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10/26/17 8:51 A

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10/25/17 11:52 P

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Tirzahlou: wow-- sounds like you are truly working the best you can to keep this all in control....! Hang in thar...keep venting whenever you need to, and look forward to a quiet serene time after those Holidays and work stress...! Perhaps starting a spring colored crochet project like a "row a day" afghan in bright Carribean Blue colors can keep you focused on getting past winter to a better place and time.
All my best and sending emoticon your way! Keep us posted,
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10/25/17 9:14 P

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I take anti-depressants.
My thyroid is borderline but not low enough to medicate.

The darker, shorter seasons can throw me for a loop. I'm also under a tremendous amount of work and holiday stress at the same time. I'm always miserable during the holiday months. I know this logically...and yet, here I am. The good news is when we finally get some frost---my sinuses will finally clear up. No pollen! So something to look forward to.


I have 'sun' lamps in the house. I make sure I go out during my lunch break even in the rain to make sure I get some natural light as I work in a building without windows.

And the depression...makes me not want to work out or leave the house.

There is nothing else my doctor can do.
Except for my blood pressure and depression---I'm dreadfully average.

Thank you for letting me vent a little.


Edited by: TIRZAHLOU at: 10/25/2017 (21:16)
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10/25/17 6:38 A

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I wish I had some helpful advice for you.
I'm h
aving some of the same issues as you.

Around two weeks ago I joined a weight loss group (meetings and all) sorry to say that hasn't helped either. I doubt I'll go back since it is expensive and if it isn't helping.

I'm tired of seeing my doctor and having her go over the same thing with me each time. Lose weight, lose weight, lose weight!.. I feel like such a failure and as well meaning as she is I think it's making it worse.

Thanks for posting this question. I think it will be helpful to many who are struggling.

I need to remember why I wanted to lose weight in the first place. For myself and my well being.
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My reply is more of a vent than advice. Sorry about that.


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10/24/17 7:50 A

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"My depression issues are worse in the darker seasons." I have walked many miles in your shoes. I have been living in Sweden for 6 years now and, if my SAD wasn't bad enough before, the dark season starts earlier here and lasts longer. Even on days when the sun is out it is so low that you have to walk to go find it. I can literally feel it wrapping itself around me like a dark blanket as soon as the days start getting shorter - this on top of depression that I am already being treated for. I promised myself that this year I will NOT gain weight over the winter. There is no guarantee that it won't happen but I planned a wonderful vacation for Christmas and am focusing on that which I am finding really helpful. If there is any way you can find something to focus on that will be really enjoyable, a vacation even if just an overnight or a weekend away, a spa visit with friends, ANYTHING enjoyable that you can find to focus on in the near future it may be helpful to you. Keep candles lit in your house, keep lights on, it helps a bit. Additionally, a visit to your physician to check your vitamin d levels and such is not a bad idea. I wish you the best and I know how much it s**ks.



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10/24/17 6:21 A



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Tirza,

This is an example of a brand of chips which would be a better swap for the chips you are currently eating. I've had this brand before. It's very good. It a better quality salty snack.



You have to dump the all or nothing mentality. If you ate a big leafy green salad as well as your salty chips, you still did something positive. The day is not lost because you wanted some chips.

Also, when is the last time you had a full physical ? If it's been a while, it's time to go. Talk to your doctor about how you've been feeling. If you have been experiencing a bunch of different issues mentally and physically, you need to take charge of your health. And that means talking to your doctor about what's been going on these past few months.



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10/24/17 12:42 A

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Question: have you talked honestly with your doctor about any of this?? Even before you mentioned depression in one of your answers...that thought had come to me from your statements.

MANY of us have increasing depression as the dark winters begin: it is called Seasonal Affective Disorder. In addition to possibly getting some short term medication from your doctor to address the immediate anxiety and depression...there is much you can do. Educate yourself about light therapy--there are home light units you can get which DO help. Get outside as much as possible during the daylight for light exercise. Yep--cold, wet, windy--but its good for the spirit!

If possible join a group discussion class on Depression. Relating face to face with other people who are experiencing this can give you a whole new perspective, as well as teaching you other coping techniques.

Whatever you do...don't accept that Life needs to be lived this way, nor that you have no control. Also don't accept that this is "your fault"---any more than being diagnosed with thyroid disorder might be. Speaking of which, have you had a full physical in these past six months?? Might be time to check in with your doctor on that topic as well! Fatigue which results in eating to try and "get that energy" back can be part of symptoms for many disorders.... Don't give up on yourself---seek answers and help from as many sources as you can!! All the best,
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10/23/17 9:07 P

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Almonds give me hives and, to be honest, I don't like other nuts much. It doesn't matter how much I eat of anything else, the want of chips doesn't go away. :(



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Tiza,

Here's a thought. Since you know you need something salty to reduce your risk for nausea when you're stressed out, then why not do your best to eat healthier
meals during the day.

If you focused on making sure you ate 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies or made sure you didn't have any other treats than the chips, you might not feel so bad about eating those chips. Right now, you're focusing on all the negative things you've been doing when you should be focusing on the positive things.

Also, something else you could do is swap the chips for a healthier salty snack. I know that's sounds like something of an oxymoron, but how about nuts ? You could snack on low sodium (sea salt) almonds, pecans or peanuts.

How about trying to snack on nuts instead of the chips ? And if you want the chips, don't buy the crap versions. Pay extra for good quality organic potato chips. You can find chips made from quinoa. They're sturdier than regular chips i.e. higher in fiber.








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10/23/17 12:08 P

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I get it. Hang in there. You deserve to be kind to yourself.

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10/23/17 12:05 P

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I hate the holidays. I hate spending time with family in small enclosed areas. It's a high pressure sales time at work (our big selling season). I get banged from both sides.

My sinus are tore up on top of it. Salt/Carbs really helps keep me from vomiting. Once you've had hamburger go out your nose---you are more open to a few crackers for your stomach.

My depression issues are worse in the darker seasons.

I know all this---and yet, I keep sabotaging myself. I'm just trying to get through winter without having to start over in the Spring or losing it completely.

Sorry for whining but I just have no one at all who u nderstands.

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10/23/17 11:58 A

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" Chips are my 'feel bad/feel better food'."

I would say this: Don't be mean to yourself for doing the best you can to make yourself feel better. We stress-eat because it works; that doesn't make us bad people. Maybe try to address the stuff that feels bad, and stop hating on yourself for being human and doing the best you can.

It's okay. You won't die of a chip overdose. Take care of yourself, be kind to yourself, and it will end. Next time you feel the urge for some good healthy food, eat it, enjoy it, and move on from one meal to the next. It's okay. You're not a bad person. Hang in there.

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10/23/17 11:22 A

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I get it 100%. So wish I could go back to those days when I didn't have to think about the consequences eating whatever I felt like whenever I felt like it. Would so love to have the metabolism of my younger days again.

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10/23/17 10:58 A

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First, I am aware I'm doing it to myself and yet I cannot stop.

It started with a work (business) trip to a conference. I knew I would not have control of my food and I accepted that and that I might gain.

I did. That's okay. It was two pounds.

But since then, I can't stop eating. Not real food. I keep eating things I normally don't eat. It is like my anxiety is through the roof.

I bought and ate an entire bag of chips. Yes...you say don't buy them. I say it too. I still buy them.

IT's like I keep saying no, no, no---and yet, I keep eating. I keep buying it. Why can't I stop?

I was at my mom's this weekend...painting her bathroom.
I ate at least 3,000 on Saturday. I was sick from it...and yet I'm still eating.

My pants are getting tight.
I'm up six pounds now.

And you know what? I really want to eat those four chocolate chip cookies and I really want a bag of chips.

Real food is doing nothing for me. I eat it...and I still want the chips. C hips are my 'feel bad/feel better food'.

How do I stop doing this to myself?

I'm still working out five days a week but it is all I can do to go to the gym. I just want to curl up on my bed and read a book.

Why is always a fight?
I'm exhausted from people, watching my food, counting calories, going to the gym.

I just want to have some time--where I can just be but I can never just be--because when I am, I have to start this damn journey all over again.

Just frustrated and needed to vent to someone.



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