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3/22/19 10:38 A

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There has to be some kindof mutual compromise. My better half andI eat the same thing but I always ask what she would like for the day. All good recipes off this site other sites. But there has to be compromise.

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3/17/19 8:25 P

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I log every day food and drinks. I will usually go back in and try to adjust the meal plan to prepare for the change as best I can.
I will sometimes prepare dinner that he likes and sometimes what I like. Compromising where I can.
Lastly, I try not to worry so much I guess and just try to remember that it's just one meal, one day.
I am grateful for the help. Thank you everyone for the suggestions!

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3/17/19 4:34 P

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Log into SP and input the new items to see what I can or can't have.



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NIRERIN Posts: 14,517
3/17/19 3:45 P

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Is there any way to break down your meals so that you each get something that you like along with a compromise? So dinner might be rotisserie chicken as the compromise, mashed potatoes for your partner and green beans for you. You can pick the skin off the chicken (if rotisserie has skin? I don't eat poultry but most people seem to like the stuff), have a smaller portion of potatoes and have a larger portion of green beans (go fancy with herbs, almond slivers or shallots if that floats your boat. Your partner can have the chicken, some green beans and load up the mashed potatoes with extra butter or cheese or gravy. Or have pork loin with rice pilaf and asparagus. You can add in an extra serving of frozen vegetables to your pilaf (take out a serving of any frozen veg and pop it in the microwave and you have a heated serving in somewhere under 90 seconds), which is a smaller portion size. Have steak with mushrooms. Bread and bake (or panko coat) mushrooms, onions or cauliflower as a side. If you need to, bake your portions plain. Basically, if each meal has three components you each get a pick and then compromise on the remaining option. If you prefer larger meals, bump that up to four or five choices to make up your meal. If each of you always gets something that you like, you can load up on that to get you through to the next meal.

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3/17/19 2:41 P

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When that happen I stop and ask my HP to help me pick the best and not go over board on the item and stay on track or go back to the plan as soon as I can. Keep up the good work.

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CMRKSU12's Photo CMRKSU12 Posts: 1,291
3/12/19 8:49 P

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I just do the best I can to work it into my plans. I do appreciate the cooking please don't get me wrong. It's just difficult when your significant other is on no diet and eats whatever they want and does it in front of you and you do the best you can to eat healthy in spite of that.

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3/12/19 5:33 P

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It depends on when I find out, what he's planning to make (or where he wants to go out), and what else I have around the house.

For example, if I was planning on making a dinner salad with some grilled chicken, and he decided he wanted to make chicken parmigiana instead, I would ask him to make a chicken breast that wasn't breaded for me, I would take only a tiny amount of pasta, skip the cheese, and have a good-sized salad with dinner.

My husband knows my nutritional needs because we talk about it, so even if he does decide to cook, he's usually pretty good about making sure it's something that will accommodate my needs, or can easily be paired with another item, like a salad, to help balance out what I need with what he wants to cook.

And even if it isn't, it's only one meal. It's only one day.

Take life one day at a time - enjoy today before you worry about tomorrow.


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LUANN_IN_PA Posts: 28,957
3/12/19 2:04 P

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" I am glad to have someone else do the cooking but it'll totally mess up my eating plan. "
Why does it have to "totally mess up" anything?
You eat smaller portions that keep you within your range for the day.

"probably would make you over in calories"
The food doesn't do that... the amount you choose to eat does.

I would be thrilled if someone else cooked for me. I would enjoy what they made, being conscious of the portion sizes. And, even if I went a bit over in calories, I would be happy to know that someone did something nice for me.
One meal will not undo everything...

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3/12/19 12:00 P

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What do all of you do if you had all your meals planned for the day and your spouse decides he/she is making something else for dinner that you didn't plan on and probably would make you over in calories, salt, fat, etc? I usually am the one doing all the cookng so when spouse says they want to cook something else for dinner the red food flags go up! Yikes! I mean, I am glad to have someone else do the cooking but it'll totally mess up my eating plan.

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