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Hi KMG! emoticon

How are you today?

I don't know you and you don't know me. But I am certainly glad you reached out and posted here. emoticon

I am 68 yrs old. I have rheumatoid arthritis, ankylosing spondylitis and fibromyalgia. My son, daughter, grandson and myself have Aperger's Disease. I have had major depression, anxiety and was diagnosed with PTSD mid 199o's. I have spent meany years trying to help myself and my family. It's not been easy. I became a school special education advocate in the early 1990's for the public schools in my county. Depressions and anxiety and PTSD have been a mountain of a problem to climb, especially PTSD. Fortunately, Since the 1990's I have had the benefit of very good psych treatment including therapy specific for PTSD. I hadn't had an episode since being in treatment for over twenty years. Then without warning I had a big episode recently with tons of anxiety. My psychiatrist added and changed my meds beautifully.! I recovered in three weeks and am back to normal. My anxiety was over the top. I am thankful for good medical treatment and therapy. I had a bad episode of fibromyalgia for 1 1/2 months this summer. Then developed bronchial pneumonia. One week after the antibiotics the fibro disappeared. I talked to my pulmonologist and she said, "didn't you know...?."

I am retired pediatric rehabilitation RN. I scoured the medical journals and found nothing about anitibiotics and illness triggering fibro. I was certainly surprised to hear that and very glad to know. Next time I get a virus or bacterial infection I will not wait to see the doctor. I will get it treated immediately.. Hopefully it will ward of an episode of fibro. I'm just telling you this an an FYI. Everyone is different and experiences fibro differently.

I do Tai Chi and Chi Gong. I find the rhythmic breathing calming. Plus it has helped me learn to focus on one thing, not everything at the same time causing me to be overwhelmed and very anxious. It had indeed lowered my anxiety levels. I don't do yoga because, personally I find the twisting positions causes my back to hurt more and not less. But, certainly there are many other types of Yoga that do work. I find Chi Gong extremely effective for focus and flexibility. Chi Gong breathing techniques I find to be excellent not only when practicing in class, but at any time and place. You Tube has some "Chi Gong "videos that can help you learn. In terms of anxiety I find it to be very helpful. I do it while driving, walking at home in bed or sitting. It is hard to focus while I am doing deep breathing intensely and feel anxiety. Naturally my anxiety becomes lower and lower. Changing focus from anxiety to something different has helped me immensely! I also do Chi walking/running. You can find it on You Tube also. Believe it or not I walked last week .85 miles (approx 3/4 of a mile) in 20 minutes and I was only a little out of breath! Sure surprised me. Lol. My family said I must have been running. I said "Nope, not a once!" Lol. Practicing changing focus has taken me years to learn. Little by little I can, at will, focus on something different. My anxiety levels remains very low thanks to these techniques plus the aid of medication.It didn't happen overnight it happened over the course of 5-10 years. Every year that passed I became more skilled and felt better and better.

I also practice Mediation. I went to a week long class for"Transcendental Meditation". Otherwise known as "TM". Wow, when I started it I could not believe how powerful this type of meditation is! It helped me to me to be more mentally flexible, more relaxed and especially more focused on the immediate present. (Thus lowering my anxiety) Even when I wasn't practicing it at home morning and night, the effect lasted hours into the day and nigh. You might Google it and find the official site. TM has been scientifically studied extensively in the west. It is a very old traditional Chinese method meditation. Personally, I can say it changed my life for the better. Of course it takes time to learn and time for the effects to be long lasting. It has helped me to be calm, cool and collected. It has significantly decreased my chronic anxiety and depression I have inherited since childhood.

Of course everyone is different. I am just telling you what has helped for me. We all are on a different journey and a different pathway to our ultimate goal as individuals. I have found mine, you will find your's, the pathway that works for you.

I must comment on the teachers that said your boy is the "worst they ever had". A teacher is there to help and definitely NOT demoralize a student and parent. Wow! Those two teachers need act in a caring, helpful and professional manner. I would write a letter to the principal and cc it to both of those teachers. If it were my grandson who is 16 now, and the teachers gave me that kind of demoralizing criticism, I would write the principal and not request but "call" for an urgent meeting consisting of those teachers, the principal and he school counselor. At the meeting I would ask what in particular are your son's strong areas and what are his weak areas. After they explain in "detail" what they find as a "problem". they are required to find a solution for each area your son has. Each problem area must have a goal and a method towards a realistic solution and a time frame in which your son will master it. It sounds to me that your son either has a 504 plan or an IEP plan in place from the way your described your son going to "specials". Am I correct/ On a personal note I would be hurt and angry, frustrated and worried my son was not being given the moral and educational support he needs. Never give up when things like that happen. Try your best to think positive. Make goals for you as a parent in terms of your son's education. Go THROUGH the fear and anxiety, take action and make a difference in your life and your son's life. You guys absolutely deserve it!

I apologize for such a long post. I tend to be very detailed with my explanations.

Any time you like I invite you to visit my page and send me a friend request. I have lived through a lot a pain, suffering both mentally and physically and have come out the other side. I have become stronger and stronger. Now I am like a rock, in my life and my family[s life. Am I perfect ? Absolutely NOT. I continue to strive for better health both physically and mentally. These are my goals. I have learned many personal and social skills through the years with the help psychiatric, psychologic and family/friend's and SparkPeople's support. I can honestly say I have been greatly helped by SparkPeople. The friends and skills I have and learned here are a true blessing.

I make it a point to come here every day. This place has educated me and helped me cope with my eating habits and my health in terms of lifestyle. I have been a grateful member since 2012. It has been a long journey upwards and onwards. I can truly say SparkPeople has given me the tools to lose weight and be much healthier. It has also given me opportunities to make solid and long lasting online friendships.

I love the challenges here. The challenges are fun! There are many teams that have their own challenges. Some last for one day, one week and some two months. Some are light and easy and some are intense and very challenging. I do the challenges I like, the challenges that fit into my schedule. I don't want to burn out, at the same time I want to have fun and learn good healthy habits. I want to be as healthy as I can.

An added plus is I have an opportunity to make friends in my own time and at my own pace. All the challenges expect you to post at least once a week something about yourself and give support to others.This is the beauty of Sparkpeople. Here you will find a site that is non-judgmental , patient and very supportive . It has, through time, become my second home. I truly can say love it here.

Any time you like come visit my page. I welcome you! You can post in my comment section or send me an private email. I would love to hear from you and lend an ear and a supportive shoulder to lean on.And maybe, even connect one day as friends. emoticon

I hope you have a wonderful day!

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Edited by: MIAMIRN at: 9/15/2018 (15:50)
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I agree with Slenderella6!

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You are not alone. Anxiety is my biggest binge trigger. Best wishes for finding ways to nurture and calm yourself in healthy ways. -Marsha

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8/31/18 11:31 P

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KMGORM - good for you for coming here.

First, I will openly state I have been treated for PTSD; I suffer from fatigue issues related to a head injury, and also have anxiety issues at times; I take P.meds re depression, and have had significant therapy provided by Psychologists. I also have special needs (autistic children) in my family (g/son and nephews.)

Where it comes to your son's teacher's comment, then you need them to extend on what they have said. re those two teachers:
* WHY is he "the worst child they had ever had." ???

* How have they attempted to deal with it?

* What is happening when he becomes "the worst child ...."?

* WHY do THEY have problems with him, but the teacher who told you doesn't???

* What does his teacher do that SHE has no problem with him?

Perhaps some kind of action plan needs to be developed, with input from all those dealing with your son. That means that a meeting would need to take place to identify any problem areas. Don't YOU be afraid to speak your mind, either. I have been in that situation with my older grandson (not the autistic one.) The end result was that there was a huge improvement, and also a better understanding from some of his teachers re his behavior.

Where it comes to the negative nurse, I would leave written feedback. My Medical Practice actually has a feed-back box on their counter, which they act on. If you put how the nurse behaved toward you when she answered the phone, and how you felt as a result, it might just be a very useful learning tool for them. You never know, they may already have had that kind of feedback about her, and the more they get, the better they are able to deal with it. Don't be afraid to mention it to the Dr, too!!!! Also, if they other nurse has been wonderful, it doesn't hurt to mention that, and that you appreciate it and so does your son!!

You do your exercises, and that is good for Fibromyelgia, but hopefully you aren't overdoing it re the amount of weights, or the intensity. Have you tried pool exercises? If not, you might find them better.

Another form of exercise that is great for Fibromyelgia is Tai Chi - it is great for anxiety, too! Perhaps you might consider that instead of the normal gym exercise for a few months, at least to see how it goes?

Good luck,

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Hello, KM !

I only saw your emails this morning. My apologies for the late response.

I believe part of the misunderstanding is that we don't know a lot about you. The only information we have is what you post in your threads. And you've post a few that cover a variety of issues you've been trying to cope with over the years.

That's why I'm suggesting you slow down.

The spark community can help you, but how we reply is dependent on what we know from you (from your posts or spark page).

You wont receive any specific information, once again, because we don't know you. We're not doctors. the advice anyone offers is from their own experience trying to lose weight. Everyone is different so there advice will be different. Different people cope different ways.

I'm sorry if you felt my posts were offensive and not helpful. I'll let other members help where I could not.

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Archimedes. I’m am not young and do know what it takes to lose weight successfully. I tried emailing you but got no response. Every word of “advice” was inaccurate! The medication gain was over 10 years ago and I did lose the weight “slowly”. Yes I may have an eating disorder but I’ve dealt with it for over 20 years (yes that means I’m no you naive girl). I have talked to my therapist and primary care doctor and they said there was no help and if I do not get a referral my insurance doesn’t pay for it.
Also the anxiety advice is the worst advice coming from someone who doesn’t know anything about anxiety. I also suffer from PSTD along with many other things. I’m on disability for it and I do see 3 doctors for it so yoga won’t help.
My suggestion is to actually read what someone has wrote as about the weight gain from the pills was very clearly in the past tense. You really need to take more time to read than judge. Judging me before you got to know me is the worst thing you can do to a person!

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You should give yourself more credit for making the effort to live a healthier lifestyle.

As an observation from the various posts you've left, I think you may be trying to do too much too soon. You mentioned that you have to deal with fibromyalgia, you're worried that you may be suffering from an eating disorder, you worry that you're weighing yourself too often, you're trying to lose weight caused by a medication you needed to take.

Trying to "fix" or deal with any one of those issues can be a challenge. but to try to deal with them all at once has got to feel overwhelming.


Take a few deep breathes.

You're doing too much. You need to slow down. You need to set some priorities. because if you keep doing what you're doing, you are going to end up frustrated. take a few minutes to sit down and list out all the things you want to change. Then pick out one thing on that list. Is losing weight the single most important thing you need to do ? Then concentrate all your efforts on losing weight.

If dealing with your eating disorder is most important, then you talk to your doctor and ask them for a referral to a therapist who deals with eating disorder. Your doctor could be a fantastic PCP, but they may have no idea how to deal with weight loss or eating disorders. That's when you ask to work with a professional who is an expert.

If you want something you can do to help with your anxiety, learn to take deep breathes. If you have a gym membership, look for the yoga classes. Yoga isn't just about being more flexible. There are yoga classes where you can learn how to meditate. There are yoga classes that will teach you breathing exercises that can help reduce your anxiety.

Will it happen overnight ? NOPE.

But if you start learning how to meditate or learn some simple breathing techniques, it's one positive thing you can do to make your day more healthy.

Rome wasn't built in a day and neither were you. The changes you want to make take time. You need to learn to slow down or you will (metaphorically speaking) crash and burn.

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I grew up my first 20 years with out a phone and I have a lot of social anxieties. My day consists of dropping off my son, working out, going home, and picking up my son.

When I go work out at the gym I have made myself aware of who works there and greet them and talk to them so I am not totally socially isolated.

I got my flu shot this morning after working out. I needed to schedule a flu shot for my son and I called them and talked very plainly and repeated myself. 5 and a half hours later no call back so after picking up my son I called. I do not like this doctor office but the doctor is great and its hard to find a pediatrician. The nurses never answer the phone and do not call you back. You have to call at 9 when they open in order to make an appointment.

Getting to the point a lady answers the phone and I recite what I had on the answering machine. She started yelling at me that she couldn't hear me. Then I started raising my voice at an uncomfortable volume. She got my sons date of birth and that I wanted a flu shot and he was in kindergarten. She wanted him to leave school to get a flu shot! It got me so upset.

Plus when I went to pick up my son his teacher pulled me aside and said she had no problems with my son but two teachers that teach specials said he was the worst child they had ever had.

My anxiety is high but I won't have an attack. My body is telling me to slow down on the working out because of the fibromyalgia. I am afraid of the two combinations I will eat to try to get rid of my anxiety and pain.

It is so hard for me to go out and it will be hard for me to go to that office. There is one nurse that acts like she doesn't like kids and I am sure that is the one that answered the phone. The other nurse makes it a game to get his vitals.

Any encouragement is greatly appreciated. Posting this is hard for me to do but I have been active since I got back on here so it is getting easier and it has helped me greatly.

When you want to succeed as much as you want to breathe, then you will be successful.

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