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11/25/18 9:12 A

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I am struggling so much, it sounds like I'm not alone....I was doing good a year ago, I had lost 20 lbs, though it took me 5 months....and we had to put our rescue dog down and since then, I have just given up. I know it's not right, the action of the dog is not a reason, the decision to give up is wrong, but I'm at the point of I don't care. I don't want to be there, and oddly enough when I walk to the pantry or the refrigerator, I still "control" somewhat what I choose to eat, but, still I eat more then I should of bad choices. I am retired, we have the resources available to me to eat right, exercise, etc. I do have back problems, so I have some limitations, BUT I am having an MRI soon to evaluate that. I know I can do this if I try completely, I just don't want to bother! I need to bother! Help! emoticon

Edited by: NANCYJO1953 at: 11/25/2018 (09:13)
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10/26/18 7:07 A

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Oh, idk... seems to me it's always hard to make a change. Takes some effort and motivation. Much easier to just keep doing whatever it is we've been doing, even if we know it's harmful or unproductive, and won't help us reach our goals.

You're either going to keep doing what you're doing, and think about it (like you posted here). Or you're going to think about a small change you could make, to break this habit. Either way, you're going to be thinking about it. You get to choose whether the advantages of what you're doing now, outweigh the effort of making a change (and the advantages of doing so). The first few days, maybe a couple weeks, after making a change are the hardest. Getting started is hard. But once you get going, it really does get easier to keep going.

When I was still working, I made a "rule" for myself that I would not sit down and veg out after work, until after I'd cooked a healthy dinner. Often, I'd batch cook on the weekends so a healthy dinner during the week was basically heat & eat (pretty quick to "cook"). While I was fixing dinner, I'd multi-task and throw some clothes in the washer or do some dishes or some other little chore. I just did not sit down when I got home, until dinner was ready. After dinner, I could veg out all I wanted to.

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10/25/18 8:21 P

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Have you ever read The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg?
But the short answer is that you find what you are doing easier, more beneficial and a better use of your resources than changing. You have value built in to what you are doing and you likely don't have any major negatives to what you are doing now, at least relative to the effort of changing. Yes, you have some issues, but better to stick with the devil you know.

-google first. ask questions later.

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10/25/18 6:29 P

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I'm having the same struggle!! I know what I need to do but just don't. Coming home at the end of the day, I'm tired and down, so I crash in front of the tv for some mind-numbing quiet time. I don't start munching, but I do start vegging . . . and other than getting up to make dinner or some menial chores, that's where I stay. :( It's so depressing and deflating. . . . I go all day long with positive thinking and a mental plan to do better, but once I walk through that door, tiredness takes over and I'm done. Help! I'm back to Spark after a long absence 'cause, like you, this seems so hard and I'm failing.

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10/25/18 2:06 P

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I don't think that losing weight and getting healthy is easy, at all!

My thought is that when you get home you probably feel tired and need some time to sit and relax. It'd be great if you could either not eat then, or eat just one snack.

If you could do JUST that and stick with it for 3 weeks I feel you could be VERY proud of yourself.

Making changes is hard.

One more thought I have is that food choices make a big difference. I do best when I eat lots of freggies and beans and some nuts and try to avoid sugary foods and junkfood. Some people can have those foods in moderation but not me. When I eat them my body / brain just keeps nagging and screaming for 'more' and I am more likely to binge.

Just not having any foods that trigger cravings and overeating in the house turns out to be the best strategy for me.

Edited by: WHITE-GREEN at: 10/25/2018 (14:06)

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10/25/18 12:37 P

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Changing any habit is hard. You're so use to doing what you've done that anything else seems abnormal. But the more you commit to being active and eating healthy, the more it starts to become second nature. The fact that you've realized that you're most vulnerable to getting off track when you arrive home after work is a start. You just have to figure out what to do about it.

I find that just as with advance meal planning, planning fitness or "active" activities in advance is generally more successful than waiting until you get home to figure out what you specifically feel like doing. It can even help to schedule specific days to veg out in front of the TV, for instance, when your favorite TV program is on.

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10/25/18 12:26 P

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You may find shifting to a new paradigm of seeing your lifestyle makeover as a resolve and commitment to creating a healthier more thriving life will make this change easier. Get excited about every mindful choice you make and set up an incentive system with rewards for staying on track.
Make a vision board, post affirmations to counter negative thoughts with positive ones, track you streaks. Decide this is not hard, that it is a chance to replace choices that do not serve to ones that contribute to a higher quality of life.

"'Enough' is a feast. Buddhist proverb

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10/22/18 2:42 P

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I just wrote a blog post, something that always opens up my mind to new questions and realizations, and it really brought up this question:
WHY is losing weight and getting healthy so hard?

It's not that we don't know how to do it, but for some reason we get into these habits and we just can't get out of them.
I get home from work and instead of doing something productive, my first instinct is to sit on the couch with whatever junk I'm craving, and watch TV. And all the while, I'm actually thinking about how boring and unpleasant and useless my actions are, not to mention how destructive. But instead of doing something that I know will not only be good for me, like going for a walk or a run, cooking a healthy and delicious meal, I continue to self-destruct.

Why is that? The way I see it, it really should be easy. It should be easy to go out and play, or do any of the thousands of activities that are better and more enjoyable than eating Oreos in front of the TV. It should be an easy choice, knowing that there is not one single downside to getting fit and healthy.

So why is it so hard?? Anyone?

"Time you enjoy wasting was not wasted" - John Lennon

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