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12/9/18 11:55 P

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RAENDROPS,
Normally I'm the sort of person who focuses on nutrition. However, I'm going to ask you why eat 3 or 4 meals at once?

Are you hungry? Probably not. Is it entertainment? Is there a reason you might not want to loose weight?

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12/9/18 11:27 P



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Are you an 'all or nothing' person? If so, it COULD be part of the problem.

Did you decide you needed to lose weight and suddenly change your dietary habits and cut out certain foods/types?

People who do this often only last a short time before they fall off the wagon, and then they have to start all over again.

I suggest that you take a step back, and make gradual changes. It may take a week or so on one change, but if that is what your mind/body needs then take it.

It might be reducing cake/cookies but increasing fruit/veges. Or it might be reducing soda/juices but increasing water. Only move on to the next change when your mind/body is ready.

The same applies to exercise. If it is foreign to you, just start by mobilizing more in your day. Perhaps take the steps instead of an elevator, or park your car further away from where you normally park it and walk the difference, OR get off a bus stop earlier. If you are already used to some type of exercise, the increase it gradually with duration and intensity.

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12/8/18 5:35 P



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Hi, Shelly !

Stop beating yourself up because you ate too much. You're not a machine who can eat right 24/7. Losing weight isn't about will power or self control. It's about learning to make better choices, not perfect ones.

The fact is, there will be days you eat more than others. It's going to happen. It happened to us all. As long as it doesn't happen every single day, you will start making progress. But if you expect yourself to be perfect every single day, to eat the exact amount of calories or exercise for the exact number of minutes, you're going to end up pretty miserable.

So what to do ? Start SLOWLY.

Instead of trying to do everything at once, start with some simple goals you can stick to. Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. if you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week, if you haven't been exercising, don't start with an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals you set new ones.

One thing I learned from my own years of yo yo dieting is that if you want to change your body, you have to change your head first. You need to rethink how to lose weight because what you're doing isn't working.

This is where setting simple goals comes into play. When you set a goal, a daily one, a weekly one, with time... those goals become lifetime habits. And that's what we're really striving for, not necessarily weight loss, but learning healthy habits we keep for life.




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12/8/18 4:33 P

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Last night was a disaster, I ate enough for 3-4 meals, and that was just dinner. Today I'm fighting the urge to just keep eating. I haven't done great, but there isn't any junk food in the house (and I'm not going out in the cold! lol thankfully) so it hasn't been awful either.

I don't know how to get over my stubbornness. I will come home after a stressful workweek and want to just relax and eat and snack. I know in the end it only makes me feel worse; I've experienced that more than enough times to know how it goes. I even remind myself of how awful I will feel afterwards. I go through a list of ideas of other (healthier) things I can do to relax and/or distract myself, but I tell myself I want to eat, for some reason I don't want to divert the disaster. Why do I insist on heading for the crash?

There is some improvement at least; I never use to be able to catch that pause before I ate, it was just in some haze. But now I catch myself, try to tell myself I want to make a better choice, but yet I still choose to go back to that old unhealthy habit of eating.

It's so very frustrating. I'm my own worst enemy here, and I've been trying to figure out for months how to get my brain to cooperate. I make healthy choices throughout the week, but come the weekend, I lose that self-control and come undone. The scale has been up and down over the same 10 lbs for most of the year.

When it comes to not-so-good eating choices, it's like there's a war in my head, and the unhealthy voice is adamant to win. Even if that voice concedes that it's not a good choice, it's too stubborn to give in to reason.

I'm really at a loss of what to do anymore. I feel like I'm swimming hard against a strong current and getting nowhere but exhausted. I've been seeing a therapist for several years now, and my eating patterns is something we work on. I try all of her suggestions, but nothing seems to work....

~Shelly~


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