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11/4/17 4:41 P

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At my highest weight during my 20s, I weighed 234 pounds, same height. Believe me, I know how you feel. Twice in my life, I weighed over 200+ pounds, a few years ago, I made a decision that wasn't going to happen a third time. You can't beat yourself up because you regained the weight, that is something that has happened to us all.

If you know you're ready to make a change, one thing you have to accept is that this must be a lifestyle change and not a diet. If you go on a diet to lose, you'll just regain all the weight. What to do ? Don't try to do too much too soon. Just start with a few simple changes you CAN stick to.

Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. if you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. if you haven't been exercising, don't start with an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've completed these goals, you do them again or you set new goals.

Setting simple goals is how you slowly ease into healthier behaviors.

And if you have been feeling emotionally or mentally out of control, maybe it's time to talk to your doctor. When is the last time you had a full physical ? If it's been a few years, it's time to go. You'll need to be brave. You'll need to come out of your comfort zone to do this. BUT if you are ready to take charge of your health, the first thing you need to do is get a full physical.

Regaining the weight has placed a lot of stress on you inside and out. Don't be afraid to talk to your doctor about what's been going on these past few months. The road to good health should always include regular trips to the doctor.

Edited by: ARCHIMEDESII at: 11/4/2017 (16:43)
11/2/17 9:03 A

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At 60, I was sitting in the doctor's office. He explained that my being at 174 on my 5' 4" very small frame was not good. I hid it well by wearing "flowy" clothes at work. He explained that at the rate I was going, I would gain about 12-15 pounds a year.
I cried. He said I needed to find a new way of eating and change my lifestyle.
I told him that exercise literally hurt because of my big belly. He prescribed Apidex (it's Phentermine) and told me this would jump start my weight loss. It did. I lost an immediate 12 pounds and changed my ways because I literally was not hungry. It works on that part of the brain that tells you you are full. I started eating lean protein and lots of vegetables. No fruit, though.
I was on Phentermine for awhile and then it quits working, so you cannot go back to your old ways or you will gain it all back.
Fast forward a few years. I have since retired from teaching, still keep my weight a manageable number, but I still eat low carb with adding the occasional fruit. I do eat an occasional potato and some bread without issues.
You may want to talk to your doctor about options available to you. I know pills aren't for everybody, but the Apidex got me started which was what I needed. I had few side effects (just a little dry mouth and very thirsty).
It was the jumpstart I needed.

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11/2/17 8:48 A

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Wow I hear you. I haven'y been gaining weight I lost but weight keeps creeping on. I feel powerless but I.m not. The 1 best thing to so for me is track food and exercise . So It,s a new month and I'm renewing committment to track everyday for 30days.

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10/2/17 1:31 P

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Hey, Jazzersmom:

First: I hear you. I get you. I have been there too.

Second: I am sending you a huge hug through the airwaves.

Third: I'm super, super proud of you.

Why? I'm hearing shame, fear and grief in your words. It can be so scary and overwhelming to be in that out-of-control place. It's just awful.

Some said to take the first step. And you have. Rather than hiding and running, you came here. Posted something very deep and brave. You were being vulnerable and raw and honest -- and that takes tremendous courage and strength.

You Are Stronger Than You Know, and that you see right now. I know you have the strength to take this on.

But it is absolutely important to have help doing it.

Because food (for you and for me and many) is so bound together with those feelings of shame and being untouchable, I think even a few therapy sessions with a professional who has a background in eating disorders and food issues would be very, very helpful. There is no shame in talking with a professional therapist -- especially if just a few sessions will give you some personalized tips to take some first steps.

It might be helpful to find someone at the gym (or a friend) who is in a similar place in terms of size to go with, so you don't feel alone and so you can encourage each other. If nobody fits the bill, a friend or family member might go with you sometimes?

But just being here, on SP, reaching out and connecting with us is a major step. And it helps to remember you're not alone in this -- not at all.

I'm 51, 5'4", lost from 255 down to 175 ten years ago, gained most of it back, and was 223 when I started SP last year. I believe in us!



"We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated." --Maya Angelou

“The last of the human freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances.” -- Victor Frankl

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10/1/17 11:15 P

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Where do you start? You start with 1 step.

You did it before you CAN do it again. One change, one walk after dinner, one time YOU make the choice not to eat fast food.

Your journey back to health starts with one decision, the decision to take the step.

Come on, you can do it. Pick yourself up and start. We have/ are in the same place. Reaching out is a start, now put an action to it, come on you can do it.

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10/1/17 6:55 P

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Is there also an element of Depression going on here? I know my reaction to stress/depression was eating at one time...and it actually helped me considerably to start on a low dose of meds for the depression. With that, I also was able to increase my sleep...which did worlds of good for the stress and emotional overwhelmed feelings..... My doctor also referred me to a group therapy class for Women with Depression...and having that outlet also helped me find a new starting point.

At one point in our group class we were challenged to identify three simple things which brought us pleasure...and - do - them -every - day. Mine were singing, crochet, and a cup of low cal hot chocolate.... That became my retreat. It was a time to "take care of myself". You might consider that as a means to lower your stress, and value yourself. All the best, and keep engaging with people here on Spark....THAT also helps! Check out the Teams, Challenges, and articles for ideas which might help you find a new path.

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9/30/17 6:17 A

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You CAN pick yourself up and start again. You managed it once before, you can do it again.

"Where to start?"

At the beginning ........ with baby steps. Just change one or two things to start with, and as your mind/body gets used to those changes, add something else to the mix.

I also strongly suggest that you find a healthy way to deal with your stress. If need be, it would be very beneficial to talk with your Dr about what is going on, and ask for a referral to a Therapist who will be able to teach you some good relaxation techniques, as well as help you to deal with whatever is causing that stress.

Good luck,
Kris xxx

Edited by: SLIMMERKIWI at: 9/30/2017 (06:17)
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9/29/17 9:59 P

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I'm to the point I feel sick at night. I'm back to old eating habits. There has been so much stress in my life that I am what I consider "closet eating". A trip to the fast food drive thru for a peaceful meal is a satisfying & relaxing event for me. Then I hate myself afterward. Typical.

I gained my entire 70 LB loss back. I was happy while I was losing. With my diet I felt in control. At the gym there were some days I felt untouchable. Big words I know. But I was making myself feel great. Physically, mentally, emotionally. Now I feel sick physically, out of control mentally, and broken down emotionally.

I feel so far gone that I can't pick myself up and get back into the routine that I need. By the way, I'm 5'5" and 230 LBS. It's physically getting harder to do things than when I weighed 70 LBS less. Where do I start?

Thanks for listening.

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