I just got the weekly update of my son's grades and he is passing everything at this time!!!! I am so happy for him. It also takes some of the pressure off of me. Thanks for all the kind words and support.
I saw an interview on the internet with bob harper from biggest loser fame and he said a lot of things. Most of the portal sites picked up that he changed his diet after his heart attack but what I got out of it was that he attributed diet failures and heart problems to stress. he is spot on, it is easy to say don't let x y or z thing derail you but when it is going on it is in reality very difficult to stay grounded in nutrition or anything else when you have a stressful life going on.;
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Your eating isn't going to resolve any problems for either of you, but WILL create problems for you, and potentially for your son, too, for a variety of reasons, including that you COULD inadvertently indicate to him in some way or another that you are stress eating because of his yo-yoing grades.
There are a number of reasons why his grades could be doing this. Is it possible that he may only be able to focus on one or two things at a time? Perhaps he is putting more emphasis into studying the subjects which he deems to be failing, which will bring that grade up but at the expense of the other.
Seeing if you could get him a tutor or mentor would be a good idea, as well as encouraging him to spend more equal time on his various subjects.
The other thing you mention is that his grades 'fall' .... do they FAIL? Is he generally getting pretty good marks but that they are yo yoing?
If so, maybe you need to look at how you perceive success.
Have you thought about getting your son a tutor for the subjects he's having trouble with ? We assume that if a child gets a poor grade, it's because they aren't studying. But the reason could be your son is having trouble understanding what's being taught. He may feel ashamed to ask for help especially if there is a lot of pressure on him to succeed.
Let him know that if he's having trouble with a subject, tell him it's okay to ask for help. a good tutor can help him understand a concept he might not understand.
As far as your stress eating, you need to find ways to vent your stress that don't involve food. The next time you feel like walking to the kitchen, put on our coat and take a walk outside. Walking is not only great cardiovascular exercise, it's a great way to reduce stress. sit and sip a cup of tea. take a long hot shower. go to the gym for a hard workout. scream into a pillow. Try to avoid gorging yourself on food because you'll just beat yourself up later.
It's best to find ways to reduce stress that don't involve food. The more crap you eat, the worse you'll feel.
Stress eating isn't helping him or you. How about channeling that energy into something positive?
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I am extremely stressed right now with my oldest son. He is a junior and he has a habit of having yo-yo grades. He gets one up and another one falls. At this rate, I fear every time I get notified of his grades changing because I wonder if he will keep it together in order to graduate next year. When I get stressed, I eat. Granted that I am trying to stay away from going over my calorie limits, but it is still bad eating habits.