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8/14/17 11:11 A

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Excellent!

"Start from where you are." ~ Elle, AnAuthor

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8/14/17 9:49 A

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I went to the meetup site, even without signing in I saw that my local art gallery has free admission Tuesday and Wednesday evening. Who knows what I find if I create and account. Looks good.

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8/13/17 5:24 P

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I was thinking you could check out Meetup in your area. They have tons of activities listed for a broad range of interests.

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I think CLASSICLASS brought up some really great ideas.

Are you a stay at home mom or do you have a job ? If you're feeling isolated or stuck at home, taking a college class or an adult education class is a great way to get out of the house and meet people. Maybe yoga isn't right for you. But how about learning a language ? learning to play a musical instrument ? taking an art class ? How about a book club ? When is the last time you went to your local library ? Libraries have excellent lecture series.

Volunteering is a terrific idea too. Check out your area for volunteer opportunities. You don't have to volunteer every day, many people volunteer their time once a week or even once a month. You help yourself by helping those in need.


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8/12/17 11:51 P

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Perhaps you could join a gym and do some light cardio in the early evenings. One of my best friends I met in my gym. Perhaps you could volunteer for your PBS station or you local library.

You have to figure out ways to get out because people do not come to your door, but that is hard to do when you are depressed or feeling social anxiety. If social interaction makes you nervous, try getting out to a movie or a local lecture, something you can do by yourself that gets you out and not hanging at home eating.

If the depression and the anxiety are severe, you have to seek treatment.

"Start from where you are." ~ Elle, AnAuthor

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I meant to add in my previous post, a prescription my Psychologist gave me:

Go to a Cafe weekly, and have a coffee/tea. Preferably the same cafe, and if possible, around the same time of day.

The reason for this is that you become a regular and the staff will converse with you more because of it instead of just 'hello' and 'have a nice day'. You will also see others, and may discover that at least one other is a regular also, and you will find that in time you can say 'hello' and later will find it easier to converse with that person.

I can tell you it worked wonders for me. You could also apply this to a park or some other public place, but the cafe (for me) allowed me to drink in the surroundings/people and clear my thoughts a bit, while at the same time enjoying a cuppa.

Kris

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8/12/17 6:26 P

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We moved to a new community cross-country 2 years ago. Along with that came a few physical glitches for me: a need to have surgery, no people of comparable age in the immediate neighborhood and many doc appointments.

Like you I have often felt isolated - that was especially true after I had surgery this winter and couldn't drive for several months. I am also deaf so spending time on the phone isn't much of an option for me and I am not fond of social media - just the opposite.

Some suggestions - after you've seen your doctor and had blood work done and perhaps been referred to a therapist for talk therapy

Depending on where you live and how old you are Meetup.com can be a great venue. You can find groups of people with your interests whatever they may be: sports, walking, book clubs, I recently joined a club that visits architecturally significant sites and then socializes afterwards.

Take a class in continuing education: if you have a community college that is an excellent source; if not see if your local HS has any sort of classes. Or if you have a skill you'd like to share then see about teaching one.

If you have school near you and have an interest in children or young adults, see about mentoring or tutoring. Same is true with a college.

Volunteering is always a good thing but finding the right opportunity isn't always easy. Your county may have a list of volunteer opportunities. If not, a hospital or nursing home almost always have someone who could use a visitor.

Form or join a neighborhood watch. We got a lot of new people in a short time after we moved in - this was good for me.

Just get out and take a walk - if you need incentive make it a walk to "get something" i.e., I have a small independent market near me - I walk to the store and back (2 miles) when I am up to it to buy fruit rather than drive to the supermarket.

These are just a few - send me a message if you want to talk over any of them.



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8/12/17 3:45 P



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INSANITY77,

When is the last time you had a full physical ? If it's been a while, I would encourage you to make an appointment. They could refer you to a good therapist who can help you work through some of the feelings you've been having. Don't be afraid to talk to your doctor, they are there for help.

As far as support with regards to losing weight or eating more healthfully, why don't you come here more often ? The Spark community will support you when you need a little extra help.

One thing that you could do that may help is start a blog or a diary. Many members find that writing out their feelings helps them feel better. You can keep your blogs private. You don't even have to post anything. You can write in your own personal diary. I find writing helps me sort out things when I'm a little confused.

Because one thing you have to do is find ways to cope that don't involve food. Do you have a gym membership ? Having a gym membership isn't just about having a place to workout. If you take fitness classes, not only will that help you reduce stress, you'll meet lots of people too. Gyms are great places to meet new friends.

What sort of gyms are in your area ? Why not take a look to see what they offer. How about a yoga class ? I'm a big fan of yoga. Yoga will not only help you increase your flexibility, you can learn meditation. Many doctors refer their patients to yoga to help them lower their blood pressure as well as their stress.

I know there are many things I learned in yoga that have helped me live a healthier lifestyle. If you're stuck in a rut, you need to be ready to take a leap of faith. You may have to do things that take you OUT of your comfort zone.

Are you ready for a change ?





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8/12/17 10:30 A

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If you are isolated and alone, get out and be with people.

One thing you can do is volunteer for a cause you have a connection to. For example The Salvation Army, or perhaps some local community league events.



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Perhaps it might be an indicator that you need to touch base with your Dr and have your depression reviewed and possibly ask for a referral to a Therapist who can give you tools to help you out of this rut.

Are you able join a social group? Are you able to 'reach out to others' by joining a group that makes daily phone calls to lonely/elderly people to help them? By doing this you would be helping yourself, too.

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8/11/17 11:50 P

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I have been struggling a lot lately.
I eat nonstop in the evenings
A big reason is that I am fairly isolated and lonely and don't have much of a support system
I have trouble reaching out for help
So I just have been staying home eating in the evenings
I feel ashamed and helpless

I was watching an episode of Dr Phil the other day where he was talking about being the star in your own life
I see people who seem to have it all
What I would give for just 1% of what some people have

Eating is a solace
It is my enemy
It is a constant source of self loathing

I have sought professional help over time over issues such as depression and anxiety, but this is just an endless battle I have with myself

As I get older I worry so much more about my physical health and need to remain independent as I have a very limited support system

I am so discouraged

Advice?

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