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9/20/17 11:52 P

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BOBVILL5,
getting fit, like at a health club, has a few advantages.

You might loose weight.
You will get fitter.
The endorphins from the exercise will make you feel more positive about life.
If you go at the same time, same days, you will meet the same people.

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9/20/17 7:31 P

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Thanks everyone for the wonderful ideas! I'll look into fitness related groups! Any other advice is also very welcome! Fitness is definitely making me feel a lot better about my life right now.



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9/20/17 1:54 P



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Bob,

I agree with the others. If you feel that your life doesn't have meaning, why not consider doing some volunteer work ? Have you ever thought of acting as a mentor ? Big Brother-Big Sister is always looking for someone to mentor a young teen. This is something you could do on the weekends.

There are tons of different options for volunteer work. When you volunteer, you do something good for the community and it helps expand your social network. meaning, you meet new people when you volunteer.

If you're spending too much time playing video games (I'm guilty of too much Candy Crush Soda), then I suggest going to the library and getting a book. reading is a better way to occupy your free time if you don't want to hit the gym.
Plus, the library has excellent free lecture series. Find out what lectures are coming up. Go to lecture.

You can also join local clubs. If you enjoy running, there must be tons of running groups. A running group is another good place to meet young/active people your own age.




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9/20/17 10:58 A

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Have you thought about maybe going back to school? When I was in my mid-20s, I was bored after work, so I started going to classes in the evenings at the local community college. I continued from there, and now I have 3 AAs, a BA, a Master's and am working on my second Masters. I have grown as a person in ways I never would have imagined had I not gone to school. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years now, and we first met almost 9 years ago when we were both attending graduate school (my first Masters & his Masters). At that time, I wanted my time to be spent productively, and I have enjoyed every step of the journey and have met a lot of good people along the way.

There's also nothing wrong with going out by yourself. I have gone out to dinner by myself, gone to bookstores, done errands, and I have met people while I am out and it's been fun just to be out talking to people. In other words, you don't have to be involved in an organized activity to meet people. Just go out and discover things, find what you like to do and enjoy doing those things and you will find others who enjoy those same things.

There is a coffee shop near my area, and there is a group of guys who gather with some kind of game board (not sure if it's chess or something else) and they get their coffee, set up the game and play. They come and go and others join, but I am sure for them, the word has gotten out that if you like coffee, and you like that game, these are the guys to see.

I would agree with the others about the volunteering, and just do your thing and try not to be so anxious in thinking you have to force things to happen.

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9/20/17 8:18 A

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I agree with the others: find a place to volunteer and make a commitment to going a few times. You can't just flit from one thing to the next and expect to meet people and form friendships really quickly. It happens sometimes, but expecting it is setting yourself up to be disappointed.

If there's a public library or garden in your area, they tend to have lots of opportunities for volunteers and they host classes and other events. For some people it's an added bonus that many library programs are free, so there's no real risk in trying it out.



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9/20/17 12:56 A

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Like LADYSTARWIND wrote, look for volunteer opportunities.

Do you have a passion for anything?

Another thought in that area are some sort of clubs. I used to play chess in the local chess club every Monday. Then there were weekend tournaments that came up, sometimes in town, sometimes in a neighbouring city or town. You get to know the folks in the club, to some degree anyway.

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PLEASE look for some Volunteer opportunities in your area! There are so many people and good organizations that need help and welcome newcomers! And...you might get the chance to learn many new skills yourself---since most groups have training. Among other things, along my way I've learned:: Ham radio, First Aid, Archeology, Survival skills, Trail work, aviation, knitting mastectomy prosthesis... its really endless!

Just for some ideas, in my Life I have spent time volunteering with these groups or activities... Girl Scouts, Civil Air Patrol, Search and Rescue, Emergency Management, Hospital Volunteers, National Park Trail crews, National Park archeology lab, Senior Food Bank, and Knitted Knockers (not kidding--look it up!!) and that doesn't take in to account some of the volunteer things at my work like helping with the Christmas Families, the Heart Walks, etc....

Look into Boys and Girls Clubs or your YMCA--they always need great volunteers who can relate to kids (And since you play video games--you got that!!), help with reading, mentor homework, play a pickup game of basketball, etc. And...you get to meet some other volunteers your own age likely!!

Reach out...and you will be rewarded!! Check your local newspapers, call some groups, call your County, etc....look into the local Community College Continuing Ed classes for group hikes, movie series, etc....!
patti


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Is there anyone you work with whom you could have this discussion. He/she may know or things/places and/or invite you to join them. Perhaps in your discussion you could suggest a work-mates' evening out on a weekly, two-weekly or monthly basis to add to what you already are doing.

Depending on your outlook, a Church may be a good source of socializing.

Search evening classes in your area - just make sure it is something that you could be interested in, because then you will likely stay the course and have a better chance of making some friends that way, too.

Remember, too, that a lot of SparkPeople members have no-one in their lives and their source of friendship and socialization is SparkPeople on the message boards. Perhaps you could join in on some active threads and makes some friends that way. (I am speaking from experience here re socialization/friendships) It sure beats sitting by yourself with nothing to focus on.

Hugs,
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9/19/17 8:20 P

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Hi everyone, I'm in a situation where generally my life is heading in a good direction, but i'm not enjoying life much. I recently got a new job earlier this year, moved out to my own place, and have recently lost 7% body fat with no muscle loss yet!
However, when I come home from work, I'm in this vicious cycle of wanting to play video games because I have nothing to do on the week nights besides going to fitness classes on Mondays/Wednesdays which is helping me a lot right now. My weekends are just as bland as week nights, haven't done anything particularly exciting since Spring! My dating life is non-existent since I don't really know how to go out and meet new people. I do have a few friends that I'll go bowling with once in awhile (like once a month or so).
I'm just not sure where to go meet people my age (i'm 24 y/o). I'm very blessed to have every other element in my life going very very well, but the lack of social life makes me feel like an empty shell. I've tried attending a few meet up groups, but my experiences so far have not been too positive. I tried looking for a dodgeball group, but had no luck in that search. I don't enjoy drinking either, so i won't go to bars or clubs.
I enjoy doing recreational and "group-oriented activities". Please provide me any suggestions!

Thanks in advance!



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