Welcome to SparkPeople! I'm sorry to hear that you had that experience, but please don't let that get you down!
As Luann mentioned, the add a friend option is not like FB, it does not have to be mutual for the friendship and there is no approval process.
As for when or where to reply to a comment, it depends on where it is. If it's a message board (on the regular message boards or team message boards), then you would reply there. If it's a comment that was on a SparkPage that you want to reply to, you may want to reply to that back on that person's SparkPage or send them a SparkMail so they are more likely to see it. Ex: if someone leaves you a comment on your SparkPage, you posting a comment on your SparkPage wouldn't give them notification that you said anything, but commenting on their SparkPage or sending them a SparkMail, they are more likely to receive a notification to check to see what was posted.
I hope that helps, but if you still have questions, please let us know.
"Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it." - Michael Jordan
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" If I add a friend isn't that like sending a friend request on fb? " Nope. When you add a friend, that is all that happens. You added that person.
They do/did nothing. They don't have to add you; they don't have to give permission for you to add them.
Also, some people collect friends but have no interactions at all with them.
"We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand." ~ Randy Pausch
"There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results." ~ Art Turock
"We have a saying in Tibet: If a problem can be solved, there is no use worrying about it. If it can't be solved, worrying will do no good." ~ 7 Years in T
I'm a newbie, this is my second week. I'll begin with a positive: I am feeling great about the healthy changes I am making with nutrition and fitness. I am feeling a little overwhelmed with all the message boards, teams, blogs, and emails. I feeling like I'm bumbling around in the dark. I'm not sure when or where to reply/leave comment. I am also having difficulty finding the time to sort this out. In one instance someone made me feel like I had made a faux pas because they did not know me. I am sorry for that, truly. If I add a friend isn't that like sending a friend request on fb? I am a friendly person here to make some friends. Any input would be appreciated.