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5/20/18 11:06 A

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Good for you! Just remember that in order to care for your husband, you must take care of yourself first.

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5/18/18 9:28 P

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Looks like others have helped you figure this out and you now have a good plan in place. My suggestion was going to be that you take good care of yourself so that you can help take care of him, but you got that too. I want you to know that you are not alone in this. I am in the very same boat with my DH. We spend lots of time at doctor's offices, ERs, and the hospital. We have an hour commute each way and it's so easy to eat out a lot. I finally had to nip that in the bud. It wasn't doing either of us any good. I think your plan is great. Stay strong. You can do it.

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5/17/18 8:30 A

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After writing my post and reading the responses (and doing some soul searching), I think you are right. I am using his health as an excuse. With this new awareness, I will keep healthy "grab-and-go" foods on hand for those trips to the ER. There is also a Subway near the hospital. I do need to take care of me to take care of him. I need to decide that this is the way I will eat for the rest of my life.
Thank you for your directness. Hugs

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5/11/18 8:21 P



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My late husband had many serious health issues, any one of which often put him in hospital. I did what I could. Sometimes, but not very often, I would eat what I fancied from a cafe, but usually I had my food with me, so his health didn't impact on my journey.

I suggest that you have a number of healthy 'go to' foods in your freezer, if you have a freezer, and when your husband's health issues take centre stage, you can use those foods which will help to prevent slip-ups. Also make sure that you have a lot of healthy snacks around .... i.e. fresh fruit; healthy nut bars (good to have in your bag for when you are out, if you need something) Greek yoghurt, nuts, etc.

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5/11/18 10:51 A



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DPF1206,

Perhaps you're using your husband's health issues as an excuse to slip up. One thing I learned from my own experiences with yo yo dieting is that you can not force someone to want to do the right things. They have to want these things. I know this may sound harsh, but maybe you're using your husband's health issues as an excuse because you don't want to address your own weight problem.

In order to lose weight, you have to want to lose. if you're not ready to lose, you will find reasons or excuses to not do what you need to do. I found this to be true for myself. I'd say I'm ready to lose weight, but the minute something came up, I'd get off track. I spent years yo yo dieting until I finally said enough is enough.

You may not be ready to lose. At some point in your life, you have to be ready to make a commitment to yourself. If your husband has health issues, you need to take care of yourself. You need to be in good health to take care of him.

What to do ? When someone asks me what can they do to lose weight and be healthy, I tell them to start with some simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. If you're ready to make a change, just start by setting some simple weekly goals. Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. if you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. if you're not exercising, don't start with an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week.

Once you've achieved these goals, you do them again or you create new ones. Setting simple goals will help you slowly ease into a healthier set of habits.

But yes, you do have to ask yourself if you really are ready to lose weight. If you're finding excuses to quit, you're not ready.


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I'm a low carb guy, very low, so for me slippage would be eating high carb things, like chocolates, or potato chips, or pretzels, bread, or sugar in my coffee ...

So I often have eggs and bacon for breakfast. Lunch might be some sort of meat with a salad (I buy the premixed packages and add store bought dressing).

So if something stressful happens in my life, it isn't "easier" to eat differently, it is just is how I eat. I suggest you think of your healthier way of eating as something that is part of what you do, not out of your normal, but is your new normal.

How much extra time does it take to eat healthy? Did you do other things during the day that took time, like watch a few TV shows, and that time could have been used for meal prep?

I don't have answers, just a lot of questions for you.

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5/11/18 9:12 A

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My hubby has some significant health challenges. Each time something negative happens with his health, I slip. Spark People gets neglected for a couple of days. I've done some inner searching to try to find out why I let the slippage happen. The usual excuses pop up: I'm tired; don't have time when I focus on him; etc. When I have slipped for other reasons, bouncing back is easier. I get right back on track. When it is his health, I struggle to get back into the healthy lifestyle mindset.
Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions to help me?

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