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KEELYME Posts: 1,235
11/4/18 2:52 P

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It took my a solid 5 years to start to feel "normal" after my parents both died (weeks apart). When you initially experience the loss I think you just want things to get back to normal, which interferes with the grieving process. You have to fully come to terms with the loss and find your new normal, which takes time. At year 7 I'm feeling like I'm finally coming full circle.

Binge eating isn't an actual coping mechanism as doesn't actually change anything, let alone make positive changes. I would suggest making an effort to get out more, for walks or whatnot, even when you don't feel like it. I would also recommend finding a therapist or bereavement support group. I lost a number of friends during my experience, either because they didn't understand, or didn't know how to deal.

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10/2/18 9:17 A

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God bless you sweet friend.

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9/26/18 8:32 A

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I am trying to get there, to the point where the good memories are uplifting rather than the constant sadness that she is missing the good things in my life. We shared so much. I find myself unable to enjoy the beauty and wonder of twin grandsons that are almost 2 years old. She was here to share that joy, now she is missing it. I am discussing anti-depressing medication with my physician, maybe just to get me through the babies 2nd birthday on December 11 and through the first Christmas without her. My heart aches, and the stress is causing physical problems as well. My weight continues to go up (136 this morning). I need to get back to myself.

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9/24/18 7:04 P

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Maybe it is time to celebrate the joyful memories and times you shared with your mom and departed best friend. When my second husband passed I would take walks and with hand on my heart feel his energy and think the thoughts I really wanted him to know. There is energy and joy to be found in connecting with the time you did share. Writing gratitudes every day for at least five things that are either working for you, that you appreciate or are thankful for. After my Dad passed I vowed to live a life to honor all he gave me. I bet your departed loved ones would prefer you embrace life and honor them by honoring yourself by taking the best possible care of yourself. "Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow." Melody Beattie

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9/24/18 2:42 P

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So sorry for your loss.

" I want to eat for comfort" really doesn't comfort you, does it?
Have you considered professional help?

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9/24/18 10:02 A

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Therapy can do wonders.

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STEPP8384 Posts: 3
9/24/18 9:07 A

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I am not happy now. My mother passed away last April, and I am still suffering the loss of my best friend. It is getting in the way of my tracking and making good food decisions. I want to eat for comfort, and find that I can't stay on track. I have started a journal to express my feelings, and I am committed to my walking routine of 2 miles at least 4 days a week. The walking helps, but I still feel very down. I find myself reaching for the potato chips in the evening to fill a void. Thanks for listening...

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