SparkPeople Autism, Aspergers, Sensory, Oh My! Team Messageboard We support & encourage through struggles of lifestyle change issues & having a loved one with these neurological disorders and other issues. Whatever the stress or challenge, we can do this together! SparkPeople Autism, Aspergers, Sensory, Oh My! Team Messageboard "Just One More" June Cafe! Okay, so Just One More would not be cookies!! <BR> <BR> Just One More is all about pushing ourselves in a healthy realistic way. Just One More...step? Mile? Healthy Meal today? <BR> What is your "One More?" <BR> This is our theme for the month. We are going to keep it real and simple. We can do this!! <BR> <BR> I am working hard to add steps. I have been doing these Adventure Challenges on Fitbit that are really motivating. They show you the Google Map background of a park or trail w... Mon, 5 Jun 2017 12:06:27 EST April and May Cafe! Okay, so the Café name isn't original at all, but that's not a big deal. <BR> What is important is that we have each other for support and encouragement in this lifelong journey of healthy living. <BR> We CAN do this together! <BR> I am so thankful for all of you! <BR> <BR> Hugs to all, Cathy Sun, 9 Apr 2017 15:59:16 EST Mastering LIfe's Messes March Cafe! I don't know about you, but I get sidetracked by "Life's Messes." I am much better about it than I used to be. Now, life's messes just slow me down or reroute me, rather than paralyze me. But I still need to work on this. <BR> How about you? <BR> Do the trials of life cause you to de-rail in your eating patterns or exercise? <BR> Are you stressed to the point of eating the wrong things for comfort? <BR> Do you feel tired and out of energy from stress or lack of sleep and so you ski... Thu, 2 Mar 2017 10:32:38 EST February Feelings Cafe! Hi everyone and welcome to our February Feelings Cafe! <BR> <BR> First of all... <BR> <BR> Vicky, feel better! <BR> Georgia, so sorry someone was insensitive to you! You are so sweet and caring and wonderful!! Hugs! <BR> <BR> Let's try to be aware of our feelings and honor them. When we don't we tend to get into destructive choices that spiral. <BR> You know, like burying feelings, or not recognizing that we need to take a break, or address some tough issues. Then we overeat or eat t... Thu, 2 Feb 2017 22:04:29 EST One Step at a Time January Cafe <em>381</em> <em>224</em> <BR> Happy New Years everyone! <BR> <BR> With this new year brings the resolve to take better care of ourselves. I'm wondering what we can do to adopt new attitudes and disciplines in our lives that will stick (for the most part as we are human.) <BR> One Step at a Time is the best way to not be overwhelmed. One meal, one moment, you get the picture. <BR> I'm wondering if there is something that you feel would help you and that we can encourage you in a... Sat, 31 Dec 2016 18:21:50 EST November December Holidays Cafe Hi my wonderful sweet friends! <BR> <BR> I am finally to changing our Cafe! I thought I would just put November and December together as the holidays just get so busy for all of us. <BR> <BR> We can work on staying calm, unstressed, and peaceful...okay, stop laughing!! We can try! <BR> <BR> Yesterday was my Josiah's 15th birthday! I can't believe he is 15! He loves cars and is obsessed with muscle cars, hyper cars, etc. You know, the ones that can cost much more than a house! He love... Wed, 9 Nov 2016 09:02:10 EST Opportunities in October Cafe time flies and we sometimes forget to take care of ourselves and connect to others who understand us. But, luckily, we can always retrace our steps---or take a new direction---and find our way home...October, with the colors of Fall, the cooler temperatures, and the enjoyment of outdoor activities and get togethers, can present us with awesome opportunities....lets all be there for one another, welcome back those who have been MIA, embrace new friends as they join our online family, and help ... Sun, 2 Oct 2016 12:56:37 EST Supportive September Cafe! Hi Everyone, <BR> <BR> The title for our Cafe this month speaks for itself. You are all the most supportive encouraging people I have ever known...ever. <BR> Do you have a support system in place "in person?" I don't and that makes it hard sometimes especially making me feel like I have to handle everything myself all the time. Ever feel that way? <BR> Let's think about who we have as a support system or how we can find people that can be that too us. Sometimes it's just one person, or e... Sun, 4 Sep 2016 21:59:25 EST Accepting You August Cafe! Okay, so you are already amazing! Yes, you! <BR> <em>345</em> <BR> I think we forget to see ourselves in a positive light when the burdens of life attack and we aren't feeling good about our appearance. <BR> Maybe this month we can work on just accepting where we are in life and with our weight. <BR> When we do that we give ourselves a starting point to move forward to a healthier self in mind, body and spirit. <BR> I believe in all of you!! <BR> <BR> Hugs, Cathy Sun, 31 Jul 2016 20:06:57 EST June/July Cafe! Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> With everyone being so busy, I decided to combine June and July for the Cafe. <BR> Are there particular ways that we could each help each other in our healthy living and weight loss? Do you need some accountability? Encouragement in a certain area? <BR> Let us know and we are there for you! <BR> As always, you are all so amazing and I am so very thankful for all of you! <BR> <BR> Hugs, Cathy <BR> Thu, 2 Jun 2016 14:28:39 EST Mindful Munching May Cafe! It's May already! I will be planting my garden in about 3 weeks! I have several seed starters growing like crazy indoors that are reaching toward the windows as if asking to be planted outside! <BR> <BR> I don't know about you, but I definitely have times of mindless munching. I usually do this when I'm stressed...oops, that seems to be a constant! I start out well, but then fail, usually as the day goes on. Or I have the best intentions of NOT eating "the whole thing" like gelato which... Mon, 2 May 2016 15:07:32 EST Appealing April Cafe! Hi Ladies! <BR> <BR> I've read so many times that the best way to lose weight and keep it off is to enjoy the path as much as you can. <BR> So this idea of being appealing came to me when I thought of how exercise and food are so often NOT appealing at all. We think we have to eat celery sticks, carrots, and apples and workout should be painful and/or like work for it to be effective. Wrong! <BR> The best exercise you can do is one that you enjoy or you won't stick with it. Sticking wit... Fri, 1 Apr 2016 20:34:02 EST Managing the Messes of Life March Cafe! Okay, so that was a mouthful of a title, but for so many if not all of us, it really fits! We all have these messy situations in life that seem to derail us from our plan to be healthy and lose weight. <BR> Let's try this month to find ways to manage the messes in our lives so we can concentrate on being healthy no matter what happens in our days. <BR> Truth is, those messes are just a part of our lives and are going to keep happening in one form or another. We just have to figure out how... Mon, 29 Feb 2016 22:25:45 EST Finding Me February Cafe! Hello and welcome to our "Finding Me" Cafe! <BR> <BR> Through the busyness and struggles of life we tend to "lose" ourselves. I know I did. Finding ourselves again can be daunting and very possible. <BR> We now have wisdom and experience to help us find our way back to us which can be helpful so we don't make some old mistakes again. <BR> Who are we really? There are some things that are just set for good like our personalities and other things that can be changed like bad habits. <BR> ... Mon, 1 Feb 2016 09:39:00 EST Just for You January Cafe! Happy January and New Year! <BR> <em>411</em> <em>412</em> <em>274</em> <em>44</em> <em>475</em> <em>410</em> <BR> I started the new Cafe today as Georgia is already IN the New Year and we are almost there! <BR> I thought this month we could really concentrate on taking care of YOU. We are always caring for someone or something else and we are dead last, especially after the holidays. <BR> Take some time to do something just for you whether it's just 5 minutes of quiet w... Thu, 31 Dec 2015 13:27:21 EST The day in the life of a Special Needs Family. My children are my life. They are blessings from God. I am a mother of 8, but only 2 of my children are alive. My life is very chaotic trying to manage it all without any family or support from anyone besides my husband who does not involve himself in all the medical planning, appts, therapy, and authorizations. <BR> <BR> Yesterday, I started the day with my daughter's nurse calling in sick. My daughter Ameena age 10, she is severely disabled (cerebral palsy, epilepsy, sleep disorder, feedi... Thu, 3 Dec 2015 14:11:09 EST Delicious December Cafe! Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> Okay, where did this year go? I wish my weight would go as fast as this year did! <BR> <BR> I thought it would be good to focus on healthy delicious food going into the holidays. Maybe we could share some ideas of how we try to eat healthy or less in amount to get through the holidays without gaining. <BR> Maybe even post some recipes. <BR> Things are busy crazy here, but I am coping. Holidays are always hard, but I am taking one step at a time. <BR> I am ver... Tue, 1 Dec 2015 02:16:12 EST Needs in November Cafe! Welcome to our Needs in November Cafe. <BR> I don't know about you, but I sometimes feel so exhausted from taking care of everyone's needs all the time, but not getting my own needs met. <BR> This month I thought we could focus on getting on our needs met by taking better care of ourselves and asking for help from others when we need it. <BR> This can be hard for me as I am always feeling like I don't have anyone that will do for my kids if I don't. <BR> We need to take care of our own ne... Sun, 1 Nov 2015 22:03:27 EST Hi Hi everyone, I have a wonderful young daughter who has sensory processing disorder, behavioral problems, anxiety, and epilepsy. I need to be strong and healthy to take on the challenges my daughter faces every day. I have been trying to lose the extra pounds for awhile and I am hoping that with support I can finally be fit and healthy. Thu, 8 Oct 2015 21:00:57 EST One Step October Cafe! I just finished a wonderful book by Rachel Wojo called One More Step. It was a wonderful helpful book! Keeping "in step" with the Simplicity of September's Cafe I thought as we enter the crazy season of school with kids, work ramping up and the holidays just around the corner I thought it would be good for us to remember One Step at a Time! I know I get myself so overwhelmed because I forget this simple principle that I can only do one step at a time so why am I stressing? <BR> Then we tend... Thu, 1 Oct 2015 09:59:36 EST New here Hi, I'm new here, but not new to SparkPeople. I had the possibility of an Asperger's diagnosis brought up three years ago, but only recently had it confirmed by two other professionals. Previously I had been told that I had just about every other mental health "disorder" out there, ranging from Depression to OCD, to Bipolar Disorder, to Borderline Personality Disorder. I didn't think that I could possibly have all of these, so I fired my doctor, and went with a private nurse practitioner a... Sun, 13 Sep 2015 15:56:05 EST Simple September Cafe! Hi and Welcome to our Simple September Cafe! <BR> <BR> I know we are all trying so hard to either get back on track or stay on track. Sometimes we are so committed that we go overboard with planning or making things too complicated and then we can't keep up with our plan. I know I do this. <BR> Simple is the best way, and one step at a time. <BR> How can you simplify your life, your schedule, and your plan to be healthy? Maybe this is the month to do step at a time. <BR> I'm i... Mon, 31 Aug 2015 23:24:06 EST Ambitions August Cafe! Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> Can't believe it's August! <BR> <BR> Thought it would be cool to think about our ambitions. When we have ambitions then it tends to motivate us. So, what is your ambition? <BR> <BR> Mine would be to have more stable GI and to lose more weight. Now how am I going to reach those goals? <BR> Regarding GI, I am going to talk with my regular Dr. and get his input. I will also stay on my very restricted diet. <BR> Losing weight...I am only looking at the next 10 po... Fri, 31 Jul 2015 17:50:42 EST son just diagnosed with ASD at 24 years old. Hi guys! I'm new to the label, but been living with the "issues" for about 23 years. Josh was missed diagnosed in the kindergarten with ADD/ADHD. I argued with doctors about that for 4 years. Then he was diagnosed with tourette's when he was 9. We pulled him out of school and home schooled him till he got his diploma. We had always thought that his "issues" where just the tourettes, or maybe from his birth (there was some slight problems). But it wasn't until my older brother, that is ... Mon, 20 Jul 2015 23:08:45 EST Journal to Self July Cafe! Happy July Wonderful Friends! <BR> <BR> I have this idea...I hope you like it! If you do, you can join me in "Journaling to Self" in July. <BR> One thing that many of us struggle with is negative, false messages to ourselves. I know this is a big one for me. I let others lies become my belief system about myself. I forget even the simplest truth about me. <BR> So I thought we could keep our own private journals this month of writing to ourselves with truth. The more we write truths ... Wed, 1 Jul 2015 11:15:12 EST June Journey Cafe! Welcome to our June Journey Cafe! <BR> Like any journey there is a start point and many, many steps in between. Any really worthwhile and successful journey really has no end! <BR> So in our Healthy Lifestyle Journey whether we meet our goal weight and keep weight off, we are still working hard to keep our health and stay at our healthy weight...and so the journey continues. Also, there are memories of hard work and many lessons learned and great success along the way. <BR> So, let's re... Mon, 1 Jun 2015 14:23:19 EST Healthy Munching in May Cafe! <em>550</em> <em>277</em> <BR> Happy May to everyone! <BR> Are the munchie times of of day your downfall? <BR> When you snack are you making wise healthy choices? <BR> Does it seem like making or figuring out a healthy snack is so much work? <BR> <BR> Planning ahead is key to making and eating healthy snacks. <BR> Having plenty of choices on hand at all times is also vital to success. <BR> I also feel that having different textures (crunchy, smooth and or creamy, chewy) and a varie... Thu, 30 Apr 2015 20:23:28 EST Avoiding in April Cafe Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> Hard to believe it is already April! <BR> I chose the title to our Cafe for a couple of reasons. <BR> First, maybe there is a food or habit that you want or need to avoid and there is no time like right now to make changes that will help you with your healthy lifestyle. <BR> The best way to make changes is a little at a time. One step, one day at a time. We practice that until we really have it down, then add another change. <BR> I know when I make changes gra... Thu, 2 Apr 2015 08:18:37 EST New Girl! Hi! I am a newly single Momma of twin four year old special needs twin sons Hunter and Tyler. As of this point we have been moved to special education pre-school and labeled as sensory issues .. But we just did more testing at the Autism program where my little brother went when he was younger at the schools request. ON pins and needles while i wait on the results. I am in the weight loss surgery program but I can not receive the surgery until i reign in my emotional eating habits and find a ... Wed, 1 Apr 2015 19:19:33 EST Hi - I'm new :) Hi - waves - I have a big family. Two of my boys have medical issues - including Autism and Aspergers. They both have sensory issues, too. <BR> <BR> My 13 year old has a rare trisomy. My 7 year old has a rare growth disorder and a lot of other stuff. My 13 year old has Aspergers, my 7 year old has Autism. <BR> <BR> I'm an open book :) Ask me anything - love making new friends! My profile has tons of info about me and my family :) Sat, 7 Mar 2015 22:03:59 EST March On! Cafe Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> I have had such a hard time just moving forward and functioning at full capacity lately due to some really hard events in my life. You have been wonderful and traveled this path with me. I am so thankful for your kindness, support and encouragement. I am so thankful that you accept me as I am, but also help to guide me as I need it. You are amazing! <BR> When life is tough, sometimes we just have to "March On!" <BR> That is the theme of this month. We are goin... Mon, 2 Mar 2015 09:51:49 EST Fabulous February Good morning everyone Hope you are all well. <BR> <BR> As we enter February I decided to help Cathy and call this cafe Fabulous. <BR> - meaning : spectacular,remarkable, awesome incredible. <BR> <BR> We are are fabulous, joyful and positive. That is why we a re fabulous. <BR> <BR> With all the hard work we perform at home and at work we still find time to be Fabulous. <BR> <BR> so welcome. Help yourselves to some of the healthy choices at the buffet and come and sit with me for a while. Sun, 1 Feb 2015 15:40:48 EST Hi everyone! My name is Heather and I am a 34 year old mom of 1. My son is 7 and has aspergers syndrome, my husband is a truck driver and is out 2 weeks at a time, and my mom (who lives with us) was just recently diagnosed with cancer. Life around here is pretty stressful right now and I don't get alot of time to focus on working on me. When I'm not stressing out about everyone else I like to play video games, mostly sim type games or tycoon games.I am also going back to school to get my high school diplo... Tue, 20 Jan 2015 02:43:29 EST January Journey Cafe! <em>411</em> <BR> Happy New Year everyone! <BR> I hope that 2015 will be the best year ever for each of you! You deserve it! <BR> This is a new year, a new day and a new moment! <BR> It is up to us to choose what we will do with it. <BR> We must "shine like Diamonds" as our wonderful sweet Georgia says. <BR> We must choose for each and every day to matter what. <BR> I believe in each of you. You are the most amazing caring and giving women I know and I am so very thankful f... Wed, 31 Dec 2014 22:43:36 EST Decisions in December Cafe Happy December everyone! <BR> <BR> I know I've used this name of a Cafe before, but it just works! <BR> <BR> We all make a lot of decisions every day. Some easy, some not so easy. <BR> <BR> As we leave this year, think about some of the decisions you've made that have made a huge difference for you and for others. How has it helped you? <BR> <BR> Even if you make a decision that wasn't good, that's okay. Learn from it and move on. Choose to decide to make a different decision.... Sat, 6 Dec 2014 13:39:01 EST Nurturing in November We need to nurture ourselves with more than food. Love, self esteem and positives along those lines. <BR> <BR> Getting ready for work this morning and I am saying positive loving mantras to myself. <BR> <BR> I am worthy and so are you dear friends. <BR> I deserve the best and so do you dear friends. Thu, 6 Nov 2014 15:07:12 EST Onwards in October I am so glad that I have such a wonderful group of friends here in the café....this time of year lets try to stay motivated with our goals and move forward with a healthy approach to life....Love and hugs to all :) <BR> <BR> Cathy, so sorry about your loss :( prayers for peace for you... <BR> Dee, sounds wayyyyyy too's the humidity? <BR> Georgia, hope work is not too crazy and that the days are warming up a bit for you now... <BR> Becky, you sound crazy busy too....don't forget t... Tue, 7 Oct 2014 09:19:03 EST Sync in September Cafe! Hi Wonderful Friends, <BR> <BR> Okay, so you are wondering about the title. When I thought for a bit about the best focus for this month, I went through the typical, Step, then Spectacular, even Spend Time. But then the word "sync" came to mind. <BR> When we are in "sync" we are connecting completely to something. And like anything in life, it takes time to get that sync to work fully and completely, but finally we get it. And when we get it, it feels right and other things in our lives ... Mon, 1 Sep 2014 10:44:23 EST Accomplishments in August Cafe! Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> It is already August and I am a bit behind. Sorry about that, but I will explain in a sec. <BR> For August I would like to look at every little success we have and capitalize on it. Even skipping one desert, or an extra serving is a HUGE accomplishment. Choosing to look at something in a positive way is an accomplishment. <BR> <BR> My point is that if we build on every little success or accomplishment we are building a solid foundation to stand on and fall back... Sat, 2 Aug 2014 12:35:57 EST Jewels of July Cafe! Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> I have a few thoughts for getting us all back on track. <BR> <BR> You are all Jewels that shine like beautiful lights in this Cafe. Each one of you different and special. Each one with a special gift you share with all of us. I treasure each of you, my Jewels as I couldn't do this journey without you. Each of you lights up a different part of me and helps me through each day. Without even one, my crown of friendship wouldn't be complete. <BR> I am so thankful... Mon, 30 Jun 2014 22:03:45 EST Enjoy You June Cafe! Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> It's unbelievably June already! I know that all of you are amazing people, but do you think that about yourself? I know I think well of everyone, but really struggle to enjoy anything about me. <BR> <BR> This month we are going to focus on enjoying things about ourselves. Maybe it's something that somebody else has mentioned. They like your smile, our how kind and encouraging you are. Let's take the time to give ourselves the same encouragement and positive wor... Sat, 31 May 2014 22:33:13 EST Asperger's or mood disorder?? I have a 14 yo son who was diagnosed with mild Asperger's about 5 years ago. He was on an antidepressant for a while then he didn't want to take any meds. But his anger issues resurfaced. Now the dr put him on 2 mood stabilizers. Haven't had a chance to ask the Dr (last visit was just with the PA), but now I'm wondering if he has been misdiagnosed. Have any of you ever heard of a mood disorder being confused with an ASD? Wed, 30 Apr 2014 23:47:41 EST Motivational May Cafe! Hi Everyone! For some of us, like Georgia and Tina, it is already May! So I am starting the May Cafe today in honor of them as they are such lovely supportive ladies on our team! <BR> <BR> I chose Motivational as I want to encourage all of us to motivate each other to be healthy and really do what it takes to eat healthy and exercise. For each of us this may look very different. But motivation is really what gets us moving. What is it that works for you? Is it a reward you can look forw... Wed, 30 Apr 2014 16:29:33 EST Denied Service Due to Disability: ADA Violation Just in time for the end of Autism Awareness Month, my son was denied entrance to a restaurant because of his trained and certified disability service dog. His girlfriend caught it all on her iPhone camera. <BR> <BR> You can see it at this link: <BR> <BR><BR>SKc&list=UUVGeVH9a0br1K36MmR86gzw Sun, 27 Apr 2014 08:14:46 EST Hi my fellow ASD families My name is Tamara as you could have guessed from my username. My 7 year old son is Severely Autistic Verbal High Functioning with Mild MR. Grayson has sensory processing issues and is sensitive, to sounds, sight, and smells. While Autism has a great impact on my life that is not who I am or who Grayson is. I am a mother of 2 wonderful boys a wife to a great man and a Teacher to 27 fantastic students. My life is lived on the go as you can imagine. Sometime about 5 years ago I lost all interest... Fri, 11 Apr 2014 13:00:25 EST Appreciation April Cafe! <em>47</em> <BR> Okay, so we all need that relaxing remote island sometimes. Especially when we have to go back to work (Georgia) or have a really tough decision to make (Vicki) or hard issues come up with jobs or kids or just life! (all of us) <BR> <BR> So maybe this month we can just sit back on our own dreamed up island (like our Cafe) and just relax and appreciate all the good in our lives. I know it is hard when reality hits you in the face like a torrential downpour of ice cubes!!... Tue, 1 Apr 2014 11:39:40 EST Have a listen to my music and see what you think Hi all, <BR> <BR> Of my three children my oldest has Aspergers, my youngest has ASD but the middle one is unaffected by either condition. Both affected lads are diagnosed high functioning too and we try to lead as close to a normal existence as it is possible to do so. <BR> <BR> I am Trev and presently reside in the South West of the UK. I will spare you my details in here as they are all available in my blog so please feel free to look in there. <BR> <BR> I believe in the power of music ... Sun, 30 Mar 2014 06:08:36 EST Mind Matters March Cafe! Welcome to our Mind Matters March Cafe! <BR> <BR> I know that is a Mouthful, but the point is worth it. <BR> Our Mind controls what we do. And everything we do good or bad really does matter. We learn from our poor choices and we grow...that is if we are mindful or what we are doing and where we want to go. <BR> <BR> So this month, we should practice being mindful of all we do and where we want to go. Our poor choices are important as they make us stronger and more determined to get ... Sat, 1 Mar 2014 09:39:46 EST Intoduction and in need of advice Hello everyone. I joined this team awhile ago but this is the first time I've posted. I live in Middlesex County NJ.. I have a 15 year old son who has autism. He is doing very well. He's becoming more independent everyday but we don't feel comfortable leaving him alone for more than 30 minutes. He is currently in a school age after school program. He's the oldest child there and they won't be able to keep him after this school year. <BR> Does anyone know of any programs or have any s... Wed, 5 Feb 2014 20:55:56 EST Fabulous February Hope you girls don't mind me creating the new month. Sat, 1 Feb 2014 01:49:19 EST JUMP INTO JANUARY Ok, im still up, its now 130am central time (issues with kids...sigh!!), so I figured I would go ahead and start the new thread for January...thanks for the great title Cathy!!! <BR> I wish everyone a healthy and happy 2014... <BR> amanda Wed, 1 Jan 2014 02:32:15 EST Decisions in December Cafe Welcome to our Decisions in December Cafe! <BR> <BR> When life hits us full on with struggles and challenges we have decisions to make as to how to deal with it. <BR> It could be a simple choice over food (good or bad) or it could be something that involves toxic people and setting boundaries with them especially during the holidays. It could be a good thing like deciding how to reward ourselves for weight loss or healthy eating. <BR> Either way we have choices to make. <BR> When we thi... Sun, 1 Dec 2013 12:37:08 EST Help with Stimming I know the stimming like hand flapping they say don't force to stop it or they will just find another one. But my 3 1/2 year old son has gone to another type of stimming that isn't productive. I always said he learns a lot with music and songs. I think one of our ABA therapist has now gone to far. He will sing one nursery rhyme after another. Not the same one over and over, but different ones. Now when he goes to speech or anything he is still singing and won't answer the questions or perfor... Fri, 8 Nov 2013 19:40:05 EST Nimble November <em>311</em> Sat, 2 Nov 2013 16:15:13 EST I'm JC. I'm JC. I'm eighteen years old, a sophomore in college, and I have Asperger's syndrome. Most of my paternal grandmother's and maternal grandfather's side of the family needs to lose significant amounts of weight, including myself and both of my parents. I actually wasn't doing too bad until two years ago, I had to give up all of my varsity athletics (excluding archery) because of multiple severe concussions. (A side note: neurological trauma + preexisting neurological condition = absolute dis... Sun, 27 Oct 2013 13:24:58 EST Hello Hi everyone! <BR> <BR> I have suspected for a long time now that my now 8 year old son is on the spectrum and today it was confirmed. They are unsure of just where on the spectrum he falls, so they are going to be doing a full eval. I just hope that every day I am furthering his love of himself and instilling the belief that he can do anything! He attends virtual school because he has severe school anxiety, and it has been a truly amazing experience. Thu, 24 Oct 2013 20:08:50 EST Good Morning! Hello, my name is Laurie. I'm a stay at home mom, I have two children one girl one boy. My daughter has Asperger's. She just turned five and started kindergarten, so you can imagine how much fun that is!! My son is two and so far no signs of being on the spectrum except speech delay. Personally, I think he is delayed because he doesn't need to speek, LOL. He has enough words to get what he wants done. <BR> I have about 35lbs left to lose. I'm without a doubt a stress eater. A bad day w... Wed, 23 Oct 2013 11:15:29 EST Opt for Optimism October Cafe! Hi Wonderful Supportive Friends! <BR> <BR> We all have so much going on in our lives. Some good, some not so good at all. What keeps us all going forward? Hope. We hope for a better day, a better tomorrow. That's optimism. I thought we could all use a month (if not a lifetime!) to think optimistically. Hence the title, "Opt for Optimism." We have a choice. I see so many of you dealing with seemingly impossible odds and situations in your lives. But you opt for optimism. <BR> <BR... Mon, 30 Sep 2013 21:19:10 EST Hello Team! Hi Team. I just joined last night and am so happy to have found this community. I am the mother of a wonderful, neurotypical four-year-old son and a wonderful, neurodiverse eight-year-old daughter (ASD, ADHD, OCD, and mood disorder). I have neglected my own health for years and have finally realized that I am best able to care for those I love if I am taking care of myself. I began running this summer and making healthier food choices and have lost five pounds. My goals are to lose anoth... Thu, 12 Sep 2013 10:45:09 EST Sweet Simple September Cafe! Happy September to all! <BR> <BR> I have found that when I keep things simple and there is a sweetness to it I do so much better at staying consistent with it. <BR> <BR> If I make things really complicated (my perfectionism is showing!) then it's like planning to fail because I can't keep up with my own unreasonable expectations! <BR> <BR> So the "sweet" part is keeping things fun! The "simple" is not making things too complicated which I know sounds obvious, but we all get wrapped up i... Sun, 1 Sep 2013 11:40:40 EST Sensory Children Hey everyone. I am a stay at home Mom to my 4 year old son. We just found out less then 3 months ago that my son has sensory processing disorder. Just looking for other parents that are going through the same with their sensory children. I have found other parents to be the best for advice and support. If you have any advice or anything you would like to share or vent let me know. I need all the help i can get! Mon, 19 Aug 2013 16:45:41 EST HI Hi, my name is Amy. I was diagnosed with Aspergers a few years ago, though before I was diagnosed I literally thought I was all alone because as much as I love my parents they didn't understand why I do not like being touched or why it took me two years to actually make friends when I moved to a new school. The main issue was the fact that I really do have a hard time communicating with others in social situations such as family gatherings or social functions we are invited to. I am also t... Thu, 15 Aug 2013 23:58:13 EST Amazing Action August Cafe! Hi Everyone! <BR> Welcome to our August Cafe!! <BR> <BR> I chose Amazing Action for us so we can take the time to look at the amazing action we have taken regarding ANYTHING in our lives! <BR> Maybe for one meal you measured weighed and tracked. <BR> Or maybe you worked out on a day that was stressful and busy, but still made time for you! <BR> Maybe you chose not to let a toxic person affect your eating today. <BR> <BR> Whatever it is, let's share what Amazing Action we take on a daily b... Thu, 1 Aug 2013 09:05:46 EST Son is autistic but daughter is the real issue. I have a son with Asperger's and currently out of my 3 kids he's doing the best. My question deals with a much younger sister who doesn't have major signs of autism but possesses a few of the minor traits like being unable to joke around. One of her friend's and the friend's family played a practical joke on all their friends saying her 18 year old friend was taken to Vegas by her mother and got married to her boyfriend of 2 months. I kept trying to tell my daughter it had to be a joke especi... Wed, 24 Jul 2013 00:41:25 EST July's Jewels I came to the cafe and discovered no July ack! So I am opening it and I hope that is ok. <BR> Enjoy some of the fresh tea I made from my herb garden. We have basil tea if you have never had it you should try it very good and calming. I added some chocolate biscuits that are sugar free and soak up the tea so well oops crumbs there sorry about that. I might even add some cream for the biscuits just a little though girls you know what they say about the moment on the lips. You know a moment... Wed, 3 Jul 2013 08:30:39 EST Adult Aspies I'm still not finding anyone to connect to as a grown man with Aspergers. There is also not a good division between people WITH the syndrome and people CARING for people with the syndrome --- I can find several carers groups here in Knoxville but have yet to find an adult "sufferers" group. It's almost as if the doctors think it goes away in the person's early 20s. <BR> <BR> I wish there was more stuff going on in this group. Sorry but my computer just does not like the fitness system here a... Sun, 9 Jun 2013 12:38:02 EST June's Jubilant Junction Cafe! <em>30</em> <em>250</em> <em>381</em> <em>386</em> <BR> I loved Tina's ideas for the June Cafe so I decided to use them for this month! Thanks Tina! <BR> <BR> We all have so many stressors in our life. And that can cause so many health issues including not being able to lose weight or actually gain it! sigh, that be me! <BR> <BR> I think we come to a "junction" where we can make the decision to be jubilant or not. (love that word Tina!) So let's rise up victorious as stro... Sat, 1 Jun 2013 10:31:46 EST Mindful May Cafe! I can't believe it is already May! <BR> <BR> This month let's think about how mindful we are. We are all so busy that we don't always think in the moment. When we don't we risk making bad decisions in many ways. If we are mindful in the moment, we can think about what food we are tempted to eat, and think to choose a better choice. <BR> <BR> We can be mindful of the fact that we are anxious, tired, angry, exhausted and really need and deserve a break. <BR> <BR> And we can be mindful o... Wed, 1 May 2013 00:16:01 EST Nathan & Sylvia (a story of an autism service dog) My son and I are both autistic (Asperger's). He produced a slide show for autism awareness month that tells some of the story of his autism service dog. I've included the link below: <BR> <BR><BR>Po Sun, 14 Apr 2013 07:52:30 EST Amazing Attitude April Cafe! <em>257</em> ? <BR> <em>67</em> ? <BR> Which would you consider amazing? Rain or Shine? <BR> Or would you give both a rating of A+ Amazing! <BR> <BR> So much of our life could go so much easier if we could adjust our attitude to "amazing!" <BR> We can't do that with everything as there are sad things that just aren't anything but sad. <BR> But if we can look at most things as amazing, it gives us the strength to get through those hard parts in life. <BR> <BR> Rain is amazing as it... Mon, 1 Apr 2013 10:55:27 EST Melodic March Cafe Cathy must be busy with her amazing family so started March thread. <BR> Have started to exercise to my Christian cds and have realised how much music forms such a part of our lives. We teach our kids with music, we relax with music and we dance with music. <BR> Lets make this month a time to sit and hear the music, and to find our favourite music to exercise too, just like Cathys dish dance. <BR> Want to focus this month of finding more time for me, and to finally break through the barrier I... Sun, 3 Mar 2013 18:36:11 EST I need help! Sleep, eating and disorganized! We have have three beautiful Kids. One 5 and three year old boy girl twins. The boy twins is autistic. He usually is a very mild sweetheart. When he turned three we lost early steps and got therapies on our own for him. We struggled with the thought of sending him to pre-school and at first they see Autism and immediately wanted to put him in a Autism class that is totally non-verbal and most severe. We said no way. He is usually calm, knows his letters, colors, shapes and vocabulary increasi... Wed, 20 Feb 2013 21:41:30 EST I found your group today I've been with SP for a good while but just now discovered your team. My 13yo DS is ASD. It is nice to be part of an understanding community. Thu, 14 Feb 2013 12:55:31 EST Sensory Integration Dysfunction question My 7 year old was diagnosed with SID about 3 months ago. I just had an Aha! moment. He is physical agile, very strong, good center of gravity. But he never mastered riding his scooter or his bicycle (once we took the wheels off). <BR> <BR> He spend last weekend working hard to get better at his scooter, because he had a friend stay over and they spent a lot of time riding together. He got dramatically better, but still got really frustrated at times. Duh! It's too much sensory inform... Thu, 7 Feb 2013 01:35:23 EST Faithful February Cafe! Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> Happy February! Many of us have faith in a higher power, we have faith in our husband, and faith in our children. <BR> But, do you have faith in yourself? Do you believe you can do this? Do you believe that you can be healthy and lose the weight (or maintain) it? <BR> That is what this month is all about...Love ourselves and having faith in ourselves that we CAN do it! <BR> One thing I have learned along the way is that a lot of our success is not just physical... Thu, 31 Jan 2013 19:03:17 EST If you could write a handbook... Hi folks. I'm a new team member. I just posted in the "Introduce yourself" area. Unfortunately, I'm really needing guidance and other people's words and would like to ask how you might address this! Here's part of our issue. <BR> <BR> While starting the process of planning a family trip where 5 of us would be traveling to Peru, my mother in law had the inspiration to schedule a 2 week vacation for herself and my daughter. They will be traveling in Peru and Ecuador. The trip is with a small... Mon, 7 Jan 2013 08:19:21 EST Goals for January 2013 My goals for this month are to quit smoking and lose 12 pounds. <BR> What are YOUR goals? Thu, 3 Jan 2013 18:45:20 EST Just Me January! Happy January everyone! <BR> <BR> I thought it would be a great and healthy plan to put ourselves first this month. Just Me means whatever it takes to put yourself first at least once a day. Maybe it's that first sip of coffee before you awaken the kids. Maybe it's putting your exercise before the dishes or laundry. <BR> <BR> I think when we put ourselves first and put value on ourselves it can really change our outlook. <BR> <BR> You are all the most amazing group of women that are a... Mon, 31 Dec 2012 17:44:50 EST hi new here! Hello, <BR> <BR> My name is Jennifer. I have a 8 year old DD with Asperger's, ODD and severe anxiety. A 4 year old with Anxiety and Sensory disorder (mostly Oral, He chews though electical cords, clothing, eats paper, hardly any food) And then I have a Pretty nero typical 16 month old.. well, so far anyway. <BR> <BR> I myself was diagnosed with ADD as a teenager, but I think it's more of a Aspergers actually, and my husband has OCD, however undiagnosed because "he's a man and isn't going... Fri, 28 Dec 2012 13:59:32 EST Determining December Cafe Cathy I hope you don't mind. Started Decembers Cafe. <BR> This month I want to focus on becoming more determined to give myself more time, more determined to fix some things in my life that needs fixing, and making this year the last year I will ever have these problems in my life. <BR> Because next year when January comes I want to put this all in place for myself. <BR> I am tired of living on the outskirts of life. <BR> So instead of making New Year resolutions lets fix them now. <BR> Becau... Sat, 1 Dec 2012 17:57:28 EST Happily bipolar and autistic I thought it might be about time to introduce myself. I am happily bipolar and autistic. It makes for an interesting combination since major changes often trigger manic or depressive episodes and for an autist, every change is major. <BR> <BR> I was only diagnosed last year. I had avoided psychiatrists up until then because of a bad experience with being locked in when I was fifteen. At that time they never actually managed to diagnose me, and since I never went to psychiatrists after that n... Wed, 28 Nov 2012 13:08:07 EST Newbie Here Hi my name is Sandy. I am 36 years young. I have 2 boys on the Spectrum. A 7 year old Aspi/ADHD/ODD and a 4 year old with ASD. Life has been challenging and I am terrible about staying home too much (other than work) and not taking care of myself. Decided it was time for momma to get rid of this extra weight and get healthy and strong. My boys are getting older and its harder to tote them out of places without muscle tone. ;) Can't wait to be part of the community. Sat, 24 Nov 2012 08:27:11 EST Hey you guys :) My name's Olivia <BR> I was diagnosed with Asperger's this year. Unfortunately my late diagnosis (I'm 18 now, diagnosed at 17) has prevented me from living a relatively normal lifestyle, especially with the sensory issues I face, and where I live the health system is a bit disorganized so I have yet to get any help. Besides that, I think awareness has been very important in accepting who I am and learning how to cope with the hardships I face. <BR> <BR> I am very positive I can change my lif... Thu, 22 Nov 2012 18:48:41 EST Nutritious November Cafe! Hi Wonderful Friends! <BR> <BR> Why not spend this month finding ways to eat healthy? We could share what helps us through a very hard and tempting "I WANT THAT CHOCOLATE" moment! I do love chocolate!! <BR> <BR> Then when we hit the holidays maybe we can say no to those temptations a little easier and/or more often! <BR> <BR> Gotta run! Way too busy lately and I'm trying to do the therapy with my kids 2X a day at home now on top of everything else. Hopefully it will help! <BR> <... Fri, 2 Nov 2012 16:45:49 EST Recently diagnosed with Aspergers When I was younger, I read about Aspergers and thought it felt familiar. At 36, I was diagnosed with ADHD. At 52 I have been diagnosed with Aspergers. At first I was very uncomfortable with that, but I can see how it fits and understand where some problems in my life--getting and keeping work, relationship problems, etc are coming from. I am still working at understanding and fitting it into my life. I hope that knowing will lead to greater understanding and healing. Especially I hope that it... Wed, 24 Oct 2012 01:27:33 EST I'm requesting autism & OT consult for son My son is a high school freshman, and we've known about his Aspergers Syndrom (AS) since preschool. He's a good student, or should I say a high achieving learner, but his behaviors are disruptive and he's gotten 2 detentions so far this year. He also has ADHD, and some sensory issues. He's on focalin, and uses a fidget at school. He's in about half reg ed, and half integrated classes. <BR> <BR> So, I decided to ask for consultations with the autism consultant and the OT, but I feel weird bec... Wed, 17 Oct 2012 16:32:45 EST Organizing in October Cafe! Hello sweet friends! <BR> <BR> I thought the topic of organization was one that hits all of us really hard especially when we are so stressed or busy or both. <BR> <BR> Organization can be the difference between a good and bad choice, so maybe we can work on this even if just a day at a time. <BR> <BR> Do you need to organize your time, your kitchen, your day? No matter what, we all could use this healthy life skill to bring us to a place of peace, calm and success. <BR> <BR> Hugs to a... Mon, 1 Oct 2012 00:22:09 EST Soothing Streams September Cafe! It's September already!! Wow has the year flown by! <BR> <BR> I want to spend this month thinking of healthy ways we can or do soothe or comfort ourselves. <BR> So many of us have so much stress in our lives and could really use a Soothing Stream right in our own backyard. <BR> <BR> Well, the Cafe is the place! Think of cool, gentle water streaming by with a nice light breeze and the sun peeking through the trees, shadows dancing on the tapestry of lawn and flowers around you. The only... Sat, 1 Sep 2012 11:03:51 EST Align in August Cafe! Good Morning and Good August to all! <BR> <BR> The word "align" popped into my head this morning as I read through so many of the struggles we all face every day. We face horrible loss like Dianne and Tina and Georgia have faced as of late. We deal with struggles with our children, challenges with our appearance, our weight or just our view of ourselves. We face financial struggles and finding the time to get things done. <BR> <BR> To align means to bring into agreement or cooperation wi... Wed, 1 Aug 2012 10:41:53 EST The importance of me time..... When raising children on the spectrum we as parents face so much in any given day, therapies, specialists, school issues, behavioral issues, sensory challenges, depression, exhaustion, the ignorance of others, the list goes on and on. <BR> <BR> Do you take time for yourself each and every day and if so what do you do and how do you manage to accomplish it each day. <BR> <BR> Personally I find this the hardest thing to do, many days raising my son takes every ounce of my strength with littl... Wed, 18 Jul 2012 08:43:54 EST ONE STEP AT A TIME I am a 31 yr old mother of 2 boys ages 14 and 2. my 2yr has sensory issues and is undergoing testing for spectrum disorder and seizures. He also has mild hearing loss and is non verbal. He is currently receiving ST/DT/OT which have help him greatly. I'm basically starting all over and i am learning to cope. His journey to get here was a difficult one (infertility and emergency c section birth due to lack of Oxygen and amniotic fluid) and in the past 2 years he has seen more specialist than i ... Mon, 16 Jul 2012 02:41:11 EST No More Jello Jiggles Body July Cafe!! Okay, it's time to melt this jello jiggler belly!! Are ya with me? I am so tired of the extra appendage called my belly or as some like to say, "muffin top." That is such an awful word picture! Anyway, let's beat this jiggle!! <BR> <BR> Tina, I hope your hubby is doing better and that they figure out what is going on. I am praying for all of you! Hugs! <BR> <BR> Gotta go, Cathy <BR> <em>247</em> Tue, 3 Jul 2012 20:42:04 EST Joyful Rewards Jun Cafe! It's June already!! (and I can't believe the typo in the topic title!! Not JUN, but JUNE!!) Sorry about that! <BR> <BR> How do you reward yourself? Do you reward yourself for your accomplishments? Or are you so hard on yourself that you always have to do more before you "get that thing?" <BR> <BR> I have such joy in my heart when I have disciplined myself with a REASONABLE goal accomplished in a REASONABLE time. I think we should really focus on this thought this month! <BR> <BR> I a... Fri, 1 Jun 2012 14:54:20 EST Sometimes, I get annoyed... I know he can't help it, but my son (he's 16) likes rules. Although he can overlook when he bends a rule, he can't seem to keep himself from pointing out when others do and sometimes it drives me crazy. <BR> <BR> For example, recently I sneezed and he said, "Bless you." I said thank you, but he must not have heard me because he said, "MOM! I said 'Bless you!'" I want to explain to him that people don't appreciate it when you point out their flaws, but I don't think he'd get it. <BR> <BR> ... Fri, 1 Jun 2012 08:31:39 EST Hi, I'm new to this group and sparkpeople Hi, I'm new here. <BR> I am 38, been divorced for 3 yrs, I have 4 kids 19(moved out already) , 17 (has aspergers, anxiety, depression, sensory issues, seizures. she does very well academically but has many social issues), 14 (has aspergers, speech delays, learning difficulties, problems with fine motor skills, anxiety, depression) and my youngest is 8. <BR> <BR> I am home schooling my 17 yr old because of her anxiety and seizures. She couldn't handle the stress of Jr High and High School. <... Wed, 23 May 2012 22:22:26 EST is this team just for family? are those on the spectrum themselves welcome here <em>38</em> Fri, 11 May 2012 19:01:17 EST sleep deprived parenting I was just curious, for those who don't get enough sleep because their kidz wake up WAY too damn early, how do you do it all? <BR> <BR> how do you get enough sleep and balance everything else okut to? Fri, 11 May 2012 11:54:59 EST Motivate and Move in May Cafe! <em>243</em> <em>345</em> <em>311</em> <em>315</em> <em>194</em> <em>45</em> <em>258</em> <em>205</em> <BR> <BR> May is all about motivation and moving. <BR> <BR> If we do even 10 minutes of walking in place while watching T.V., or while folding laundry or doing dishes, or walking the dog or playing with the kids in the yard, it counts! Try doing that for a week, then add 10 minutes. Maybe by the end of May you will be at 30 minutes! Imagine the change this can make in your outl... Tue, 1 May 2012 12:03:55 EST Hello, hello! Hi! I'm in the early stages of getting an Aspergers diagnosis for my son who is 7. I have suspected Aspergers since he was very young. He's had a great deal of trouble in school behavior wise but his grades are great. This year has been especially trying which is why I'm looking into a diagnosis now. <BR> <BR> One question. He gets into trouble almost daily for playing with paper. He folds it and rolls it up I guess all day. Some days when the teacher takes it he has a complete meltdown not ... Tue, 1 May 2012 00:15:18 EST Another newbie... Hi everyone... I'm Lisa, but everyone just calls me Lily. I'm the mother of two children, a seven year old little girl and my almost five year old little boy. My son was diagnosed late last year with autism, and it's... it's been hard. Right now the worst part is that no one will tell me how I can help him more, and we're being jerked around by the hospital here. Every day he screams and gets very violent with me and if I'm not in range, his sister or father. Biting. Clawing. Kicking. H... Tue, 24 Apr 2012 20:07:46 EST Hi, I'm Barry My name is Barry and I just joined this group. I have an almost 5 year old boy and 2 year old boy/girl twins. Everything was going good till just after the boy twin Logan wasn't acting right. He was no longer giving good eye contact, playing with the other two and still wasn't walking even though he was crawling great. We talked to the Pediatrician and we explained that things pointed to Autism and the reply was it could be growing delays that testing to Autism isn't till the age of three. We... Mon, 23 Apr 2012 23:38:05 EST bedding issues right now my son is eating the bed so I am considering getting a metal bunk bed to replace the one we have. <BR> <BR> the other issue is that my daughter absolutely INSISTS on sleeping on the floor but I don't like "the floor". <BR> <BR> any ideas please? Sun, 15 Apr 2012 23:51:35 EST Appreciation April Cafe! Happy April to everyone!! <BR> <BR> Appreciation is something we probably give much more than we get. We tell others how much we appreciate them, the things they do or say. But how much do we hear it? And more specifically, how much do we hear it from ourselves?! <BR> <BR> Do you appreciate yourself? I think this is a good time to learn to appreciate all that we are and all that we have become. I think we need to take at least a moment every day to appreciate where we came from and h... Sun, 1 Apr 2012 15:02:27 EST sleeping issues My kidz are 6 6 and 7. all have autism. and all have sleeping issues. i am trying to find a sleeping "aide" for them other than melatonin. and one of my daughters - yeah - she can be up at midnight and act like its 10am and sometimes 1mg melatonin doesn't do ANYTHING for her. and I need her to sleep or else its not safe for ME to sleep. <BR> <BR> any ideas please? Sat, 24 Mar 2012 01:26:31 EST Misdiagnosis?!? Does anyone, or has anyone ever had problems with getting their child diagnosed? I have noticed my son was not like the other kids when he entered preschool. Before then, he was around adults and enjoyed their company, he was talking at an early age and his intellect was rather advanced other people couldn't believe how smart he was. When he went to school he started having sensory problems such as screaming and yelling at the kids for being too noisy. I didn't find out until months later whe... Thu, 22 Mar 2012 22:45:34 EST Is It Aspergers? Hello all, I'm Anastasia. I suspect that my long-term boyfriend has Asperger's syndrome. I am here looking for support and more info. As a child he was tested for learning disabilities and they found none, although it was the early nineties and Aspergers wasn't as commonly known then. I have had a difficult time trying to interpret his behavior, which has always been slightly eccentric and child-like. He is still highly functioning and his abnormalities are very subtle. <BR> <BR> We have li... Sun, 18 Mar 2012 22:24:53 EST Hi I'm new Hi there, <BR> <BR> I just wanted to introduce myself to this SparkTeam. I'm Tscott86. My DH and I both just found out that we are both Aspies...which is sort of comforting in a way because now we know why we are the way we are lol. <BR> It's also been really difficult too. We realized that our parents probably have it pretty severely as well. (my mom, his dad) They are both so closed minded that they would never go for a diagnoses or even believe that they have it. It's tough communicating... Thu, 15 Mar 2012 12:50:21 EST Hi mommies! My name is Ivet :) New here. I'm 22 and my Oldest daughter has cri du chat (chromosomal thing)...just thought I'd throw that in there lol. It's nice to be able to talk to other moms that support eachother through fitness and the Through the journey of being a mommy with a child that has special needs. Thu, 1 Mar 2012 18:51:23 EST Merry March G'day all. <BR> May this March be so merry. <BR> Have been MIA for a little bit and have missed you all. <BR> Jessica is back home. After a few days and many many tests they finally found out it was <BR> Clostridium difficile. Long word long reasons why she got it. But once they had figured it out and gave her the right treatment she started picking up and eating. She is still a little weak but is eating well and will be back at work next week. <BR> Monday I was so worn out I decided to go to... Thu, 1 Mar 2012 17:50:23 EST cathy i apologize km sorry i did not mean to offend u or anyone by letting anyone know about this book, i have yet to read it and so did not know what was in it, it was just something i saw and wanted to share, so i apoligize from now on i will research more before posting, so again im sorry! Thu, 1 Mar 2012 07:53:40 EST new book about asbergers syndrome i wasnt sure if anyone else was aware of this or if any of you like to read JODI PICCOULT, but her newest book and for the life of me the title has escaped me but it will be on the new sellers list at your fav book seller..anyway its about a young boy dealing with everyday life and having asbergers...i am gonna get it tommorrow,,,i love her books, if your not familiar with her she has wrote the books..THE PACT, MY SISTERS KEEPER (FYI the movie is not the same as the book lol) and many many o... Wed, 29 Feb 2012 10:05:09 EST Just stopped to say hi! Hi, I'm Christina. I just currently started using I joined this group because I have a cousin with autism and also my boyfriend has Asperger's. We've been together a year now and because we both are overweight decided to try and lose weight together. Problem is, since we both started college, we live in two different states, 7 hours a part. But we're still trying to lose weight together so we can be healthier. I sometimes lack the motivation he can have but I'm determined to ... Tue, 21 Feb 2012 09:31:01 EST Fun with Fitness February Cafe! It is unbelievable that tomorrow is February! <BR> <BR> I thought about how so many look at Fitness as a chore. What if we found fun ways to do our fitness? Then it would seem more of a natural part of the day and not something we need to struggle to fit in. <BR> <BR> What ideas do you have to have Fun with Fitness? <BR> <BR> Hugs, Cathy <em>247</em> Tue, 31 Jan 2012 19:35:04 EST Hello! Hello! I'm Caitlin! I am new here to the group and new to Sparkpeople! I am the single mom of a beautiful 3 year old, autistic boy. We face unique challenges every day and I have finally decided to take the initiative to take control of my health! Looking forward to getting to know others in the same boat!! :) <BR> <BR> Caitlin Sun, 22 Jan 2012 19:24:07 EST New person here :) Hey there, ya'll <BR> <BR> My name is Branndi, I'm 25, and the single parent of a five year old son who is an Aspie and has ADHD. <BR> <BR> My poor kid has had a rough three years, because that's not until when I noticed something was wrong. Being a mom for the first time, I didn't really know that when he turned about two and a half years old and still wasn't speaking that there was a real issue. Luckily his doctor was able to inform me that there might be issues. He has been through spee... Mon, 16 Jan 2012 19:32:36 EST what do i do? my son is so dependent on electronics that he cannot function without. I guess its my fault cause i give in rather than be consistant. for instant he wanted to play computer tonite and i told him he was just on it and he stated talking back to me and getting frustrated. so i told him he could not play tonite. i hope he understands why i took computer time away. i dont know if i am disciplinning him right or not. He is 8 years old and has high functioning autism. any suggestions would help tha... Sun, 15 Jan 2012 17:53:51 EST Childproofing personal hygiene products Hi, <BR> <BR> i was wondering how I can "childproof" or protect from children some personal hygiene products, products for my face, jewlery, etc. i have NO idea how. Note*** haning jeweilry oganizer is OUT. my girly girl with autism and would have too much fun with that one. thanx. Sun, 15 Jan 2012 03:31:21 EST hi im new hi i just joined about 2 weeks ago. i have two children one is a boy 8 years old and the other is a girl who is 5. my 8 year old is autistic spectrum disorder. my little girl does not have any issues. my son has been having a defiance problem for about a week . i dont know whats going on . weather he is just trying to settle back in aftter the break or what. i have set up a meeting with his teacher to see what we can do. i can control him most of the time but i cant tell teachers to do what i... Fri, 13 Jan 2012 13:19:02 EST Mom of two children with ASD Hello--my name is Melissa. I am a 27 year old mother of two boys that fall on the autism spectrum who also works full time and goes to college full time. The results of the tests have yet been received so I am not sure where they are placed but in a way to me that doesn't matter. They are Mikael and Adrian, defined by their personalities just as I am not defined by my medical condition of UC. Adrian is six, overall nonverbal, who loves yellow characters like Wubbzy, Spongebob, Funshine Bear (... Sun, 8 Jan 2012 14:35:07 EST You know you are a mum when Needed a lift. Thought I would post this. Lets see how many positives we can put down. <BR> You know you are a mum when: <BR> <BR> You are singing to a kids CD in the car and realise you are the only one there. Wed, 4 Jan 2012 06:45:15 EST JAMMIN' JANUARY I couldnt wait to start the new year, so set it up today for Georgia seeing as she is now in 2012 already..and Tina too, right? <BR> Lets make January a jammin' month girls.... Sat, 31 Dec 2011 15:12:33 EST Plans for 2012 hi we close out 2011 and get ready to enter a new year, I thought it would be helpful/cathartic and maybe even motivating to mention what we would like to achieve this upcoming year... <BR> I will go first..hmmm...for me i would like to get finished with going through menopause and come out the other side a nicer, less cranky/moody/emotional person. i would also like to reverse the weight gain that has plagued me since starting the menopause journey. Towards that end i am going ... Wed, 28 Dec 2011 12:59:58 EST New Here/ Waiting on our testing for ASD's Hi Everyone, I am new to spark. Here to loose weight. I am waiting for my little guys appointment. At the autism center for final diagnosis. But everyone seems to be leaning towards asperger's. He has sensory processiong disorder, expressive receptive language disorder, significant developmental delay's. But he has been making huge progress. I have implemented anything and everything the therapist have done with him. Its so rewarding seeing him achieve his goals. Nice to meet you all Thu, 8 Dec 2011 19:35:38 EST What would you do? My son lied to me yesterday about having homework because he wanted to go to a basketball game. This morning I told him that he was grounded from his Xbox for 2 weeks because he lied to me. His response was that he lied to me because he knew that he already had a study guide to study. Now that I've had time to think about things, I'm having second thoughts. I know it's important to stick to your word, but I do realize that school is very tough for him. <em>39</em> . He seems totally un... Thu, 8 Dec 2011 09:31:41 EST ARE DOCTOR THINKS ARE FIVE YEAR OLD HAS ASPERGERS Hi I am new here, are pedeatrien thinks our five year old has aspergers austism, and we are going trough the lengthy testing for that. In the meantime he is not doing great with reading at school and he has major sensory issues that seem to be getting worse. Tue, 6 Dec 2011 10:27:24 EST SPD, CP and my daughter... Hi. I'm bettyxB. My daughter is 6 years old and had struggled with SPD or sensory processing disorder from day one. We have struggled for many years and I cannot tell you how relieved I am to see a group like this. My DD(daughter) was recently diagnosed with cerebral palsy. They thought, at first, that she might be borderline autistic due to all of her severe sensory issues, but she just didn't fit the profile. It wasn't until her new pediatrician pointed out that her toe walking could actual... Tue, 6 Dec 2011 01:13:27 EST Dedicated December Cafe! To honor all of our team members this month, I thought that dedicated fit all of you very well when it comes to our dear loved ones who have challenges. <BR> <BR> I would love to see each of us put some of that wonderful dedication into ourselves. We deserve it! <BR> We can dedicate time to ourselves, healthy meals and exercise. And just as important and very vital is dedicating that me time every day even if only for a few minutes. If we practice it every day, we may just make it a hab... Wed, 30 Nov 2011 22:42:26 EST SPARK RALLY - MONTREAL If anyone on this team is a Montreal, we would like to invite you to our rally of walk/talk + lunch. Just contact me and I will send you more information. <BR> <BR> Bye for now. Dianne Fri, 18 Nov 2011 14:25:07 EST So much heartache My oldest son has aspergers, mood disorder, and I believe borderline personality disorder. I think of all the things we have done to help him all along and it just seems the outcome now that he is a young adult does not in anyway reflect the effort. He is smart and therefore it is hard to get him services, he just refuses. He is his own worse enemy in that he won't accept any of the help out there because he thinks he is just fine. He has potential but it is just heartbreaking to see him ... Tue, 15 Nov 2011 04:39:34 EST That's Life! Thanks for the memories. I am putting this subject out there. I discovered it in a old message. Can you tell us an amusing thing that your son/daughter have done? Maybe it wasn't funny at the time but looking back it is now. Tue, 8 Nov 2011 12:37:14 EST Welcome to Holland poem -- by Emily Perl Kingsley Since it's copyrighted material, please click on the link below to enjoy reading it. <BR> <BR> <BR> <link><BR>ml </link> Wed, 2 Nov 2011 16:05:39 EST Thankful November Cafe! Hi Everyone! It's hard to believe it's already November! <BR> <BR> Let's take this month to be thankful for all that we have. I know that when I am very stressed or down, I try to remember the things I am thankful for. Perspective and attitude can really change a lot of things. I know you are all amazing strong women! I am so thankful for all of you! <BR> <BR> Hugs, Cathy <em>465</em> <em>426</em> Mon, 31 Oct 2011 20:42:26 EST A PERSON IS NOT THE DISEASE. This is a conversation that I once had with my son's doctor. <BR> <BR> I always use to say " my autistic son". He told me that when I used that arrangement of words it meant that word "autistic" became the person. If I were to "say my son has autism" , then I am saying that was my son has a disability and not the disability has my son. <BR> <BR> It gave me a lot of things to think about. So now whenever I meet someone I always say that the person has a disability and not the disability... Sun, 30 Oct 2011 18:18:36 EST BLESSED PRAYER FOR SPECIAL NEEDS PEOPLE I. Blessed are you who take time to listen to difficult speech, for you help us know that if we persevere we can be understood. <BR> <BR> II. Blessed are you who walk with us in public places, and ignore the stares of strangers, for in your companionship we find havens of relaxation. <BR> <BR> III. Blessed are you who never bid us to "hurry up" and, more blessed, you who do not snatch our tasks from our hands to do them for us, for often we need time rather than help. <BR> <BR> IV. Ble... Fri, 28 Oct 2011 17:22:35 EST Optimistic October Cafe!! Hi Everyone! Let's think positive! <BR> <BR> I know that for myself, positive thinking has helped me to not only survive the hardest challenges, but LIVE through them. <BR> Let's take some time to just think positively about life, our circumstances, and of course ourselves. You are all very worth it! <BR> <BR> I hope everyone is having a wonderful day! <BR> <BR> Seeing Temple Grandin last night was WONDERFUL!! If you ever get the chance to go see her, do it. She is amazing! She spok... Sat, 1 Oct 2011 13:59:55 EST Relationship Advice/Su ggestions Hi, <BR> <BR> I just joined this team. I'm hoping that maybe someone can offer me some advice or a little direction. I recently started dating someone with (what he tells me) high functioning Autism. I have tried to do a some research on the internet about his difference and I've found some helpful tips. This really is just a new situation for me. <BR> <BR> In short, he is one of the most kind individuals I've ever met. However, recently, he as started to show me a side of him where ... Sat, 24 Sep 2011 20:36:33 EST Hi I'm Tanja :) Hey Everyone <BR> <BR> My name is Tanja, I am a single mother of 3 Autistic children with AD/HD yes you read right 3 and now my oldest has also just been diagnosed with Tourette just to make my life a little more interesting as if it wasn’t already. :) <BR> <BR> So a little more about me I started my journey in 2009 I have had ups and downs, I've plateau for 9 months, and now lost a total of 62 kilos, with 15 kilos to go. This has all been done with changes in foods and exercise. No quick f... Thu, 22 Sep 2011 20:31:16 EST New here I'm Lisa and the mom of a 9 year old son who was diagnosed with autism at age 5. It has been a joy and a challenge raising this boy of ours! We also have a 6 year old son who we're quite certain has Flying Monkey DNA. Hence, our house is always chaotic, funny, and sometimes down right exhausting. My oldest son is now in 4th grade in a self-contained classroom. We just took him out of ABA therapy, as he had become so anxious from the therapy that he was having vomiting spells. He's much... Thu, 15 Sep 2011 10:21:57 EST HI, I am new Hi , my name is Jaclyn. I have a son Danny, who is 14 years old, has autism and is non verbal. We over come challenges everyday. I know we can achieve this goal too. I am so glad I found you all <em>224</em> I wish you all the best of everything... Sun, 11 Sep 2011 15:18:41 EST Simplify September Cafe Come on in and enjoy our cafe. There are lounge chairs in the corner overlooking the waterfall. Let the sounds soothe and calm you. Enjoy chatting with others and being inspired, motivated, and supported along your journey. Remember you are never alone. There is always someone who has been there or is right there with you. <BR> <BR> Some goodies to enjoy.... <em>408</em> <em>494</em> <em>181</em> <em>271</em> Thu, 1 Sep 2011 07:30:20 EST My Son was Diagnosed with Autism Today... When the doctor told me the news I didn't react....just give me details, give me information, something to work with. Later, I cried my eyes-out and continue to cry. I have no idea what to expect. He has already been seeing therapists and will continue to. However, should I be planning on him never living on his own? Getting married and having children of his own? His doctors can not say how severe it is (he is only 2 1/2); however, I can't help but feel like I am sinking into an abyss... Mon, 15 Aug 2011 10:56:49 EST Amazing August Cafe Hi Everyone, <BR> <BR> <em>235</em> to the Amazing August Cafe.... <BR> <BR> Come on in and sit a while. There are comfy lounge chairs next to the waterfall where you can have a cool drink <em>274</em> and listen to the rushing waters as it calms and relaxes you. Remember to make time each day for yourself. <BR> <BR> Hope you all have a truly Amazing August! Mon, 1 Aug 2011 10:19:05 EST Just Beginning Again I am Sarah from Wa. state. I am new to this site. I am a 58 yr old mom with 2 adopted special needs children. My 11 yr old son has Shaken Baby Syndrome, Autism, Sensory issues and other stuff. my 6 yr old daughter has not been dx'd yet, but is believed to have a disorder of the emotions and ADHD.. The children have been with us since early infancy. <BR> <BR> .I have a husband who recently (2/25/11) had a liver transplant. I was so excited to find this team. <BR> <BR> I need to keep up wit... Tue, 26 Jul 2011 10:04:10 EST new to site Hi my name is Kim and I am a mom of three great sons. My oldest is 18, my middle one is 11 and has ADHD, and my youngest is 6 and he is Autistic. I my self suffer from high blood pressure. Finding the time to exercise is hard for me right now because of the heat wave here in Canada and watching my son all the time. Any help would be great. Sat, 23 Jul 2011 23:29:41 EST The Gym Ok, so I'm all about getting fit, leaving the unhealthy life behind. I have a great trainer who teaches me boxing, and I love it. I go twice a week because my autie son was showing signs of resistance to the kids club. He's 9. He's mild - moderate ASD. He is terrified of certain TV shows. Nobody knows why, he just is. Anyway, so this gym only has one channel they are allowed to play, and they want the TV on all the time because it helps keep their zillion kids under control. The ladies are SO... Fri, 22 Jul 2011 16:23:12 EST PCP check up for my aspie son MY son got acidently discharged from the pyshic clinic he uses (its a long story), anyway to make a long story short, he went in to get his PCP checkup, and it was with a new doc because our doc left the clinic we use, everything looked good except his weight, he had been weighed in april he weighed 160 (hes 16 and 5 "6"), now hes 5 "7" and a half and 194 pounds, he know he needs to get active, hes home alone for most of the day because even though my husband is home hes asleep so all he doe... Mon, 18 Jul 2011 10:20:09 EST Joyful July Cafe! Come on in and sit a spell. Let us know how your day is going. How can we support, inspire, and motivate you. <BR> <BR> Tina said it best "Am determined to make July my joyful month...a month to be thankful for what I have, family, and my amazing friends on this site." <em>247</em> <em>220</em> <BR> <BR> Let's make July a joyful month...the possibilities are endless! Fri, 1 Jul 2011 11:11:17 EST organizing kidz files okay, I have some banker's boxes I was considering using to organize my kidz paper work. how? i'm a little confused on how to do it cuz now we'll be dealing with multiple years. <BR> <BR> any idea? Sun, 26 Jun 2011 14:24:10 EST childrens destructive behaviours my children have very destructive behaviours. they seem not to care that they are destroying the house. they'll chew up orange peels and leave them all over the house. if i get something in the mail, they take the styrafoam and crumble it all over the house. <BR> <BR> and now my vacuum doesn't work. I need to get it fixed. I really think I need to just get a good cheap vacuum that can really take a beating. any ideas? not miele - too expensive and they CAN"T take a beating at all. I sooooo n... Tue, 21 Jun 2011 17:45:57 EST autism-proof table okay, I have 3 kids with autism, 7 6 and 6. they are sooooooooo destructive and hard on things. I had gotten this expensive table that I thought would last. its only 1 or 2 years old. its breaking apart so easily. it was supposed to be leather, but alas, no, the people lied to me. its something else. <BR> <BR> its a breakfast nook <BR> <BR> should I go with an all wooden breakfast nook? or an all metal picnic table? <BR> <BR> any ideas please? Mon, 13 Jun 2011 15:57:30 EST Unbiased info on meds? As I mentioned previously, my son S with some combination of ADHD-inattentive subtype and mild Aspergers got a full neuropsych eval through the school this spring. It pretty much boiled down to "at least for school, the attention is the main issue." The neuropsych, not unexpectedly, recommended that we pursue medication in addition to the behavior modification program being put into his IEP.....I'm still exceeding sceptical that medication is the right route for my son, but agreed to raise ... Mon, 13 Jun 2011 13:20:20 EST hello hey, <BR> <BR> my name is brenna. married with 3 kidz. ages 7 6 6. they all have autism. its quite busy at my house. my eldest doesn't talk very much or well, then the other one is talking a little bit and the othe rone is leaning towards high functioning autism but with some normal tendencies. <BR> <BR> would love to hear from other parents. <BR> <BR> thanx. Sun, 12 Jun 2011 04:29:42 EST Watched Temple Grandin movie with DS12 I watched the Temple Grandin movie with DS12. He loved it! I had to keep pausing the movie so he could tell me how much he's like her, and how these traits are common in autism, and to answer all his questions about when did he reach certain milestones as a baby. <BR> <BR> If you haven't seen this, I recommend it. I rented it via Netflix. Sun, 5 Jun 2011 21:15:00 EST Hello Ya'll Hey everyone! my name is Christiane and I am a stay at home mom of 3 beautiful kids. Andrew, my son diagnosed as autistic, is 5 years old. my son Micah is almost 4 years old and my daughter Zoe is almost 3 years old. Beyond the challenge of having 3 small kids, one with special needs, my oldest son has been in school in the next county since he was diagnosed at 3 (2 1/2 years ago). The commute has been grueling and right in the middle of the day. Exercise was nearly impossible. I just ... Fri, 3 Jun 2011 21:01:31 EST Last Day Cafe for June! Hi! <BR> <BR> Every morning I wake up and make a choice. I decide what kind of day it will be. What kind of day will I create? No matter what happens in my day, I still have that choice. <BR> <BR> My choice is always the is a new day, I want to make a difference in others lives, I want to put smiles on other peoples faces and I want to make it the best day I can! <BR> <BR> Along with the idea that Tina had with her last post in the May Cafe of making every day count as if it... Wed, 1 Jun 2011 08:18:04 EST The Amazing Journey HI. I am mom to an incredible son. He was diagnosed with classic autism when he turned 2. He had all the signs: didn't speak, obsessive traits (ie-lining things up), of the chart tantrums, eating issues, sensory issues.... After many years of therapy - speech, OT, behavioral - he is a completely different child. he has gone from being in special ed, to being fully mainstreamed, to being placed in the gifted & talented program! He is about to turn 10, and now we are having other issues,bu... Mon, 23 May 2011 00:34:12 EST Day Care Dilemma My 2 year old son has sensory modulation disorder and global delay. He is also currently non-verbal but does have limited social interaction. We were fortunate to have a nanny for him the last couple of years but now we will be transitioning to day care. <BR> <BR> We found a very nice 'main stream' day care, but I can't help but feel nervous about the transition for my son and knowing that the facility can accommodate him. They did mention that they have had many children with various n... Sun, 22 May 2011 06:49:41 EST ESY? We were shown an advanced draft of S’s IEP in advance of our meeting with the school next week. In it, they recommend Extended School Year (ESY), for academic concerns, primarily regression. <BR> <BR> My question – which is really directed at those of you who also have high-functioning Aspies or other mildly affected kids – is are you allowed to say “NO!” While I understand the school's concern, S has been talking about going back to camp for months, all of his lasting friends have come ... Sat, 14 May 2011 23:19:49 EST Mindful May Cafe! I thought it would be good to take the month of May to be mindful. <BR> When we think first and throughout what we do, I think the outcome can be so different then if we don't choose the wisdom of being mindful. <BR> I know this is especially true for me with eating. Being present in the moment can be so difficult when we are so stressed, busy, rushed etc. <BR> But it really is one of the keys to our success. <BR> <BR> One tip I was given by a Mental Toughness Coach that really made sense... Sat, 30 Apr 2011 20:24:46 EST had to be the bad guy but got docs attention ive ALWAYS trusted our doc ( still do), but i knew that A's maniac attacks were getting worse, i was for sure it most proably wasnt his asbergers, so i made his case amd finally i think he realized that the med amount he was on was the same amount they put him on in 08, he was at 5 2 then and 128 pounds, hes now 5 5 and 168 pounds, lol soooo he decded it was time to increase his seraquel, so far ive got my old kid back bad thing is that hes got to go through all that sleepiness stuff again p... Wed, 27 Apr 2011 15:23:18 EST Proud Mom of Amazing Son Hi! I'm a very proud mom of an amazing little boy who was diagnosed with Autism at the age of 5. I knew early on (before he was 2) that something wasn't right, but his pediatrician just kept telling me that he was a "slow bloomer". It wasn't until we put him in pre-school that we were told that he should be tested (he was 4 when we started him in pre-school in Sept and he turned 5 the following Feb). That's when we found out he was Autistic. In the beginning, he didn't talk but for maybe ... Wed, 27 Apr 2011 08:46:41 EST Awesome April Cafe! Okay, so I couldn't come up with anything more creative than that! LOL <BR> <BR> Here we are going into April already!! Can't say I am much closer to my goals, but I am not giving up. <BR> Come in and enjoy a cuppa and the wonderful friendships and chat. <BR> <em>220</em> <em>271</em> <em>493</em> <BR> Oh, now how did that chocolate get in there?? Oops! <BR> <BR> Hugs, Cathy Thu, 31 Mar 2011 22:52:13 EST Newly Diagnosed I was diagnosed with Asperger's just before Christmas after three decades of feeling like I was a complete freak of nature. I gained weight to protect myself from interaction with other people because I didn't understand why it terrified me so much. Now that I'm working with a good therapist and am understanding what it means to be an Aspie, I'm working on getting my body back to a healthy place. You can read my Aspie adventures here: Fri, 18 Mar 2011 09:28:26 EST Seeking advice for tics or tourettes?! so i have written before about my daughter, isobel, but it has a while ago so let me just put a few details out there first. she will be 4 next month, and has been in ot/pt almost her entire life; spd, low tone, dev delays etc. we recently recieved a diagnosis of dyspraxia so if anyone out there has this dx for their child i would LOVE to pick your brain :) other than that we've recieved about a million "well, it could be this..." opinions from her drs. <BR> <BR> anyway, she has always had t... Sun, 13 Mar 2011 21:34:13 EST Making the Most of March CAFE! Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> Time to march into March! Let's make this a really great healthy month. <BR> <BR> The party continues for everything and anything!! <BR> <BR> <em>410</em> <em>218</em> <em>409</em> <em>274</em> <em>216</em> <em>410</em> <BR> <BR> Hugs to all, Cathy Mon, 28 Feb 2011 21:48:01 EST Hi I'm the newbie Hello. I'm Mary. I'm a single mom with two great kids. My daughter is 18 and a senior in high school. My son is almost 12. He has autism, a severe anxiety disorder, possibly tourettes syndrome and I homeschool him. Needless to say, my life is more than a little stressfull! My baby girl will be graduating soon and going off to college. I'm happy for her, but sad for myself. I recently gained a lot of weight that I had lost. Between a break-up, stress, depression and quitting my habit... Mon, 28 Feb 2011 14:40:19 EST To the parents of teenagers Next Fall, my son will be transitioning from middle school to high school. What can I expect? What were some of your child's challenges, if any? BTW, his diagnosis is mild autism. I meet with teachers and the school social worker this evening and would like to know if there are any services/information I should ask about. Thanks in advance. <BR> Cynthia Thu, 10 Feb 2011 09:52:05 EST Risperidone / Risperdal Does anyone have experience with this drug as used to treat PDD or Aspergers? Sun, 6 Feb 2011 11:14:01 EST February Hearts Cafe! This month let's think about the things that make our hearts healthy... <BR> <BR> The love we have for our family and friends <BR> The love and respect we should have for ourselves <BR> Healthy living that leads to a healthy heart <BR> <BR> I know that we can think of many more. <BR> <BR> Hugs to all, Cathy <em>247</em> <BR> <BR> And just to let everyone know, my hubby came through his procedure well. I am so tired and will post more tomorrow. I also want to read through the last post... Tue, 1 Feb 2011 01:14:09 EST quick introduction Hi, my name is Susan. I am the proud mom of two children both with Autism. My oldest (21) has autism and mild M/R. My youngest(5) has autism as well as ADHD. I have spent the last several years feeling like I am running on empty - so I am thrilled to find Spark People and am ready to work on myself a little bit. I look forward to getting to know some of you better. Thanks. Sun, 30 Jan 2011 19:50:46 EST diagnosis this week My son whom I have been trying for a year to find out if indeed he does have autism will finally get answers on Friday. I have been trying to be patient. I couldn't just wait any longer because I know from what I have read it's so important to get them the help they need asap. So I went ahead and have had him OT since this last summer and Speech therapy for over a year. I noticed since he was 9 mos old that he did seem slower but no doctor would do anything. I would ask pre school teac... Tue, 25 Jan 2011 20:43:55 EST Laundry Issues Is anyone else having issues with removing urine odors from clothing while using a HE washer? I've tried vinegar, baking soda, oxi clean, sun drying and bleaching (on whites) and nothing seems to work on synthetic clothing! Most of the time vinegar does the trick with his jeans. I don't know if I am having this problem because our washer uses less water to be more energy efficient or what the heck the deal is. I'm thinking of trying the store bought product called Odoban, but would prefer... Thu, 20 Jan 2011 13:19:25 EST accepting autism I have a son with moderate-severe autism who is aged 11, he loves school although he is quite a handful to say the least, he is very destructive at times. I find it hard to accept that my son has autism, i wish i could swap places with him my beautiful boy <BR> i always wonder how other people cope or come to accept it not knowing what the future holds for him. <BR> <BR> sarah Mon, 17 Jan 2011 15:04:02 EST Hello a newbie with 2 sons with sensory disorders Hello I feel like a newbie with everything going on in my life right now. New year: new diets ( my daughter has multiple food allergies) new diagnosis with my sons, hubby just got a new job and I need to find time to lose 100Lbs. Everything is changing but I'm having a pretty tough time juggling it all. <em>198</em> Sun, 16 Jan 2011 12:06:20 EST Why Our Family No Longer Uses Soy Products Emerging Dangers of Soy. <BR> I think this is particularly important for parents raising Special Needs Children. Soy is just bad. <link><BR>y.htm </link> Fri, 14 Jan 2011 12:48:18 EST Selective Mutism I was reading some articles about helping your child with social issues and I came across selective mutism. Until just a couple months ago all my son's therapists thought he was non-verbal. I made a video showing how not only was he verbal he conversed with me and his father very easily, in fact we often can't get him to quiet down at home. It is now clear to me that my son has selective mutism. He speaks only to people he knows extremely well and I guess trusts. He will only speak to me... Wed, 12 Jan 2011 21:46:57 EST Panic Attacks My 7 year old son had his first panic attack over Christmas. Does anyone else have experience with this? I can calm him down but it is the aftermath that I am having trouble with. He is terrified about everything. Every heart rate increase, sore finger, eye twitch, or funny feeling, is freaking him out. He wont even go to the bathroom alone. I have been working on increasing his independence at home and this is making us go in the opposite direction. Frankly, they scare me to death. I... Thu, 6 Jan 2011 13:01:01 EST STAR Center Hoping to visit the Star center in Denver to help with some sensory problems my son is having. They have a OT program there that may be able to help. Just wondering if anyone has been there and what your experience is? Thanks Sun, 2 Jan 2011 19:12:22 EST Comfort Cafe for January Come on in and sit a spell. <BR> <BR> We are at the beach sitting under an umbrella with a cold and colorful drink of your choice. There are hammocks and lounge chairs to choose from. Let the crashing ocean waves soothe your senses and relax your body. <BR> <BR> Here's to a Wonderful New Year filled with health, happiness, friendship, and prosperity for All. Sat, 1 Jan 2011 11:19:26 EST Hello I am new and I have been diagnosed with Asperger's (a mild case) since my senior year of high school. I not only want to lose weight to feel better about myself but to possibly bring my Asperger's under control. This could eventually mean that I might go on a Gluten and Casein free diet as a way to do this. (It was actually recommended to me by my parents a few years ago.)But that is something I know that I need to do more research on. Thu, 30 Dec 2010 01:19:53 EST Gluten Free/Casein Free Diet How many of you are doing gfcf diet for yourself or your children? I would love to share some recipes. I am personally not on the gfcf diet but little guy Evan is. He is gfcf, soy and dye free. Tue, 21 Dec 2010 12:35:31 EST Hi there Hi. <BR> My name is Tammy and we live in the Dallas area. I decided to join after hearing good things about from my husband. We have 2 kids, a nerotypical 15 year old daughter and a 6 year old son that has PDD-Nos. <BR> I don't really have any weight goals other then loose a few pounds, but I do want the family eating healthier. It is nice to have meals planned out, it's always been a problem trying to figure what what to cook. The oldest kid is the picky eater, she preffer... Sat, 18 Dec 2010 22:20:11 EST Planning for Christmas I am starting to get really frustrated about Christmas for Matthew. I want him to have a nice Christmas and get what he wants, partly because it makes me happy to see him happy, partly because I don't want a melt-down on Christmas morning if he doesn't get what he wants. Is that wrong of me? <BR> <BR> This 9-yr-old is a techie, and always wants the high tech stuff. Back in early November, all he could talk about was either a net book computer or IPod Touch. I saw a great deal on a net book ... Tue, 14 Dec 2010 13:37:05 EST Comfort Cafe for December Come on into December. The tree is lit and the hot cocoa is brewing and the cookies are baking. Nothing is fattening here except Santa steer clear of the bearded guy! <BR> <BR> Amy Thu, 2 Dec 2010 15:50:41 EST How do you cope? How do you cope when your child directs anger at you, tells you that you are the meanest mom, and says "I hate you?" Intellectually, I know that he doesn't really mean it. In fact, he will often tell me so later when he's in a calm state of mind. But when you are in the middle of a situation, do you have any tricks or techniques that help you to remember this is NOT a personal attack? I have broken down in tears, and I sometimes think that is just what he is looking for. How do I stay strong ... Thu, 18 Nov 2010 13:15:41 EST Comfort Cafe for November Come on in and sit a spell. Let us know how your day is going and what if anything we can do to help you along this journey. Fri, 5 Nov 2010 09:12:13 EST HEEEELP!!!! Well I really need advice. My 8 year old autistic son is having some behavior trouble in school, he has never had this problem before in school. For some reason he is falling out of his chair, yelling, throwing his paper and pencil and does not want to do his class and homework alot of times. The teacher is saying maybe because he had a growth spurt that this is the reason he is acting like this(I don't think so). He has never did this in school. He did it at home, well still does. We don't k... Mon, 1 Nov 2010 19:44:52 EST Hi I just joined. <BR> My son doesn't have an official diagnosis but I'm fairly certain its asperger's. He is seeing a counselor who thinks the same. We will probably have to go out of town for testing. <BR> I've already read through some of the topics and I'm looking forward to reading and sharing advice and support. Fri, 15 Oct 2010 10:33:13 EST Just wanted to share <link><BR>urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=3715648 </link> <BR> <BR> This is the blog I posted today. I hope it can provide some inspiration to others. When SJ was diagnosed, he was 8. He's almost 13 now. We spent more 5 years trying to figure out what was going on with him before they finally diagnosed him with Aspergers. He had many of the sensory issues and social issues that we recognize with Aspie kids. I am happy to say that many of those issues... Thu, 14 Oct 2010 17:43:38 EST Hi there Hi everyone, im new to the site! I am a homeschooling mother of two boys - one with high functioning autism and one with Asperger's. I have been doing Herbalife since 24 May 2010 and have lost 23 kg (50lb) to date. I am hoping to lose another 10 - 20 kg and get fit and healthy and lively! Tue, 12 Oct 2010 09:14:54 EST Hello :) My name is Patty. I have 2 boys. My oldest is 16 and was diagnosed with autism at the age of 4. He is such a sweetheart. But it is a struggle. Sometimes he has trouble with aggression. But he does go to school. I drive him every day now, he got too upset riding the bus. He did it for 4 years, so I can't complain! It will be nice to read what others are going through.... Mon, 4 Oct 2010 12:47:18 EST Comfort Cafe for October Hello friends, sorry I haven't posted in a little while. It's been crazy busy with my teenage son. He's very busy with school, music, sports, and homecoming dance. He took a girl out for the first time! They went out to eat, then to the dance. She seems like a very sweet and sincere young lady. I really like her. Her name is Emily. Her dad is a pastor and teaches at the seminary. <BR> <BR> I'm off to paint today, so must go! I'm feeling much, much better, and I have totally remov... Mon, 4 Oct 2010 11:01:39 EST REACHABLE Fall Goals! Hello Beautiful Team!! <BR> <BR> We are all so busy with life and our added challenges of raising special kids. <BR> <BR> I thought it would be good to get focused on OUR goals. We set and help our children move towards and reach goals all the time...even daily or by the minute so much that we forget US! <BR> <BR> It is time to focus on "ME!" <BR> <BR> So let's each think of a goal for just this week that we can reach. It could be drinking 8 glasses of water a day. It could be spendi... Sun, 26 Sep 2010 21:37:23 EST Hi all. Hi all. I am a mum of six amazing kids, three with autism. Life at the moment is hard. We have spent many months having my middle daughter tested to get her into the school we want for her for high school. as well as that all three are going through puberty <em>20</em> <BR> think it is time I started looking after myself and my weight loss. Hope to meet some here to share my journey and hope I can be a help to others. <BR> hugs, treanna Sat, 25 Sep 2010 05:13:05 EST Non-Stick Cookware A great article on the dangerous of non-stick cookware. <BR> <BR> <link><BR>archive/2010/09/21/compounds-in-nonsti<BR>ck-cookware-associated-with-elevated-c<BR>holesterol.aspx </link> Thu, 23 Sep 2010 21:33:09 EST ABA or RDI or DIR We are newly diagnosed and trying to find out the best method for us. Any feedback on what you are using and why it is working for you? My son is 3 1/2 and was not given a dianosis except ASD. He is verbal and high functioning but that is all I was told as far as a diagnosis. We are trying to find help. Thank you Tue, 21 Sep 2010 17:17:55 EST Hi, I am Marg and I have a 10 yr old son My exceptional son Shane has Aspergers, adhd, ptsd and sensory processing disorder. He is amazingly smart - einstein style. But struggles with social skills, sensory issues and severe bullying from others. I am a single mum. Shane has minimal contact with Dad at dads choice (he finds it difficult to fit shanes needs in around his, his partners and his job) Lucky though my son has some fantastic family a nd friends who look out for him including my 21 year old stepdaughter Juanita and her mum ... Mon, 20 Sep 2010 06:31:25 EST How did you tell your child they were special? My son is diagnosed as a sensory seeker under the SPD spectrum. We sort of tell him, we just haven't come right out and said it out of fear he will use it as an excuse. When he asks me why his "brain doesn't work", I tell him it does, just faster than most kids because he has super powers. He's 6 so it works. He does have a heightened (sp?) sense of hearing, smell, taste, and touch, and he is extremly intelligent just has little tools to focus with. How did you tell you little one about their... Sun, 19 Sep 2010 12:45:24 EST Activities During the School Year What are you kids involved in during the school year? We are really struggling with this. DS1 is still in the Special Ed room for most of the day. We are trying to transition his w/o overwhelming him, but at the same time I really feel church school is important for him. It is an hour and a half each Wed. I could tell it was too much for him this last time --when we picked him up he was sitting in a corner of the room while all the other kids were singing and dancing. DH also wants him involv... Fri, 17 Sep 2010 07:20:10 EST Hi everyone! SPD mom here! Hi there, <BR> My 6 year old was recently diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD)and now I have to fight for him every second of the day. His teacher insists that he has ADHD. Yes, SPD and ADHD seem very similar but they are not the same! I feel like an island. I have no support, my husband is vague on everything and just shows no interest in anything but Farmville on Facebook, my extended family has their own stuff going on, and my friends work and have grown children so they just d... Thu, 16 Sep 2010 14:23:04 EST Just Diagnosed Hi All, We just got the ASD diagnosis on Thursday. <BR> After 6 years of being told that my ds's difficulties were just complications from being a very early prem, but knowing better, we finally have a diagnosis. It's a funny thing - we're tremendously relieved because now we'll be able to access the help that he needs (especially at school) But it's still a little emotional - I guess there's been a big part of me that *wanted* it all to be in my imagination, and hung on to the crazy hope tha... Sun, 12 Sep 2010 00:06:59 EST Hi everyone! I thought this would be a good place to start since my new weight loss motivations stems from my children, especially my son who is 3 1/2 yr old non-verbal autistic. He is one of those kids that could really go either way with his autism; he is very bright, but we got to make it thru this communication hurdle and so far we are not there. This got me thinking of him possibly needing cared for for the rest of his life, so we made changes to my pension, but I need to be here too. and at 42yo and... Sun, 5 Sep 2010 22:27:41 EST Comfort Cafe for September Hi Everyone, come on in and sit a spell. Let us know how you are doing and if we can help you with anything. <BR> <BR> Pull up a lounge chair, the sun is shining, the waves are hitting the beach, and we have our tall, cool drink and a good book to keep us company. <BR> <BR> <em>67</em> <em>464</em> <em>274</em> <em>297</em> <em>218</em> <em>502</em> <em>149</em> Wed, 1 Sep 2010 11:53:15 EST New member I am a thirty year old stay at home mother of five. I had three children, two boys: 3 and 7 years old, and a daughter 2 months old. We adopted two boys this year, who are 5 and 7. The oldest has autism spectrum disorder and the younger has aspergers and ADHD, both deal with sensory issues as well. Dealing with all of the changes of a new baby and adopting two special needs children has me putting exercising and eating right on the back burner. It's nice to be able to read about others wh... Sat, 28 Aug 2010 12:44:37 EST My Neurodiverse Family Hello, <BR> <BR> I joined yesterday and went searching for a team today. I'm a 28 yr old mother of two. I have Asperger's syndrome, my boys 5 & 6 have Autism, and my husband has ADHD. <BR> <BR> My husband and I are getting ready to start a diet on Sunday. (Want Saturday to do the healthy shopping.) I'll be starting this weekend on fitness goals. I'm planning on starting Yoga and Pilates in the coming weeks at a local gym. Mentally preparing, I'm also going to try to come up with a sensory d... Fri, 13 Aug 2010 19:04:52 EST We are an ASD/MI family Hi, our life can be stressful but at least now full of love. I am happily married to a man who is almost a saint and now I am on probably permanent disability for bipolar 2 plus it looks like asperger phenotype (asperger lite???). <BR> <BR> My 3 youngest are on the spectrum, with my 5 yo boy being most severe PDD-NOS and my girls being Aspies, the 8 yo pretty severe and the 9 yo mild (but maybe I shoudn't say it but this mild works out to a pain in the butt). <BR> <BR> I am not saying... Thu, 5 Aug 2010 18:13:21 EST Sensory Calming Chart Anyone know where I could find a chart with sensory calming techniques on it? Preferably online and hopefully free? We had one and lost it! It was so helpful for DS1. It had pictures of people taking deep breaths, doing hand presses, squeezing play doh, etc. Thu, 5 Aug 2010 09:20:07 EST Questions about gluten free diets hi! my daughter is still not diagnosed, but im running out of options as far as behavior modification. i decided to try a gluten free diet (im not going full blown with casein yet) and i have a few questions. first of all, are there any ways to make this more cost effective!! i had no idea how much the bread/cereal/crackers were. i dont give them to her in large amounts, but still! what are some foods that your kiddos really like on this diet? also, if you tried it...did it work? if so, how l... Wed, 4 Aug 2010 00:58:22 EST Comfort cafe for August oops...i meant august but wrote July..where IS my brain today? Come on over to August's cafe... Tue, 3 Aug 2010 15:47:23 EST Comfort Cafe for July Come on over gang, its time for a new cafe....can you believe its August? <BR> Hugs to all Tue, 3 Aug 2010 15:46:09 EST New here! I am glad to see a forum like this. I am at a loss with my son. <BR> <BR> My nearly 4 year old son Joshua has had problems since he was a baby. He was always *different* even at 1 year old. He was high needs, extremely fussy as a baby, screamed most the time and I could do nothing to satisfy him. Come 1 year old and he really just was *off*. I had 2 other kids that were NOTHING like him. He could fall down the stairs and hit his face on every stair and not cry. I would pinch him and he would... Wed, 21 Jul 2010 13:38:14 EST Comfort Cafe for July Ok guys, its time to move on over to July....we are now open for Happy 4th July weekend everyone... Fri, 2 Jul 2010 19:09:49 EST Need advise I have a decision to make and I am finding it hard. I work. I have been missing a whole lot of work with appointments and such. In Feb. I left my husband and took the kids to a shelter and have now restarted my life. I was on FMLA for a while but that has ran out. I have these appt. Trying to get my son back on SSI and Paying for a babysitter takes more then I can afford. My housing and utility's are paid for. My car is paid for. I would get Food Stamps and Be placed on cash assistance. But I... Fri, 25 Jun 2010 15:57:14 EST Son newly diagnosed Hi, I am glad to find a forum for us on Sparkpeople. My 8yo son was just diagnosed with "mild" Aspergers. Although we have known he has the symptoms individually for years, it is suprising to me they all end up in Aspergers! I now am entering the world of finding services and therapy for him in a rural portion of GA. It's been stressful for years and probably why I have had a difficult time the past 3 years after going back to work. Juggling it all is difficult. And now I have a new se... Fri, 25 Jun 2010 15:03:49 EST New Here Hi all, <BR> <BR> I have two sons, both of whom have Autism (along with SPD, hypotonia, my younger with feeding issues, and something else going on that our neurologist is doing extensive testing for, my older with something wrong with his hip that we are, like my younger son, doing a lot of testing for). <BR> <BR> Me, I am here because life is so hectic I have not taken care of myself. I want to be healthy so I can keep up with them, live to see who they become as adults, and so I can ju... Mon, 21 Jun 2010 08:03:09 EST Hi!! I have been putting my children, Malachi, 6 and Isabella, 5 before myself! and of course, Malachi's autism (high functioning) has come before taking care of myself. But I am learning if I dont take care of myself I am not teaching my children to care for their body's! So I am working my way back to being a healthy Mom and someone that can teach my children to live healthy lives!!! Thu, 17 Jun 2010 08:37:16 EST Hello and a small introduction I am a single parent of 2 sons. My oldest son, who will be 16 at the end of this month, has Aspergers Syndrome. It has been quite challenging, although his is not a severe case of it. I find myself, more now than before, at a loss of what to do to help him. He is a child that needs constant reminders and must be pushed to do the things needed to succeed in everyday life. He is always quiet and doesn't like interacting with people, which makes it quite hard for me to understand because I have ... Sun, 6 Jun 2010 20:00:04 EST Underweight son! help! I have a 4 year old autistic boy, he's under weight, and not enven on the chart for his weight. he only weighs 26 pounds! <BR> i was wondering if anyone had tips to get him to gain weight? <BR> also whats your thought on giving him protein powder?is it safe? Sat, 5 Jun 2010 14:59:19 EST Hello Hi! My name is Katy. Today is my first day on trying to loose weight again!!!!I have a 6 yr old son and a 4 yr old daughter. My son was diagnosed with high functioning autistic disorder 6 months ago. Most of his problems are with his social skills and behavior. He is also very sensitive to sounds. Since he started getting ABA this year I have seen big changes,it has been a long 6 years and now that he is getting the help he needs it is time for me to take care of me...I am going to college i... Fri, 4 Jun 2010 22:19:35 EST autism and special olympics has anyone had an autistic child they put in special olympics or special sports? 3 of my children have autism, all are runners (as in run off) and 2 of them especially LOVE to run. PERIOD..... <BR> <BR> any ideas about autistic children running track, getting into sports, special olympics, etc? Thu, 3 Jun 2010 16:50:35 EST Autism I have lived with for 14 yrs Hi everyone, My son has autism high functioning speaks, walks interacts with people but he has issues, and he picks up everyone bad habits. Why not the good? Just the bad. Bites himself screeches I am sure some of you know how it is. Can't turn back for a moment. Diet for him is necessary <BR> <BR> I have always feed him one way and me and my family different. I feed him Clean, Meat & Veggies Very rare fruits, Now I am starting on just meat and veggies and fruit. I hope to see a difference,... Thu, 3 Jun 2010 16:39:24 EST Comfort Cafe for June! Hi Everyone! Come join the New Cafe! <BR> <em>214</em> <em>146</em> <em>298</em> <em>47</em> <em>67</em> <em>126</em> <BR> <BR> So enjoy the great company, chat and beautiful visions that Georgia gives us! Thanks Georgia! <em>247</em> <BR> <BR> I've reposted Jeanine's message so we don't miss anything. <BR> <BR> Good Morning Everyone, <BR> I hope the weekend was wonderful for everyone..and Georgia I know you have been back to work for a few days..I did curves a few years ago ... Tue, 1 Jun 2010 10:52:48 EST Other Health Impaired Well we finally had our IEP meeting (Individualized Education Program)today to discover all the testing results that should have occurred the last few weeks regarding our 6-year-old son's possible autism diagnosis fell way too short and I am way beyond annoyed with the findings! The school psychologist dropped the ball because she was way overworked and told me the specialist didn't see enough signs of autism and didn't see the need for more testing by him or a neuro-psychologist. The thera... Fri, 28 May 2010 22:30:48 EST JUNE GOALS!! Let's do this!! Hi everyone! <BR> <BR> Our dear Jeanine reminded me that we really needed to have a current goals thread and I totally agree!! Boy do I need it! <BR> <BR> Let's set some goals that are reachable. Maybe even set a FUN goal! <BR> <BR> Then we can all encourage each other in meeting them! <BR> We can do this! <BR> <BR> You are all so <em>345</em> <BR> <BR> <em>247</em> Thu, 27 May 2010 09:10:53 EST Hiya! Hi, everyone. :-) I'm 25-years-old and the mother of two beautiful kids, a 5-year-old daughter and a 2-year-old son. <BR> <BR> My son is most likely autistic, although we don't have a diagnosis yet. The state early intervention program evaluated him and found him eligible for services across the board, so we meet with an early interventionist and a speech therapist once a week (we're up to 6 or 7 words he truly knows, and he'll repeat a lot more!), and we're trying to find an OT. We're also ... Tue, 25 May 2010 10:57:39 EST Biomedical Doctor A physical therapist that I'm friends with insists that my son needs to see a biomedical doctor. I am hesitant for several reasons: <BR> <BR> 1.We still do not have an autism diagnosis (we should know Friday, or get closer to knowing. <BR> <BR> 2.The closest dr. is over 100 miles away <BR> <BR> 3.We don't have medical insurance right now and I am scared that we will have to pay a specialist and labs A LOT of money unnecessarily. <BR> <BR> 4.After reading about the biomedical specialty (I... Sun, 23 May 2010 09:43:45 EST Help! My kid WILL NOT eat vegetables.. Does anyone else have this problem with their child? Before he was diagnosed he at everything that I would put in front of him. Now it's carbs (usually potatoes and rice) and protein. I'm concerned about his health and just don't know what to do. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Tue, 18 May 2010 15:19:23 EST New Today to the Team Hello, <BR> <BR> My name is Pam and have been with Spark for just over 2 months and noticed this while looking at a team members web page. I have two sons 18 and 19. David is 19 and was diagnosed 10 years ago with Aspergers, and was pulling my hair out trying to understand what was wrong, more correctly what was I doing wrong. It has been a nightmare, was going through a Divorce when things really got bad, and to make it worse his father kept me in court for almost 9 years (2 for Divorc... Mon, 17 May 2010 20:05:48 EST Hanen Centre- "More than Words" anyone? Has anyone purchased or done the program, "More than Words" by the Hanen Centre? What are your thoughts on it? Is it worth the money? I may be able to do teh program, however I was wondering if it is cost-worthy? Thu, 6 May 2010 11:01:23 EST Summer Camp Options Hello All, <BR> I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas for summer day care/camp options. My son will be 11 in June and has Aspergers/High functioning Autism. He also has ADHD and anxiety disorders. We can't go back to the Y (had too melt downs). Outdoor camps are out - bugs and insects make him anxious. He also hates sports. BTW, we live in Belleville, IL if that helps. Wed, 5 May 2010 16:15:23 EST Comfort Cafe for May Well Happy Spring everyone and Happy May. I for one am happy the warmer weather is finally in Ohio. <BR> <BR> I hope you all had a great weekend I was the lazy mom of the year I think. I did the laundry but didn't fold it, I vacuumned but didn't dust, I ignored the dirty bathroom and yucky kitchen floor. I focused on me and I read a book and relaxed a lot. I also bought a new dress for a wedding I have to attend Saturday. I had to buy an extra large for my bum but sometimes you just hav... Mon, 3 May 2010 08:06:26 EST Faith Community and disability Has anyone come across useful things for helping a congregation become more inclusive of people with disabilities? Our church is just beginning this - it is very small and we have several families with special needs children. I am so glad that they are looking into this and would love to know what others are doing. Doesn't need to be just a Christian congregation, any kind of faith based organization would be helpful. Sun, 2 May 2010 11:12:59 EST New to the group Hello Everyone, <BR> My name is Patty. I am a single parent to a 10 year son with Aspergers/High functioning Autism. He also has ADD, anxiety disorders and OCD. This year has been extremely challenging for us. He started middle school so everything is new and different. He isn't doing well in school academically. The teachers don't seem to get him and feel he should be doing better. It's a constant struggle. Socially, he is starting to lose the few friends that he had. Their interest... Fri, 30 Apr 2010 10:42:38 EST hello im new here im julie im married with four kids my son peter is 19 he has asperges he has had it since he was three he also has panic attacks . <em>213</em> he copes rely well we are proud of him Tue, 27 Apr 2010 10:17:33 EST What has worked well for your family? I was thinking today of all the various different things/methods we have tried with DS1 and what HAS worked and what has NOT worked. So I thought it might be interesting to see what others have to say. Let's try to post one thing that works and one that does not. I'll start... <BR> <BR> WORKS -- Put a lava lamp in DS1 room for when he sleeps at night. It seems to help him sleep and give "just enough" light. <BR> <BR> DOES NOT work -- Getting freaked out when he gets freaked out. I've gotta ... Sun, 25 Apr 2010 10:16:46 EST Asperger's on TV-anyone watching NBC's Parenthood? I love NBC's Parenthood for many reasons. Love the mom from Gilmore Girls, love that her daughter on the show was the voice of Katara on Avatar: The Last Airbender, love the family dynamics, and love that they are dealing with the topic of Asperger's on the show. <BR> <BR> If you've missed the show, you can watch full episodes on Wed, 21 Apr 2010 12:30:48 EST Radio interview with Raun Kaufman TODAY. Info There is an interview about autism with noted speaker Raun Kaufman on NY Talk Radio at 1:00 p.m., Monday, April 19. <BR> <BR> Paste or click this for information: <BR> <BR> <BR> <link><BR>s/live-interview-with-raun-kaufman-on-<BR>nytalkradio.php </link> <BR> <BR> Betty in KY Mon, 19 Apr 2010 11:36:40 EST Looking for advice or suggestions I haven't been very active with SP lately. I am still making better food choices and keeping more active I just haven't had the time to log my food or any of that. But I wanted to touch base here and maybe find some support or advice. I just this week FINALLY received an official diagnosis of autism and behavioral disorder for my five year old son. I was fine being on the 6-8 month waiting list to get into the center for children with special needs at Boston Chicldren's Hospital until my son ... Mon, 19 Apr 2010 01:42:38 EST Need names of advocates for ARD meeting for our 25 My 15 yr old is in mainstream classes at a local charter school, and socially it has been like a miracle- he has made friends, and "hangs out" with friends- it is his second year here. We did not ARD the first year as he was doing well, and although struggling with math he was able to receive assistance and made it thru. This year came with a new teacher, whose background is a coach, and i do not know about y'alls aspie kids, but a coach personality does not work with my son- he does not re... Tue, 13 Apr 2010 17:40:56 EST New Here My name is Kim and I have an 8 (nearly 9) year old son with Aspergers and ADHD. He was just diagnosed in November of last year. The diagnosis made me both happy (finally knowing what was the cause of his quirks and behaviors) and sad (that there was no cure and this wasn't something he would "grow out of"). Since the diagnosis we are working hard to get him an IEP (the school is dragging their feet) and have put him on stimulant meds for the ADHD. The meds have helped him in school, but m... Tue, 13 Apr 2010 13:13:13 EST Hi I'm New Here ... I just wanted to introduce myself ... My name is Annissa I'm the 33 yr old mom of 4 boys. 14, 8, almost 3 & 18 months... <BR> <BR> My 14 yr old has ADHD, my 8 yr old has a rare genetic disorder (I was told he wouldn't live to be born) ... and my 3 yr old has so much. He has a cyst in his brain (Dandy Walker), Failure to Thrive (18lbs at 3), Hypothyroid, (possibly) Russell Silver Syndrome (type of dwarfism) and tons of sensory issues. He shows a lot of sensory signs for autism but not t... Wed, 7 Apr 2010 10:34:33 EST Childcare Ideas for Special Needs Kids? DS1 is in Kindergarten now. I just started a new job about a month ago. I am already stressing about the summer, however. I don't make enough to pay for someone to come into my home and watch him and I know that I can't place him in a "typical" childcare setting either. (Last year we went through 3 different providers in a 6-month period.) He still has a lot of trouble controlling meltdowns, etc. We live in a smaller community so there are no specialized camps in our area. I was thinking abou... Mon, 5 Apr 2010 10:25:00 EST Hello! Hello my name is Maria and I am 28 years old (going to be 29 next Sunday!)I have two boys on the spectrum they are 6 and 3. They have made amazing progress since diagnosis day (about three years ago for the oldest and 2 years for the younger) Because of this I decided I could take some time for me and get myself back in shape. It's going to be tough because I am also currently enrolled in College and it's taking up a big chunk of my time but I try to remember that me being healthy is the mos... Sun, 4 Apr 2010 14:01:14 EST GOALS!! Most of us are getting into some nice weather and we will be busy, but spending more time outdoors. <BR> <BR> Have you thought about goals and plans as we lead into another busy season? <BR> <BR> Let's share with each other so we can encourage and support each other. We want to celebrate your victories as well. <BR> <BR> Hugs, Cathy <em>338</em> Thu, 1 Apr 2010 19:51:12 EST Comfort Cafe for April! Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> I have started the new Cafe for April. Let's keep sharing and caring with each other. <BR> <BR> Hugs to all, Cathy <em>338</em> Thu, 1 Apr 2010 19:48:53 EST Grateful Garden for April! Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> Here we are already in April!! Let's share what we are thankful for so we can celebrate with each other! <BR> <BR> Thanks! Thu, 1 Apr 2010 19:47:48 EST Really Great Video on Autism In the spirit of Autism Awareness, I wanted to share this video that a friend sent me. Temple Grandin talks about the needs for all kinds of minds. One thing that struck me in the video was the connection with animals. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. <BR> <BR><BR>the_world_needs_all_kinds_of_minds.html Wed, 31 Mar 2010 11:34:30 EST Hi, my name is Joanne and I'm new to this group I have a 12 year old grandson with moderate autism and autism related seizure disorder. He's in his 2nd semester in middle school - on the honor roll every report card. Unfortunately, his behavior has been deteriorating. He's beginning recognize his differences from Neuro-typical (no such thing as a NORMAL 12-year old) kids. And, his pain is my pain. The support he receives at school is amazing: Counseling, speech therapy, shadows, Spec Ed homeroom, plus a resource room. But lately he'... Wed, 24 Mar 2010 18:22:58 EST Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew Have any of you read this book? Thoughts? I am attending a book study on it tonight. I thought it was pretty good. Some nice reminders for me... Tue, 23 Mar 2010 11:59:52 EST Mother to 6-Year Old w/Aspergers ADHD Hello, <BR> I am new here. I have a son with Aspergers and ADHD. He is in kindergarten. I was happy to see so much support for people with sensory needs. What a great place! I look forward to getting to know you better <em>213</em> Mon, 22 Mar 2010 13:33:08 EST Hello~ My name is Jenn and I was introduced to this site by a couple friends. We all have a desire to loose weight and be healthy. I hope to meet some people on here who have the same goals and problems I do! I have about 50lbs to loose and hope to get support from others in the same boat. I am a mom who lives in Maine and I have 2 girls. I am also a photographer. I am a very busy mom and hope to make this site and thing is learn from here something I can turn to regularly! Tue, 9 Mar 2010 19:50:51 EST autism evaluation I am going to set up an an appointment for an autism evaluation for my 3y/o son. my husband and i did an online checklist last night and it appears we need to evaluate our son further. any helpful hints and resources i can look into for our upcomming initial apt. with the doctor. thank you Thu, 4 Mar 2010 08:58:38 EST Family have problems with your spectrum children?? I am just so bothered by this and I know that others here would listen to my vent! My dad's wife, Cheryl does not like kids. Never has. Never liked my brother or I until we were older and adults. Well now we have children. I have 3, ages 13, 4, and 2. My 2 younger ones are special needs. One on the spectrum, and one with severe sensory delays. She can't STAND this! IN her eye's something is "wrong" with them. She makes snide remarks ALL the time, for years here and there. We were fridge shop... Tue, 2 Mar 2010 15:45:12 EST Grateful Garden for March! Hello wonderful team! <BR> <BR> We are ready for March and the coming warm weather! <BR> Please share what you are grateful for. We want to celebrate with you! <BR> <BR> Hugs, Cathy Tue, 2 Mar 2010 09:53:51 EST COMFORT CAFE FOR MARCH!!! I am setting up the cafe today. The sun is shining in Ohio and the snow is melting. Much like our hearts melt when our children do great things. I know it's hard to love them at times and to go on. I know it's hard to remember that they are God's gifts. But remember this God would not entrust these special souls to just anyone!!! <BR> <BR> Love and Hugs <BR> Amy Tue, 2 Mar 2010 08:38:15 EST is it Aspergers? I joined this forum because my youngest has SIPD, but my oldest is going to be evaluated for Aspergers. She was "diagnosised" with ADHD 2 years ago along with being academically gifted. Ok here is what I am dealing with what do you think? <BR> <BR> age 8 <BR> she still puts things in her mouth (shirt, toys so on) <BR> clumsy <BR> never stops moving <BR> always making noises with her mouth <BR> does not make eye contact <BR> learned to read at age 4 <BR> talked at 9 months "whats that" <BR>... Thu, 18 Feb 2010 08:18:35 EST Hello! Hi, I'm Alison and while I do not have a child with Autism or Aspergers, I am a teacher in a 7/8th grade self contained Autism class. I am here because I am ready to make the change to get myself back to the person I once was (active, energetic, athletic) and I wanted to join this group because I feel it will help me gain a deeper understanding of both my kids and their parents (who are amazing by the way, and never seem to get nearly enough credit ) while also achieving my goals of weight lo... Sun, 14 Feb 2010 23:05:19 EST New here HI I am trying to lose weight all the while dealing with two children with special needs one has ADHD the has Sensory integration processing disorder. <BR> <BR> I feel like my house is in constant chaos. Did I mention one has a sleep disorder. <BR> <BR> Any one want to be friends and talk?? Thu, 11 Feb 2010 21:12:42 EST New to the Group! Hello!! So glad I came across this group! I am 33 year old mom of 3. 13, 4 and 2. My 4 year old has been diagnosed with Aspergers, ADHD, Anxiety, and Apraxia. he attends a theraputic preschool. Our 2 year old has just been diagnosed with severe sensory delay, so back to square 1 we are all over again. I never in a million thought I would end up with 2 specail needs children. I love them dearly though, they are just that, special. very very special. Beucase i've spent so many years taking care... Wed, 3 Feb 2010 16:16:49 EST Grateful Garden for February! We all have challenges, but we also have so many things to be thankful for! <BR> <BR> Let's share them!! <BR> <BR> <em>247</em> Wed, 3 Feb 2010 14:15:52 EST Comfort Cafe for February! <em>247</em> <BR> Come join us in the new February Cafe!! <BR> <BR> I am copying my message I left in the January Cafe. Sorry for the repeat!! <BR> <BR> Hello Ladies! <BR> <BR> I've missed you, but have been really busy! I hope all is well with everyone! <BR> <BR> Kelsa (my 4 year old) had her endoscopy on Monday...she did well and we will hopefully have results in the next couple of days. We go every 10 weeks to monitor how she is doing with her GI disorder. She is such a trooper! ... Wed, 3 Feb 2010 14:12:23 EST Use of Medical Marijuana for treatment of Autism! Watching "The Doctors" on Monday 2/1/10. <BR> <BR> Her son has severe autism - was not eating - starving to death. All the medications were not helping - toxic. She found research about using medical marijuana in the treatment of Autism. Showed her Dr. <BR> <BR> Dr. made recommendation to another Dr. who handles the medical marijuana. I am watching the show right now. <BR> <BR> This in California - it is a license medication there! Only 14 states authorize medical marijuana! Mon, 1 Feb 2010 15:17:39 EST TV Alert: HBO movie about an Adult with Autism! Wish I had HBO! On Sat, Feb. 6th at 7pm a movie about Temple Grandin will be shown. Do check on the time showing in your area. <BR> <BR> This movie got Temple's approval on Claire Dane's portrayl sp) of her. <BR> <BR> <em>220</em> Sat, 30 Jan 2010 20:02:53 EST Hello All How is everyone? I am a single mom to a teenager with Asperger's, she was diagnosed 3 yrs. ago. It was such a relieve when we finally found out what was going on. I was always told she was daydreaming and rude and just down right lazy. Not the case and I knew it. Took her out of school at the beginning of the 8th grade (she wasn't learning anyway) and homeschooled her until this school year. She has learned to read and likes to read, her vocabulary is much better and she is at a special ... Sat, 30 Jan 2010 16:12:21 EST U.S. Hotel offers a suite with autism in mind Seen this article on and wanted to share it with you. Wonderful idea. There is a photo that goes with the news article if you click on the link. <BR> <BR> Here's the link: <BR> <BR> <link><BR>uite+with+autism+mind/2403863/story.html </link> <BR> ----------------------------------------<BR>-- <BR> <BR> TENAFLY, N.J. -- All the glassware in the Alpine Suite at the Clinton Inn Hotel in Tenafly, New Jersey is unbreakable -- the wine glasses, ... Tue, 26 Jan 2010 08:01:21 EST Hello! Hi there everybody! <BR> My SIL suggested this site to me and I found this team. <BR> About me: <BR> I'm 39, a SAHM, about 80 punds heavier than I need to be, and aiming to lose it all! <BR> I have a wonderful hubby who just retired from the Army after 21 years. <BR> I have two amazing boys! My oldest son "S" is 10 and has ADHD. My younger son "V" is 8 and has autism. V is high functioning but severely autistic. He also has apraxia to make life even more interesting. <BR> Both my guys are cut... Sun, 24 Jan 2010 21:35:31 EST Help, Is Husband upset you Spark? I really don't get it but my husband made a statement this week that really bothers me. He asked me what I was doing one night was I on Facebook and I said no Sparkpeople. "Oh, that's worse you're always on that." When it happened I ignored it. I finally asked him last night how it was different from him playing computer games all day. He said, "I don't have seizures because of it." He is blaming my last two seizures on Sparkpeople. There was lots of stress in my life at the time. As ... Tue, 19 Jan 2010 12:01:57 EST Aspergers teen and homework HELP!!! I think I have tried every tactic to get my daughter to do her homework. Does any one have any ideas? I would love any input. <BR> <BR> Also I am new to this team but not SP. <BR> <BR> -Thanks Sue Sun, 17 Jan 2010 09:25:52 EST Comfort Cafe? Grateful Garden? Thanks so much for welcoming me! I hear that there is often correspondence in Comfort Cafe and Grateful Garden but I'm not sure how to find them. I would love it if someone would point me in the right direction. <em>304</em> <BR> <BR> Wendi Mon, 11 Jan 2010 16:56:31 EST My name is Wendi and I am new to the group I am new to spark people and to this team. I am a 38 year old married mother of an amazing 8 year old kid who has Aspergers. I am looking forward to meeting people and learning new things! It's really cool you are all here!! Sun, 10 Jan 2010 20:37:32 EST Comfort Cafe for January! Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> We are now in January and it is time to start anew! <BR> You are the most wonderful group of supportive and encouraging women! I believe in each and every one of you!! <BR> <BR> Let's be healthy together in 2010! <BR> <BR> Hugs, Cathy Sat, 2 Jan 2010 22:02:36 EST Grateful Garden for January! Hi Everyone! We are in 2010! WOW!! <BR> <BR> Let's share what we are thankful for and we can enjoy it with you! <BR> <BR> Hugs! Sat, 2 Jan 2010 21:56:12 EST Hi from Connecticut Hello all, <BR> <BR> My name is Barbara and I am the 42 year old mom to two boys who are 8 and 10 who are living with PDD-NOS. <BR> <BR> My boys are my joy, but ... you all know that there is a "but" and that's where I get stuck sometimes when I look ahead to what their lives are going to be like in just a short time (too short for me to dwell on). <BR> <BR> I am looking forward to being a part of this team as I try and get myself in a better place to be there for them as long as I can b... Sat, 2 Jan 2010 17:32:21 EST Changing your perspective! Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> We all have a perspective about something regarding ourselves, but do you find that it is usually negative? <BR> <BR> If we can choose a pro-active response to that negative statement we can start moving forward with our healthy lifestyle. <BR> <BR> So when you are saying, "I just can't stop the late night nibbles" or "I just can't seem to find time to exercise" what are you going to do about it. The statement is static, unchanging. <BR> <BR> Let's start our new ... Tue, 29 Dec 2009 11:33:13 EST Have to Start Somewhere My name is Ann and I live in South Florida. I'm a NJ transplant. I'm 38 and very overweight. I have a ten y/o boy with High Functioning Autism. I can't stand myself anymore. I have low self-esteem and turn to food (sweets in particular) to comfort me. I eat a large quanitity of sweets. I don't overeat other foods and am usually full quickly when I do eat. I always dream about losing the weight, being happier, being more healthy but instead I keep getting fatter!!! I don't "live" because i'm ... Sun, 27 Dec 2009 17:31:45 EST The Talent Show Hi Folks, I'm back with another milestone for James, age 13 on 12/19 and with Asperger's. His 'new' middle school, where he has so far successfully fended off bullying, planned the annual talent show and James told all that he intended to audition. His mother, fearful of his being made fun of, tried her best to negate this effort. James, in a fit of anger, said he would audition and I backed his decision. On Friday, James (after much rehearsal the night before), not just sang, but really... Mon, 21 Dec 2009 20:44:09 EST Dealing with Asergers Hi I'm new to this group I am 24 years old and was diagnosed 6 years ago with Asergers syndrome, I kept thinking I was misdiagnosed but I am now starting to face it and just try to have a normal life and pray I don't lose my job cause of the bs there (they don't believe i have it) Tue, 8 Dec 2009 02:54:03 EST What are your special winter holiday traditions? Ok, i love this time of year and freely admit that i combine the Christian aspect of the season with some more secular aspects......what about y'all? i would truly love to learn about what other families do for the season in the way of traditions and special moments, no matter how you celebrate this time of please share, ok?... Tue, 1 Dec 2009 11:52:13 EST Personal Goals for the Holidays and beyond! Okay, we all know the challenges of eating healthy and exercise. Then add the Holidays and we really have our work cut out for us! <BR> <BR> Let's try to choose some goals that will at least help us maintain through the holidays. I think if we do small baby step type goals during this very busy, stressful food crazy time we will succeed!! <BR> <BR> Think about the following: <BR> <BR> Watch your portions <BR> Exercise! <BR> Walk every day even if it is in 10-15 minute increments. <BR> If... Tue, 1 Dec 2009 10:34:15 EST Grateful Garden for December! We have so much to be thankful for even in our most challenging moments! December can be a bit stressful, but if we just keep counting those blessings it really helps to keep moving forward! <BR> <BR> Let's share what we are grateful for and pass this positive attitude to others! <BR> <BR> Hugs! Tue, 1 Dec 2009 10:27:58 EST Holiday Cafe! <em>446</em> <em>425</em> <em>444</em> <em>443</em> <em>442</em> <em>445</em> <em>247</em> <BR> <BR> Hello dear friends! <BR> <BR> It's December already! Let's enjoy the Holidays no matter which ones you celebrate! We can all share in the healthy food and great company! <BR> <BR> Welcome to the Holiday Cafe!! <BR> <BR> Hugs, Cathy <BR> <em>444</em> <em>425</em> Tue, 1 Dec 2009 10:24:46 EST In need of your help for research paper Hi everyone, <BR> <BR> I am looking for anyone who would be interested in getting the word out with me. I am in the middle of writing a paper. My paper is about helpful tips that someone may need when their child is diagnosed. I wanted to include what to do and information about various programs/funding that exist. This paper is for a class. <BR> I initially intended to keep it pretty basic, but the interest I've been getting from my classmates and professor have made me want to really put ... Tue, 1 Dec 2009 09:43:37 EST Is your child on meds Does anyone have their child on medicine? What do you think about it? Are you against medicine? My daughter takes a bunch of meds, and I am confused. I have been hearing lots of bad things about the Prozac, like it destroyes your pinale gland in your child's brain over time. I don't like the fact that my daughter takes meds daily, but I'm unsure of the options we have. My daughter needs some meds. Please help. Sun, 22 Nov 2009 11:38:53 EST I am new! Hi! I am just beginning this journey! I have 3 children and a hubby! My youngest has Kabuki Syndrome. This is a rare disorder that has autistic tendencies and lots of sensory issues. So I thought this would be a great team to join! Hopeing to have a great journey! Tue, 17 Nov 2009 21:30:51 EST Giftedness and Autism/ADHD My youngest son has a mix of Pdd-nos and ADHD but not a clear diagnosis of either. He attended a series of classes for talented youth. During the sessions, they had speakers for the parents. One of the sessions was on the definition of giftedness, another on perfectionism. It was interesting because a lot of the parents had been told by the teachers to get their kids tested because of the disruptions, interruptions, etc from the kids when they may have really been showing signs of giftedness.... Sun, 15 Nov 2009 20:22:05 EST Autism Children and the Legal System I am dealing with a 12 year old son, that has gotten very physically aggressive and destruction of property. Thus it got his into legal trouble. And now as parents we have to see that he is treated fairly, and that his illness is taken into consideration. Has anyone every had to deal with this, and have any suggestions? Sat, 7 Nov 2009 22:43:25 EST What to ask new therapist for daughter? My daughter (stepdaughter technically but been mom since she was 3 because bio-mom not in picture) is a suspected Aspie. She is also been diagnosed as bipolar. We are trying to get her tested for the Aspergers but the first appointment is in April next year. She is 13 and has been in therapy since she was 4. She sees a psychiatrist who administers her medicine. Her latest therapist that we had been seeing for over a year has given up on her and told us to find a new therapist because he c... Thu, 5 Nov 2009 13:51:27 EST Calming down at night Question for those of you that have "been there, done that". <BR> <BR> My 5 year old hyposensitive daughter has been having an especially hard time calming down at night before bedtime. She's always had this problem and she doesn't sleep well. Once she got diagnosed we figured that this was causing her sleep problems. She will *fall* asleep, but doesn't *stay* asleep throughout the night. For awhile deep pressure massage was working really well right before bed. She really enjoyed it an... Thu, 5 Nov 2009 10:18:57 EST Personal Goals for November! Okay Everyone, we all need some motivation!! Let's set some reasonable goals for ourselves and encourage one another! <BR> <BR> <em>247</em> Mon, 2 Nov 2009 10:42:49 EST Comfort Cafe for November Come on in ladies, the welcome sign is out and we love company..... Sun, 1 Nov 2009 18:33:40 EST Grateful Garden for November Ok ladies, its November already...lests share what we are grateful for :) Sun, 1 Nov 2009 18:29:35 EST Autism Speaks Walk 11/14/09 in Arlington TX Any Texas members going to be there? If so, I'd love to meet you. It will be my first walk and I'm pretty excited about it. I rarely get to see my autistic grandson because he lives in Maine and I live in Texas, but I'll be getting back from a week-long visit the day before the walk. I timed it so I'll get back to DFW airport the night before the walk, stay at a hotel nearby, and head out for the walk in the morning. Tue, 20 Oct 2009 00:04:40 EST Personal Goals for October! Hi Everyone! <BR> <BR> Do you have some goals you want to share for October? <BR> <BR> We are here to cheer you on and support you!! <BR> <BR> Hugs! <BR> <em>85</em> Fri, 2 Oct 2009 10:32:19 EST Comfort Cafe for October! Our October Cafe is open!! Come join us for wonderful discussions and amazing support and encouragement! <BR> <BR> Oh, and the food is "virtually free" of calories!! <BR> <BR> Hugs to all, Cathy <BR> <em>431</em> <em>465</em> <em>426</em> Fri, 2 Oct 2009 10:30:11 EST Grateful Garden for October! <em>304</em> <BR> Let's share what we are thankful for! <BR> Did you know that people who are grateful are 25 percent happier! It's true! Fri, 2 Oct 2009 10:26:51 EST changing with autism Hello. My name is Danie (Danny) and I am a 21 year old female and live in Beaufort, South Carolina. At the age of 2 I was diagnosed with Communication Delay for not talking, a few months later I was told I was a lost cause, and two year later I started to talk in sentences. I have Atypical Autism. I see here it is mostly family members with loved ones with ASD, so I hope I am not intruding. I was hoping to find people who understand how hard it is to change my lifestyle, and the frets that it... Fri, 25 Sep 2009 23:06:01 EST