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of our program, always ensuring principles before personalities. This means that OA itself is not anonymous, but its members are. There are no exceptions. While OA may be publicized, we do not break our individual anonymity at the ... Sun, 2 Dec 2018 13:14:06 EST Abstinence in OA/Question??? Re: my accountability - see attached. <BR> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> Sunday - over on fat, over on carbs, under on protein. 1521 calories (within goal). <BR> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> Monday - good on fat, good on carbs, good on protein :) I wasn't even trying (macros wise). 1447 calories (within goal). <BR> <BR> <img src="h... Tue, 27 Nov 2018 22:25:38 EST Twelve Steps of OA-Step Three Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. <BR> <BR> Its very important in this sentence "God as we understood Him." <BR> This is your understanding. Not religions, not your parents, not your spouse, children or media. This is how YOU perceive or would like to have YOUR relationship with your HP. Your HP can be God, Allah, Buddha, a chair....anything that you believe in that will be with you on this journey to help fight this disease. <BR> C... Tue, 6 Nov 2018 05:36:30 EST November 2018 Step 11: Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us, and the power to carry that out. <BR> <BR> Principle Eleven: Spiritual Awareness <BR> <BR> Tradition 11: Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion: we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio films, television, and other public media of communication. <BR> <BR> How do you pr... Fri, 2 Nov 2018 12:16:29 EST OA STEP ONE - part two What excuses have you used to go back to compulsive eating? <BR> <BR> - it's girls night out, date night, a holiday, I'm mad, depressed, etc. They made it for me, she gave it to me, I don't want to be rude or make anyone feel bad, I don't want to have to explain, I'm hungry, I don't want to feel left out or different. I want it. If I can eat it and not binge I don't have to give it up. <BR> <BR> Have any of your reasons for going back to compulsive eating ever ever ever turned out to be rea... Thu, 18 Oct 2018 15:51:53 EST OA STEP ONE - part one 1. What are my stories of overeating? <BR> <BR> Snack day at work (3 donuts, 4 pcs cheesecake, 2 pcs breakfast pizza, handful of granola, 4 cookies, coffee, diet coke, 2 pcs chicken, tomato, avocado, lemon lime jello, protein bar, two bowls of cereal, digging the last pc of ice cream cake out of the trash and praying no one sees me); eating after my stepson and husband go to bed; eating my stepson's candy; eating all the ice cream because I'm planning on starting over and I want a last hoo-r... Thu, 18 Oct 2018 15:50:58 EST October 2018 Step Ten: Perseverance <BR> Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. <BR> <BR> <BR> Tradition 10: Overeaters Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues: hence the OA name ought never be drawn into public controversy. <BR> <BR> Mon, 1 Oct 2018 13:18:46 EST Twelve Steps of OA-Step Two Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Tue, 11 Sep 2018 08:54:57 EST September 2018 Tool of Recovery- Service <BR> How do you help others? <BR> <BR> Step 9- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. <BR> Is your side of the street clean, how can you make amends if not? <BR> <BR> Spiritual Principle- Love for others <BR> How do you show love to people in your life and others in the world? <BR> <BR> Living the program means taking responsibilities for your actions. How does your HP help you do t... Sat, 1 Sep 2018 12:24:11 EST Today's Goals Write your goals- writing a commitment helps us to achieve our goals. <BR> <BR> Can be any goal, program or life Sun, 26 Aug 2018 13:02:57 EST Relapse... I made it from Sunday 08/19/18 until 08/23/18 - tracking everything, prepping food the day before, counting calories... eating the right things, avoiding binges... then tonight I binged. I went to my best friend's house to see my "niece" who was having her 12th birthday. I honestly wasn't going to eat anything, I'd already had dinner and at that point was at 1200 calories (my limit is 1300-1350) - but talked myself into "just having a burger" and "one piece of cake" because I'm not going to t... Fri, 24 Aug 2018 22:50:47 EST Morning Meditation Discussion Anyone else read either of the two OA daily mediation books, For Today and Voices of Recovery? I thought perhaps we could discuss the daily entry from either of them. <BR> <BR> In today's Voices of Recovery, we read: <BR> <BR> "The problem is with the control of food. Is one preoccupied with controlling food intake to the point that it is interfering with one's life? Being a compulsive over eater is not related to the amount one weighs." (Overeaters Anonymous, Second Edition, p. 230). <BR> ... Thu, 16 Aug 2018 10:57:00 EST August 2018 Welcome all the new OA Sparkpeople and current Sparklers to the month of August!!! <BR> I hope this is a welcoming place for all of you to share your stories, your fears, your happiness, your success and your love. We, as humans, need each other and I believe that is why this group continues to grow and work. I have failed many times over, but I get back up again KNOWING this group is behind me....cheering me on! That is what I want to do for each of you as well. So....let's make August a mo... Sat, 11 Aug 2018 08:08:22 EST July 2018 Step 7: Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. <BR> <BR> Tradition 7: Every OA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. <BR> <BR> Spiritual Principle 7: Humility <BR> <BR> How do you apply these to your life daily. <BR> <BR> I ask m HP to remove food cravings and stress everyday. I know I can not recover with these shortcomings in my life. <BR> <BR> I give to all meetings I attend. I make it a non-negotiable to give- without the group I can not r... Sun, 1 Jul 2018 13:28:42 EST June 2018 Step 6: <BR> Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. <BR> <BR> Principles 6: <BR> Willingness <BR> <BR> Tradition 6: <BR> An OA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the OA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary purpose. <BR> <BR> Spiritual Principles Tradition Six: <BR> Solidarity Fri, 1 Jun 2018 14:02:55 EST May 2018 Since it May 1 hope we will be able to post here. <BR> Tue, 1 May 2018 17:06:09 EST April 2018 Step 4: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. <BR> <BR> Tradition 4: Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or AA as a whole. <BR> <BR> How will you make April an absence month? Sun, 1 Apr 2018 14:46:25 EST how to release weight when you are hypothyroid? I did not know where to post it but yes this is my dilemma now. How to release weight when you are hypothyroid...i have been looking for oa members esh for it...or health issues focused online oa results. Wed, 14 Mar 2018 00:09:57 EST March 2018 Tradition 3 states "The only requirement for OA is the desire to stop eating compulsively" <BR> <BR> Are we using the membership to it's full benefit? Do we attend meetings? use the tools? take the steps? Are we reaching out to help others? <BR> <BR> I find myself admitting to compulsively overeating- and not much else. Spring starts this month. A time when the earth is starting a new. What better time to commit or re-commit. <BR> <BR> What does this tradition mean to... Sun, 4 Mar 2018 11:25:48 EST Spark Points Spin For The Day!! 7 points for the bonus spin!!!! Mon, 19 Feb 2018 23:14:08 EST February Birthdays! Do we have any February babies? Mon, 19 Feb 2018 23:11:42 EST February 2018 Hello everyone. Been a little hectic here in the household but I thought better late than never. <BR> I am holding myself accountable for not being the leader I need to be in this group for this month. <BR> I apologize. <BR> Now, onto a new month, a new you. I love Valentine's Day. It is my favorite. What is really interesting is that I always thought it involved loving another person. A couple. Being with somebody else and that single people really didn't enjoy Valentine's Day. However, wh... Mon, 19 Feb 2018 23:01:53 EST Introduction Hi, my name is Lea. I’ve been struggling with my weight for many years now, so I’m looking forward to having support and help with this journey. One of my biggest struggles is that I’m not an athletic person in any way. I’d much rather do crafts or read and I’ve pretty much always been that way. I do like to ride my bicycle, but that is seasonal, especially since my asthma kicks up in extreme hot or cold weather. Thu, 15 Feb 2018 12:17:02 EST Seeking a sponsor Hi am a complusive overeater,am glad to join this group. Am seeking for support especially with food. I have hypothyroidism and I really don't know how to handle all this issues Mon, 5 Feb 2018 00:32:50 EST January Birthdays Anyone have January Birthdays? Tue, 2 Jan 2018 21:21:44 EST January 2018 Happy New Year to a great team! Like most of us, we want to start the new year right. We have goals, plans, resolutions and hope. This year, I would like to take the opportunity to have a non criticizing year. This month, let us focus on what we can do instead of what we can't. I know for me, I can get stuck in the rut of why thing aren't working but that can lead to a pity party. Instead, I would like to focus on what triggers we removed. What food pantry is "Just Ours" and what we are going... Mon, 1 Jan 2018 11:38:22 EST December Birthdays! Anyone of our beautiful members born in the month of December? Mon, 11 Dec 2017 22:20:29 EST December 2017 It's that time of year again where I think all of our stress levels go a little bit haywire! The funny part is that it is TIS THE SEASON TO BE JOLLY! Lol! <BR> We really should look at that little quote. Jolly. What does Jolly mean for you? For me, Jolly means being happy in a state of complete chaos around you. Sitting and enjoying my Christmas tree instead of vacuuming. Wishing a stranger a "Merry Christmas" knowing they may be having a bad day. Jolly is the little things that really mean... Mon, 11 Dec 2017 21:51:49 EST December 2017 Happy December. I'm on my 47th day clean of sugar, Wheat, and flour and grateful for the recommitment to my food plan. I'm really thankful to be more connected with Step 11 than ever before. The highs and lows are hardly ever. This will be my 25th Christmas year in recovery. The steps have truly brought me this far. It's worth the work and faith. <BR> <img src=""> Sun, 3 Dec 2017 08:56:03 EST Just wanted to say hi <BR> Today I finally joined the oe group. Over 50 years I have been in a constant swing between overeating and dieting. Only recently, after reading Russell Brand's book, called recovery, I realised that my overeating was an addiction, acquired in the very early years of my childhood. Unless I deal with this addiction first, I will never be able to properly go on a diet. I have to work on the foundation,which is my mindset. I like the idea of following the 12 steps. There is a path, a strai... Wed, 22 Nov 2017 12:15:10 EST Musicians A to Z Abba Wed, 1 Nov 2017 20:03:22 EST November Birthdays!! Do we have any OA members with November Birthdays? Please post here!!!! <em>44</em> Wed, 1 Nov 2017 20:01:42 EST Attitudes of Gratitude If you look to others for fulfillment, <BR> you will truly never be fulfilled. <BR> If your happiness depends on money, <BR> you will never be happy with yourself. <BR> Be content with what you have; <BR> rejoice in the way things are. <BR> When you realize there is nothing lacking, <BR> the whole world belongs to you. <em>586</em> <BR> <BR> ------Lao Tzu Wed, 1 Nov 2017 19:55:34 EST November 2017 I can't believe how time is flying!! This is the time that I think we, as a group, really need to support each other. Holidays can represent so many things to us. I used to be really scared of the holidays. Not so much the food part.....but the criticism or toxic people that contributed to the food part. I was the walking wounded into any party. The party of family I detested the most. I always felt I had to back up or fight for my food choices. Why should I feel this way? AT A PARTY?! Well... Wed, 1 Nov 2017 19:44:35 EST October 2017 Hello everyone! Can you believe it is OCTOBER?! It is Fall, here in Michigan, and I have been taking in the beautiful leaves changing color. This month, we need to put 10 minutes aside and enjoy the beauty that surrounds us. We need to include our HP in this little time of reflections. There is value in this. It teaches us to put our HP and ourselves FIRST in order to center ourselves and then it sets the tone of how to continue our day. Remember, this journey starts with one step and we con... Sun, 1 Oct 2017 15:07:51 EST September 2017 For this month, since I was quite behind leading the team, I am just going to ask everyone to lean on their HP. <BR> There have been so many things going on as far as weather in different places that I am praying for those affected also. <BR> I think when we struggle with the disease, it is a comfort to look outside ourselves and see how other people need our help for their immediate survival. Wed, 20 Sep 2017 09:44:27 EST Hey Hey I'm a 30 year old stay at home mom and retail associate. I've had issues with food and weight and health my whole life. I always hid it very well from my friends but was hospitalized for anorexia by the time I was about 19. I went from binging to anorexic and back for a few years after that. I have had a chronic health issue going on since I was 16 that the doctors can't really figure out. They are thinking fibromyalgia so I get really weak and dizzy and exhausted alot, and it comes and g... Sat, 16 Sep 2017 01:14:14 EST HELLO!!! So, I went to my first OA meeting yesterday. Was not sure if I 'fit' the profile of someone who goes to OA, and was uncomfortable with the mantra- this lovely group of ladies were accepting and encouraging. I'm not comfortable with saying I'm a compulsive overeater- that brings to mind that I could randomly see food and uncontrollably eat it. What is my truth that I am a stress eater, and I need to learn to deal with that. I have been gluten free for 6 years, and for long stretches (up to ... Thu, 24 Aug 2017 12:12:28 EST Hello! I have 13 months of recovery in OA (abstinence since 6/24/16). I have released 72 pounds so far. I need to be just a bit more focused on eating well. Here to be more accountable for the physical portion of my recovery. <BR> <BR> I have also released one of 2 antidepressant medications and my A1C has gone from 13.1 to 5.3. <BR> <BR> Grateful for the steps, HP, and fellowship. Tue, 1 Aug 2017 10:33:37 EST Tradition Twelve . Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all these Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles <BR> before personalities. <BR> Tue, 1 Aug 2017 08:53:29 EST Tradition Eleven Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain <BR> personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, television, and other public media of <BR> communication. <BR> Tue, 1 Aug 2017 08:51:37 EST August 2017 Hello everyone! I hope all of you are enjoying summer and the fun that comes with it! I used to be afraid of the bathing suit for summer but I have realized that I am a work in progress and not striving for perfection. I am here to enjoy the moment of the beach or pool....not be a fashion model that sits perfect at the beach! We need to jump in and enjoy life at ANY size. Only we know our disease and only we share this with the same people and our Higher Power. Even skinny people have strugg... Tue, 1 Aug 2017 08:40:32 EST My Name is Julia And I am a compulsive overeater! I have attended OA meetings many years ago, but had a problem with the Higher Power concept, plus it WORKED! and that scared me! My problem with Higher Power is I can NOT accept the traditional concept of a male god. I am trying to believe in something greater than myself, but progress has been slow. Sometimes I totally believe, other times not so much. And this was not what I planned to talk about in my intro! LOL <BR> <BR> Anyway, I'm here. I'm 70, sing... Tue, 11 Jul 2017 13:01:08 EST July 2017 Summer....summer....summer! What a great time to celebrate graduations, birthdays, weddings and reunions. I don't want anyone to be afraid to attend these functions or even say "no" to them if you have to. You see, these are celebrations. These are not places to fall off the wagon, throw away our food plans....these are celebrations to mingle with people, show them what a great individual you are and to be genuinely happy for the person (s) being celebrated! If you have to say "no" to these c... Tue, 4 Jul 2017 18:36:11 EST Tradition Ten Overeaters Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the OA name ought never be drawn into public controversy. <BR> Remaining anonymous is for the good of the whole. We can't take on controversy as our disease IS controversy in our lives. Any distraction from that would stop the healing. Sat, 3 Jun 2017 14:05:50 EST June 2017 Can you believe it's JUNE?! Where has the time gone? Its funny.....I feel as I get older that time goes a little bit by too fast. I am learning to take time for myself though. I never used to do that. I was the person that always had a hard time saying "No" and then resenting everything because I didn't! I remember growing up to learn that when you put people first....that will make you a like-able person, woman, wife...etc. I learned this from my mother and when I look at my mom today....she... Sat, 3 Jun 2017 13:54:29 EST Need an oa online sponsor Hi. ..I've been in oa for awhile. ..2 years ago i had 9 months abstinence and lost 50 I'm in relapse and gained all my weight back. .I've been listening to lots of l.a. oa podcasts!. ..Also in aa 3.5 years sober! <BR> <BR> Wanting to start fresh with took embarrassed and ashamed to ask anyone in my face to face meetings because I can't get past the shame of being in relapse and working with a handful of sponsors I've burned bridges in a way. <BR> S... Sat, 3 Jun 2017 03:10:11 EST Tradition Nine OA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve. Thu, 4 May 2017 20:44:05 EST May 2017 I would like everyone to take the opportunity this month to do something nice for themselves. Just for yourself. No one else. I have come to the realization that when we start to put ourselves first......we then become useful to others. How can we treat others with respect when we don't respect ourselves? It's not a selfish way like we have been taught. I have turned to food because I had to make everyone else happy so the only way I could think I could control my resentful feelings was with ... Thu, 4 May 2017 20:38:56 EST Afraid to share I've started going back to f2f meetings. The thing that I love most about meetings is sharing time. When I can listen to and relate to the shares that everyone puts out. The problem is I can't share... I'm afraid of public speaking. So I sit quietly listening to everyone. I want to work the program and be able to share someday. So if anyone has any ideas or suggestions on how I can come out of my silent shell. I'd appreciate the feedback. Wed, 19 Apr 2017 00:11:45 EST Tradition Eight Overeaters Anonymous should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers. <BR> <BR> Most of our special workers are working the program themselves. Thu, 13 Apr 2017 09:56:46 EST April 2017 April showers bring May flowers! I loved when my mom taught me that little saying! My daughter has so much wonderment in her eyes when she sees new blooms on a tree! Remember when little things were so amazing to us as children? As we grew older, we were taught by inappropriate people not to enjoy the little things in life anymore. To grow up, be responsible, don't show your feelings, get as much money as you can without regards if it makes you happy, please everybody else EXCEPT yourself ... Thu, 13 Apr 2017 09:48:28 EST Tradition Seven Every OA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. <BR> <BR> This is a very simple step. We rely on each other and have no outside influence monetary wise. This keeps us honest and our disease amongst ourselves that each other can only understand Fri, 3 Mar 2017 11:07:33 EST March 2017 I want to take this time to reflect on how we are all doing. March, for me, is going to be a time of reflection. We are done with back to back holidays and this is a really good time to dust off our journals, get back to sharing our thoughts and help those who are new to the program. I like to think that March is ME time since it starts with the letter M! <BR> Remember, one day at at time. Progress not perfection. We are all in this together! Wed, 1 Mar 2017 22:31:56 EST A follow-up, and message of hope. Hello all. I joined this group maybe 6-8 years ago, when in a very difficult spot. After a bad breakup, I found a new habit - eating for comfort. And that led me to gain some weight, develop (I believe) some food sensitivities and gut problems, and engage in a years' long struggle to get healthy, physically and mentally. <BR> <BR> I remember asking a specific question in this group - something along the lines of "is it possible to get over an addiction to food/the compulsion to overeat?... Sun, 19 Feb 2017 14:25:25 EST Tradition Six An OA group ought never endorse, finance or lend the OA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary purpose. <BR> <BR> We definitely need to adhere to this tradition as much as possible as we are easily distracted by this disease, let alone outside influences. If we didn't follow this tradition, we wouldn't be anonymous and this is a place for us to feel safe. Thu, 2 Feb 2017 21:48:46 EST February 2017 I love February and yes, you guessed, because of Valentine's Day. I used to be one of those ladies that really enjoyed romance. I have learned a lot about myself through this day. You don't need someone to buy you flowers and can buy it for yourself. You can plan a romantic dinner with candles. You know, take the time to set out the dishes, the silverware, the glasses, the candles. You see.....this is YOU in love with YOU. YOU treating yourself like you should be treated. We wa... Thu, 2 Feb 2017 21:44:46 EST Tradition Five Each group has but one primary purpose — to carry its message to the compulsive overeater who still suffers. <BR> <BR> This is our number one goal of this group is to give the advice, knowledge and experiences that we have and still have to help them in this disease. Mon, 2 Jan 2017 08:56:24 EST January 2017 Happy New Year my OA Sparklers! I wanted to welcome the newcomers and celebrate the sparklers who have been here since the beginning. I would like to look forward to this coming year with hope, faith and the ability to hold ourselves accountable for the good and not so good. I am really not into resolutions personally, but if you have made some.....I think that is really a great start! My "resolutions" are relatively small and attainable. Plus, I don't guilt and shame myself if I haven't me... Mon, 2 Jan 2017 08:31:03 EST OA Sparkteam Member Birthdays Janine (Team Leader) August 9th Thu, 1 Dec 2016 23:03:45 EST Dog Breeds A to Z Afghan Thu, 1 Dec 2016 23:02:23 EST Tradition Four Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or OA as a whole. <BR> <BR> Each group and each individual within their particular OA group, keep/run that particular group. OA as a whole has certain steps they follow but each group is autonomous of itself. That is how our groups grow and continue to grow. If we feel we don't belong to one group, we can always try another. We are all welcome here. Thu, 1 Dec 2016 22:59:22 EST December 2016 I can't believe December is among us! Oh...the hustle and bustle of it all! The traffic alone sometimes gets to me but I know I can count on my HP to guide me. December and Christmas used to be a real fun time for me as a child. When I became an adult.....not so much. I don't know if it was the pressure to keep up with everyone else and not following my true feelings of the spirit of Christmas or the Holidays. I know I expected too much of myself. So did others but that was there issue and i... Thu, 1 Dec 2016 22:53:19 EST I need help please... Yesterday was Day 3 of a binge/purge relapse, after a month long streak. I'm feeling sad and desperate...again. <BR> <BR> The links provided on the OA website under "Find a meeting" (online) all seem to be overseas times, etc. No luck getting to anything in the U.S. I'm thinking I must not be looking in the right spot or maybe there are other OA online meeting resources I haven't been able to find. <BR> <BR> I need some help...and a sponsor, or something. I can't do this by myself and j... Thu, 3 Nov 2016 09:31:35 EST Tradition Three The only requirement for OA membership is a desire to stop eating compulsively. <BR> <BR> We sure have this when we come to the table don't we? A desire to STOP. After desire comes the work and prayer put into practice into keeping the compulsive behavior at bay. It is so wonderful to feel like we have come to a place we can call a second home. People that understand. People that want to connect and have the desire to live. The only thing needed for membership is the desire to stop. Its okay... Tue, 1 Nov 2016 21:03:56 EST November 2016 Ahhh......we are on our way to the Holidays! Those used to be really scary to me. The first thing that would run through my mind was, "What kind of food will they have?" "How many alcoholic drinks should I have?" "Will I go up for a second helping if other people do?" "Do I have any clothes to wear that will hide my hideous body?" <BR> What I really should have been thinking, "I can't wait to see my friends!' "My asset is my _____ and I am going to play that up!" "Every department store has... Tue, 1 Nov 2016 20:58:59 EST Tradition Two For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority — a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern. <BR> <BR> This tradition is such an important one. I have found many people that do not enjoy face to face meetings due to some of the drama that may go on. However, its a good rule of thumb to remember that the only one that can help us in this disease is our HP. We can ask for help through a Sponsor only based ... Thu, 13 Oct 2016 05:46:32 EST October 2016 Oh my am I late!!! I have to apologize for that. <BR> October is here and so is fall weather in Michigan. I have to admit that it is my favorite time of the year. <BR> I was thinking today how scary the upcoming holidays can be due to our disease. When I was young and could eat as much candy as I wanted, because I liked candy and didn't use food as a cover up for the void in my life, I was more interested in celebrating Halloween. Celebrating...not being afraid of what is going to be in a b... Wed, 5 Oct 2016 18:51:24 EST Newto Oa. Im looking for and OA online Sponsor . Im a Compulsive overeater and Bulmic <BR> <BR> please email me. @ Tue, 20 Sep 2016 18:50:17 EST Tradition One Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon OA unity. <BR> <BR> To me, this really is the basis of OA. We really need each other to help us through this disease. We have tried going it alone, all with fail. It's nice to have a group of people to come home to that understands us. They understand because they have the same disease. Unity. One word but does so much as a whole group. Mon, 12 Sep 2016 09:56:43 EST Recovery from relapse has a meeting program for recovery relapse, podcasts and video. I have enjoyed researching and presenting this topic for our Tuesday noon meetings. Sun, 4 Sep 2016 09:59:17 EST September 2016 The kids are going back to school, Labor Day weekend is upon us, Fall is on its way and we are making it day to day. That is how I feel. I look forward to fall and the wonderful weather and colors it brings. To me, this is my SPRING. When I look at a leaf that has changed reminds me of how many personalities and feelings within us that make us whole. This disease has robbed us of some of our colors that need to shine through. Like all of us that come together on this team, we ma... Fri, 2 Sep 2016 21:07:00 EST looking for sponsor Hi I am old to spark people but new to OA I am looking for a sponsor to teach me how to work the program, I have tried for years to get this weight off but I just haven't had any success a Facebook friend of mine told me about OA so I looked it up on here and found you if someone could please help me email is (I can only use my sparkmail from a computer which I can't get on everyday so if anyone can help please send me an email thanks :) Fri, 12 Aug 2016 09:50:28 EST New good morning all, I'm Glenda and I'm here because I need help...I've been looking at everything here and would like some help I'm not really sure how to work the steps if some could please help me... my email is unless I'm on a computer I can't get to my sparkmail haven't figured it out on my app for phone yet!! please help me to understand how to work this program Fri, 12 Aug 2016 09:13:30 EST new Hi, I'm not knew to sparkpeople but I am new to OA, I am glad to be here and I am looking for help thabks :) Wed, 10 Aug 2016 11:12:42 EST Twelve Steps of OA- Step Twelve Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to compulsive overeaters and to practice these principles in all our affairs. <BR> <BR> This step is crucial to those who are just learning of our disease. We can reach out if they accept our knowledge and help. We are to be honest with ourselves before we can with anyone else.....otherwise, we can hurt their progress in the program or vice versa. Practicing this principle in all our affairs carries... Tue, 2 Aug 2016 08:35:29 EST August 2016 Hello everyone! Well.....I am partial to August as I have my birthday in this month! I have been really proud of all of you who continue with the program. Remember that it's progress and not perfection.Let this be a month of enjoyment. Just because we have this disease doesn't mean it's all drudgery. We are so used to being in fear of food that we forget what it is like to enjoy it at the same time. MODERATELY. What I want us to do is treat ourselves like we would a very special guest. Get o... Tue, 2 Aug 2016 08:18:18 EST Twelve Steps of OA-Step Eleven Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. <BR> <BR> This is really the heart of OA in my personal opinion. I know that in my experience, I have tried to do it on my own.....and not just with overeating. Most areas of my life. I have learned that to put my Higher Power FIRST; everything else comes in second. Once you step out of that spotlight of trying to ... Mon, 4 Jul 2016 08:26:44 EST JULY 2016 Been a crazy summer! I want this month to be the celebration of our success and failures. We should be setting off fireworks for the road to recovery that we are all traveling. How many summers have gone by, knowing we are headed to a bbq, a graduation, a wedding, or even a vacation cruise being fearful because of the food being presented? We can't beat ourselves up before we arrive. We CAN LEAN ON OUR HIGHER POWER! We can say a short prayer asking Him or Her or It to guide us at the wonder... Sat, 2 Jul 2016 16:03:04 EST Need a Sponsor! - EST Hello! I am looking for a sponsor to provide support. Please let me know if you or someone you know is interested. I am in EST. Thank you! Sat, 11 Jun 2016 21:44:18 EST First timer I am just beginning the process of finding out more about OA. I am attending my first official meeting tonight. I am excited to begin the journey of overcoming my addiction to sugar:) <BR> Mon, 6 Jun 2016 13:21:40 EST Twelve Steps of OA-Step Ten Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. <BR> <BR> I know, personally, that when I was wrong, I never wanted to admit it. I would blame others or not say anything at all in order not to face the consequence. As I become more of an adult through recovery, I like admitting when I am wrong because that gives me the opportunity to be accountable for my actions and to move forward with better choices for the next time. No need to beat ourselves up about i... Thu, 2 Jun 2016 07:21:06 EST June 2016 June!!!! I really feel like summer is here! (Rarity in Michigan as our weather is so unpredictable!) June has always been a start month in my mind. Maybe I associate it with getting outside in the garden; more exercise. A chance to spread my wings a bit from the inside blues of winter and rain. I think if you ask a lot of people, June is the month for parties, graduations, weddings and the like. What is great about all of those occasions is that they present us with opportunities in our reco... Thu, 2 Jun 2016 06:45:09 EST 24 years in recovery and back thru the steps It's been quite a few years since I have been on Spark. It's great to see an OA team :-) <BR> <BR> Glad to be a part and grateful to be going through the steps again. After a few 24 hours in recovery - I feel a new sense of recovery with a new set of eyes and a deeper honesty and surrender to a power greater than me. My sponsor and I use the BB of AA as a base with OA lit and also I am in recovery in AA as well. Don't know if there are any others here in both. <BR> <BR> I am just grateful t... Tue, 24 May 2016 18:48:47 EST Daily food commitments I'm looking for someone that wouldn’t mind if I email you my food commitments for the day for a while until I find a sponsor? <BR> You can read if you want, or not. Reply if you want, or not, Reciprocate if you want, or not. I’m just looking for someone that doesn’t mind me filling their email box, and maybe make a new support person. Thanks <BR> Wed, 18 May 2016 10:07:02 EST And the wisdom to know the difference. God, grant me the serenity <BR> To accept the things I cannot change; <BR> Courage to change the things I can; <BR> And the wisdom to know the difference. <BR> <BR> Serenity, I need that… <BR> I can ACCEPT that my 18 year old daughter is the most unmotivated, procrastinating, sloppy, lazy, ungrateful, wasteful, disrespectful, entitled person I’ve ever known. I can accept this because I believe it won’t last forever. She will eventually mature and start making good choices. I tried my ... Tue, 17 May 2016 12:21:22 EST Twelve Steps of OA-Step Nine Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. <BR> <BR> This is a very important step that really is on an individual basis. If we are humble and sorry for the harm we have done to an individual but know that apologizing to them would heal the wound, then we know what to do. <BR> If we are sorry for something we did that we know if we apologized for but would cause our marriages to fall apart, our children to be affected in a negative... Mon, 2 May 2016 10:30:54 EST May 2016 Oh how I am excited for Spring here in Michigan! We went flower and plant shopping. Always gives me renewed hope of how things can start over even after a slip. We have all been there. We have all been on such a great abstinent streak and then all of a sudden, we slip. It is ok. We don't have to beat ourselves up. Remember, progress not perfection. Let that be our motto for the month of May. We have to remember that life changes and evolves. We evolve and grow with it and we cannot do it to ... Mon, 2 May 2016 10:02:03 EST Intro Hi there, I'm a newbie. I have been a compulsive overeater for as long as I can remember, but am only recently realizing that is what I am/was. I very recently realized that I have an addiction and need help. I've done a but of research on OA, and to be honest I'm not sure how to integrate the steps into my belief system (the religious aspect is difficult for me as I do not believe in a higher power per se). That being said, I do recognize that I need help and am hoping this is the place for ... Sun, 1 May 2016 12:53:40 EST LAST LETTER....NEW WORD Aggravation NEXT WORD TO BEGIN WITH "N" (Note this isn't and A-Z type topic. Hope you enjoy it. Mon, 25 Apr 2016 10:14:11 EST HELLO EVERYONE My name is Amanda. I'm compulsive overeater. I've been going to meetings for 2 weeks. I'm working through the steps. I found my abstinence last week, and have partnered with God and my Sponsor to stay abstinent. It was a SP friend who introduced me to OA Sun, 17 Apr 2016 08:51:08 EST Twelve Steps of OA-Step Eight Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. <BR> This step, at first, can be a daunting task. I think a lot of us get overwhelmed as we decide to make that list. That list can be really long or short. I think it is important to remember to stay present with this task. If there is something bothering you about an amend that needs to be made because it stayed with you for all these years, then this is a good time to do this. If you do not have a list ... Sat, 2 Apr 2016 12:53:35 EST April 2016 April showers bring May flowers! That would be wishful thinking on my part here in Michigan. It started to snow a little bit this morning, but for the most part, our weather has been mild. <BR> April is a great month for new beginnings. For those that celebrated Easter...Happy Easter! <BR> I remember thinking new beginnings meant starting a diet over and over. Over and over and over. Now that I am wiser, new beginnings, to me, means starting at this very moment and keeping on for the long h... Sat, 2 Apr 2016 12:37:24 EST What sparked your ah-ha moment? Day 19 of abstinence for me. I hear a lot of people say they have gone to meetings for a long time before they were able to get abstinent. What sparked your ah-ha moment? <BR> <BR> Some friends of mine lost their son to heroin a few years ago. Now, they go to schools and put on assemblies to educate students about how addictive and dangerous it is. The campaign slogan is Not Even Once. <BR> It occurred to me that this addiction can suck you down just as easily. <BR> I realized that a sing... Mon, 21 Mar 2016 10:49:59 EST I am not an Overeater... or am I? I used to think: How can I go to a meeting and introduce myself as a compulsive overeater when I am not? That's when I thought "overeater" meant the same thing as a "binge eater". I rarely would binge eat. ...and when I did, it wasn't compulsive, it was planned....I reward for whatever I was dealing with. <BR> What I realized is that grazing all day IS overeating. Taking in WAAAAAY more calories in a day than a body needs IS overeating. ...AND... mindlessly doing this and then beating myse... Thu, 17 Mar 2016 09:43:49 EST How's everyone doing out there? Hello Everyone!! <BR> <BR> I just wanted to take a minute to see how everyone is doing and see/hear some shares? <BR> This week I was working on Step 4 and learned a huge lesson on SELF CENTEREDNESS from another COE just calling to say "hello". I had an issue with a family member who had done something to my family, and I was so angry. I told her about it, and that I was worried it would lead to me bingeing after over 60 days of abstinence I don't want to do that. When she said " I h... Sun, 13 Mar 2016 16:55:56 EST Online Resources OA Speakers Free <BR> <BR> It's a free app I have on my smart phone. You can also get free podcasts from <BR> <BR> Here is a link to some podcasts <BR> <BR> <link><BR>-laig-virtual-speakers-bureau.html </link> <BR> <BR> Find an Online Meeting <BR> <BR> <link><BR>1 </link> Fri, 11 Mar 2016 12:10:49 EST Twelve Steps of OA-Step Seven Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. <BR> <BR> We do have to do this humility. If we don't, we will continue to have shortcomings that will lead us down the path of the disease. I have to ask my HP everyday to please make my brain work correctly in choosing healthy eating. I have to ask my HP everyday to get me through any feeling I know I can't handle without Him. Believe me, in the course of my day....there can be many. My disease is so cocky and so sure of itself that it doesn't k... Wed, 2 Mar 2016 10:41:24 EST March 2016 March. Kind of an unusual month. I am surprised to see that Easter is in March instead of April this year. I am going to take the month of March and make it my Meditation month. Sometimes, when I don't get to take time with my HP, I feel really out of touch and not centered. We can get in the habit of not spending time with our HP an then let the disease get a grasp thinking we can do this all on our own. I can attest that I can't do it on my own. It has taken me a while to learn but I don't ... Wed, 2 Mar 2016 10:28:00 EST TROUBLE WITH EXERCISE Just wanted to see if anyone is going through this or has ever. I have been overweight for a very long time, and the heavier I became the more sedentary. I am having the hardest time motivating myself to exercise!! I work a full time job, and come home tired. Seems like I'm tired a lot, but know this is something I need to do to work my new lifestyle. What did you do to get going?? Would appreciate any ideas , suggestions you might have. Thanks OA friends!! Wed, 24 Feb 2016 06:35:19 EST HELLO EVERYONE! Hi everyone!! I have been struggling with my weight for many, many years, (COE) and last November I felt I had reached an all time low, with my eating , weight , etc. I was diagnosed with Diabetes a few years ago, and have been so afraid of what I was doing to myself with all the overeating. I knew I needed help. All the other weight loss programs never worked for me. Then I came upon an article regarding OA. I knew instantly that would be for me! I found my first OA meeting in early D... Sat, 20 Feb 2016 08:57:54 EST Hi! I joined yesterday. I'm going to my first meeting this morning. Feeling scared and hopeful at the same time. <BR> <BR> I'm 54 years young. Married for 28 years to my best friend. We have two adult children and a grandson. Until October, everyone lived with us along with two cats and three dogs and a parrot, in a small house! Everyone has moved on, so now it's my husband, dog and me. I'm ready to focus on myself and getting healthy. <BR> <BR> I've read some OA literature, I'm a big... Tue, 9 Feb 2016 10:53:56 EST Twelve Steps of OA-Step Six Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. <BR> I love this number within our Twelve Steps. It is such a step of surrender. We are asking for God's help to remove defects we couldn't do ourselves. We are constantly wanting to do better along with our Higher Power. Our Higher Power asks us to take the time to put into ourselves because we have not been doing that for a while. That is how we arrived here. A defect of character can be anything from not loving ourselve... Mon, 1 Feb 2016 07:40:59 EST February 2016 It's that month where we celebrate LOVE! It is not just for couples. It is for all people. LOVING yourself. Your Higher Power Love. Especially, with our of self. This is so important. I know many of us have grown up with the rule to always take care of others before yourself because that makes you a good person. I am here to tell you that is a lie. It is a codependent lie on top of that. You see, when we love ourselves FIRST, we have more to give to others because we don't fee... Mon, 1 Feb 2016 07:30:23 EST Twelve Steps of OA-Step Five Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. <BR> <BR> This is a very free statement if we do it with good intentions. We do not have to "apologize" for our disease. We do, however, have to admit when we have made mistakes. We have to do this carefully. If we admit to another human being that we are sorry for what our disease allowed us to do, then that is letting us move forward to heal. If we admit something we did in the midst of our disease tha... Sat, 2 Jan 2016 07:07:13 EST Music Artists A to Z! Adam Ant Sat, 2 Jan 2016 06:50:38 EST Animals A to Z Ant Eater Sat, 2 Jan 2016 06:49:42 EST January 2016 I want to WELCOME everyone into the New Year! We have had some major growth in 2015! We went from 1,930 members to 2,142 members! What an incredible thing for an administrator to see, knowing all of us have come to this home for help. Thank you to the "old-timers" that have helped the newcomers and continue to make OA Sparkteam successful through recovery. It's a beautiful gift, isn't it? Have a blessed day and Let Go/Let God. Sat, 2 Jan 2016 06:47:01 EST newcomer I am new to this group. Ive struggled for as long as I can remember with OE. Looking for a support team. Fri, 18 Dec 2015 23:56:25 EST Twelve Steps of OA-Step Four Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. <BR> <BR> This is not an easy task especially if we feel that we have no flaws. Its looking at yourself but with an objective view! Hard to do. This step is really important if we really want to get to the core of who we really are. Not the person we present to the world, or people or want to be. The true HUMAN being we are. Just us and our Higher Power. When we do this inventory and we continue to take it.....our real selves, as we... Wed, 2 Dec 2015 11:15:29 EST December 2015 I feel like time is flying by! This month really can be a great month for us OA Sparklers! You see, I remember being afraid of food at Christmas time. When we really ask ourselves, our true selves, aren't we really afraid of food all the time? We don't have to be. We have our Higher Power which is always on call for us. When I was afraid of Christmas dinner and the emotional stuff that went with it.....when I didn't rely on my Higher Power, I felt like I was walking into a war zone with no ... Wed, 2 Dec 2015 10:49:01 EST New to OA I'm not new to Spark, have fallen away so many times. I'm back now and on track! I am however new to OA. I have thought about OA for years and still have not actually gone to a local meeting but have read a lot about it and understand the concept. One thing that has helped me over the past month is the belief of being powerless over food. Once I truly accepted that as a fact things have really fallen into place for me. It's amazing. So I am checking in here and moving to the next level... Sat, 7 Nov 2015 15:35:44 EST Twelve Steps of OA-Step Three Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as WE understood Him. <BR> <BR> This is very important, especially the capitalization of WE. If we are the individual coping with this disease, we have to be comfortable with a Higher Power that WE understand. It can be what you call God, Allah, Higher Power, Positive Manifestation, Angel(s), light, chair....etc. <BR> Make no mistake, you need to make this part of recovery totally your own. This is a very personal and en... Sun, 1 Nov 2015 18:56:38 EST November 2015 Already November and I don't know where the time has gone! Feels like out the window! LOL <BR> November is a good month for me. I feel like its the month of re-group before the madness begins for Christmas! I know that most of us have apprehension when it comes to Thanksgiving celebrations but we can feel confident that Thanksgiving is just THANKS. Not just stuffing our faces and feeling guilty and not being able to say no. Giving thanks that we have a group we belong to, a ... Sun, 1 Nov 2015 18:46:18 EST New to the team Hi, I'm Heather. I just joined. I have not been to an Overeaters Anonymous meeting yet. I went on the website and looked at the "Is OA for you" page and almost all of the questions apply to me. I don't necessarily binge eat constantly, but eating is an issue for me. It's a constant struggle, especially trying not to eat fast food. I've thought of going to a meeting locally. Has anyone had any success with a local in person meeting? <BR> <BR> I recently confessed to my boyfriend and a few ot... Sun, 4 Oct 2015 14:21:40 EST Fruits from A to Z!! Apple Sat, 3 Oct 2015 15:40:32 EST Twelve Steps of OA-Step Two Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. <BR> <BR> This step can be a real hard step for people who don't believe in something or someone greater than themselves. They feel they can control this disease, which in fact, brought them to this group. It doesn't matter if you believe in GOD or a CHAIR. You believe that it is something greater than this disease that has the hold. What a simple way to hand the disease over but very few of us do. Humans are s... Sat, 3 Oct 2015 15:38:04 EST October 2015 <em>431</em> Good afternoon my OA SPARKLERS! The fall season is here, at least for me, in Michigan. Quite cooler than I expected but I really like this time of year. <BR> October is a really good month to reflect on what spooks us about this disease. What is the fear? That we get so large we explode? (Child-like thoughts) Or is the real fear in the change? <BR> That is something to really ponder. As we change with this disease, as we arrest it for a minute....we are saying to ourselves t... Sat, 3 Oct 2015 15:26:36 EST looking for a sponsor in the Cleveland OH area Hello <BR> I am new to OA and am looking for a sponsor close to me. I do attend in person meetings but have not yet found a sponsor. Maybe there is a sponsor out there for me in a meeting I am not attending. Fri, 25 Sep 2015 19:17:57 EST Twelve Steps of OA-Step One Admitting we were powerless over food and that our lives became unmanageable. <BR> <BR> There is such power in admitting when we are powerless over something. It is power that we enable ourselves to fully be able to move forward. When you admit something, you are giving power to yourself. I feel tremendous relief when I admit I am wrong, that I can't do it all, that I am not the super wife, mother, boss or whatever labels me that day. <BR> In society, when people admit things...society, as... Sat, 5 Sep 2015 14:24:10 EST September 2015 Hello Sparklers! Fall seems to be here and all the little ones heading back to school. <BR> I like to think of us OA Sparklers going back to learn, to re-tool. The school of Higher Power. When I look back on my past, I can fully say that I put a lot of blame on other people for my weight problems. Were they the cause? Yes. Were they the affect? No...that was me. You see, the way my brain processed the criticism, the jokes, the remarks...and how I handled them by putting food ... Sat, 5 Sep 2015 14:05:42 EST oops deleted Wed, 12 Aug 2015 08:19:54 EST New Kid Alert Howdy everyone. I went to my first OA meeting last Saturday. I'm just starting out and still kinda fuzzy on how it works. The group I attended only had 3 others there. It felt kinda awkward to me because the other members were just kinda rushing through reading a bunch of stuff out loud and they seemed like they were it was just rote...without much importance. <BR> <BR> I need it to be important. This is my life that I'm fighting for and I need it to be important. From what I ... Mon, 10 Aug 2015 18:10:11 EST Hi - I'm new :-) My name is Tiffanie and I'm a compulsive overeater and food addict. <BR> <BR> I recently started in OA. I know I am powerless when it comes to food and I need help. I'm barely starting the steps, but I have a wonderful sponsor who is helping me. I hope to make some new friends and contacts. <BR> <BR> Thanks <BR> <BR> ps - I copied and pasted this message in a few groups. I am just too lazy to type today <em>20</em> Sun, 9 Aug 2015 16:55:26 EST August 2015 Hello my OA Sparklers! Its August and my birthday month! I like August because it really reminds me of a real summer month. You see, in Michigan, our weather is unpredictable on a DAILY basis. We have had rain in 70 degree weather from April up until LAST WEEK! Now, we are in the 90's with 100% humidity! I would love for all of us to enjoy August! <BR> I want to share with you that I have never felt comfortable in a bathing suit. Even when I was skinny and in High School. Why, you ask... Sat, 1 Aug 2015 23:59:31 EST Back from Relaspe Hi Group, I'm back after doing more research. The same results doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. I feel miserable. The disease is so progressive. <BR> <BR> I am beaten down but glad to be back. Fri, 31 Jul 2015 20:56:34 EST Hi there Hello all! I am glad to find this 12-step based SparkTeam here. I have 9 days of recommitted abstinence in a sister program (Compulsive Eaters Anonymous) and I feel clear headed and good about that. Nice to "meet" you all. <em>41</em> Wed, 29 Jul 2015 12:12:11 EST Returning member ... Hello everyone. It's been several months since I posted here, so I hope you don't mind if I pull up a chair and try to get reacquainted with all of you. Lots of life changes have kept me from being online much, including my oldest son graduating from high school a couple of months ago. He'll be moving away to college in about three weeks, and I've been trying very hard not to drown the stress of it with food. My face-to-face OA group disbanded about three months ago, and there are no other gr... Tue, 28 Jul 2015 00:24:52 EST July 2015 Hello Sparklers! I would love to hear what everyone has been doing during their July!! I have been really busy with my pet sitting business this month as everyone went on vacation and decided that they didn't want to put their pets in a kennel this time! I was very happy about the same time, it takes up a lot of my time due to travel and in between raising and homeschooling my 5 year old AND entertaining her too! I want everyone to know how proud I am of this team and the peopl... Sun, 26 Jul 2015 21:48:49 EST Avoiding doctor visit... I need to make an appointment with my doctors. I am avoiding doing so because I don't want to step on the scale and have an official record of the weight I have gained since my last visit. I know I shouldn't allow my embarrassment/shame over weight gain to stand in the way of my overall health and well-being. I need to find my path to my Higher Power, abstinence, and spiritual/emotional/physical recovery. <BR> <BR> Thankful I can reach out to this forum. Sun, 7 Jun 2015 13:52:35 EST Colors from A to Z!! Amber Fri, 5 Jun 2015 09:53:53 EST Vacation Places from A to Z!! Aruba Fri, 5 Jun 2015 09:51:30 EST June 2015 I feel like June is the official month of Summer!!! So many wonderful things to enjoy about Summer and yet, I feel, with our addiction.......that bathing suit in the closet, staring me in the face, is the worst! The wiser me, today, knows that its just a bathing suit. I put it on with pride, when I take my daughter swimming at our local gym. You see, I am not the only one with this addiction. I have seen others at the addiction longer than I have been and wear this bathing suit proudly. ... Fri, 5 Jun 2015 09:23:33 EST May 2015 I have always felt May as the month in between Spring and Summer. In between. Kind of a funny phrase isn't it? Our lives, like our disease, can be in between. In between deciding to take care of ourselves and rescuing others. In between a binge and abstinence. In between our HP and agnostic/atheism. In between blame and responsibility. In between guilt and forgiveness. The list could go on. For the month of May, I would like to propose a plan to get out of the "in between" and make a c... Fri, 1 May 2015 07:57:30 EST Urge to Return to Old Habits... Hey Everyone, <BR> I would like to first thank ALL of you for your support! I was so happy to see how warm, accepting, and supportive you all were toward me in my post on anxiety between meals. I want to give a quick update on that, and also to share an unhealthy urge I have been battling this past week to over exercise like I used too. <BR> <BR> Anxiety Between Meals Update: <BR> <BR> I am happy to say that with all of your support I no longer have anxiety between meals! I read through ev... Fri, 17 Apr 2015 08:18:51 EST Newly returned Hello. Can't call myself a newbie... returning to where I need/want to be...looking forward to sharing with folks who understand... <BR> Not sure I have this message board protocol down... do I create a "new topic" when I am not "replying"? <img src=""> <BR> Wed, 15 Apr 2015 12:04:05 EST Anxiety Between Meals Hey, <BR> I am in recovery from binge eating and overeating, and noticed that I feel anxiety between meals about the possibility of starving/fear of what hunger will feel like. I never seem to worry when I am at work or out shopping, but when I am relaxing at home I start to get nervous and anxious thinking about possibly feeling an empty feeling/hunger. Has anyone else experienced this type of anxiety? what do you do to control it? <BR> <BR> LC Fri, 10 Apr 2015 13:00:34 EST Recovery from Binge Eating Hey, <BR> I have been in recovery for binge eating, and am now more forward with my life with the help and support of people out there that understand what it's like. I feel like you never truly recover, but more so learn how to live in recovery to prevent relapses. Fri, 10 Apr 2015 12:58:44 EST April 2015 When I think of the month of April, I like to think of New Beginnings. Baby bunnies, baby chicks and all the cute little things that go along with Easter.....represent new beginnings for me. You see, we are given a new beginning everyday that we wake up. Those of us that are struggling with our disease are given a new minute, a new second and a new way of thinking to change our habit right at that moment. Not tomorrow, not next week, not for a wedding, not for a vacation.....but for RIGHT... Wed, 1 Apr 2015 10:52:02 EST A to Z Vegetables! Asparagus! Sat, 28 Mar 2015 12:50:27 EST A to Z Fruits!!! of course, APPLE! Sat, 28 Mar 2015 12:49:35 EST Hello I finally went to my first O.A. Meeting. It was nice only three people total but I kinda liked that too. I am having such a hard time following the three meals a day rule and staying abstentent is there any advice out there? Sat, 21 Mar 2015 11:13:01 EST Newbie here... HELP!! Hello all... brand new member here.... I'm 27, male, and am a 'healthy' weight (supposedly). I work in mental health and have experience of addiction (drug and alcohol) and know a tiny bit about the 12 step programme. <BR> <BR> A few days ago I decided to research why I binge eat junk food in the way that I do, by searching for "i'm addicted to food". What I found in relation to OA absolutely astonished me as I read and realised I'm not alone... and describing it as an addiction really answe... Thu, 19 Mar 2015 18:33:29 EST Relapse... I relapsed. I am in physical pain. Numbed out. Feeling powerless. I ate clean food...outside of my plan yesterday...and then this afternoon went all out and I am hurting. I forgot to play the tape til the end. Now I am worried...will I be willing to surrender to my HP tomorrow? How much pain do I want to put myself through? Fri, 13 Mar 2015 21:38:41 EST What tools work for you to deal with cravings? I am on day 1 of a fresh abstinence! What works for you to deal with urges to stray from your Plan? Tue, 3 Mar 2015 09:34:44 EST Share Goals of the Day My goal, today, is to take time out of my pet sitting schedule and go swimming with my daughter!! <em>237</em> Mon, 2 Mar 2015 09:33:47 EST Positve Affirmation of the Day The winds of optimism push me forward. I am walking step by step, with my HP, to reach all of my dreams! <em>521</em> <em>381</em> Mon, 2 Mar 2015 09:32:02 EST March 2015 I can't believe how months are going by so quick! I sometimes feel like I am the hamster on the wheel, running day in and day out but still in the same place! Have you ever felt that way? Put so much effort into something but you haven't moved forward but you didn't slide backwards either! <BR> I am here to help you with that! <BR> How many times have we done things out of habit day in and day out without thinking? You know, putting two teaspoons of sugar in our coffee when maybe one ... Mon, 2 Mar 2015 09:19:12 EST New to OA Like many, I've tried nearly every diet program or plan. Some worked but typically only for a short period of time. I got the Lap Band in May, 2011. The band slipped at the end of 2012 which required surgical release, six weeks of recovery, and surgical reattachment. At the end of 2014, my band slipped again. Surgery would be required again. Rather than releasing and reattaching the band with the risk of it slipping again, I asked to have the band removed completely. I started to panic... Sun, 1 Mar 2015 19:58:24 EST New to team Hi! I have been working the OA program for a while and am looking for community. Tue, 17 Feb 2015 09:37:18 EST Animal Photos A to Z!! I thought we would try a new game by finding the most hilarious photos of the animal to post!!! Anyone want to start? Mon, 2 Feb 2015 10:50:33 EST Traditioin #12 February 2015 Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all these Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities. <BR> <BR> Anonymity is such an important part of OA as it keeps us in touch with the principles of the program and not let our personalities take over. What a blessing to feel safe in such a great place! Mon, 2 Feb 2015 10:46:01 EST February 2015 The month of LOVE!! I have to admit....I really LOVE February! I am such a romantic at heart and it is really interesting that as I have "aged", LOVE comes in so many forms. Remember, ladies (not leaving the men out either) how we felt when we didn't have that special someone for Valentine's Day? Do you remember having someone that you thought was SPECIAL and turned out to be totally unsuitable? Do you remember spending Valentine's Day with your newlywed hubby only to simmer out on as th... Mon, 2 Feb 2015 10:39:18 EST Abstinence = Day 1 I just had a day of abstinence. I'm kinda scared...and thrilled. It was a busy day, so no thinking, really. That made it easier. But I'm proud and very, very grateful that God gave me the strength and willingness, today. Mon, 26 Jan 2015 23:05:32 EST Newbie Hi. I'm new to OA and have just joined SparkPeople (again). I'm hoping to find support in this team. Fri, 23 Jan 2015 17:26:35 EST OA Telephone Meetings I was looking through the posts and I wasn't sure if people were aware of the OA telephone meetings. <BR> <BR> <BR> I found a set that happen every day. It is a long distance number but free to use if your phone carrier has a long distance plan. <BR> <BR> 712-432-5200 <BR> Pin Number: 4285115# <BR> Notes: Please hit *1 to mute and *1 to unmute <BR> <BR> The meetings are every day starting at 8p, 9p, 10p, 11p and 12a EST <BR> <BR> Tue, 6 Jan 2015 08:49:16 EST Support is a good thing. Hi, new to this and Sparkpeople and trying to figure things out. I've spent a lifetime losing and gaining it all back. Health has been gradually slipping over the years and I've had my wakeup call. Where there is life, there is hope. So I will keep trying. I appreciate what everyone here is dealing with. Sun, 4 Jan 2015 07:41:25 EST Tradition #11 January 2015 Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, television and other public media of communication. <BR> <BR> We protect the anonymity of those suffering with this disease. Fri, 2 Jan 2015 00:13:40 EST January 2015 I am so EXCITED to be leading this team into the New Year!!! I wanted to tell each and everyone of you, how much I appreciate sharing your stories, your struggles, your triumphs! <BR> For years, I was never big on making any New Years resolutions because deep down, I knew that wouldn't last more than a week. Now, as I have grown to understand what real committment to a resolution is....I am no longer cynical in making them. My first and perhaps my most important resolution is to ask my HP t... Fri, 2 Jan 2015 00:06:56 EST The Long and Winding Road.... I had posted a reply to the sticky, and then realized today that it makes more sense to start a thread in case anyone tries to look up my story later or something (as if people do that...but whatever!) <BR> <BR> Yo! I'm 30, from the Midwest, mom to a 7 y.o. girl, training to be a Spec. Ed. teacher, and I've been dealing with a disordered relationship with food and my body for over half of my life. I've taken a few different starts on the path to recovery, and most were missing either a focu... Wed, 31 Dec 2014 13:41:27 EST Hi Hi everyone I am new here. I have a massive amount of weight to lose so i'm aiming at 50 lbs. per time as a goal. I have struggled with staying commited to any program and came across sparkpeople while doing an internet search. I'm hoping to meet fun, supportive people who have the same goals as myself. So far i'm liking the website however i'm sure i'm not understanding the entire thing and all the benefits it has to offer so any suggestions and tips would be appreciated ! Sat, 13 Dec 2014 10:53:57 EST New to OA Forum Hi OA'ers, <BR> <BR> I used to do OA over a decade ago. Since then I've dealt with lots of other issues (depression, anxiety) besides overeating. Right now I'm following a low-glycemic plan and it's worked pretty well, although I do step off it to have luxury item cupcake now and then. <BR> <BR> Ithric Thu, 11 Dec 2014 16:39:21 EST Tradition #10 December 2014 Overeaters Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the OA name ought never be drawn into public controversy. <BR> <BR> I like this Tradition because it really is based on common sense. Just like we wouldn't want people who don't understand our disease to have an opinion of us, we don't give opinions outside the group. Especially with public issues. We need to keep our name and groups autonomous for our OWN recovery. We cannot take issues on from the outside world when we are try... Sun, 7 Dec 2014 07:58:28 EST December 2014 Hello Everyone! Sorry I have not been active on here for about a month but my household has been hit with the flu and one of my clients is in hospice with stage 4 brain cancer. So, needless to say, I have let some things slide and I would like to apologize to the whole group for this. I am only one person and have been taking on quite a bit lately....but I love this group and hold it near and dear. <BR> <BR> know, I really loved December and Christmas when I was a kid. S... Sat, 6 Dec 2014 13:22:28 EST That Shadowy Figure Lurking in Your Doorway? Me. Hi! <BR> I am new to OA. Just attended a meeting yesterday as part of an assignment for a college course that I'm taking, and realized about 15 minutes in that this might be the answer for me. Looking forward to learning from you all. <em>213</em> <em>213</em> Sat, 6 Dec 2014 11:23:56 EST taking a step out of relapse Hi, I have been in OA for many years and have lost and gained hundreds of pounds. I am right now down 60 lb. from my top weight and 40 lb. up from my lowest. I know that this is more than about the weight but it is the misery of being in the food that brings me to my senses. I got on my knees and turned it over to God once again. I don't have to figure it all out I just need to pick a food plan and follow it. I am tired of being sick and tired. I've had enough!!! I surrender. I'm asking God t... Thu, 20 Nov 2014 10:45:18 EST The 12 Steps & the 12 Principles in the 12 steps The Twelve Steps of Overeaters Anonymous <BR> <BR> We admitted we were powerless over food — that our lives had become unmanageable. <BR> <BR> Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. <BR> <BR> Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. <BR> <BR> Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. <BR> <BR> Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrong... Sun, 9 Nov 2014 16:28:06 EST Tradition #9 November 2014 OA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve. <BR> <BR> We do not consider ourselves an organization but we can create organized meetings for those that need to be served. <BR> <BR> I like this tradition as I feel that we are our own unique group. We can be ourselves here. Fri, 7 Nov 2014 13:22:52 EST Sponsor Good Morning everyone, <BR> I'm Sabrina, compulsive overeater in OA since 2009. I'm sober since January 2014 after a big relapse and I'm now looking for a new sponsor to re-work the Steps and Traditions with. <BR> Please contact me <BR> Have an abstinent day everyone <BR> Sabrina Wed, 5 Nov 2014 05:53:06 EST November 2014 <BR> Happy November, everyone! <BR> <BR> I am always happy for a new month, feels like a fresh start for me. <BR> I am doing well with my food choices. Now I only have one belly roll instead of two, LOL. <BR> I am making progress. Sat, 1 Nov 2014 13:39:58 EST On the fence. And it is an uncomfortable place to sit. I know the 12 step programs work. I lost 70 lbs in 2009 in a sister CE program, no flour no sugar. After 2 yrs and a dance with Cancer and treatments I gained 50 lbs. In that program you call in your daily food and a daily 12 question written answer. Plus three other support people get called. Is that similar in OA? I am trying to decide if I can handle the structure in the other program. Tue, 28 Oct 2014 13:04:03 EST Halloween Halloween is coming. <BR> <BR> I was looking in the stores for a bag of snack size Whoppers since that is the ONLY candy I won't eat - and over eat. Then I thought, "Why am I contributing to little kids' poor health?" I thought of little bags of chips or pretzels, but w/ the grease and/or white flour, they're not a whole lot better. <BR> <BR> Any thoughts. Tue, 28 Oct 2014 08:49:23 EST Traditon #8 October 2014 I am so sorry I didn't post this sooner! Please accept my apology. <BR> Overeaters Anonymous should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers. <BR> <BR> This tradition really protects anonymity. We need workers to have our group run...that is only human but we cannot makes ourselves professionally known as if we are advertising. Mon, 20 Oct 2014 09:00:24 EST October 2014 Can you believe how fast the months have gone by? I love the fall colors and I genuinely enjoy the month of October. October doesn't have to be the SCARY month due to all the goodies that are passed out. In my life, I like to take the time to enjoy the beautiful colors on the trees, the cute gourds and plump pumpkins that adorn everyone's porches......and last, but not least, the children that are excited to dress up and get their goodies! There are so many HEALTHIER choices we can make e... Sun, 5 Oct 2014 16:02:05 EST Hi! Kind of new! Need sponsorship, please Hi! I have been a member of OA for a year in August. I have done well on my own but I feel I am started to move away and I know that will be my downfall. I juice and am trying to go vegan. My group believes in following your own food plan and defining your own "abstinence" I feel this year has been a year of trial and error finding Red light foods and yellow foods. I am looking for a sponsor who is spiritual. I am a certified Angel Card Reader and believe in manifesting my own destiny.... Sat, 27 Sep 2014 09:26:08 EST I am available to Sponsor - looking for Sponsee :) Thank you for reading my forum topic... <BR> I am seeking to work my Step 12 by offering service as a sponsor. If you are interested, please email me at <BR> <BR> I live in California - work full time, however, I am available to talk on the phone, text, email, etc. California is Pacific time (you knew that already.) <BR> <BR> Having a sponsor and working the steps has been very helpful for me, however, nothing is like offering to be of service to others - it helps ... Mon, 22 Sep 2014 21:54:41 EST Celebrities A to Z Here is our new game! <BR> <BR> A- Al Pacino Sat, 6 Sep 2014 09:52:47 EST Tradition #7 September 2014 Every OA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. <BR> <BR> I like this tradition! I have to makes me feel like I have a special group. This really does serve us well as we really don't know the intentions of those that would contribute that do not have this disease. Not saying that in a derogitive tone, either. Its just the way we come together through this disease alone. We need to rely on our Higher Power and not other people's contribution... Sat, 6 Sep 2014 09:50:47 EST September 2014 Hello Everyone! I hope that everyone is staying abstinent and relying on their Higher Power! The month of September, I am hoping, will bring cooler weather for us all. Its been a hot week here in Michigan. With rain....yep....unpredictable. Unpredictability is a good thing in one's life. Event though we struggle at times with our addiction, unpredictability is the key to going with the flow and living in the moment. Much of our addiction has to do with our past. With our parents, the lo... Sat, 6 Sep 2014 09:39:45 EST hello Im Becky 52, I've just ordered the "newcomers" packet from OA's website. I've not worked up the courage to go to a meeting yet. <BR> So happy to be here. Sun, 24 Aug 2014 12:05:05 EST I would love some help. Hi, <BR> <BR> I'm 24 and I realised the other day that I have had an eating disorder (of one variation or another) for ten years. Worse, I feel that this year particularly, I have wasted almost every day. I've been completely trapped in this self-centred fog; consumed with food. Eating, binging, fasting, binging, hiding. <BR> <BR> I really need some help. I barely go outside. I really struggle to maintain my relationships with close family and friends. I avoid everything... Hoping that next... Sat, 23 Aug 2014 22:24:52 EST I need some ideas..... Is there anything that someone would like to see under Fun things to Share? We have done A to Z of animals and A to Z of music groups. Would love some ideas! Sun, 10 Aug 2014 08:50:32 EST Tradition #6 August 2014 An OA group ought never endorse, finance or lend the OA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary purpose. <BR> <BR> I like this Tradition. It really takes into the account the anonymity needed to keep us abstinent. If OA was on a billboard, or me, it would feel like another fad diet. Another quick weight loss promise that is just a scam. <BR> <BR> We know that staying anonymous among those t... Sun, 10 Aug 2014 08:46:39 EST August 2014 Hello Team members! I hope everyone is having a great summer and enjoying their abstinence! <BR> I have been doing the normal birthday parties, enjoying the park and splash pad and taking time with my Higher Power. It seems like the summer has flown by in my household but to be honest...I am looking forward to a little cooling down. I am not big on heat...but definitely not a big fan of HUMIDITY. That is the worst in Michigan! <BR> I am praying that everyone is doing well in their abstin... Sun, 10 Aug 2014 08:30:10 EST New to OA I am very new to OA, and have just recently begun talking about my bulimia. Only my husband knows, my family does not. I have struggled with this for close to 30 years, and it is such an embarrassing problem to have. I read the OA questions, and answered almost all of them with a resounding YES. I don't know if I am ready to actually attend a meeting yet, but am hoping to find some answers and support here. Fri, 1 Aug 2014 19:20:43 EST August 2014 Chat Hope our leader doesn't mind I'm starting the new months chat topic again! <BR> <BR> Anyone have big plans for August? I would like to do something fun, mini vacation type thing this month. Maybe camping. Fri, 1 Aug 2014 12:41:41 EST sponsor I need a sponsor so very bad! I would like someone that I can actually TALK to. I have no meetings near me and can't do the online or telephone because I need something more personal. Someone that I can call to keep me accountable everyday. Can anyone help me? Please!!?? Thank you all for taking the time to read this. It fills my heart with hope and understanding. <BR> Wed, 23 Jul 2014 06:55:41 EST New to OA Not new to SP but new to OA. I have been to 3 meetings...still trying to figure this all out. I have been an overeater all of my adult life. I have been a binger since 5th grade. Now I have the label Food Addict. I am at my heaviest and scared. Never told anyone I was scared when it comes to how big I am. I am just looking for support and help. Tue, 15 Jul 2014 13:17:24 EST Tradition #5 July 2014 Each group has but one primary purpose — to carry its message to the compulsive overeater who still suffers. <BR> <BR> This really is the basis for our OA Sparkteam. We carry the message everyday with our posts, our "goodies" that we give each other....our responses to those who feel like they are suffering so much and everyone who pitches in to help. I am so proud of this team! The smallest "thank you", "hello", "I can help" is Tradition #5 in practice. Keep up the good work! You never ... Sat, 12 Jul 2014 19:11:12 EST July 2014 Sorry so late.....truly. I hope everyone had a wonderful Fourth of July! I know I did. Spent it with family. <BR> I have noticed something about the month of July....its a celebratory month I would like to claim for our OA Sparkteam! What do you think? It only has one celebratory day and we should claim the rest for ourselves! <BR> Coming to OA Sparkteam has made me realize the trial and errors of an un-perfect journey. A path that I have CHOSEN to take with the help of my Higher Powe... Sat, 12 Jul 2014 18:58:54 EST New to the Team So glad to find OA with spark people. I am a new member of the team, however, I am not new to the struggle of maintaining a program of abstinence. Looking forward to meeting members of this team! Mon, 7 Jul 2014 12:37:40 EST New - and terrified Hi. I'm Kimber. I'm not particularly new to SP --- but I've never been consistent for more than a month at a time --- and I'm not particularly new to OA --- although I've never been consistent there for more than a month or so at a time either. This is the first time, though, that I've been humble enough to reach out for help, help that I desperately need. Over the last couple of years, I've watched my health deteriorate in a deadly tailspin while my eating (and my weight) have likewise s... Sun, 6 Jul 2014 17:20:09 EST New here and maybe a bit too motivated... Hi everyone! <BR> <BR> Great to find this team here, I'm really relieved! I think I might be a bit too motivated on SparkPeople and not sure if it's a good or a bad thing for me. I go through very long exercise/fast, then very long binge phases. I'm not sure if I can turn this around to use this website in a healthy way or if it's just enabling my exercise/fast phase I'm going through. <BR> <BR> Glad to be amongst you. Strength in numbers! <em>381</em> Sat, 5 Jul 2014 09:54:25 EST New Member Hi! <BR> <BR> I'm renewing my membership in Sparkpeople, and in OA. I don't have any f2f OA groups in town, so I go to online meetings a couple times a week I just got a home laptop, so that frequency may go up. <BR> <BR> Happy to have found this Sparkpeople Team. Looking forward to getting to know you. <BR> <BR> Blessings. <BR> Andrea Sat, 5 Jul 2014 00:38:51 EST July 2014 Chat /Waves! <BR> <BR> Welcome to July! <BR> <BR> I kinda fell off the wagon for a few days, but Im trying to get back on it! Hope this month is prosperous for everyone! Tue, 1 Jul 2014 13:00:56 EST From "Voices of Recovery" So I thought to add to my mission of reading daily I would try and post what I read from my little book, "Voices of Recovery" and share it with those that maybe don't own the book. <BR> <BR> Here goes. <BR> <BR> "As a newcomer, I sometimes had difficulty accepting all that the program had to offer. Then I was told to" act as if" I did believe whatever I was having trouble accepting. There were times I couldn't even do that, and I would pray for the willingness to be able to "act as if". By ... Thu, 26 Jun 2014 11:18:07 EST Newbie Hi. I'm new to posting in this team. I am going to try to make this part of my daily work in the program. <BR> <BR> I have been overweight most of my life with one exception while I was single for a few years. I have issues with becoming someone else when I am involved in a romantic relationship. Not sure if it's codependency or just emotional eating, but I'm working on finding out. <BR> <BR> I recently joined an OA group a few blocks from my house. I have been attending every Sunday for 3... Tue, 24 Jun 2014 11:34:52 EST OA Sponsor (again) There are no meetings near me and I can't do the online meetings because I am not to computer literate so I am sending a request for a sponsor from the OA Spark team. Just someone I can talk to once a day or more to help me. I am trying to make changes to become abstinent by my self but it is not working and I am getting more and more down each day that passes. Thank you everyone. Wed, 11 Jun 2014 12:50:13 EST Tradition #4 June 2014 The only requirement for OA membership is a desire to stop eating compulsively. <BR> <BR> This is a wonderful tradition in my opinion. I think hitting rock bottom is what brings us to this tradition. We have all been there. The boxes of stuff eaten and hidden away from family members. The eating of things when we are not hungry because we were taught not to waste food. The digging through the garbage and washing off of food because we had already raided the fridge. Yes....we have all ... Tue, 10 Jun 2014 10:20:20 EST New here Hi everyone, my name is Mary and I am a compulsive overeater. I have attended a meeting or two in the past but never stayed for long. I have been attending phone meetings a few times a week and am working on the steps with my sponsor and an email step loop. I am looking forward to getting to know everyone. Right now I am only on step three. Asking for help when I really need it is a struggle for me. Have a great day! Mon, 9 Jun 2014 02:02:33 EST Today is the day for SURE Had a good day of abstenence but blew it with donuts. Tommorow is the beginning of a new week and I am ready to do this. My first day of abstinence. Identified my trigger foods and will not have them available. Goal is to take it one day at s time <em>224</em> Sun, 8 Jun 2014 04:55:06 EST hi everyone My name is Mary and I am a compulsive overeater. I have tried everything imaginable to control my weight but have come to the conclusion that I need a twelve step program in order to help me. I am looking forward to becoming abstinent and gaining the clarity I hear talked about at meetings! Have a wonderful day! Wed, 4 Jun 2014 08:58:40 EST June 2014 Its June and I hope that everyone is having as much beautiful weather as I am in Michigan! I wanted to share with you that I have gained significantly in the last couple of weeks but I am back on the saddle again to get the horse moving on the correct trail. I have a wonderful friend whom has asked me to sponsor and I am so flattered. are such a blessing to me! <BR> I was taking a look in the mirror yesterday, knowing that leading this team is an important job. Sometimes..... Sun, 1 Jun 2014 13:21:45 EST Struggle Hi, my name is Amber. Last year I lost close to 70lbs. I got down to 155lbs. I am now back up to 190lbs since October. I have slowly, well not that slowly obviously, putting the weight back on. It is so hard for me to not over indulge. I feel that I am powerless over food a lot of times. I really struggle on the weekends and at night. I have just started to exercise again and watch what I eat. I am no where near as careful about what I eat as I was last year when I lost so much. I n... Mon, 12 May 2014 16:17:51 EST Having a hard time? I am having such a hard time sticking to my food plan. I end up giving in to my cravings. I am starting fresh this moment, I am not going to wait "until tomorrow", even though I went off my plan earlier. I know I am powerless over food and need to use the tools. Tomorrow night when I go to my meeting I am going to get some phone numbers! <BR> Mon, 12 May 2014 13:10:20 EST Glad to be here! I like how the program works and am glad to have found this team. Looking forward to getting to know you all! Sun, 11 May 2014 05:07:29 EST Finding My Feet Hello Everyone, <BR> I'm Samantha and I am a compulsive over-eater. <BR> Food has been a weakness since I was young and family would push it on my plate because they felt I was too skinny. Gradually eating became something that I did to cope with the abusive behaviors of others, stress, and even boredom. <BR> While I've made considerable progress in weight loss since my divorce, I find that I still can't seem to stop the binge eating in those situations. Add to it that I have virtually no ... Fri, 9 May 2014 17:37:06 EST Tradition #3 May 2014 The only requirement for OA membership is a desire to stop eating compulsively. <BR> <BR> There is so much power in this tradition. This is the main reason all of us are here. It looks like a simple statement with all the best intentions......but it requires a lot of work to actually master it! <BR> <BR> We all have a desire in us......either to start a new hobby, be a better parent or connect with our Higher Power. Let us remember the word DESIRE. To me, a desire should come above ev... Sun, 4 May 2014 01:03:51 EST May 2014 April showers brings May flowers! I used to love when my mother would say that! How could anyone NOT like the month of May?! There have been some changes to the way our Sparkteam looks. I am just kind of getting the hang of it so far, but I still cant seem to find the huddles. I think it was Sparks' intention to make it more user friendly and easier. I have been sending in a lot of questions for help. If you have any.....please let me know and I will answer them as soon as I can! <BR>... Sun, 4 May 2014 00:52:24 EST May 2014 Overeaters Anonymous Prayers <BR> Trusting in a Higher Power will help your recovery from compulsive eating. Getting and staying in touch with our Higher Power is a key element for our success in OA. We are advised to pray throughout the day as a means of finding and maintaining our abstinence. We often pray to start and close our meetings. An extensive body of prayers are available to support OA members spiritual development, some originating in our Tradition, others from AA and other 12 Ste... Thu, 1 May 2014 09:30:45 EST Daily Meeting Room I have been asked to start a daily meeting room where people can come and feel comfortable to share in their recovery. What I would like to do is start it with the Serenity Prayer and then have a topic of discussion. I know time zones are different for everyone but I am on Eastern Standard Time and will start it in the morning as of 5/1/14. Let me know what you think. Tue, 29 Apr 2014 21:33:37 EST Hi everyone! I'm new. Hi, my name is Alisha and I'm from Southern Minnesota. I am 37 years old and have been fighting a binge eating disorder since I was 16 years old. I don't know what I should do sometimes and feel completely helpless when I am around food. Especially if I am upset. I have been doing really well since the beginning of April when I joined a weight loss class, but I don't know anything about OA. I don't believe they have meeting in my area. I read somewhere that they have online meetings. I am goi... Thu, 24 Apr 2014 02:45:21 EST A to Z Songs Ok, here is our new fun game.....I will start <BR> <BR> <BR> Abracadabra by Steve Miller Band! Mon, 21 Apr 2014 09:59:29 EST SPONSORSHIP OFFERING Hi I am Susan, 30 years old compulsive overeater anorexic, bulimic. I am thankfully living without overeating, obsessions about by body, cravings for food etc. Although from time to time I experience slip. I am in OA for 7 years now have had a few experience with sponsorship. I attend 2 OA meetings per week one FTF, one thorugh skype. I am offering help with first 3 steps then I will have some strong experience with more steps, but till that time I could help like this. My email is: ema.viole... Tue, 15 Apr 2014 07:16:54 EST OFFERING SPONSORSHIP Hello, <BR> <BR> my name is Susan, I am 30 years old, compulsive overeater greatfully in recovery from this serious mortal illness. I am member of OA for more than 7 years, with one longlasted emotional relapse. It will be my pleasure to help with first 3 steps to someone who need it. The love I feel in my heart and level of acceptance and serenity is much in progress. I love to live. I attend 2 OA meetings per week, one FTF, one skype in my mother tongue. <BR> Do not hesitate to contact m... Mon, 14 Apr 2014 14:22:06 EST Relapse and Recovery Hello, everyone. My sponsor sent me this article today, and I wanted to share it. It isn't OA literature, but has everything to do with OA. I hope you find it helpful. <link><BR>annature.html </link> Sun, 13 Apr 2014 19:18:32 EST hi new to group Hi new to group and returning to oa! Sat, 12 Apr 2014 20:14:07 EST Tradition #2 April For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority — a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern. <BR> <BR> I like this tradition a lot. Its nice to know that we can rely on our HP (as we each individually understand him/her) and still feel part of a group. <BR> Its nice to not feel pressure from people who run groups from their own agenda. Almost feels like its nice to "just be". <BR> <BR> When I lead... Sun, 6 Apr 2014 10:05:28 EST April 2014 You can all yell at me and I am ASHAMED that I am posting the April Forum on April 6th! Uggh! But I am here and here we go...... <BR> April showers bring May flowers and to me April can be such a re-birth month for me. My family and I do celebrate Easter and looking forward to a happy medium of "HEALTHY EASTER BASKETS" with the possibility of one small chocolate bunny. Wouldn't you like to do the same? How about finding an Easter basket with all health foods or a gym membership? A nice,... Sun, 6 Apr 2014 09:41:25 EST Hello, I'm new Hi everyone, this is my first post although I have been reading these foums for a few weeks now. Glad to be here; I am a recovering binge eater. I have been attending online OA meetings since mid-March, but I've been part of sparkpeople for a while (though I historically have not used it very much). I am learning more about the root causes of my binge eating and working on the steps for healing. Thanks for being here! Sun, 6 Apr 2014 09:26:32 EST my plan Developed by my R.D. based on the American Diabetes Assoc meal planning/carb counting. 3 30 gram carb meals with 3 15 gram carb snacks spaced throughout the day. Fruit only with lunch or dinner. Most of the 15 gr carb snacks are triggers for me so I am still trying to figure that out. Sat, 5 Apr 2014 08:54:01 EST intro My name is Lisa. I am an emotional, compulsive eater with a binge eating disorder history. I now have diabetes and my life is unmanageable. Working on willingness to delve bsck into the rest of the steps Sat, 5 Apr 2014 08:46:17 EST the new girl I am new to this site..and new to OA. But what is not new to me is the constant obsession with food and my weight. What am I going to eat? When am I going to eat? What will I not eat today? How long can I go without eating? Measuring, weighing, counting and tracking. Points, carbs, fat grams, calories, scales and sizes and numbers. It never stops...never. a month ago I joined oa....shortly after having the proverbial "moment of clarity". I know that I am not weak, or lack willpower...... Thu, 27 Mar 2014 22:58:58 EST Quiz: What triggers your addiction? This personal inventory is a great way to re-evaluate ourselves every once in a while as well as a great topic to consider journaling about (if you do that). Perhaps you haven't considered that some of these scenarios are or could potentially be triggers. <BR> <BR> 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 <BR> VERY UNLIKELY TO VERY LIKELY <BR> <BR> SOCIAL <BR> 1 arguing or having conflict with someone. <BR> 2 being with others while they are eating <BR> 3 being urged to eat by someone else <BR> 4 feeling... Thu, 27 Mar 2014 08:52:48 EST Day 1... 3/22/2014: I am new to OA - I am only on Step 3 of the 12 Steps - Today is my first day of abstinence from over eating, and accountability to a Food Plan. I sure could use prayers and any support you can offer to help keep me from eating in between meals and sticking to my plan today (and everyday for the rest of this month). Sat, 22 Mar 2014 11:34:03 EST Need Help... Need a sponsor! Good Morning all, <BR> <BR> Forgive any typo as I'm posting of my phone. <BR> <BR> My name is Christine. I am a food addict and compulsive overeater. I have gone to f2f meetings as well as online meetings to no avail as there is very little support in Miami. It's been very difficult for me to find a sponsor because virtually no one will step up but I have to keep doing the footwork and I know God will give me the right person. <BR> <BR> If there is anyone that is available to sponsor via... Wed, 19 Mar 2014 03:46:50 EST Live in China & Originally from Tennessee Hi I am new to all this, but not new to OA. My weight has been climbing higher and higher and I know from the past that OA is the only answer for me. I am a teacher in China and there are no OA meetings around. I would really like to have someone I can text or email or Skype maybe 2 times a week to be accountable for my food and behavior around food. I promise I will not take a lot of your time because I k now that we are all so busy. But my compulsion has really reared its ugly head and I ha... Fri, 7 Mar 2014 02:01:10 EST The Twelve Traditions of OA Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon OA unity. <BR> <BR> I really like this first Tradition of OA. It is such a simple saying and when you look at it, I feel it can be complex. How many times have we REALLY put ourselves first? I have found that being part of OA, when I started, I put EVERYONE else first but myself. Thinking that it had some benefit of making me a good person. We are already born good. Through my HP, I am learning that I am no good to anyo... Thu, 6 Mar 2014 08:36:56 EST March 2014 Good afternoon everyone. I am not 100% back to feeling well....maybe 80% but I am here! I see that our team has some new members and has grown! I am so proud of that! So proud of US as a TEAM! Well, the weather here in Michigan is quite cold and I started getting some goals in place for my weight loss. Taking everything one day at a time. That is all I can do. Had some inspiration lately to just do what needs to be done with no procrastination. Its funny, I think March and April are ... Mon, 3 Mar 2014 12:14:15 EST I guess I can't do this alone I had posted this example in another group recently and it came to my attention that I might benefit from this group a little more with my current issues. So... here it goes... <BR> <BR> I've known for a long time that I eat more when I'm stressed. It was super apparent last night when we had some trouble getting new glasses approved. Here's how my day went: I woke up knowing that my new husband would be contacting his insurance and making sure I was appropriately signed up for vision bene... Mon, 3 Mar 2014 11:58:14 EST Hi From Kansas Hey everyone, I will be honest, I have had a problem with food for a long time but really haven't admitted it. I am also a writer and have been looking for a group to get more information for a character I am creating. In that process I had to finally admit I have a problem and its time to control this issue so I can live better, if for no one else but me. <BR> In my research I promise I wont use any one from here, What's interesting is my search led me back to sparkpeople. Thu, 20 Feb 2014 21:00:34 EST Newbie from SC I am a compulsive overeater. I have just made the decision to join OA. I am currently waiting for my 12 Step Book and Workbook to arrive in the mail. I look forward to being a part of this online group. <BR> <BR> Tue, 18 Feb 2014 15:51:12 EST Hi Everyone! Hi Everybody! My name is Peggy and I'm struggling. Today I'm trying to "start" again..... <BR> Got my Bob Harper out for my Food Plan, and I'm connecting here. One day at a time. One "right" decision at a time. thank you all for being here :) Mon, 17 Feb 2014 09:06:58 EST Need advice Hi all. I am really in need of some advice. I have been using the sparkpeople menu plan and tracking everyday. I am doing well. I am watching it even closer now with a bad back. The problem is I work in a cubicle. My cubicle mate or whatever you want to call her made a real loud nasty comment and basically she said"All she does is eat and eat". I was very hurt by this. I work hard! I do not even take my breaks most of the time! I do have breakfast, lunch and my snack at my desk. I am eating... Sat, 8 Feb 2014 17:49:47 EST The Twelfth Step Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to compulsive overeaters and to practice these principles in all our affairs. <BR> <BR> I think this is such a "gem" step, especially for our group. This group has expanded since I took over roll as Administrator. I am really proud of that and all of you that reach out to the newcomers and old timers! Just because we do it through computer doesn't make it any less meaningful. I have some really ... Fri, 7 Feb 2014 18:46:53 EST February 2014 Its February! The month of LOVE! I would love to take a moment and have all of us take time in February to LOVE OURSELVES. You know, the kind of love that accepts all, endures all.....the kind of love that encompasses the flaws and the successes... the feelings and mood swings....the kind of love that a HP can give.....the kind of unconditional love an animal brings into your life..... <BR> This is what I am wishing for each and everyone of you everyday. For the month of February, go and ... Sun, 2 Feb 2014 11:24:36 EST emotional eating i am a recovering alcoholic, addict and codependent. got sober in 1979 and been on my codependency recovery journey for 15-20 years. <BR> however, i still struggle with food. i guess i am in a sense a recoverying food addict. i turn to food as my friend, even though i know it is not. i eat my emotions, stress, depression, anger and literally stuff food on top of them. <BR> i am trying to prevent doing that again this weekend. i did it last weekend, got angry, depressed , crawled into my ... Sat, 25 Jan 2014 08:52:15 EST I'VE LANDED After 35 + years in and out of OA, I'm so happy to have found a Food Plan which works. I "accidently" found a Vegetarian Low Carb plan. Low Carb is the only plan that worked for me in the past but I'm not happy eating animal flesh. So now all the pieces are in place. It's bitter cold so I can't walk safely to my local meeting. But you are here. Thank you!! I'm a retired RN and current Caregiver. But I'm not working for a few weeks as I recover from a shoulder injury and fractured rib from a ... Thu, 23 Jan 2014 10:09:07 EST New and frustrated About a month ago I sought out OA. I have been working on step one. I have admitted that I am powerless over the food but I can't seem to grasp the concept of letting go of binging. I do really well all day then in the evening it all flys out the window. <BR> <BR> HELP! Tue, 21 Jan 2014 15:08:35 EST Newcomer yet again after 21yrs in Program Hi, I'm Kath and I'm a compulsive overeater! I'm from NZ. I've been attending meetings for 21yrs this year and have been relapsing again and again and again for years now. <BR> <BR> I found the book "the Spark" purely by chance a couple of weeks ago and joined this site yesterday! I was delighted to find an OA team here and feel really encouraged to be part of OA working this method into my program. <BR> <BR> I welcome any suggestions from members to help me on my way. I have only one mee... Sat, 18 Jan 2014 05:29:04 EST Sad News - Passing of OA Founder Rozanne I was informed by my region group this morning that Rozanne our founder passed away last night. Rozanne's family has requested that donations in memory of Rozanne be given to OA instead of flowers and the like. <BR> Cards may be sent to the World Service Office and the staff will be forward them to the family. <BR> <BR> The postal address is: <BR> <BR> World Service Office <BR> P.O. Box 44020 <BR> Rio Rancho, NM 87174-4020 <BR> <BR> Fri, 17 Jan 2014 13:24:23 EST Animals A to Z Game!!!! Ok....thought this might be fun.....we may get a little more tricky in the future.....maybe Musicians A to Z or something along that line.... <BR> <BR> So, I will start.....Ant eater! Sat, 11 Jan 2014 00:32:30 EST The Eleventh Step Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. <BR> <BR> This step seems to be a very powerful step for me. I really have to put time aside each day to listen to what HE has to say. I try and not interrupt HIM which is really easy to do with our wants, our needs, our compromises, our pleading, our get the picture. To sit there and truly LI... Wed, 1 Jan 2014 13:37:54 EST January 2014 Happy New Year! <em>408</em> I am overly excited today which is a little unusual for me since I never really cared about ringing in the New Year. My excitement is due to the fact that I am going to devote more time to the OA Sparkteam! I would love to hear some input from all of you since you really are the reason I am here. Not only for support from you but for you. I had a wonderful Christmas and got the gift that I TRULY wanted. The Nutribullet. I am not going to say much about it ... Wed, 1 Jan 2014 13:00:43 EST new to OA Hi, my name is Abby and I am here because I realize I need help. I had gastric bypass on August 15th and have lost 76 pounds since then. I went to the doctor's yesterday and was told I am "below average" and that I need to lose more. I took it as "I'm not doing enough." So I was talking to my husband about how that made me feel and he suggested OA. He was a member of Al-Anon many moons ago. <BR> I still have trouble with food. Having your stomach shrunk doesn't stop that. The doctors, althou... Sat, 28 Dec 2013 17:20:41 EST newcomer needs help :( Hi everyone, <BR> <BR> I have been struggling with my weight since I was a child. I am now 24 and at this point need help starting the program. I listened in to a couple of telephone meetings. People speak about their sponsors who seem to be very important to compulsive overeaters. Where can I find a sponsor and can someone please explain more about the program? <BR> <BR> Thanks so much! Thu, 12 Dec 2013 21:16:58 EST OA/AA Slogans/Quotes from A to Z Ok, CJBAGGINS, I am going to let you start so I can see how to follow suit!!!! Do you think it should be Slogans/Quotes or Words? Let me know Sun, 1 Dec 2013 11:26:13 EST The Tenth Step Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. <BR> This step seems to get easier the more we do it. It is such a "letting go" experience for me. I always have to remind myself that I am not perfect and that I cannot judge other people or the experience they go through as it is uniquely personal to them. In our world, it seems that criticism really breeds on an ugly ground and is fed continuously. We have to turn inwards. That is where I believe that re... Sun, 1 Dec 2013 11:17:36 EST DECEMBER 2013 Oh my goodness.....where does the time go? I hope all of you had a wonderful and abstinent Thanksgiving. I know that I am THANKFUL I had my Higher Power on my side. I am looking forward to the Christmas Holidays. I know a lot of you may feel like it is a stressful season....but it doesn't have to be! We can make it the season of enjoying the journey, the season of moderation, the season of feeding our soul over feeding our compulsion....and the list goes on...MAKE IT YOUR OWN! I would l... Sun, 1 Dec 2013 10:58:32 EST Sponsor sought Greetings, <BR> <BR> Have been in OA since August and attending meeting regularly. Food plan is abstinence from flour and sugar. Seeking first sponsor which could be on a temporary basis or long term. Looking for sponsor who is gentle and supportive with good, solid years of recovery. Have lost 40 lbs so far and am about 1/4 of the way to what I am guessing would be a healthy weight. <BR> <BR> Warmth, creativity and wisdom in sponsorship, gained through solid years of working and understa... Sun, 1 Dec 2013 08:54:33 EST New Girl! Hi everyone. I'm new to this group. I have been wanting to join a group like this for a long time. I've dealt with disordered eating for a long time, and from one end of the spectrum to the other. I am a week into a "fresh start," and I am hoping to connect with other people who are going through the same thing. I look forward to meeting you. Sun, 24 Nov 2013 21:46:23 EST Getting abstinent Hi, <BR> <BR> Thank you to those who replied to my other thread. I think the tough thing for me right now is that I am not following a specific food plan, when I looked at the Dignity Of Choice Food Plans, they seemed a bit overwhelming to me. I am meeting with a nutritionist in December, that should help. I tend to impulsively eat and I eat pretty healthily, some foods are worse than others. I wrote down a list of foods that are triggers for me, maybe I should start keeping a food journ... Fri, 22 Nov 2013 17:33:57 EST New to this group Hi all, have just started going back to meetings {in Ottawa} kind of scary as I've been away for a while. One thing that i've noticed is that a lot of people don't seem to have the books we read at meetings. What's up with that? <BR> <BR> On another note I'm 54, have attended OA mtgs off and on for about 10 years. Currently attending WWatcher meetings as well (foodplan of choice) and have experienced some success in the last few months weight wise although it isn't coming off as fast as it ... Tue, 19 Nov 2013 09:27:25 EST OA 12 steps..12 get to know you better items OA has 12 are 12 things about me (Sue) about your 12? <BR> <BR> 1. Play mountain dulcimer <BR> 2. Play guitar <BR> 3. Play piano <BR> 4. I am volunteer Christmas and Easter choir director at church (small Methodist congregation) <BR> 5. I was raised in Iowa, lived in Oklahoma since 1988 (husband from OK-'88 yr married) <BR> 6. Met husband in Dallas in 1987 in a scuba diving class <BR> 7. Certified Public Accountant is my occupation...husband also CPA..we have our own firm ... Sat, 16 Nov 2013 06:22:37 EST Hi, I am back again Hi, <BR> <BR> I'm Amy, COE, I recently started going back to OA. I think I have found a good regular meeting that I can go to and I have a sponsor, we have different opinions but I hope that we can work things out. <BR> <BR> I guess for me, the thing that is irking me a bit is the food plan. I don't want to have to give up all of my favorite foods. I know that some people have an intolerance to certain foods, for me, there are some triggering ones which I'll avoid but I don't know that I ... Thu, 14 Nov 2013 17:44:02 EST