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11/6/17 11:27 A

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First of all, you're doing great: You're getting help, looking for ways to help yourself, and not ignoring your symptoms. Way to go!

I like a lot of the advice folks have offered here. Depression can be life-threatening, so you've done the first step by taking it seriously. We're here for you.

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11/6/17 7:59 A

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So sorry you are having a tough time.

People have given you some good advice. Here's a couple of things I try to do, or have done in the past that have helped me. (Most of these have some research behind them)
1. Make sure to spend some time outside every day during daylight hours. Even when it is overcast, getting the sunlight can brighten your mood.
2. Get moving. Just walking around or taking the stairs instead of the elevator is helpful.
3. Self care. Since I work from home, I sometimes don't even feel like getting dressed (jammies are so comfy!) or combing my hair, but I try to make sure that I look like a human by 10 a.m. or so.
4. Track good things in your life. For a while, I was trying to write down 3 positive things each day. Some days I had to be pretty inventive to come up with 3, but this helps you focus on something other than the stress in your life.
5. Social contact. I am a shy person, so it is hard for me to pick up the phone and call someone. Sometimes I reach out in e-mail or facebook to someone I haven't heard from in a while.

I hope things go well for you. Remember that you are not alone. There are people you don't even know who care about you.

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11/4/17 5:43 P

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First of all, I'm sorry to read this but I'm so glad you are aware of your feelings and just know something isn't quite right. I've lived with major depression since childhood and it has it's ups and downs. You've been given some awesome advice here. I'm going to check out your SparkPage now and add me as a friend, if you don't mind. We are in this together!


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11/2/17 3:18 A

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As someone who has suffered from an extremely bad depressive time, I would suggest baby steps, and having a good support system around you. You are seeing a Therapist, and that is good. Has your Dr considered medications, or examining you thoroughly to see if there is a possible medical reason for the depression? Another thing that is worth considering is asking for a referral to a Psychiatrist. They are better qualified than a family Dr for an accurate diagnosis, which is important, because some treatment can vary accordingly.

I don't know if you are a member of the Dealing with Depression Team, but if you aren't, you are very welcome to have a look around to see if you would like to join. It is a very supportive team of which I am a Co-Moderator, and you can access it through the link at the bottom of my post.

Good luck,

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11/1/17 10:58 P

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When I went through a depression time period, my doctor directed me to a women's group who were all going through some depression therapy as well. It was truly a great experience.... You might want to ask your therapist if there is something similar you can join in on. Feeling like you are not alone is 'normalizing'. It doesn't solve your problems...but you can learn how others are working to solve theirs. And the old adage that you wouldn't trade yours for theirs is true more often than you can ever realize in isolation.

One of our assignments was also good: make a list of 3 simple things you enjoy...and do them every day!! Mine were: sing a song, crochet, and enjoy a cup of light hot chocolate. Its amazingly powerful to actually take simple steps to Take Care of Yourself!

Keep in touch with people. In person, online, on Spark, or write a letter. The Holiday season is a perfect time to reach out to old friends, or make new ones. Try to take time to help someone else find meaning in the Holidays. Visit a Retired Living home, and offer to write letters or wrap packages for residents.
Find a Holiday concert you wouldn't have normally gone to...perhaps at a local high school. All the best,

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11/1/17 9:59 P

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I don't think I can give you direct advice, everyone is different. But I can tell you about my experience.

I used to do software development. I developed a hearing problem and poor memory. Then I found out I had a brain tumour, then surgery. Post surgery I'm sort of OK. My memory is still bad, but its not getting worse, and I have a constant ringing in one ear.

So I was angry for a while. Why me? I had everything going, I was smart, talented ... and a good chunk of that was gone, including my identity. Then I got depressed.

So what turned things around for me? My wife pushed me out of the house, just to do things and not wallow in my depression, which I was going to do. I woke up in the morning and didn't want to face the day.

So she made me do things, just simple things, but she put the pressure on me to get out. Do the grocery shopping, find the best deals by reading the flyers, or shopping at multiple grocery stores, and buying the cheapest thing from each store.

I started swimming for 20 minutes every morning. Just getting out of the house, the routine of swimming, and seeing the same folks in the pool helped.

So exercise, and the endorphins that it generated made me feel better, at least for a short while, and ultimately longer and longer. I slowly worked my way out.

I'm still not like I used to be, and just accepting that took time.


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11/1/17 7:31 P

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I've been having a really tough year. I have a feeling the next two months are going to be super emotional and tough for me but I'm trying to stay positive and busy. I am seeing a therapist and made more frequent appointments for the rest of the year.

What advice would you give someone trying to get out of a tough time? I know they say baby steps, but right now I'm just trying to do anything to keep myself busy from thinking about the stresses

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